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archola:
happy birthday to ani celebrated in d hause

Dream2:
Thank you sis,yes jare,dem GL guys don choose am finish,well I quite believe God has a plan for me alas the drama for uploading and doing reg late.

sharliz:
congrats dear.
Sleep well now

sharliz:
congrats dear.
Sleep well now

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Dream2:
He's entitled to his opinions,you shouldn't have used those offensive words.
You should have read and probably counter his post with the good side of the east.
I will urge you to visit the thread to do some necessary corrections.

astana1:
My Experience of the south east and south south
I was born in Lagos state and have spent most of my life in the southwest but I am actually Hausa. I Have never been to the south-east or south-south part of Nigeria despite having many friends from the region. I had been to practically every region apart from the SE AND SS.

As the saying goes, experience is the best teacher and nothing prepares you for the unknown as much as the NYSC does. I remember the day i got my Call up letter like it was yesterday. We had all gathered in front of the faculty officers office awaiting our turns to get called in for our Posting letters. Many people came out of the office rejoicing and this gave me a little bit of hope but boy was i wrong. I knew i wasn't going to get what i expected when i noticed the countenance of the officer as he handed the letter to me.As I stared down at my call up letter with the bold words written on it 'A State in the South east', I couldn't help but let the flow of mixed feelings come through. At first i was dazed, then slowly the reality of my situation began to creep in. I could feel my heart shredding into several pieces with every beat. This was probably due to the negative stories (kidnapping, fraud and etc) and pictures I had heard and seen in the media. While others were rejoicing about their states of deployment, I simply walked to a corner to let hot tears that had welled up in my eyes fall freely.

At that moment, Google became my best friend and the Nigerian Map became my Companion. Who knew the southern Province occupied about 1/3 times the size of Nigeria? Before then, i didn’t….lol!. Since desperate times requires desperate measures, lots of things went through my mind with the first being how to change my state of deployment but since i wasn't married, Heavily pregnant or sick & living with a serious health condition, my hopes of changing my state of deployment flew out the window, my fate had been sealed.

I Had my camp in Enugu and was posted to Calabar.[i][/i]
On getting to Enugu state, I found the place to be Dirty and rowdy. The camp was even worse than most of the NYSC camps I had visited in other states (mine included). My roommates were fun and lively. Fortunately for me, 3 of us were from the same department in school, so we kinda had an upper hand in bonding with the others.

After finally completing the registration process at my PPA, I was so uncomfortable and angry. The lodge I was provided was tiny and stuffy,
and at night the mosquitoes came en masse on their power bikes. My first night was dreadful, I couldn’t sleep. Throughout the night, I made a
mental note on getting a new apartment the
next day. The next day I asked around for where I could get an apartment around my PPA. I finally got one and I spent two days buying stuffs and tidying the place up.

In summary, It was a horrible expireInce, everyone there was abrasive and were not polite. They always tried to deceive people. I will never wish that experience on anyone.

https://www.nairaland.com/3428806/northerners-experience-south-east-south-south

kokosari2:
Please what can I do, my husband seems to be addicted to porn and masturbation. He does it at every opportunity he has, even on our matrimonial bed and it's quite disgusting.

benueguy:
Bros na the same States I choose o

2dugged:
you mean like an estate agent?

justifiedcoyy:
Na me Na me o.

Thanks bro.

No worry, dem go dey mention u.

U self dey com here regularly

2dugged:
nice to meet you too

2dugged:
you quoted me first, so don't tell me not to quote you again, next time learn to give people benefit of a doubt before blabbering, I am not your worker, don't come online and quote people like you are talking to your so called workers, that's just rude, anyway apology accepted, have a nice day too

Progressive01:
The real Igbos are busy building monuments of businesses and taking advantage of the investor friendly atmosphere brought about by the able leadership of Mohamadu Buhari while some inconsequential touts and miscreants who constitute nothing but nuisance wake up everyday to wail over one imaginary and useless country which will never be.

Sai Innoson.

sarrki:
Baba I know you meant well for this country

Don't allow any sycophant either family or friends

Distract you .

For the wailers we your supporters will handle them

2dugged:
well obviously I already have a certificate and want to add a skill,but fools like you always assume the worst of people, I think you need to learn how to mind your business if you have nothing useful to say, quoting people out of context doesn't make you sound intelligent, I don't need to learn manners cos I already have manners but quoting people with nothing useful to say doesnt portray much of someone with manner, now run along

Ask4bigneyo:
When we were growing up,they used to tell us that Education is they key to success,now we have that key, only to find out that the government has changed the padlock

Cutehector:
you are just too too rash... relax.. I believe the moment you quit flaring up in your replies, the more doors will open for you.

2dugged:
hehehehe, I see you and hector actually have comprehension problem,smh, and btw Nairaland is not a pillar nor a post, got it?

2dugged:
speak for yourself, birds of a feather, doesn't imply all birds

Felixtuta:
This is lovely...the government will not see and encourage her ooo, they will prefer the foreign once, then sit in their offices telling us to support made in Nigeria product.

2dugged:
hector, if you can't help me shift Abeg, you think everyone is like you?

khiaa:
Your brother said!! Do you know this through your own experiences? Your post is nothing more than he said she said gossip,

kingabpet:
How do 1 tune into different channel and still be conscious of this earth(present tune)

nuelyoyo:
my brother, that was how one was asking me how am being paid in my sales work, asking if is based on commission or salary, she was also asking me how I go about selling, whether I use a vehicle to run around. Bottom line is she wants to have a clue of my income and mobility. And this questions were coming a day after I approached her chatted her up and got her contact - after church service, how on earth would u be asking such bearly 24 hours after, she even wan know the area wey i dey stay for the town, at best u can ask me what i do for a living , other thing you wish to know will be revealed as we get along, mbanu! She wan know deep things, even when I never state my intentions.
So I have started loosing interest in her, and Na teacher she be oh for private school, her salary for no pass 20k. No woman wan suffer, they want to know the level of Ur pocket before committing themselves to you for marriage, and I no blame them.
The way Nigeria has been from time past has made many people materialistic, people want to associate with you only coz of the things they want to benefit from you, and this mindset has been extended to relationships and marriage.