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moca:
I'm talking about an average guy/gal here.
Not really me cos I don't hv problem with what I eat or exercise(remember I said what they do in gym in naija is not diff from what I do at home)

Exactly my point, you and I are the average Nigerians.
if you're able to do it at home and still get results, then the absence of a gym shouldn't be an excuse for the rest.

moca:
The thing is this
An average man/woman hardly hit d gym or is selective of what they eat.
Most of d time, what we call good food is actually junk.

in d west, thanks to cosmetic surgery for celebs, else they r highlt obese especially african american.
Most times when I watch pastors like TD Jakes preach, I will be wondering what size he wears.
Look at that lady that we'd herself, all of them were obese.

Again, our kind of job and life makes it hard hitting d gym here. If u wanna do road work in naija, nobi if u r living where u hv good roads? How many live in such area?
So also gym. I wonder if there is a gym center in places like mararaba, maroko, and all those slums and sub cities around.

And d gyms in naija is rubbish.
Hv been to one. No diff from what I do at home.

You don't need to visit a gym to live a healthy life na. I think that's where most people get it wrong. Even if you aim to build muscles, you don't necessarily need a gym.

There are hundreds of exercise that are as effective as "gym" exercises. Google. YouTube. Instagram. They're littered everywhere.

Plus, most people know the difference between healthy foods and junk. The problem is making the right choice.

#Noexcuses.

carefreewannabe:
^^ Fabolous, inspiring and encouraging

She's my role model. Her and J-lo. She looks better than a good number of women in their 20/30s.

Jada Pinkett smith's mum (a grandmother) at 61. No excuses/ male or female. It's all about having control over what you put in your mouth.

Check out that V-cut. Super MILF!

Timbuktou:
Hehehehhee. Had to like this post. However,

-never had problems pulling chicks even with my driest chest.

- dude you're already hitting. What's the point of flexing muscles. Hahahhaha.

-im a lagos guy so, the bulk doesn't do much to intimidate people unless you have a mean demeanour to boot, and even then.....

-it sure does. and it improves gait too.

-a lot sha, maybe at night.

-maybe in scandinavia

All these your points na oyinbo oyinbo points. Here, if you're big, whether muscle or belly-big, you're the man.

I'm not a man

I agree with your last paragraph.

BoboYekini:
That's just it brah. 30 minutes every day is easy, unless you're doing HIIT, and that's going to nearly kill you trust me I'd like to see how ripped you were with 30 minutes of discipline back in the day.

Bottom line, to look like them you either die in the gym or you use steroids( and still bust your asss in the gym)

HIIT... this training won kill man pikin. I just incorporated it into my weekly routine and boy, it's not for the weak.

I have a session today but I plan on swapping it for leg day or core day.

Timbuktou:
Lol. Alright, then. Even at in his glory days his frame was unrealistic. Men that thing was fascinating but I only appreciated it for aesthetic purposes. Couldn't imagine myself looking that ripped. What's the use ?

-to attract girls
-so you can look in the mirror and flex your biceps while hitting your girl from behind.
- so you can intimidate guys (and girls)
-builds self esteem
- you get away with alot
- people find you more appealing even if you have shìtty attitude.

I don't think there's a clear disadvantage, but the work that goes into it? that's what separates men from beasts.

Timbuktou:
Arnold at 30 or Arnold at 50+?

Arnold the MR Olympia.

Timbuktou:
This statement for anyone lifting and/or thinking of bulking up. I doubt anyone will have the dedication to maintain the bulk in the later years. I detest manboobs and too much bulk early could well lead to that. Look at Schwarzenegger, for example.

The rock (dwayne johnson ) has managed to maintain his.
Arnold was on roids too. He admitted it. Side effects of roids are bìtch tìtties.

I don't think you develop bìtch tìts and flabby arms if you go the Natural route though. Except letting go means "completely" letting go.

oyb:
naaa

i used to be ripped back in the day - i too let myself go somewhat ; you can have definition without bulk ; which is better in the long run imho

its more of discipline

work out everyday, even if for 30minutes only.

Boboyekini is right. I wouldn't say most, but a solid number of them are on roids. Even the non-athletes. Getting cut and maintaning naturally is the hardest thing in body building.
And recently, more and more guys are starting to obsess more about body image (everyone wants to look like Arnold). Roids is always the easy way out.

aisha2:
She said the guy asked to help with legal bills.

didn't the lawyer say he paid the bills himself?

bellong:
I would have done the same.

Meanwhile, did she tell him why she collected money from the guy?

Has he ever suspected any link between his wife and the "philanthropist" guy?

The wife must confess reason(s) she collected money from the guy if there is ever going to be a way forward.

why would she lie that she was collecting lawyer fees? That alone raises a lot questions.

If she can give a very good reason why she did what she did, then good.

Else, the pleading and begging na wash.

A friend that dines with the enemy is more dangerous than the enemy himself.

njokusboy:
Op, see wetin u go do...

The parent cannot send her to school shey? She is better of with you than with her parents shey....

That she's a too young is a given....

Maybe na maize she for dey roast for sell for her mama house...

Since this pple no want you to help her, drop account number make all those women wey dey up pay in money for the pikin upkeep... them like am pass you

that's where I'm coming from, too. Lesser of two evils.

dein77:
Bro, these folks bullied me today...no be small.

what does the girl do around the house/ her duties?

pickabeau1:
You had maids as you disclosed
She is the only one

Big difference

Is she really the only one? Oga and madam don't help around the house at all?

pickabeau1:
I disagree it is too much money
He is already paying her school fees here
So I expect it will be cheaper in The village

Yes I agree that some duties are no biggie

But let's face facts here

This 11 yo will most likely be the one washing the madams car, bathing the baby and.sweeping the house all before she is ready for school

After that she comes back for more domestic work before she can do her homework


Bath the baby at night
Do dishes and wash clothes

Too much

"Too much money" is a slang.


I guess I didn't have a normal childhood then. All those things you stated were piece of cake to me at 11. And I was excellent at school; did sports too.

life isn't utopia. So far she's not being maltreated, it's ok (to me).

pickabeau1:
I understand his altruism in helping this child out but this child is too young to be . playing the role of a minder/maid in addition to her school obligations

Let him get a maid at least 18 years
If he is worried she is possessed or not suitable to be around his kid let him send her back to her parents and continue paying her school fees

too much money.

Getting an older maid would be a good idea but I don't think the 11 yr old maid is such a bad idea.

That was why I asked what her duties are. If she does things a typical 11 year old will do around the house then I think it's an ok arrangement.


At age 8, I was pounding yam nd grinding pepper, despite having maids around to help.

If they treat her like their child or close enough, I think its okay.

dein77:
I'm not Bill Gates; I do the little I can, where I am, and in the way I can....

My maid's mother sees me as someone that's really helpful for both her daughter and herself. Una just dey talk here.

This matter has been successfully handled. My maid is happy.

Both Kudos to Aisha2 for your passion against child labour and other child right abuses. Unfortunately, you're talking to the wrong person as far as child treatment is concerned.

what kind of help does she render? Wash dishes? Cook? Clean? Pound yam?
If the work she does are things a typical 11 year old would do, then disregard the idealistic opinions, and do you.

Whatever you call her is irrelevant, so far you treat her like you'll treat your child.

teeghurl:
how many of these so-called parents have the time to bring their children up in even western ways nt to talk of african ways. Most of them are busy chasing after money, bills must be paid thereby leaving their responsibilities to these kids' peer groups and technology

Kids and technology these days. Tablets are the new pacifiers.

You enter a home with a 5 yr old kid and you expect him to say "Good afternoon aunty BABE3". But mba, all their focus is on that ipad. They don't even notice when you come and leave.

...or instead of greeting you, first thing they say is "aunty do you have games on your phone? "..

Wtf? who are the jokes raising these kids...

2CatWoman:
In my opinion a lot of Nigerian parents in the diaspora don't actually raise their children. The eldest child who could be as young as 8 years is left in charge at home while the younger kids are babysat by Messers 50Cent and SnoopDawg (or other bad TV influences).

Then when the kids start acting up at around 11 or 12 years, only then does dad decide to send them home for their "African training", something which should have taken place from birth.

This is so true. Because of the 9-5 and beyond, and the hussle to pay bills and send money home, incompetent guardians and babysitters raise the kids.

I remember in high school in Nigeria, there was always an influx of these kids in the SS1 sets. Their parents bring them from "abroad" when they're 13/14 years old to de-westernize them (a.k.a remove the rude and indiscipline bones from their bodies).

They were always sooooooo rude, crass and uncouth. Some adjust by the time they write WAEC. Some of them don't.

Point is, there has to be a balance, either in africa or in dispora.

some parents, in the quest of westernizing themselves, lose control in training their kids till it's too late. That kid may end up living in Africa later and they struggle to fit in, even among the elite.
A well trained kid should be able to fit in anywhere he finds himself.

bukatyne:
No sex is not a requirement for the duration of the sex. It depends on mutual agreement.

Pastor Babe, 2015 is a good year

pastor ke?

that's why I said "little or no sèx".
The point of fasting is harnessing all of your energy and putting it on God by cancelling out noises (food, sèx etc).

I mean, is the couple gonna die without sèx for 40 days?

aisha2:
Again and lastly when a question is asked either state its your personal view or quote directly from the bible without twisting. Too many follow Christains being decieved twist it anyhow but don't pass your views as biblical views

no one is twisting anything. Fasting involves self denial. Fasting is depriving yourself pleasure for a greater good. Is sèx pleasurable or not??

aisha2:
Lets speak strictly from the bible abeg and not to pull out things from places. If you feel this way its your choice dont pass it on as Christain law when it isn't

if we were to always go strictly by the bible, you know it's Christian sin for women to speak in churches or for them to be leaders...

....and I can list many other "sins" that you and I will consider barbaric.

What does fasting mean ?

aisha2:
The bible is clear, its simple and concise no need to twist and turn it.
I won't even go into back and forth with you on the abuse issue. Pass your personal views as personal one not as Christain views when thats not what the bible says

Now that's a huge lie.

aisha2:
Spiritual instructions from who? Abeg that has been subjected to abuse too much. Christains should take instructions from the bible and the bible is clear on this

Fasting isn't focused of foods alone, is it?
Fasting involves depriving yourself of pleasure (foods, chatty friends, gossip, Facebook, Nairaland, etc), to have a deeper contection with God and hear from him. Those things I mentioned aren't bad, but they are forms of pleasure/distraction, and so is sèx.

Having sèx duing the period of fasting itself (eg, 6am to 6pm), is counterproductive. Coz I don't think it's possible to hear from God when you're under the sheets.

Little or no sèx isn't an option (for a couple that's serious about fasting). It's a requirement.

naijababe:
^ The guy no wan obey ofin Mose, maybe ofin Aroni will do better for him.

Abi o.

Dotng:
For one, I don't take beer. All these instructions you have given seems more than the law of Moses. I am confused. . Don't eat too much eba? I eat once for all since I am busy. I should cut out bread, pasta, rice, potato. What else should I eat?

Eating healthy doesn't mean eating boring leaves and fruits.

Please keep your carbs. You need foods like rice, pasta, potatoes for your body and brain to function.
You just need to be careful of how much you're eating (portion control). Don't eat till your eyes are bulging.
You also need to make healthier choices. So instead of white bread and white rice,
chose brown rice and brown bread (more nutrients, less calories).


Eat little by little throughout the day. Eating one gigantic meal at the end of the day is not healthy. Fücks up your metabolism. Ruins your ability to digest food.

If you're going to eat eba or fufu at all, make sure the size of the meat (protein) is the same as the size of the eba, or even bigger than the eba.

Eat your fruits and vegetable daily. Don't let vegetables scare you, most Nigerian soups are vegetables anyways. The only problem is the oil and salt content in the soups. So, little or no oil is good for you; minimal salt and Maggi is also good.

--Avoid fried foods (puff puff etc).
--Avoid processed foods (candy, cookies, chocolate, choco-milo, gala etc). Instead, eat a banana or an avocado.
--Avoid carbonated drinks (alcoholic and non alcoholic ) and "juice". Drink water. Just water.


At first, the "rules" may seem overwelmhing, but with consistency it becomes a lifestyle, and you'll thank yourself for it years down the line.

Aringon:
Madam, sorry I have that kind of stomach(laffs), I stopped eating 6pm, eat lot of fruits, take lot of fibre b during the RCCG 100 days fasting, d thing refused to reduce. I hv taken lot of this green tea n all sort of slim tea yet nothing has happened. I am just tired.
Note I do not drink beer at all

Your diet is 50% of it. To have a flat and strong core/tummy, your body needs to use up the belly fat by burning it. So, you need to exercise too. You need to start sprinting. Have you ever seen a 100meter runner on the race track with protruded belly? No. Their abs are always cut.

Keep your diet as it is now (and cut down fats, excessive carbs and processed foods), and incorporate sprinting at least 3 times a week. In each session, do at least six 100m dashes. Rest by walking around for 30 seconds between each 100m dashes.
You may be really slow at first, but as time goes on, you'll improve.
To increase the level of difficulty and for better results, sprint uphill instead of a flat surface race track.

Sprinting works your leg muscles (glutes, hamstrings and quads) and your abdominal muscles. And most importantly, it burns calories in those areas like crazy, even hours after you've finished sprinting.

Also, include exercises like squats (with weights) and deadlifts (with weights), planks and push ups. Those compound exercises burn calories more than sit-ups and crunches. Do the exercises on the days you're not sprinting.


Belly fat are quite hard to eliminate, so put in the work!!!

Babymama1:
Jehovah Shammah!!
This is ofe nmanu o
You are calling ofe nmanu edikaikong
My mother cooks edikaikong,it doesn't have nmanu like this
Biko use spoon and scoop away all that oil please

Lol..
I thought I was the only one that noticed. That soup looks to oily for a typical igbo soup.

... could be mistaken for "efo riro".

Thank you.
I wonder how you guys eat veggies alone. Green beans and little trees (broccoli abi wetin den dey call am). I have to cook my veggies inside a sauce to take away the veggie-ness.

cococandy:
Lemon rice and salmon.

If you need recipe pay into my account

the rice..sounds healthy nd delish... recipe?

Timbuktou:
His body language encourages the disrespect she metes out to him. The tone of his writing sef doesn't sound like a man who's sure of himself. In trying to be gentlemanly and a man of peace, he has ceded too much power to this woman. No amount of talk will help him, unfortunately.

I understand you. He sounds unsure.
I wouldn't blame him entirely. He was probably a man the first two years of marriage, and she turned him into a semi-man. Bad wives do have that ability.

Timbuktou:
Brother, your problems are caused by you. This post of yours has indicted you.

How?