₦airaland Forum

coogar:
the thread is most likely a fake story but let's pretend she's real. i am being entertained here, ain't you?

abeautifulchick:
Pls stop all this.I am a graduate and i am working in a multi national company.i can afford some of the things he gives to me.so money is not the issue here.

abeautifulchick:
and said i should pick a cab just because he was busy hanging out with his friends. But he gives me almost anything i asked for financially.

FynBabe:
Money is not the top priority for most women in a relationship. I don't understand why most guys find it difficult to believe.

abeautifulchick:
Hmm.its difficult but i think i am out of options here. I have sat him down couple of time to discuss this matter but instead he bought me my own car so that i dont have to call him to take me around. I have tried breaking up before now but he went on his knees and begged me not to leave him.i truly love him and i know he loves me so much.Is there no other approach other than leaving him?

FynBabe:
Guys, please do not ignore your wife/girlfriend deliberately o! This is how it starts and madam will begin to eye your male domestic staff in your absence. Pickabeau1, I laugh in swahili . I repeat, no woman loves money more than attention!

abeautifulchick:
The distance is quite much from airport to my home,i specially requested for him and he accepted.As for your last question,i gave reasons in my earlier posts.

Sophyrocks:
Any man who considers other matters more important than spending time with his partner should get ready for another man to help him out. Such men end up having unfaithful wives unknown to them. They dnt know this until reality hits them. They forget that women lovvvvvvve attention. Let them keep asking what women want while other men who sabi pass them help them out with their women.

Anyways, a man who loves the company of others more than you as is partner will keep displayin that attitude after marriage. The Op needs to open up more about this.


Anyways, the Op has to open up to us

coogar:
will he kill himself?
if he concentrates too much on attention, he will be broke. he's a young man - he's making hay while the sun shines. na "attention" go pay brideprice? will "attention" pay bills?

bukatyne:
Let me ask direct questions. I will appreciate yes or no

@babe3, if your hubby after 5yrs starts getting fat and his blokos is shrinking (according to dr. coogar), will you cheat on him after trying to wwork on his eating habits and exercise

@coogar, if your wife after 5yrs starts getting fat and her tummy is bulging, will you cheat on her after trying to work on her eating habits and exercise

Yes or No

shooze:
Bebe I don't have the time or power to argue with you. You can continue to live in lala land . Using Jennifer hudson as an example is comical but I dont even need to go into that. I am a beautiful size 14 and I am certain when it comes to looks you cant hold a candle to my curvy Behind

coogar:
joyce meyer herself emphasised on the importance of marital sex.....

www.nairaland.com/attachments/1778026_image_jpeg9f360c5ab7736510df54c882e9dbf188

as you can see yourself, she said exactly what i have said here concerning marital sex. a prophet isn't respected in his backyard. if my name is coogar meyer, you would respect me a bit more.

bukatyne:
You don't get that food is not what makes some people fat?

Even if they fast for 1 week and they eat healthy after, it might do little or nothing in terms of weight loss/maintainance?

shooze:
A good diet does require time. And I can state it category because I eat healthy.

Getting healthy food in nigeria is soo difficult go to any eatery in Nigeria the food is either deep fried or generally unhealthy. I make my own food and I know how stressful that is . It means I either go to sleep really late. Or wake up an hour or 30mins earlier than normal to cook. And that means waking up by say 4.30am to cook. I have had the privilege of visiting lots of foreign countries and I can categorically state it that its so easy to maintain a healthy lifestyle. You have ready to eat health options that all you need do is pop into the microwave and in 5 minutes your food is ready. You can jog by 1am if you so desire . The list is endless

Note that I practically work monday to saturdays .

shooze:
I dont eat bokoto , chocolate and all the other crap and I still add weight because I sit for long hours. I am presently a size 14 and have been that way for years and that is a leap from my previous size and I can confidently say it has nothing to do with me eating junk

shooze:
If someone wants to cheat he will cheat regardless og how fit ,sexy , kind or good in and out of bed. How many men in Nigeria remain the way they are after marriage. They add weight and become bald is that still a licence to cheat. As for coogar saying his colleagues jog. Try jogging on third mainland bridge to work or even surulere to VI then please give me feedback.

I am always amused when some people in the diaspora just stay stuff that they have not really experienced . I leave home 5.30am daily and get home by 9pm on the average and despite having a driver I know how fagged out I am after I must have sat in traffic for 2hours or more and this is me commuting from ikoyi to ajah. I have colleagues who spend 3-4 hours on 3rd mainland bridge daily and get home 10-11pm. The irony is adding weight is not just about eating bokoto as people often say. Not getting enough sleep, stress (for some people) long hours of sitting in a place actually aids weight gain

elipheleh:
MAYBE IN THE REGION OF 3 NEW CHICKS IN 2 MONTHS .....CONTINUE AT THAT RATE FOR THE NEXT 15 YRS, THAT SHOULD BE FAIRLY ACCEPTABLE TO MOST WIVES.

OR DONT U THINK SO?

coogar:
come - what do you have against holy naija wives? this is unfair o.

elipheleh:
SINCE WE HAVE ALL AGREED THAT CHEATING IS NECESSARY. OUR ONLY AIM IS TO FIND OUT AN ACCEPTABLE FREQUENCY IN CHEATING

bukatyne:
You both are here to joke
Looking good or becoming a size 8 means we should walk around without underskirt or tights?

coogar:
even with that....there are other clauses.
light must be off, wife cannot be fully näked, there must be a certain atmospheric pressure & a certain room temperature.

after these men are done forming holy man at home, you see them in church shaggïng the available choir girls they can lay their hands on. nigeria is the most hypocritical society in the world.

coogar:
dirty looking underskirt......
you see them in church tying & retying the wrapper just to reveal the satin undergarment.
any sėx position other than missionary is a sin for most naija wives yet they fast & pray for 40 days in the wilderness for the holy spirit to keep their marriage.

bukatyne:
I think you & coogar are just trying to keep this thread lively
I have an uncle who thinks wearing shorts around the house is wrong. So you know that make up, earrings etc. are off. My aunt's short skirts are below her knees and she does not wear sleeveless tops so your dress sexy at home, look good etc advises are lost on her. She till looks neat though.
Deeper life Church has millions of members. Please ask around to know their lifestyle.

coogar: forgot pink satin underskirt.  

coogar:
they said tying wrapper is the only way wives can portray decency.

bukatyne:
You are not in Nigeria and by magic, you know that all Nigerian wives are not fit?

My point is that the forefathers did not need to use fat as boju boju; they cheated when they wanted and married extra wives and besides, fat or plump was the in thing then

I apologize engaging you without knowing your beliefs; since you do not know the correlation between spirit of God and putting work in marriage

It is well

elipheleh:
IGNORING CHEATING IS NOT DIFFICULT . ITS HUMANS THAT MAKE IT LOOK BAD...AS FAR AS A MAN STILL HASNT DIVORCED YOU, JUST OVERLOOK IT AND U WILL BE HAPPY IN THE END.

GOD PLS GIVE ME AN ENDURING WOMAN.

elipheleh:
LOL. MY POINT IS EVERYBODY SHOULD IGNORE CHEATING. LET US LET THE SLEEPING DOG LIE

elipheleh:
FUN B4 OR AFTER MARRIAGE IS THESAME THING. YOU ARE CHEATING ON YOUR FUTURE HUBBY SO DONT COME HERE AND CONDEMN US. I KNOW IT IS MEN U GIRLS ARE ANGRY ABOUT.

I HATE HIPOCRITES.

IF U DIDNT MARRY AS A VIRGIN , ABEG FREE UR SPOUSE JOR

bukatyne:
Women keeping fit or men being trim is outside the scope of this thread. Like the OP implied, it is for many that has the spirit of God working in them

bukatyne:
Anybody that thinks looking fit and co is enough to keep a randy man/woman in check, carry go.
Those who have the spirit of God will discern the OP and work towards it.

bukatyne:
Nigerian wives have been looking fit now more than ever and I never heard our forefathers cheat on their wives because they were fat. Like Acidosis said, if you cheat, just do; no need for long turnechi.

bukatyne:
You know, I am sometimes tempted to think you are not a lady.

What of ladies who are fit, good in bed and gives husbby regularly and the men still cheat?

Like the OP clearly stated, if a person cannot stick to his/her vows, don't bother

damiso:
But being rich is faaaar more important to some people than anything in this world which is they sought out to marry relative comfortability.People marry for different reasons and so if a lady marries for comfort why can she not look elsewhere if those needs are not being met. Note I am not begrudging men who expect fit wives he married size 8 wants highest size 10 even after 3 kids why should he put up with size 18?

Just saying based on that theory too we should not begrudge women who want relative financial security cos thats what they married and are not getting down the line too.

damiso:
Also what's the excuse for those with fit wives? I have seen cases of men with size 8 wives running after size 14 to 16 chics.

coogar:
lol @ an hour before sleep.
does poverty affect a man's erëction?
statistics will tell you that poor men are even the best in bed. he's too poor to afford fattening foods. he's superb in bed & he's ultra-fertile.
in other words, using money or material comfort as an excuse to leave one's hubby is quite lame. the men who go outside to seek greener pastures love their wives.....they want things to be the same as the courting days but they just cannot get an eréction for wifey - the spark has disappeared!

coogar:
nigerians are too lazy to put in the work needed.....only a few of them take their body health seriously. in my borough, everyone jogs or rides a bike. at least more than half of my colleagues jog to the office every morning, take a shower & dress up for work. it's a habit they have cultivated over the years.

naija folks can't even do such - it's too humbling for their bad self. madams pack their big arsës in a big car with a driver taking them everywhere they want. and these "madams" are mostly under 30 years of age. how would the fat not build up?

coogar:
na poverty mentality.
the kids who actually need the protein rarely get it. 12 chunks of beef in a pot - hubby & wife(both in their 40s) would eat 5 each.....the kids only get one apiece.

ask them why the kids don't get more than one, an african parent would tell you 2 pieces would spoil the child but the 5 pieces they took won't cause diabetes, stroke or heart attack? the problem in marital homes isn't spiritual.....it's sheer ignorance!

coogar:
tell them.....
everyone should work on their body.....get a gym, run up the stairs 30 times a day if they cannot afford the gym, cut out nkwobi & peppersoup after a certain age.

apart from infidelity, untimely death is also imminent......a man with a fat belly would soon become useless in bed. the bigger the belly, the smaller the pënis gets. so by all means, weight issues should be the main gist in religious houses......not every problem is spiritual.