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coogar:
yes!
she married a serial cheat.

in this case, OP has no one to blame but herself. The man in question confessed to being a cheat, he asked for her hand in marriage and she gladly said yes. So, majority of the blame lies on the woman.

The man may not have proposed sef, she's probably the one that "tied" him down with belle, knowing he's a cheat.

babyosisi:
The ones I can't stand are those ones that post kissing and smooching and hugging and fake lovingitis pictures all over Facebook and social media trying to intimidate those of us with normal husbands
All lies
Don't be deceived
No be today babyosisi start to see Awusa with bow and arrow
That picture was taken to send a message to someone on the friends list or for someone on the friends list to pass it along to the intended woman or it was taken after a fist fight the previous night as make up.
I know my fellow women very very well

Lol @ social media couples. Some of them kiss and smooch more on social media than in real life.

Louislewis:
We men should be happy if we have such people as wife. They are protecting your image outside. You gain the respect outside. We should thank them. "WOMEN THAT ARE REASONABLE, WE THANK UNA"

it's not about your image; don't get too carried away. It's about the women's image. They don't want to be seen as a failure to their families and fellow women. It's just coincidental that your image is being protected while they are protecting theirs.

The same way some parents would lie that their son is a practicing medical doctor in America; meanwhile, na lie; the son has a passion for fashion designing and is a fashion designer. The parents in question would lie to save face for their selfish reasons, not to protect the their son.

coogar:
why would a body disagree with sëmen? are t all sēmen the same provided the man himself isn't battling any infection?



a bad smell is a bad smell.....
men aren't even great sniffers in comparison to women - so for a man to have taken notice of a malodorous vagińa says a lot on its own.



is there a difference between a girl that has sėx 10 times in a week with one partner & the girl that has sėx only once with 10 different men?



exactly!
if she pees out the sėx with her multiple partners then she should be fine. i mean, who doesn't wash after unprotected sėx with slimy substance creeping out of her orïfice? i still don't see how the number of men adds anything different to the status quo. if all the parties involved are squeaky clean, then all is well.

It's about what your body is used to. You wonder why people get sick in new environments?

Sèx with a man 10 times a week is safer coz it's one man. Provided he's clean, it means you only have to deal with his sèmen.

But 10 men? 10 diff types of ....? Nah. Big diff.

if she washes every second of the day, she has a higher chance of catching whatever is coming her way, compared to the 1-man girl.

Even after washing, stuffs get left behind.

If the sèx is unprotected, anything can happen. The less "foreign bodies" the vàgina has to deal with, the better.

GYN also recommend condoms for women dealing with BV. You wonder why?

kandiikane:
Have you cheated?

Yes. Have you?

coogar:
people with BO nko? is that also hygiene?
wearing 2nd hand pänties should be included too.

multiple sexual partners? how so?
i don't see how frequency of sėx with multiple partners build odours. come on - elaborate why this can be so.

Like kandi said, sperm causes an imbalance in PH, which can cause v-odor. Now imagine having multiple partners at once (that means an increase in the chance that one or more of those partners had/has an STD/STI).

They don't even have to have STDs. The mixture of two kinds of semén could be toxic for the girl's vaginá in particular.

Get it ?

That's why GYNs advice women dealing with BV to "pee out" the semèn after intercourse. The vaginá is sensitive.

coogar:
the vagïna is self cleansing.....
i dunno the over-emphasis on bleaching & scouring on this thread. the smelly ones are probably inborn just like body odour. [b]it's got little to do with personal hygiene. [b]

Err, do you really believe that ? I doubt most people with v-odor are born with it.

It has a lot to do with hygiene.
-bathing twice a day
-wiping from front to back (not back to front).
- wearing cotton/breathable panties.
- changing pads/tampons on time

etc

Multiple séxual partners and history of STD/STI can cause v-odor; a permanent one.

SirShymex:
Get the insanity popping, and eat food with less calories.

Heck, I lose up 1000 calories daily by just going to work and coming back to me. But I gain it back most times with eating certain food.

Honestly, I don't care too tough cos, but I'll see how it goes.

I know people who're about my height or shorter and are gym rats. And they weigh more than 280lbs.

Being athletic has nothing to do with fat, so the BMI thing don't really count, to be honest.

Bruh, you can't lose 15 lbs in a healthy way in two weeks ( you're talking to a fitness guru).

15 lbs is easy to lose if you're fat and round. Fat is easier to shed than muscles.

coogar:
nah, you are perfectly fine!
if you are into sports, the normal BMI stuff doesn't apply to you. if you calculate BMI for rooney, falcao, mayweather or pacquaio, they are all in the obese category. weight isn't always fatty acids. sports people/athletes
have more muscles than fats.

You beat me to it. BMI is a general guideline. It doesn't always apply to very active/fit people.

SirShymex:
thanks.
Should achieve that in two weeks time and stay there.

Bruh, how do you plan on losing 15lbs in two weeks?

freecocoa:
I won't call this pattern silent treatment if he/she needs to calm down first, I mean I won't like to talk if he's all angry, taking a few minutes to cool off and analyze like you said is a sign of maturity.

I'd like to think this is about those group of persons, who even after the heat is over, won't talk to their partners for days, that's just downright childish.

Maybe they need more time away from you? How can you tell if the heat is over for them? If the heat is over for you it may not be over for them.

100Cents:
The fact you do it doesn't make it right.

Seeing that you have High Self Esteem and you are Mature.

Please be diplomatic..

You too be diplomatic in receiving the silent treatment; it won't kill you, it'll only make you stronger.

100Cents:
Sorry for you.

Pray, you don't become a relationship failure.

Communication is the live wire of any relationship..

Shut your mouth. You must have a low self esteem; that's why getting the silent treatment kills you. You constantly want attention, don't you? You constantly want to be spoken to, even if you're in the wrong and your partner needs space, don't you?

What is the big deal in both parties keeping quiet, regrouping and coming back to squash the issue? Don't you know it's as a result of talking too much that people say things or do things they wish they never said/did? You want your partner/friend to forgive you as soon as possible because you're selfish, disregarding the fact that they need space away from you?


Silence is also a form of communication. It's a temporary fix. By the time, both of get back together, the anger and rage would have reduced.

Again, it only works for matured folks.

coogar:
even that bit is a hormonal behaviour.....there's a lust centre in the male brain which automatically directs him to register the "details" of an attractive female. women take this like the man is unserious or a randy goat but this is just science.....



if the sėx is good, the man would always come back for more. feeling attached or feeling emotionally-connected mostly depends on his age or maturity. if he's way too young, he's more likely to seek greener pastures even if the current woman is faultless

true...

coogar:
it's much much easier for the men to disconnect after any type of sex. after sėx, a man's testosterone would take a massive dip & this is why he either sleeps off completely or feel the need to distance himself from cuddling & having chit-chats.

it's the reverse reaction for the women.....her oxytocin is at the highest and she's more likely to want after sėx cuddling or some sort of bonding which most men aren't capable of giving generally - so men generally retreat after sėx while women generally want more romance after sėx.

it's their respective hormones at work.....

I don't think picaboo is talking about disconnect immediately after the séxuall intercourse itself.

I may be wrong though.

He's talking about disconnect asin coming back for more; feeling emotional connected to the person; feeling attached. Its easier for women to connect this way than men too; but we both know what havoc good pùssy can cause in a man's life.

pickabeau1:
Interesting angle
Which of the sexes is easeier to disconnect aafter a good pounding

Men.

If a woman finds a good dìck, it's like winning a lottery. It'll be hard for her to let go; added to the fact that she feels vulnerable after the pounding.

It's harder for a woman to find a man that satisfies all her séxual needs, than it is for a man to find a woman that satisfies his needs.

Women are more sexuâlly complicated.

pickabeau1:
Interesting angle

Let me ask then

How do emotions come into play

Women are more connected than men

Hmm.. emotions.. when it comes to emotions and séx; it's trés complicated.

if the pùssy is good (excuse my language), an emotionless man will become a psycho o.

if the dìck is awful, a woman that connects easily after séx will find it easy to detach herself (all things being equal).

But generally, women tend to connect more after séx. Again, part of it has to do with anatomy. Typically, women get "pounded" during séx, they are on the receiving end, so it makes sense that they feel vulnerable after.

I know it's crazy, but it starts making sense when you think about it.

Silent treatment is a sign of maturity. It takes a lot of self control to shut your mouth, think things over, analyze and talk.

Silent treatment, when used the right way, is very effective.

Talon05:
You are right too but you will agree most women resist temptations better no matter the level of that temptation. Most time when women cheat, something has to go wrong in the home front, whether the man is a cheat or he's not capable in carrying out his duties, be it sexually or financially.

There is always a reason behind a woman cheating on her man but MOST men will cheat for no reason, a man will still cheat on a good woman, even his soulmate once a certain degree of temptation comes his way.

hmm. There are many points I'll like to address in this your post, but I'm too lazy to type.

I'll address the "women resist temptation better" bit.

This has to do with anatomy; the pênis is way more aggressive than the vagìna. Heck, men get boners in the morning, right after they wake up (prior to seeing big boòties or bòobs).

so, if women had penìses and men had vagìnas,, it'll be a different story.

Talon05:
I am talking about ideal situations where the husband and wife gets along well, you dont see a woman straying when she believes her man is good and faithful and all but a good home doesnt prevent a man from cheating. Most men will have a good woman at home and still cheat, its just in our DNA. But it rarely happens for a woman to cheat on a good man. It rarely happens.

err.. cheating is in everyone's DNA; not only men's.

The pënis is however very stubborn, stern and straight forward compared to the vägina....

plus, men have more options; they can have sëx with women in social classes lower than them and women in higher classes. Society won't complain.

Women, however, prefer to have sêx with men in higher classes.

That's why it seems like men are "more promiscuous".

Talon05:
Its really simple. Not all men cheat but all men are programmed to cheat. It takes a lot of willpower for a man to exercise self-control not to cheat. Believe me, you should trust no man.

That's the half truth.

the whole truth is, all men(men and women) WILL cheat under the right circumstances, and with the right level of temptation.

Some will never cheat because the circumstances are never in sync and/or the level of temptation isn't high enough.

freecocoa:
Hmm, I prolly should have said people who make excuses for cheats will likely cheat if the opportunity arises, I don't see how they won't if they have reasons why it's okay to cheat. I'll be a shediot to believe people who scream they won't cheat actually don't, people lie a lot.

I've lived long enough to know that though people are held accountable by their words; words are empty as shït

yes, it's good to have the right mentality about cheating; but trust me when the real temptation comes, it's another story entirely.

Cheating is much more complicated than we make it seem in the section. But for arguments' sake, it's better to simplify.

freecocoa:
It's not like I expect them to come giving detailed accounts of their $excapades, I just thought they'll be here explaining why it's cool for men to cheat like they normally do, ofcourse I'd like to think we all know that anyone who makes excuses for cheats, is equally a cheat.

well, the thread is specifically asking for people that cheat, not asking people to explain why it's cool for men to cheat; reason why it's deserted.

No, not everyone that makes an excuse for a cheat is a cheat. That's a very simplistic conclusion.
You'll be surprised that the ones that scream "I'll never cheat" are cheats, and the ones that make excuses for cheating are not cheats.

freecocoa:
Seriously though, I expected this thread to be very hot, given the way most of them have a vast knowledge/experience on the subject.

so you really expected people to openly admit they're cheats? What's the point of cheating then?

It wouldn't be called cheating if they can openly admit.

He enjoyed watching, and recording

PrettyClare7:
till i get plump i am not about to jog around.

EXjoker is right. If you eat indiscriminately, you'll get plump all right, but you'll be fat; meaning all the weight you gain will be fat, and it'll be very easy to lose the weight if something happens (like prolonged loss of appetite or illness). There'll be no definition on your body; no abs no nothing; cellulites; stretch marks; just fat.


if you exercise (exercise doesn't have to be rigorous for beginners) while eating a healthy diet (reaching or exceeding your daily recommended calorie intake), you'll gain weight and look fit. Plus, it'll be harder to lose the mucsle weight, than pure fat weight.

carefreewannabe:
You don't live in Nigeria, do you?



Yet you would say that you are anti-racism, wouldn't you?
So why will you not say that you are against discrimination based on gender, which is what feminism is about?



This example does not fit into this context.



What does true feminism entail?



Is feminism against you making your own choices?




AGAIN, what is a true feminist?

true feminist? Believing and actively "practicing" gender equality. It's not all about believing and shouting up and down.

You talk the talk; can you walk the walk? Do you walk the walk? Won't most of you laugh at the guy that insist on splitting the bills on a date with your girlfriends?

All feminists on here took their husbands last name. Because??

Again, ask Beyoncé.

I'm done btw.

carefreewannabe:
You don't need to be a feminist to be what or who you want to be but you are aware of the fact that you can be who or what you want to be because of feminism, aren't you?

Do you think men and women should have the same rights?
Do you think that men are not better than women and vice versa?
Do you think that females should have access to education?
Do you think that the female child should NOT be excluded from their parents' inheritance?
Do you think that you should have the right to decide for yourself?
Do you think that you should be allowed to work without asking your husband's permission?
Do you think that you should be allowed to own properties?
Do you think that you should be allowed to drive a car even when you are female?



It means that you are convinced that women should have equal political, economic and social rights; whether you actively work towards it is secondary.

If I was born during the time when feminism first started. I would have been a feminist then: 100%.

I'm aware I have the same basic rights as men because of the movement. Yes. But, I don't need more than I already have.

Because MLK fought for black people and I'm black doesn't mean I have to be a freedom fighter.

because thomas Edison invented electric light bulb and I use electricity doesn't mean I have to be an electrician or an engineer.

Same analogy for feminism; I appreciate what they've done; the basics; now, let's keep it moving. E don do. What we have now is "aseju". Most of you can't even handle what true feminism entails; ask Beyoncé.

I still want men to open the doors for me; I still want me a rich husband ; and I don't want to change tires, my nails are too pretty for that.


Now, the last part of your post, a true feminist actively practice gender equality in every way. No ifs or buts. It's like a Christian saying he believes in Jesus, but he doesn't practice Christianity.

carefreewannabe:
Are you a feminist? Why / Why not?

Nah.. I'm okay with not being a feminist. I don't need to be a feminist to be what I want or who I want.

Btw, does being a feminist have to do with believing in feminism alone or believing and actively practicing feminism....

carefreewannabe:
@bold

Do you know what it stands for?

equality to men in every way, shape or form, apart from anatomy. Innit?

cKaiser:
I agree with BAB3 100%

Beyonce is a feminist of convenience. The term sells and the best way to sell is to tag along

She is the wife of a man who sang

"You know I - thug em, Bleep em, love em, leave em
Cause I don't fuckin need em
Take em out the hood, keep em lookin good
But I don't fuckin feed em"

Many chicks wanna put Jigga fist in cuffs
Divorce him and split his bucks
Just because you got good head, I'ma break bread
so you can be livin it up? Shit I..
parts with nothin, y'all be frontin
Me give my heart to a woman?
Not for nothin, never happen
I'll be forever mackin
Heart cold as assassins, I got no passion
I got no patience
And I hate waitin..
Hoe get yo' ass in
And let's RI-I-I-I-I-IDE.. check em out now
RI-I-I-I-I-IDE, yeah"

She said in one interview like that; " I think I'm a femisnist, sort of".

crackhaus:
Africans and Nigerians in particular put the words copy in COPY-ing and unoriginal in UNORIGINAL-ity.

It's like a disease.


Buahahahahahahahaha.....

plus the ones that still wear underskirts. And the ones that can't tell a difference between "aww" and "eww"..All feminists join. How can I forget the ones that can't even speak in the presence of their husbands... coming here to claim feminism... oh the internet.


Back to beyonce... the woman is smart; feminism is in vogue; females finding out she's a femisnist means they'll buy her albums/come to her shows. A politician (check out obama) would even claim feminist to gather votes.

In "single ladies", beyonce said "if he liked it, he should have put a ring on it". Why must it be the man putting a ring on it? Why is it the man's job to propose marraige when we have no gender roles in the world of feminism?

In her song, "run the world", she claimed females run the world while twerking and grinding on men in the desert. Is that the message behind feminism?


I can go on and on... her song "soldier" she needs a soldier-like man in every way possible...

How can I forget that she married a rapper (the most misogynistic group of entertainers). Check out "99 problems" and "big pimping" by jay z.


when Beyoncé decided to use the name "Mrs Carter" on her tour, femisnists got angry.

This goes to show, many don't know the meaning of what they stand for; they only use the word for their selfish reasons and to sound cool.

It's not even about the word movement itself. But like everything else (what "we" keep saying), the word has been bastardized. People now use it to sound cool and for their own selfish reasons. A man refuses to open the door to a restaurant on a date, a modern day feminist will scream murder. When a man wants to split the bill on a date, you hear them say "that nigga ain't 'bout that life".

It's now a word that men-hating women use to back up their hate.

You see a typical NIgerian wife on here; the type that crawl on her knees to satisfy her husband claiming feminist, just to feel among.

Its almost just an empty word nowadays, like the other words on that list "basic" "bae" "literally"; words you say without even thinking. Afterall, that's what's "raining".


Side note; Beyoncé too is claiming feminist? anything to sell albums and tours I guess.