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izzou:


This post was almost making sense,and then it suddenly stopped making sense

wjere did it stop making sense na?

I don't want to quote that long epistle, thank you for the time you took to do that, you nailed it.

Several stories about how woman came to being surfaced, that of Eve in the bible appears to be the biggest of all.

According to the bible, woman is man's helper, but in reality reverse is the case.

Talk about pains, talk about care, talk about responsibility, talk about duties, etc. they take it all.

This makes me keep wondering if women are really helpers or men.

If women were to be helpers then i guess men should be the one nursing menstrual pains and child labour while woman should help with pampering.

Nursing a child is one great mountain which must be climbed properly by any woman because the two parents get praised for the success of the child while the mother is condemned for the failure.

Like nursing a child is not enough, they also add that of the father to it while he(claims) to be the bread winner which many woman of now adays even are.

Women are powerful and can persevere than men. And the ability to give birth to younger ones alike makes them special.

Oh! You want to claim that that cannot happen without man? You have nothing to say if you cannot explain the case of Mary in the bible.

All women should be respected no matter the size, they can give birth to anyone.

Presidents, kings, senators, pastors etc are all products of woman's labour.

Even though you have all the strength in the world, the women deserves the respect, ego asides.

They are our mother, sister, nanny and whatever names you can call them because of their multi-tasking abilities.

Their importance cannot be over emphasized, believe me, without them the world will be incomplete and meaningless

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/06/reasons-why-you-must-respect-any-woman.html

Ruggedfitness:
Hello bamisepeters

It seems you are the male version of Talk2bella... I believe you already know me on nairaland, but I would like to know more about your blog

lol. Not at all, we are similar in nitch but write-up is completely different. My blog is about life and relationship discussion,nothing else. Thank you.

"Apologize for interrupting, ask if they would like a bottle of water or a snack, and then get the hell out of her room and let her enjoy her boyfriend’s pe**s.

Your daughter is an adult, as is her boyfriend. If you have not had a discussion about having s3x in your house, then you really have nothing to be concerned about.

If you didn’t establish boundaries, you can’t complain if she crosses boundaries she didn’t know existed only in your head".

The above was the advise given by someone else that answered the question.

Let's come back to my country, Nigeria where we take everything serious including corruption, yet no positive result so far, we hope it will turn out fine soonest.

If a Nigerian mother catches her child doing such with a guy it is a serious battle o.

Coming over to the house of the girl, her parent's house and do such thing is even a huge sign of disrespect to the parents by the girl and the boy.

At first, the mother is not even afraid of HIV but pregnancy.

In this part of the world we love to conform with standard, and as it pertains to this, copulation is not for those who are still unmarried, marriage should come before pregnancy is the standard even as many have violated this standard.

Even before she start behaving normal, trying to get what she has done wrong for such to have happened most Nigerian woman will have beaten daylight out of the girl.

Personally, so far she has stopped them from what they were doing she just need to cool herself down from that shocker and confirm to her that what they have done is not right not by beating or shooting but with words.

At 18 all she needs is proper counseling if what they have done did not result to pregnancy which automatically makes her a wife.

She is already an adult that knows left from right but needs little direction from someone who is experienced which is you the mother so as not to make complete full of herself and the family at large.


Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/06/i-caught-my-daughter-in-bed-with-guy.html

NwaAmaikpe:


So soon?

Has the Igbo cleared from his eyes..

So now he knows DJ Xclusive is not his mate...even Don Jazzy can't talk to Exclusive the way the eczema ravaged boy with a dead career did.

On behalf of DJ Xclusive your apology is rejected.
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you are even vexing on behalf of X lol..

leCaptain:
Depends on your reason for breaking up tho

of course, not the one caused by infidelity o as there will be no space for talk let alone discussion.

ucheHapers:
Respecting my self since 1776....

how now?

Kondomatic:
Under wear? It's creepy

if there is something more than creepy sef...

CoolFreeday:
Nice write up

thanks.

eyinjuege:
Please, if anyone doesn't know the kind of gift to give another, please just give them the money instead, even if it's 1k to buy drinks
Don't gift underwear. Even if you don't mean any harm, it sounds as though you're a pervert.

abi o

AngelicDamsel:
Me give married man underwear.............. I can't even imagine

not even me o

Giving people gift is never an issue though, however, some gestures need proper thought before they are being shown to people.

Like we have mail etiquette and some other etiquettes around the world, i think it also covers giving of gift.

Before you give a gift you really should think about the relationship of the gift with the receiver and relationship between you and the person also.

Apart from that, some other internal perception someone else might read towards the kind gesture should be considered.

For example, you don't just give anyone flowers as gift or something without some kind of emotional relationship.

A married woman who has a responsible man as husband travelled abroad and when she came back all she could bring along for another married man is 2 pairs of boxers.

I think there is nothing whatsoever between them than brethren relationship as it happened in a church.

The man even thought it was handkerchief, he almost removed one from the pack to use immediately to clean his face before he realized it was boxers and he returned it immediately as there are people around.

Apart from the fact that you don't have any other hidden intentions, is that kind of gift something you can give a married man in public especially in this part of the world?

Possibly, people in the western world may see no issues with such gesture.

Lets look at it this way, a married man buying set of pants or bra for a married woman, wouldn't you give another meaning entirely to that?

How did he know the size of the woman's breast if not that he has seen or fondled it once or more than once?

This to me is common sense, if you don't take some things seriously you really need to think about the way others make use of their senses, and you need to put yourself in people's shoes as you can think same way too in this case.

Will that man be mistaken to conclude that the married woman is interested in him?

What about the wife of that married man, wouldn't she be thinking something is fishy?

So many questions begging for answers, this is the kind of situation we put ourselves when we are so eager to impress by force and when we have this i-don't-care attitude.

Read Also: 5 Consequences Of Having More Than One Man

This is the reason why some people rack there brain all in the name of buying gift for someone because what ever gift you buy interprets what and who the receiver is to you and also what the situation is.

Please, in case you don't know the kind of gift you can buy for people you can google it or ask around because gift is a non verbal message before you cause commotion.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/06/is-underwear-gift-married-woman-can.html

Of recent i have noticed most men face the problem of choice. Not those that are not married alone, but even those that are married.

Often you will hear some men telling a lady "i swear if i had met you before i got married you should be the mother of my children by now".

Madam! it is a lie, a chronic lie for that matter, he will say the same thing to another woman if you were the one in his house.

Well, some will say men are naturally polygamous and at this point i pity woman who are stock, and they have no choice than to accept the nature of man.

Some men try all their possible best not to be polygamous, but at times it is that other woman that will tempt him into doing what he will otherwise not do, that is, most times some woman are the cause of other women's problem.

They dress to kill and at times they seduce you till you fall prey, your marital status is of no importance to them when they are interested in you.

It is not easy to be glued to a person for many years, but those that did it successfully should be your role model and the push for you to also achieve that feat and not "doing better" this time, you don't need to do better, it is when you try to do better you spoil it all.

Some woman loves to change men like cloths while they have the special one somewhere thinking his woman is as blameless as an angel, this case is like they (the woman) having clothes untouched, yet, they still want to acquire new ones, they want to wear all kinds.

This makes me keep wondering if woman are the cloth for men, afterall, there are many men that change women like wears, they want to feel the beauty of all kinds and shapes, married and unmarried, you will hear them say to a married woman "what is good is not meant for just a person" jeez!

The biggest concern men face in relationship and marriage is still covetousness and temptation from the opposite sex; basically, women is the issue, yet they are indispensable.

Even when they have better one at home they still run after other single, engaged and the married ladies.

In short, we humans are the enemy of ourselves, those that are promiscuous are the ones that will chastise those promiscuous, they are never contented, yet they cannot hold it when their woman is exchanging common pleasantries with another man no matter their relationship.

One thing i know is that if a woman want to get a man they can go any length and when it gets to that stage, to escape for that man who is the target will take a spiritual intervention

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/06/the-biggest-challenge-men-face-in.html

Yes, women need to be respected by men, but it should also be reciprocated.

It is not right in any circumstances to say any of the below statements to a man:

1. Shut up
For crying out loud, he paid your bride-price, jokingly or otherwise you need not say that to him.

2. If not for my parents
There are woman whose parent aid the current status of the ma. In life it is bound that it is someone that will help the other to fame.

Well, if your parents did not make him who he is, he will still be what he is destined to be.

Saying if not for your parent is just a way of telling him he was raised from gutter to the bed, must you always remind him of his rough beginning?

Someone also helped your parent to before they became who they are so what is the fuse all about!

3. You are not fit to be a man
For him to have trapped you into the family way, forget, he is more than a man and if you keep saying it a man who isn't a bastard will want to prove you wrong, just be ready for a rival, and that is if he didn't raise his hand against you.

4 My younger sibling is wiser than you
Oh my God! So as big as he is he is so senseless that you compare him to your younger siblings and not even elder.

Why didn't you go and marry your brother then?

You reduce his self esteem when you say such especially when you say it when i is not just the two of you alone, but come to think of it, if it ends in a wrestling or boxing bout who are we to blame?

5. My ex is stronger than you
Why didn't you stay with him? Did he break? Why can't you just be contented with him and move on.

You have forgotten if your ex was that good maybe he wouldn't have gotten the chance to take his space.

Don't be frustrated to the extent of saying any of those statements to your man, he can loose it and anything can happen afterwards.

Respect him like you will want yourself to be respected even when he is going hot.

Do not worry, men will respect themselves too after reading this, so no need for quarrel.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/07/five-abusive-words-you-should-not-say.html

The truth is that the girl is tired of the relationship, she just got something to lay hand on as suitable reason for the breakup call. Your friend will get over it, it might take days.

fade00:
I moved in with my bf we love each other and my mum said she prayed and his my husband. The relationship has been going well but the usual arguments and all. He has always been a player, a bar kind of person having different girls to sleep with before meeting me. When we meet he stopped all those sleeping with different girls and focused on me he was faithful, we live together but my problem is We where having sex he was close to orgasm and he said he loves my pussy but he has to cheat I asked why he said cause his a man. My heart is breaking will he cheat on me I can't handle that. Pls advise. Should I be worried??

The first mistake you made was to think a womanizer will concentrate on you. The second error is moving in with him when you are not yet married. The fact that he isn't a serious type from the scratch has destroyed the whole thing, he is so farmiliar to you, there is nothing else he wants that he is yet to get from you.

My advise, you need to quit before things get messier.

Medunah:
Being close to his mom is ok but my sister, if he cant make a single decision without consulting his mom first, run for your life because you won't av a single say in that marriage....... Everything will boil down to "mummy said this" and mummy said that"

Don't mind all those silly asses up there. If u become a mother one day, will you run your son's life? No! So don't let anyone blackmail you into you're selfish or that u will become a mother one day too.

Or is your own mother not a good mother too? Or did ur mum also not make sacrifices for you? Does that mean u call her every minute or can't make decisions on your own without consulting ur mum first? Abeg, I love my mum with everything​ in me, so many sacrifices she has made for us but that doesn't mean she should tie us to her apron's string!
A man should have a mind of his own!!!!!!!!

I don't know why am ranting but those comments up there are effing annoying!

lol. Sincerely you have said it all, if he is able to make decisions without her and if the mother is good to you, you are good to go, what i said up there will work so much in this case, spoil her for her child who is your man and you will see him love you so much and even want to leave her for you as you have shown you can take care of her for him.

This is my part of the advise; it all goes down to the mother now, whatever you have observed about her is what will dertermine your decision. You'v loved people of his kind and you'v shown him that from the beginning, you don't need to just let go of the likeness cheaply. You cannot take that away from him, don't even try it. You will also need to learn to be so close with his mother to balance it up, all you need from her is her complete support of you, let her get so use of you,be available for her in body and spirit often,stop bothering yourself about his love for his mum, get used to it and work to get the full support of the mother to balance it up so that there wouldn't be issue. It is only if you have seen trait of something else in the mother, like she complains about you or act funny when it comes to you then you really need to adjust, if not, you might even enjoy the family more.

As much as we always try to avoid problems in our relationship, some problem(s) still rise which at times brings the relationship to an abrupt end.

At times the cause of the end of the relationship might not even be infidelity or trust issues but destiny.

When we have to part ways some things are require of us so as to make the separation looks mature, and it is through "Communication".

Some people will bring an end to a relationship and will not be able to face the person they ended the relationship with in future, this is because of the manner at which they ended the relationship.

If it is a must that we end a relationship, we should have it at the back of our mind that apart from dating, human beings are almost tied to each other one way or the other, what happens when you come to realise that the person you ended the relationship with is the one who will sign that huge contract that will throw you into lame light in the future?

This is because you don't know what that person may pursue in future.

When some people get tired of their partner they tend to look for something to blame on them to make him or her to be at fault of the break-up.

It might not be easy especially when the person loves you to tell him/her one-on-one your mind as regards the relationship but it will be better to make it conversational than to make him/her look stupid.

There are some relationship whereby it might be one or more of the characters of the partner you are fed up with which might want you to put an end to the relationship, why not just say it to him/her in a mature manner rather than making them look odd when you know that was who they were even before you agreed to date them?

Communication is a very important tool when it comes to relationship, it can make and break a relationship which ever manner you want it.

Communication will make your relationship peaceful and otherwise depending on how you start it and the aim behind it.

Emotion might be toiled with but when you are not happy or envisage that you might not be happy with someone it is better you make the separation peaceful through calm communication so as to be able to face each other in the future and to be happy to help each other should in case the need arise.

Separation in relationship shouldn't be like a war front whereby even in the future when you see each other you will still start the fight from where you stopped.

Good and highly seductive conversation brought about the togetherness, well, to end it untimely might not require a seductive communication but peaceful communication is at least required.

Let's change our attitude and try to do things right. Don't make some mistakes that will make you so sad in the future, live for tomorrow.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2015/08/how-you-can-end-relationship-in-mature.html

Bossontop:
Hah mr op ayam sumtin...i fall into all ur listed categories of "cheaters" wat kind am i??

You be boss

hkidola00:
my serious relationship gf has been avoiding me for a week nau because i got so angry i kicked and broke d bucket in her hand and i also held her shirt.......been begging for a week nau, she no gree

Ouch! That's serious, i know you will learn to control it now if she listens to your plea.

pocohantas:
Has anyone ever said all men cheat? That person must be high.

Most times on NL, it's men I see spreading that falsehood that all men are polygamous in nature. The only time most of them get angry is when it comes from a woman...

One toks created a thread saying women should be ready for their husbands to cheat, if not...don't get married. Lots of guys supported him, since men know themselves more...women have bought into it.

so who says ladies cannot do unto you what you do unto them? Some bad-proud niggers everywhere sha. Just dey look at them jare pocohantas

Elmojiid:
we real men dnt cheat.....we dnt av sex with our wife but we make love...lol

it might be funny, but thats the truth.

AceGang:
Minister of women affairs...

worefa

Benita27:
A girlfriend later becomes one's wife.

thats true o.

pocohantas:
Naso na....until she chop your money finish. Use it to sponsor the love of her life. You'll come here to share your testimony.

Babe that you use money to get, is that one babe? Isn't that undercover runz girl. If the money finish, na on to the next maga...

lol, na so o.

Tajbol4splend:
Pretty ladies, especially ones with fig.8 are stimuli followed by involuntary action from the beholder

lol

Benita27:
I quite agree with your other points but on point three, I beg to differ. What you wrote there is relative, and a matter of choice. Some men would rather have their wives be stay at home mothers than allow them bring work hazards to their home. My land lady for example, 17yrs of being a house wife and still counting. She's the type that hates working sef, and her husband is ok with that.

i overstand. Personally, i feel women shouldn't agree to this from their man, i will share my reasons in my next post.

vargasvictory:
Nice post but irrelevant, why? All the aforementioned basically happen in 8:10 of every marriage.


Marriage is all about compatibility and dealing with each other's flaws. Once a party gets tired of dealing with the other's bullshiit, it's over.

tiredness has taken huge part of the cause of destruction this days.

McBrooklyn:
OP in addition to your aforementioned points... I think marriage failure occurs when you discover that the person you married cos you were in love with him/her didn't even exist, probably twas just someone acting out that person role to you...

love at times get as e be sef.

pocohantas:
Op, some of our Nigerian guys are like multiple chargers. Every girl is welcome. The babes are not left out.

that is the situation we have found ourselves in this century.

Thanks for the comments so far, i really appreciate you guys.

HARDDON:
As you wud only see very few ladies who wud not saddle you with their bills just by meeting them. Make d mistake of preaching luv to them n watch them milk you.

If we are to roll this lane, guys are worst hit because out of hundred demands of ladies from guys they just met, 95% of them wud be met whereas if same number was to be analysed based on guys demanding s ex from ladies they just met, only 5% wud hit it even after spending. So dont sweat it.

Btw,
If you dont roll with fvckboys, your reasoning wudnt have been so impaired n monocultured.


Only the first 3 paragraph of d op have verisimilitude. Others are nothing but a beclouded wailing of a wantom willow

See when you have finished me with your big grammar let me know o. Thanks for the comment anyways, i love to hear some people disagree with few lines of mine, it makes me stronger, so KEEP IT UP.