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Fahvvy:
@rickpat

Does this girl look like she has good intentions for that guy? ... Because why exactly is she suggesting her own bank? ...

Aren't they online saving platforms?
How about a fixed deposit account?

Omorr...
Leave am...

This girl has bad plans for that guy ...
And did you also read the part where she said she "subtly threatened him"? ...

After the guy has saved like 500k in her account, when he decides to leave her, she will also "subtly threaten" him again ...

This time she'll be like, "if you leave me, forget about your money" ... And if them get issues, she will also "subtly threaten " him and be like, "if you don't apologize, forget about your money" ...

In summary...
I see more "subtle threats" in the near future ...

No one is perfect. You've subtly threatened someone. I just needed to emphasize the need to settle down.

Fahvvy:
I have a few questions I'd like to ask you ...

Would you save money in your boyfriend's account? ...

If things were to go south, what's the guarantee that you would return all the money he saved in your account back to him peacefully ? ...

Why aren't you advising him to open a fixed deposit account in any of the banks? Why must it be your own account? ...

He's one the other side of the world! How can I be sure? He's young, indecisive... I love h, and I don't want us to ever break up. But long distance relationships don't last! If we don't settle down quick, we are over. And I don't want to give all my heart to someone who could break it. Half the time we were together, he had no job. And I didn't mind cause the relationship was relatively young. Now, we need to work towards something. What's the point if we don't? I won't spend his money, it's a promise. But either that or I find some way to pressure him into saving.

rickpat:
don't pressure him at all.. don't bring up the issue with him again...just only suggest and encourage him to have a savings account different from his normal account..but please don't mention that part of you wanting him to save in your account...has it occurred to you that he might be seeking advise from people on this matter too?..and most men will advise him that you are after his Money...YOUR INTENTIONS MAYBE GOOD,BUT ITS NOT ALL GOOD INTENTIONS THAT GOES DOWN WELL WITH PEOPLE..so just suggest for him and from time to time ask him how he is doing with the savings that's all

I suppose. We weren't born rich, so I absolutely want us to live better. When I had a job, I saved but I don't think he did. And it's frustrating. He talks alot about the future but all this time, we haven't really started working towards achieving any of our goals, atleast I'm trying despite living in the poorest country. He's doing better, so I expect some effort but I'm getting nothing.

I'll encourage him to save, I did when he first got the job, five months after we started dating. I know he'll quit again, he keeps doing it. All I need is stability.

Or I should just risk it? Stop planning, depend on fate? Trust him to make the best decision for us both?

rickpat:
you can only suggest a savings plan/pattern for him...you telling him to save in your account is WRONG..

focus on your own CAREER...talks like these makes most men disrespect women...when I read the topic,I even thought you work in a bank and you are advising him to open an account with your bank

NB: YOU ARE ONLY A GIRLFRIEND,IF THE TABLES WHERE TURNED WOULD YOU SAVE IN IS BANK ACCOUNT?..you have no right to tell him to save in your account except he is the one that ones too.. GIRL GIVE YOURSELF SOME RESPECT...good luck

Hm. So I'm wrong? Should I apologize to him? I just want to be certain he's serious. I guess I can't pressure him, right?

What's your advice?

FalseProphet1:
You're not his wife so he has no business opening a joint account with you. You're just a girlfriend who can dump him tomorrow and abscond with his hard-earned money.

Leave him alone and Hussle for yourself.

You don't know me! I love him. Why would I betray him? I'll take a bullet for him if I have to. He wants to marry me! The joint account is to save for us both. That's why Nigerians are where they are, we are planning long term. You can't build a future on love alone. I'm being reasonable.

richeeyo:
Chines man was brain washed as em eye clear Lee realized he has lost everything to c. Unt

He was plain foolish. Though I don't believe he spent that much. It's impossible.

FalseProphet1:
He should save in your bank, I don't understand did he tell you his bank has problem or he doesn't know how to save money. Madam keep your eyes out of his money and focus on your education if not, no guy would take you serious.

This I have seen.

I'm not spending his money! Read the post. One of us has to hold it. We can't open a joint account, too far away to do so.

So what matters is who. And I'm better suited

Mods, take this to the front page. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I have a boyfriend, we've been together for a year. I absolutely love him, he's my whole world! And that's the reason I'm pressuring him to save, if we're going to have a future together. And he's down for it, he makes nothing less than 200k monthly. I'm still a student, searching for a decent job. I can't invest sh** presently but I hope to start soon. Yesterday, I brought it up. I want him to send money monthly to my bank account, no matter how little. I'll save it for him. He's hesitating. He said I should be patient, he'll give me everything I need but he wants more time. I don't want to ruin our relationship but I need his co-operation. I'm scared he might leave me, after I've given him the best years of my life. I subtly threatened him that my family would force me to marry a Nigerian but he made a joke out of it, saying I would never, that I'm his...

What should I do?

NB: I've never taken a dime from him. He drinks often and I don't want him spending 'our future' on alcohol! I'm way better at saving.

I'm worried if I press the subject, he'll get mad at me.

I also told him I want to leave Nigeria, he thinks it's a good idea and I also told him I can't afford it alone. He said he needs time.

Doesn't he love me? Should I let it go? Or insist we resolve this?

If she ain't worshipping your 5inches, STI crippled di**, she doesn't love you?

There are bigger sex töys... Unlike you, they last longer, are clean and don't share aids and gonorrhea

Nairaland Redpillers cheapening themselves.

I dunno why men love to compare and objectify women. You have a preference, keep it to yourself.

This is demeaning. No one lines up men for women to choose who they like best.

Fahvvy:
No one is arguing with you my dear ...

I only called you out because you painted those vices as a gender based vice and that's disgusting ...

Imagine I say, since 8 out of 10 women beg men for money (only God knows where you got this stats from ) - and on account of that, I paint begging as a feminine thingy, e go make sense ba? ...

And then when you call me out, I now put my fingers in my nose and tell you "don't argue with me. Argue with stats ... Take yourself to the romance section, and bla bla bla" ...

See how it sounds? ...

I hope you get point ...

This thread made begging a 'Nigerian woman' thing. The comments too.

kaycome:
In this 21st century someone is asking this kind of question. Let assume you want to make enquiry, there are threads on Uk and Canada student. What stop you from reading the beginning to last post? I can assure you that by then you will delete your post, knowing what exactly you need to do. My two cents

So reading a thread with over a thousand comments is a better option than creating my own seeking help?

Typical black man, always thinking anti clockwise

EmzyT:
LOL! OP, this your story just reminds me of a Beautiful girl named (let's call her Blessing) I came across in my 300L, she was a new occupant in my lodge! Who would see Blessing and wouldn't want to talk to her, babe was very beautiful and Curvy? She had a matured boyfriend too and it was a long distance relationship

Long story short, I approached blessing a certain night, we talked at length and I got her number, before you knew it, we have started rolling together, she'd come over to my room and sleep and all that.

Guys were dying to get her attention, buying gifts and all that and you know what? They haven't even gotten ordinary number Sometimes she'd call me to come to her room so we could eat what a maga got her, sometimes she'd come with it to my room unannounced Have Blessing ever asked me for Dime? NO! Did we date? NO! What were we? I don't know! But we've done everything one in a relationship could do!

That singular encounter with that girl opened my eye to realize that when a lady loves you, she'll make it easy for you. it's not bad to give out money o, but also make sure that the girl you're spending on has your interest at heart

Also, you need to learn how to say NO! You wear the shoe so you know where it hurts. I learnt how to say NO a very long time ago and trust me, it's one of the biggest lessons of my Life

Aren't you rich?

SPAMBOX7:
I'm someone who's never known what it feels like to have decent cash lmao. You could say that to people who dunno you and they buy it

I know. That's why your offer sucks. You can't spend what you don't have. Maybe someone would consider registering for your 2k spamming class.

PJtech:
You guys have come with your entitlement quotes again.. No one is feeling entitled here
We'll all need help in some stages of life(not neccessary its money)

I agree but you can also be denied.

But when mention those who they've helped, you come off as bitter and entitled.

Find better friends, but I would advise you to make your own money.

We all know when their relationships ends, the boys would take back everything... Is that what you're jealous of?

People would always disappoint you. I'm a girl, no friend or boyfriend has given me a dime and I'm fine with it. We're in the same boat. So it's not a gender thing.

SPAMBOX7:
We could be fucking by now if you still not a child. Till you grow anything you say I'm okay with it. As long as it makes you feel good
Buzz me when you are grown and ready to be munched good

What do I get in return? The $50 you survive on monthly, abi? Big boys are plenty here in Abuja, don't need a smallie.

But I have a sweetheart. So bye-bye. ☺️

Fahvvy:
You think only men behead people and commit cyber fraud? I LMAO @ your ignorance ...

And besides, "kidnapping, ritualists and so on" is not a gender based thing, so stop all this "patient as their fathers" BS you're spewing from your mouth ...

The majority are men though. Don't argue with me, argue with the stats. Take yourself to the crime section, buy a newspaper, watch the news...

When 8 out of 10 are men, what did you expect?

Ballzproblem2:
most Yahoo boys have misplaced priority, they'll leave people who were there during their hard times to please people who don't give shit about them,then again, it's their money they don't owe shit I have many in my contact but I don't bother,if you wan give me money fine but I won't ask you for financial assistance I believe in myself

You were there doesn't mean sh**. What did you help them achieve? Or gisting and drinking with them made your friends who they are? Maybe their girlfriends love them more. Stop being entitled.

Goan work. Stop comparing yourself to women who use their va***** to make money. Are you a prostitute?

A grown man like you wants to feed off yahoo boys. Would your parents be proud? Do the yahoo boys have two head? Make your money, don't be a parasite.

SPAMBOX7:
Same old bitch
Hit me up when you have grown up. You know where

I don't blame you... Gift card Yahoo boy. Find your level

SPAMBOX7:
I know you angry at me but it's your fault. Not mine

Delete my love's picture this second!

See how fresh he is. My shine shine bobo.

Fabulozz:
Please don't involve my mum she has nothing to do with my lifestyle

She does! You gave mummy issues, a lactation fetish. Sort things out l, don't oppress your own child and fu** him/her up.

Scumbag. I once thought he's nothing but a manipulator and a thief... But he's also a human trafficker and a rapists. May he rot!

Nairaland association of Redpillers would come here to defend this lowlife because they think the West is like Nigeria where people are detained without cause. There's been an investigation, a thorough investigation. This isn't the matrix, so don't drop that bs. If he's guilty, he'll do the time.

Imagine if this were a feminist. They would be mastubating all over this news.

May God deliver women from Redpillers.

edunaragold:
Seriously the way this world is moving to fast ba,makes me wonder alot when i startoosmoking my weed.
So i called a young beautiful lady number, and tried checking up on her for two days,on the 3rd day when i called to check up on her,
Suddenly she said send me card na,am like its been 3days we meet,i wan start to dey boy card ,what happen to the days when it took even months to kiss my child hood crush,when we were younger.I mean we go into genuine fallin inlove and admireration.

Why aren't yahoo boys, kidnappers, ritualists, and so on, patient as their fathers?

Everyone is greedy. The most women do is beg, which is wrong but at least they don't go about beheading people and committing cyber fraud.

Silentgroper:
I ain't getting the drift ...

Redpillers say they aren't simps anymore, they call themselves alpha males... But they end up being bit*hes to men such as Andrew tate, near-worshipping him and it's pathetic.

Socratiz:
It is a fact that the way you kay your bed is how you lie on it.

Your marriage can work if you're ready to put the efforts.

I've been married for 35 years, (thrifty five) and still counting.

These days, young people think marriage is not supposed to last but that not true.

The family is the bedrock of the society

If each person in a marriage decides that their union would not break, then it will not.

In my culture, we kneel down to greet our elders. I want you to know I am doing so.

Thirty five years? Add three years and that's twice my age!

May God continue to bless you and you wife. These days, marriages don't last. No one is willing to put in the hard work.

May God almighty bless you.

wunmi590:
Amen to your prayers...

BTW: 5kids in this present Nigeria?


I'm happily married also.... 3years now and I'm enjoying my marriage with God divine mercy...

If given the opportunity to chose my wife again, I will chose her without blinking eyes....

Amen!

Hopefully, I'll japa before we get married. He's not a Nigerian.

I absolutely love this! I wish you all the best, may your home be happy and fruitful.

Married life isn't easy but you make it work. That's commendable

SPAMBOX7:
You just triggered my memory with this comment. I think I have seen this name somewhere. Stupid b!tch

$50 a month yahoo boy.

Fabulozz:
I know I sounded childish but cannot lie to you knacking without sucking the breast make me feel like a failure

Don't you have a mother with two functioning breasts?

Fabulozz:
I know I sounded childish but cannot lie to you knacking without sucking the breast make me feel like a failure

You want to finish the milk she produces for your child? Jesus Christ!

Go buy baby formula so she can bottle feed you too.


What some women deal with.