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IssaGist:
Nigerian woman who married her ex after 3 months of knowing him narrates why their marriage ended

A Nigerian lawyer who married her ex after a very short courtship has told of how her marriage ended up being a nightmare that she had to escape from.

Kylie Joy Terundu said she had known her husband for only 3 months before they decided to get married. But while in the marriage, she realized it was different from her expectations and she had to make a life-changing decision.

She eventually decided to leave the marriage even though the union had already produced daughters.

She said she never believed she would end up a single mother but she's glad she made the decision to divorce her husband and start all over.



Meawhile, below is a comment from an Instagram user who already analysed the problem of the poster's marriage from the little narration he read, and came up with a diagnosis.

See more here; https://gistmore.com/nigerian-woman-who-married-her-ex-after-3-months-of-knowing-him-narrates-why-their-marriage-ended

After reading all those Gibberish there.
i can't hold anything or understand what shes saying.
i always tell people marriage is not for everybody but is good to get married,you failed to tell us what happen.

marriage is not bed of rosses,shiiit happen in marriage,your understanding,maturity and ability to always forgive before its happens is the soul foundations of marriage.
come back and tell us when you are ready to be married

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.


Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

stop bickery and whining.
get a job and make money she will come back home,when u are confortable back and she want to come back file for divorce do all these and you will live long

Cyberknight:
1. No. of entries is 2.

2. Fill in the planned end date for both trips using a slash.

3. Yes, you can receive a one year multiple entry or visa.

Note: The Schengen multiple entry visa is supposed to be issued to frequent travelers for the same purpose (i.e. for instance business travellers who have to visit frequently for business purposes, etc). I don't think you can request one for both business and tourism, but I can't say for certain that you can't. When I requested one it was for frequent conference attendance in Europe (i.e. same purpose of travel).

Also note that Denmark is very strict with visas.

b) The gap between your two planned entries is kind of wide, and I doubt they will issue it to you since you are returning back home to Nigeria for 4 months, which is a period long enough to enable you to apply for another visa to France for tourism.

c) If you've not travelled to the Schengen zone frequently in the last 3 years, they will most likely issue you a single-entry.

d) As usual with a green passport holder, your documentary burden is high - you have to supply as much paperwork as possible - buy insurance for both trips, and make detailed travel reservations for the France trip as well. If you've not been to Denmark before, you will most likely get only a single entry.

Boss kodos you are doing a nice job here.
please kindly suggest a better options for tourist between germany and france.

i got some peeps in austra to visit during those period.
also i might decide in future to go for masters in europe,kindly suggest a better options especially the one that's not tedious or that will give issues.

regards.

GistMore5:
A family of seven completely wiped out this morning by generator fumes in Elele, Ikwerre local government of Rivers State.

This was said by one of their neighbors who was at the scene of the incident. Though their body has been evacuated by Elele Division police.

See more; http://gistmore.com/7-family-killed-by-generator-fumes-in-rivers-state-photo

this is so sad,totally unacceptable what a country

KingMicky3286:
Hello everyone,

I am the only black person working in my work place in Asia. My salary is bigger than that of the locals due to my experience and educational value.

The locals are always want to know how much I earn as salary.

They are friendly, we don’t have issues as everyone minds their business/work.

I am comfortable with the salary. Should I reveal my salary to them?

I DON'T KNOW WHY U SHOULD BE ASKING THIS QUESTIONS.
DON'T YOU EVER,I REPEAT EVER REVEAL YOUR SALARY TO AVOID DISASTERS,AV SAID MY OWN

tydi:
How can this government spend 16m dollars to purchase mosquito net, and still have such audacity to point fingers to whom is patriotic or not.. I blame duo heads of the legislature to not have fought hard by pushing a motion to impeach the this dullard when they had the chance.

what a shame and this one is a youth,social development scheme read about it and also learn who are those in charge of that scheme.
the youth are worst in this nation,they dont know anything.

Amyfid12:
Thank you!!! God bless

Congratulations again.

Amyfid12:
12: 9:36am
Good morning lovely people. Please my interview is tomorrow, the gurus in the house, kindly scrutinize my proposed interview transcript and corrections will be kindly taken. Thanks as I expect your feedbacks.

ME: Good morning Sir

VO: Good morning, can I have your passport and 1-20?

ME: Sure sir



ME: Thank you!!!!!!

Please, I need more reviews on my proposed transcript. Am I good to go?

Is very obvious you know what you are going there for.
you also prove to the interviewer you met the requirement simple

Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont

I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.

I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.

I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can'tanymore.

ok Quick one.
I won't blame him but that asides he's been human in his own way.
the truth is Women can easily forgive a cheating husband,but it takes only few men that will forgive a cheating wife,all you need to do is re unite your relationship with your maker,all hope is not lost and don't you dare think about dieing cos if am one of those kids i will erase you from My memory trust me kids of nowadays don't care,if you mess up they will surely get back at you.

The deed has been done,i always tell people your husband is your best friend in marriage,tell him anything before things go awry,obviously the only way you can divorced a woman was if she cheated,am not gonna passed judgement also i believe people should live with the consequences of their actions.

You will be fine.

adadike:
Does she have boy friend (s) let's start from there. May God help her to return home safely

Some of you are so empty what iF she has BF IS THAT A CRIME.
the lady in questions is responsible she has a job and a graduate unlike you that depends on guys.

Adediwura just know that people are praying for you,i don't know you but the story of a young lady while coming from work sadnned my heart.
God please show her favor wherever she may be,i want her found in good health.

edunwablog:
Prof. Benjamin Ozumba, Vice-Chancellor, University of Nigeria Nsukka (UNN), on Friday said that

https://www.akelicious.net/2019/05/unn-meets-its-24-hour-electricity-need.html

All the universities in Nigeria are just unfortunates.
apart from Covenant that generate their power,others are completely clueless without innovations and idea.

there is no synergy between our Academic institutions and the populace,of what use is the universities that cannot generates idea on how to make your countries a good place.

All they do is read old archived manuscript,no idea no innovations

ikorodureporta:
Source: https://www.herald.ng/ill-employ-graduates-as-brt-drivers-increase-their-salary-to-n100-000-sanwo-olu/

I UNDERSTAND may be he was caught in the euphoria of pleasing some peeps.
oga u cant employ graduate as a driver,what you can do is create many unit that graduate can head from monitoring unit to audit,compliance and products managing.

i will let this one pass,o hope he know what he's doing because we can't afford to have another Ambode who is so clueless and empty.
may 29 is here already.

darecool:
LRU.. Bus reform... The most professional season of lastma.. Prompt payments of salaries, prompt payment of pensions and arrears e.t.c. The guy was better than the two before him.

as I mentioned earlier this is a thread for adult
u re getting banned also

Halo22:
In as much as you have not married her officially and traditionally, just don't take it too far. Understand that ladies need sex more than men. Just go ahead with the marriage, but if u are still travelling back to Netherlands, go with her or else, cos as far am concerned, she would repeat the cheating and u can only be aware of the ones she feels like telling u.

if u dont have something sensible why can't u shut your mouth,this is a thread for matured folks not kids,highly irresponsible people here on nairaland these days,a lady that cannot be trusted in relationship why will I true her in marriage

SageMK:
SMH.

I don't know where this breed of men keep coming from.

To think your fiance, cheated on you twice with random modafúckers without a second thought but yet, here you are asking for directions on what to do?? Oh No.

Lol. I'll consider the fact that you are still in shock and just maybe that's why you can't decide on what to do.


Okay. Here's what you should do brother

1. Come back to Nigeria and call for a family meeting. Tell them you've forgive her and you'll like to marry her in the coming weeks.

2. Tell them their family house will be the venue of the grand reception you'll be holding for the wedding. And you need to fix their roof and a little renovation here and there.

3. Pay contractors to remove the roof and windows of their house. Then delete and block her contacts. Pack your bags and fly back to Netherlands.

wicked evil soul.why do all that pop.
guy u go badt gan oooo

AntiBrutus:
I don't find her cheating as annoying as the fact that she is senseless and careless.




Who does this?
Someone is a serious relationship?
Someone with a working brain? Nah, she dumb. When a woman is dumb, the vagina suffers.

waoo thousand clap for u.
very dumb and simply,uncle my advice for u run for your life.
sometimes love is not enough to wifed a woman

raumdeuter:
The fight was between Danys army and Cersei's army

In the episode where Missandei was beheaded both Dany and Cersei demanded the other surrender and no one gave in

If the fight was between Danys army and Cersei's army, who has the authority to surrender? Dany or the generals or Cersei and her Generals

Did Cersei or her hand order for the surrender to ring the bell? No

Who rung the bell of surrender? Jamie a fugitive from Kings Landing who was not even allowed into the gate.
Why did Jamie ring the bell? To save his sister and sweetheart as advised by his brother the treacherous hand

Is a bell ring(surrender) by a person not authorized to do so valid?



If Nigeria and America are in a war, Buhari Osinbajo didn't call for surrender but Shekau(a fugitive) or Atiku is now organizing a news conference to say Nigeria has surrendered. will that be considered a valid surrender?

And the civilians who died, That is wholly on Cersei who used them as a human shield and brought them into the gate hoping Dany will be weak and not want to hurt them thereby letting her get away as she has always done

A sensible analysis here,been reading all comment,but am forced to comment on your insightful analysis.
Danny was perceived to be weak that's why Lady olenna ask her if she's a dragon or a sheep.
Cersei has all the blame as for the innocent people that die,are they all stupid,don't they know that danny went to winterfell to defeat the Night King and her undead just to save them from extinction ?

Are they so dumb to realise that cersei is playing cheap propaganda and blackmailing Danny.
Danny was broken,all women can do what she did,that's why never trust them with too much power cos it will corrupt them absolutely.

I learnt 3 things from Episode 5.
1.Be wearly of a woman that was perceived to have lost everything
2.Never push a woman to the area that can allow her to switch her bad side on
3.Guys should know and understand when to show serious affection to a woman (that complete fowl called jon snow could have averted that massacre if he has show even a fake feeling to danny while she was down,the same stupid mistake he did during the meeting in KL declaring to cersei she has already bow to Danny,that guy is a complete cow.)

anyway petition has reached 500,000 to re cast the episode 5 and how ceisei died.don't put your hope High cos it won't happen.
and guys try to understand this is a masterpiece it is a FICTION not real life event

Naijaalive:
Outgoing Lagos State Governor, Akinwunmi Ambode, said on Monday that he had grown wiser politically, having spent four years in office.

Speaking with state house correspondents during what he referred to as a “thank you visit” to President Muhammadu Buhari for inaugurating some of projects in the state, Ambode said politicians learn everyday.

Asked to state what lesson he has learnt as a politician in Lagos and in a very unpredictable terrain as Nigeria, the governor said: “You see, every politician learns every day. The fact remains that I came in as a technocrat, so I use to call myself a techno-politician but I think I am wiser now. I am more of a politician than a technocrat.”

On what he wants to be remembered for after bowing out of office in two weeks, the governor said: “Well, in another 16 days or so we will be leaving office but what is important is that I was able to have that opportunity to be elected as governor of Lagos State and to touch humanity in a way that I deem it fit.

“We did our best and most importantly the projects we did were people friendly and people central. I just think a lot more people have enjoyed the benefits and dividends of democracy than we actually met it. And that gives me joy that we were able to touch lives.

“Wherever you find yourself just make positive difference to people and Nigerians, that is the whole essence of service. I’m grateful that I had that opportunity.”

https://www.everyvibes.com.ng/2019/05/gov-ambode-visit-pres-buhari-says-i-am-wiser-now.html

https://akinwunmiambode.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/New-York-Arrival-3.jpg

He will be remembered for Nothing.
the most accidental governor in history of Lagos and its environ.
he literally drag us 10 steps backwards all his policy terribly bad.
Lagos road is a death trap,constructs road for 3 years,no new policies except inflated project.
we will not miss you.

Frezhkid10:
..
I swear...I just stopped reading and jumped to the comment section.. can't come and start stressing my brain bcoz of one man..

Omo i stressed my bryain was Trying to aydd one or two together what a gibberish

Richdad50:


Dear God, I am appalled by the comments above me.

A
Richdad

Am always pained when i see the IRResponsible of those kids here,U cannot get a sensible peeps here any more,most people on Nairaland now re so sillly and pathetic,kids all of them that lack both critical reasonong and sense what a shame.

@Op please visit a specialist,Breast cancee ia not immune to female only,men also experienced such,wish u all the best

bosco9:
What proof do you have to show he his a fraudster ?

Did EFCC provide any valid proof to the public to show he his a fraudster?

If it was to be in a sane country, the EFCC should be making public apology for disgracing him public, that's if he doesn't sue their black @ss

Marley Issa goal

Is not my thing to talk to low quality people with retard mind

ebusnwaoma:
Khloe and Dee-One had a clash of opinion on Instagram, as they reacted to the arrest of Naira Marley in the comment section of a post by in which the comedian  hailed the EFCC over the arrest. Dee-One who hailed the EFCC over the arrest, had written;

Kuddos to @officialefcc on this one let's learn to lead by example. Nigeria no be USA... At least people go begin learn lesson from here.

However reacting in the comment section of the post, Khloe who stated that Naira Marley has a right to his opinion about fraud, further told Dee-One not to be biased. She wrote; 


https://unclesuru.com/2019/05/10/dont-be-bias-khloe-and-dee-one-clash-over-arrest-of-naira-marley/



L

And these ones will be the first to complain about government.
i alway say this,Nigeria is the most sillly and loads of hypocrites full the country.
you complain the government is not doing good,here they arrest one internet fraudster one low life and pathetic mofo that got fame because of usless show was complaining he has a right to support fraud,i mean what's going on in this country.
you are just a reflections of your leaders,average nigerian are bad,very bad people.

deltateam:
You didn't slap the useless doctor fah? Bunch of incompetent mofos cutting intestine for appendix.

Really boss thats a joke naa really

abujacomputertu:
Hope Nigerians can testify to this...

thats is no lie,simple just go to nearest market to u and see with ur eye,i bought a pepper 100 naira i was like what happen soo many well thats buhari policy for u

GavelSlam:
They are the elite based on the 'hustle' of their parents.

Question now is, what is their hustle?

What are their expectations?

If they have a car and home already, I'm assuming they want more.

All well and good, but is that a realistic expectation?

If you have all these, then your only rightful complaint should be issues relating to insecurity.

Wherever else you find yourself you would hardly have more than a car and home.

very wrong.
if you don't understand the cryptic words in those narrations am not surprised,average nigerian they lack critical and analytical reasoning.
the real reasons for this outburst was because of low value for life in nigeria,there are no qualities and no premium to good things of life.
those guys are balling but note there is no quality of life,all sector basterdardized,no roads,no electricity you literally pay for almost everything in nigeria yet you pay tax u even pay Vat on all consumable goods.
NiGERIA dont understand that most of their average middle class has Jepa out of the country which is a disaster looming cos at the end of the day what you will have is just the extremely Rich and very poor people in the society which will inturn explode one day and Rwanda will be mere joke.

inasmuch i don't like the slow pace of this present administrations,they are working to make sure there is even distribution of wealth that's for knowledgeable people to understand.

dplordx:
Ambode tried but at this point there is little he can do. No official takes him serious, afterall he's leaving in about a month. I wish he could end his tenure swinging and as vibrant as he started but it appeared my governor is still heart broken and wondering where he went wrong not to deserve a second term.

that man is the most irresponsible human i have ever seen in my entirely life.
this one is so pathetic both in decision making and leadership wise,he literally turn lagos state into Hell in his 4 regime.
so clueless and proud,lagos as is it now a dead zone,we can't even sleep no measures no control,carelessness and recklessness other of the day in lagos.
the refuse has piled up,all the roads now is filled with big hole,pothole,small hole that man is a complete disgrace.

autojosh:
The LRU is gaining fame for quick intervention in emergencies, disaster prevention preparedness, mitigation, recovery, and relief.


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Source:

https://autojosh.com/checkout-these-beautiful-photos-of-lru-officials-on-a-rescue-mission-on-third-mainland-bridge-photos/

The only sectors that works under Mr Darudapo

2mercy:
https://dailynigerian.com/ambode-would-have-surpassed-achievements-of-tinubu-fashola-if/amp/

he will surpassed nothing.
that guy is completely clueless and unfit to govern a state,are we better of in lagos on how fashola left it.
he can't manage Traffic,refuse,no pure achievement in health sectors,no tangible success in educations,all roads bad.
I beg stop kidding that guy is complete Darudapo,i cant wait to see his back

HisSexcellency:
Came back this morning from church only to discover that my cable subscription has expired, so i tuned to the only available channel NTA.


For over 20 years ministers come and go and no one thought it wise to rebrand the station, if it involves sacking some persons to get the station running let the needful be done. NTA is supposed to be a national brand and pride, but what we currently have today is nothing to write home about.

I couldn't spare 3 minutes to watch the station today because it was a torture to the eyes and sense of good taste.
Let the appropriate persons sit up and save the only national tv we have as at today.

Boss i understand your situations.
NTA is loaded with people from the north and as such those people we know they are not talented when its comes to innovations.
this is simply pathetic because to get employed there is not by merit,it is simply a family business.

Nigeria as a nation has long way to go