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JayPeeOham:
Observations:
Have you thought of the fact that quitting your present marriage will leave you with 4 kids who have no "Father"??


Besides, quitting a marriage is not as easy as quitting a relationship.


Plus, you make it seem like it's your husband's obligation to house another man's child when the "other man" is still very much alive and can come claim his Son anytime any day. It's his choice to make, however, you can influence his choice to your favor as a woman!

Suggestions/Advice:
>Don't quit your marriage as it will only make your children more vulnerable in the long run

>You need your husband to understand you and you can't achieve that by not talking to him. Massage his ego by using your woman charm, every man has a soft spot that can only be accessed by one woman who knows the way to that spot. And you're his wife here so you should know your husband's soft spot

>Send your child to a boarding school in the interim since you have the funds like you said


>Do not under estimate the power of prayers. Take it all to the Lord's feet by going on your knees. This is key!

Lastly talking about your son and stealing, no offense, but truth be told, there is no justification for someone being a criminal!....just like there's no excuse for failure. Look at it this way, will you see reasons with your husband raping another woman because you the wife starved him of sex....just saying though!

SoNature:
Vyvyanvyvy's issue explains why more and more women are seeking to be empowered to format the brains of many men who treat women unfairly in marriages.

The truth of the matter is that most of our mothers survived abusive marriages because women were not empowered.

By and large, most African men don't treat their wives fairly. That's why women are increasingly pushing for empowerment (feminism).

If men continue with this trend, Nigeria will get to a level where marriages become mere contracts as it is practiced elsewhere in the world.

To Vyvyanvyvy, get your son an apartment if you can afford it. Better still, your husband should support you to do that if you cannot afford it and the boy is old enough to live alone.

Dear men, don't emotionally say yes to a condition you cannot honor just because you wish to please the woman

taurusmena1:
Madam, you are in a very dicey situation and u need to apply wisdom, tolerance, patience and diplomacy.

1) Hiw did u come about your calculation of 70%? This is totally wrong as it puts you in a position of who has more rights in the house. Kindly relegate that thought as it will only complicate things

2) Your son is young and can still change for the better but u do not need to justify his actions like saying he's being starved which is why he is stealing.

3) Nigerian men are scared of taking in Male children from other marriages as it causes a whole lot in the family which I cannot explain now

4) Not talking to your husband will only make matters worse. Show him love and understanding.

5) If he eventually agrees to have your son in the house against his wish, he may end up not showing him the much needed love and will make your son despise him which will put u in a tight corner.

6) I will suggest you enrol your son in a boarding school so he can visit during holidays. That will be a win win situation for everyone at the moment.

Lastly do not listen to all those saying they cant tolerate such nonsense cos most of them want what you already have.

eduman365:
Would you allow your own son marry an "after 2" ... Independence kwa? Even those who don't have kids are praying for good husbands. Accepting to wife a single mother is a very tough decision for any man... Don't bring that independence talk here... She for stay single na.

martowskin1:
From the initial story, they were living in a small apartment, which can't contain all of them... So she asked her brother to take care of the boy for him why she and her husband and her little girl manage the little apartment.

Now things got better and they moved to a bigger apartment, with the issue the boy is having with her brother, she now wanted the boy to return since apartment is now big.

But the husband refuse base on the fact that the boy is now a baggage with different character he could harm their girls with.

But this woman didn't tell us the option the man gave her since he can't accept the son into his home.

A man who could accept one of her kids and base on the fact he agreed initially b4 condition changed won't reject the boy without giving other option to explore.

She just gave us a one sided story... All to gain pity and paint the man evil.

Is obvious she is getting all that, but people like us are standing for the husband even though he is not here to tell his own story

seanwilliam:
that doesn't answer the question now.. what technology from China affects the world??

seanwilliam:
mention technology from china that has effect on the world in physical, economical and ways of life

seanwilliam:
America vs China, who is more advanced in tech?? Like america, share china



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Modified. All of you supporting China, kindly mention 5 technology from china that has shaped/ changed the world

Aidejay:
Respect the Chinese
They have tiny dicks but mighty brains.

brownemmanuel43:
Nawa ohhh, Africa is highly blessed

FrLukas:
Lol.

This one just wants to give himself headache.

Maybe he thinks the constitution protects him from jazzzzzzzzz.

O fe rin hoho w'oja las las, aanu e o de se mi rara.

sparkwil:
Truth will always be truth no matter how many devils say otherwise

I'm proud to say my wife never saw mine before marriage

NLReposter:
this boy, where you for dey see data take dey download all these films?

everytime 700mb

teadrake:
More appointments coming in for SLS. Ganduje see your life, when you don't value what you have those who value it will eventually snatched it away from you.

sexylassie2:
This hyprocrite men cant handle their own poison, suddenly they are whinning and giving us a chill drink. we shall drink when we are thirsty.

The rate at which men here call women hoes and other derogative names have increased in recent times

you cant have an intelligent conversation with a guy without him calling you a hoe, a slut and other names all due to being an alfa male, redpilled and mgtow on nairaland

when the same abusive tactics is used against men here, they start whining and giving out free beers

some women are been deceived thinking that argueing with a nairaland "redpill" "alfa-males" and "mgtow" shows they are intelligent or make them accepted into the men kingdom, no it doesnt, they still see you as a hoe and evening newspaper.

people here including the moderators, do not understand the level of damage some of this derogative remark on women is doing psychologically on young boys, men and women alike, it makes men and young boys see women as just sex object, stupid creature,this type of mentality leads to violence and rape against women, for women, it reduces their self worth and esteem

look at our society, women are been killed, used for money ritual, beaten and rape all because men do not value and respect women

if a woman cheats or manipulates you, nothing stops you from moving on, instead of brutalizing her.

some of us here do not understand the level of impact all these insane messages here does to both men and women offline.

CallMeDrino:
Fvck!

Ganduje would be fvcked in 2023!

Witcher:
Marijuana is dangerous to mental health. The WHO list it as scheduled one above cocaine, methamphetamine, and alcohol. It's so dangerous that will make people to act like possessed but the devilish people who control the media are pushing it as medicinal blah blah.

Amhappy:
Reason i don't stay long or hardly go our villa is they drain you. Visiting my parents is a whole lot easier. Though all of them you go still work.