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shymexx:
But being a robot isn't a bad idea, is it?

At least you'll get to live till the end of time cos robots don't die.

benedictac:
good for u

Godmystrength:
of what use is the respect i get from a man cheating on me? it's a pity

benedictac:
that is ur own understanding and opinion

benedictac:
you are wrong. I was only trying to let her know the divorce is never an option. she should work harder for her marriage to work. there is one thing u have to know about men, they love to be cared for and pampered they are like children. a little of this will sweep the man off his feet. it takes only the grace of God for men not to cheat.

benedictac:
Read and understand dear. I said PROBABLY. I also said "it takes the grace of God for any man not to cheat" but with all these there is the probability of the potential cheat to respect his wife and hide it from her

benedictac:
you are wrong. I was only trying to let her know the divorce is never an option. she should work harder for her marriage to work. there is one thing u have to know about men, they love to be cared for and pampered they are like children. a little of this will sweep the man off his feet. it takes only the grace of God for men not to cheat.

as u can see, this man cheats and doesn't even respect his wife, he flaunts his cheating why is that so, becoz the other girl probably does what the wife doesn't. instead of complaining and nagging see how u can be more sweet to ur husband. when last did u send sweet text messages to him I.e "Honey are u coming home soon, I'm missing u" " I love u, can't live without u" and stuffs like that. How do u show ur appreciations. this is the secret of the other girl that makes the man go wild. You need more?

benedictac:
give us one

leb0gang:
no beeevan his family would have told me. We've been having a close communication with his mother and siblings. So I would have known.

benedictac:
so what kind of advice will u give so that many innocent women will not be infected with HIV?

Eneze1:
GBAM! could not have said it better, a lot of them want to eat their cake and have it HYPOCRITES

benedictac:
take it or leave it my husband has never cheated on me and so are many men out there.

back to op, before my wedding I made up my mind that my marriage must work and for that to happen I will have to use his bad characters as cream ( u can't see cream again after rubbing it) and to use his good characters as my clothing. my dear marriage is not bed of roses but remember u are what u make ur marriage .

Though it looks men are the head of the marriage, but in real sense God has handed the marriage in the hands of women that is y He said the wise woman builds her home why the foolish woman uses her hands to destroy hers. Also remember men hate nagging women the bible says it is better to live under a licking roof than to live with a nagging woman.

Pls @ Op stop questioning him, my father has more men than women so i know what i'm saying. this is Africa and not the Western world. pls save marriage and do whatever godly is possible. You do ur part as the good wife not unto him but unto God who judges all things and weighs all actions. I know it is not easy, but the grace of God is made available. Wish u the best.

kandiikane:
I agree that every woman should endeavour to have their own money but to imply housewives are liabilities is far fetched because if we want to be technical, the man is also a liability to the woman because he also depends on her to take care of him. Liability doesn't just come from spending money but there are many other ways in which one can become a liability. If the husband was in a wheelchair right now and cannot work, if I was to go with what you wrote then he is going to become the liability because he won't be able to do jack shyt, the housewife is not just sitting at home doing nothing. I understand where you are coming from though just confused on which women you are talking about because it's an insult to housewives because they aren't, especially those who had no choice.

I have written several times that women should not live life just to become housewives but saying that has never been because I thought they were liabities, that has never crossed my mind because it's not true. The family rely on that woman.

londoner:
OP, you are right, and there are many women that actually carry the family, even when the man is not down and out, or his business is not failing.

I think people are far too obsessed with what women 'should be doing', but not really informing men, on how to really be companions and partners in struggle for their wives etc.

Its usually the man that leaves when the chips are down, or rather leaves his "ride or die" woman when he finally gets to his "destination".

How many mn, simply replace a wife tat seems barren?

How many betray that dedicated wife, once a younger model shows them attention?

How many in the village are found in the farm alongside their wives children rather than drinking palm wine?

The African women has long carried the burdens of hardship alongside her husband even with the baby strapped to her back.

I think it is rather the men that need talking to, on how to be more than just a person that helps pay the bills.

To be a "ride or die man" for their wives and households.

It is usually the man and not the woman that just quits the home when things get tough, many do it multiple times. That includes to the very type of woman you describe.


I'm getting tires of this "women do and be yet more", while the same is not said to the men.

Any person, man or women should be an asset to themselves, before even thinking about setting up a home with someone anyway.

Every human being wants a partner that is there through thick and thin, sickness and heath, it's not just the need of a man, but women too.

Daresh:
I don't know about you, but I have been hustling since. All my friends are hustlers. My own is, if he dies, how can I take care of my children myself? I use that mindset when hustling and in planning family size.

Godmystrength:

breadplanets:
Hehehehe.....

sueplumz:
She's 24 and we have a good relationship that's why I want to believe that she doesn't know what she wants. I'm treading softly so as not to drive her far.

edwife:
As for me 3 months is not enough but if both are bent on making it work and give your best shot then its can be applicable.

The girl still in school,i think this is her final year.

DukeNija:
Some people get mind sha. How can you just bring any babe to your house, moreso a warri babe. Hmmnnn

edwife:
Nawa o,and the one that got me upset recently was my friend's niece who got married to a guy she met during christmas,she took in for him after only 3 months of courtship.Everything regarding the marriage was done within 6 months,and she has 3 kids now in a space of 2 and half years.The girl looks 10 years older and seriously regretting and complaining to anyone who cares to listen.