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pickabeau1:
I have not said anything yet

Ilovenigeria:
Thank you very much. I hate it when people say stuffs like "opportunity comes but once" or "by now you would have been married to this man with 2 kids". I stopped going to my aunt's house because anytime I visited she must tell a story of how my suitor bought land, house or car for the wife or how they travelled abroad mstewww.

edwife:
And this is what i see most during christmas back home.A guy living abroad or lagos will just see a damsel in december,next thing he wants to do introduction before leaving for his base.

How will the girl/guy show their true colors when you live separately and only communicate over the phone.

It is very sad.....the way marriage has been mishandled.

amakah61:
Hello house, pls I want to know if its possible get married and live happily without courtship ?. Ok here's d story, I have a bf of two yrs who is not yet ready for marriage(he told me so). Resently, a man is asking for my hand in marriage though he knows that I have a bf. Am still wondering how we will live in the same house if I eventually accept his proposal when I dnt even know his character. With the kind of stories I've read here, am so scared.

pickabeau1:
So a guy who is into drugs and has dipped into your pool wants to date and marry your sister

Is that the summary of it


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Ilovenigeria:
Thank you very much bellong, @giving me time means that time we get to know each other. For instance someone visited your parents on 23 December and wants to do introduction on 27th then traditional marriage on 6th January, all that is needed is for you to say yes.

Ilovenigeria:
Edwife, why is it that some men don't like courtship? When ever they set to marry a lady it's either they marry that lady immediately or they marry someone else next minute. I have had like three suitors that married someone else because they felt that I was unserious because I asked for time. Now my people are blaming me after seeing my last suitor in the church with his pregnant wife. They accused me of being too choosy.

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oweniwe:
beeevan.....!!...

Its not just a laptop.

Its belongs to a friend.... Lotta important docs inside.

Women eh..... See hypocrisy. If the thief were a guy, i know what they will be saying..... But cos na gal.... Make i leave am.

The world has turned upside down

breadplanets:
Thanks mama boys. Noted.

Godmystrength:
I haven't posted in a while because so many things were unfolded and i am yet to come to terms with that . The only update i can give for now is that the lady is leaving by month end. In fact, right now she is not in my house. She is with her sister and i am only waiting for month end so i can just pay her october salary and (depending on how i feel at that time),the money hubby is owing her...

To all those who asked after me, i am fine . Thanks for the love.... In due time, i might let you all in the full details

pickabeau1:
I agree..... However she has to know that a good woman builds first with her mouth and her hands next

If he is wrecked will she be happy



Aside....first time I've heard u say end time wife.

pickabeau1:
I agree he is trying....

Just that his wife has no respect for him n moreover is using her mouths to pull him down rather than edify him

pickabeau1:
Why do u think its not mine..lol

Don't u think sustained challenges can break a 'sensible' woman

breadplanets:
Pls how does one deal with a fiance that does not like talking about issues that comes up every now and then. For example i do or say something to annoy him after i apologise and i want to explain why so n so happened he will say *that one has gone*. And i feel like talking about it he would say i like over stressing issues. Like this morning i was annoyed with him n when he tried to explain himself i told him that one has gone, just to see his reaction and he was just too happy to let it go like that. Abeg wetin i fit do o. Cos i feel like any issue we dont tackle properly now might crop up in future by then it might cause more damage. Please helpppp!!

pickabeau1:
A man without money or with financial challenges will always be disrespected by his wife

Sorry


You are the man

Pray without her and be praying for her
Focus on your hustle

Cece23:
If my husband of 5 years still patronize prostitutes with all his holier dn thou attitude.To me all men cheat.my opinion though

alexis007:
idiotic op...you dropped an overdose of love-portion in2 d pot the last time you cooked his food....that's why....and you ain't see nothing...he's gonna strip you unclad in public one of these days and have s.ex with you....

Meriyke:
Every other person in my family is in support of the union except my eldest sister who's kicking against it with the opinion that I should wait till I graduate

danjumakolo:
I was thinking the question to be pondered on should be what type of job is safe and healthy for the married women?

EziAsh:
Sometimes i wonder what people want women to do.They work you complain ,they stay at home you complain.So what do people expect from women.So after all the years they put in school now they are expected to just let all that go and sit home and take care of kids and husband.Then after that you will come to Nairaland and bash women. The problem in all this is when people get married everybody expect the woman to carry everybody in the family and i don't think it is right,they man is just expect to go to work and more or less that is all his responsibility.Women on the other hand will have to work,take care of children,husband,be the cook ,the cleaner, driver,teacher,sex partner,doctor, nurse (they are the ones who stay up when the kids are sick,where is dad,sleeping )you can name the rest.At the end of all this you have women who are burn out because they carry the load of the entire house.Excuse me for saying this a husband does not have the right to tell the wife leave your job and stay at home.Marriage is a partnership and for it to work everybody in that partnership must learn to be partners ,the husband has to know that it is not only the wife who can helps and take care of the children, doing their home work,she is not the only one who has to go for school appointment,or take the child to hospital.If the wife is not there to cook the husband should.The reality is that woman have always multitask and i do not think they do it because they so love it although most often African women will just go on and on while pretending to be happy hoping that they get the gratification from their kids really when they grow old and have their own life's then what. Family is great but you can never derive all your happiness from children by the way why do we expect that women should get all their happiness from the family while the men have a range of things that makes them happy.People need to get over this. Women should have a life out side their husband and kids and not feel guilty about it or people guilt them about it.

bukatyne:
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And please don't add a man was cheating and after 20yrs repented. It is still a sob story