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crackhaus:
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Are you jealous?

Putin and Xi Jumping must be laughing their asses of at these ridiculous elbow bumps going on. See old men fooling themselves

This guy refused to pay rent because he was building his own house already or already had plans to do so. The landlord is the aggrieved party here, the guy was living rent-free while planing to build his own house

Pataricatering:
you sound like an idiot . You were hot and ready to believe the op without question even when he wasn't in the woman's head . How could he be do certain it wasn't cos of altruistic reasons she asked her husband to come home ? But hatred of women and the desperate need you lot have to criticise women whether it makes sense or not will not let you use your head.

No wonder your husband avoids his home like the plague

SocialJustice:
Countries are discussing zero net carbon by 2050, this is the rubbish citizens of a crude country have on their mind. Mumu no go kill blackman.

Hitler should have won the war and kept us permanently in farms, that's the only thing the black race is useful for.

Are you saying those countries are only discussing zero net carbon and nothing else or did your brain stop booting at 27%?

MummyD2020:
I just read ur comment. Go call ur miserable mum ugly. Idiot that cant disagree like a normal humanbeing. Always fast to insult people they have not met before. Go learn the etiquette of countering arguments. A normal humanbeing can never always agree with u. U know why? They have brain to think also. They have their own experiences. They read and meet people which widens their scope of knowledge. LEARN TO COUNTER ARGUMENTS WITH FACTS. Dont rub ur dysfunctional life here. Thunder fire u there. Anumanu

Thank God I'm not your husband. How can a man be unfortunate to marry an ugly nag? Tufiakwa

30naira:
You can not use research done in the US to judge a situation in Nigeria. Our societies are miles apart in every indices.
I took time to read through every single one of those. Those data do not hold true in our society. I work in a hospital in Nigeria. Men as every bit as likely to seek health care as women. Women are not paid less than men in Nigeria. Men discuss their problems, they just don't nag about it. There's a difference.
Unless you have data from research done in Nigeria, your entire premise is void

Na you fucc up wey you dey quote person wey go lift US studies dey extrapolate am to Nigeria. Small time she will tell you the average annual income per capita in Nigeria is $44k. You better save your breath before she goes to copy and paste a retort from American blogs for you

MummyD2020:
U will just be acting like all women manipulate their kids. So all men are hardworking in the home abi? U want to tell me that there are no irresponsible men that want to reap where they did not sow. I try to always strike a balance in my comments here. There is no perfect home. Make u dey calm down. I no get power to quarel

From the way you're rewording my comments I can tell you have a big nose and extra thick lips. Please, I beg you in the name of Whomever you serve, do not quote me again. I promise you won't fall sick

Shalom

MummyD2020:
Abi o. Hard working and always crying of neglect gender

Ma, please, don't quote me again. I don't like ugly women giving me attention. it's a turn off

MummyD2020:
Kids will always know the parents that were there for them. If both suffered for them, why will they turn there backs on the parents? Although some parents are nothing to write home about

Lol. Expert manipulation from snake language gender. So, all men abandoned by their children weren't there for them? Lol.

The only advantage women have over their husbands is manipulation of the children. The children see what their mothers want the to see and most father's never realized this until it is too late

i926:
This is a public forum. To grow, be ready to get lashed, when you are outta line.

You are welcome.

You are just an arsehole. You could have gracefully conceded your ere too harsh on your initial post and kept it moving, but you get high talking down on people

murphyibiam15:
Is that the only thing you picked up? The woman didn't appreciate the money since it wasn't much and yet wanted to cut short the time he has to hustle, please try to understand very well

She cannot understand because she's argumentative. She's more concerned about being right than about arriving at consensus

cbrezy:
I'm really scared my dad is heading to 70's and my mum is the type that never contributed in our life financially but she's also ungrateful if my dad give her money and she's always complaining that my dad should complete our house in the village when she know that things are not going well for him, and my dad lose his first born son in 2018 from a strange health condition or attack and my dad was even scammed by spiritualist and even people who called their self Pastors and this has been hurting my dad but my mum keep pressuring him.

It is you, the children that can defend the poor man in his old age. Your mum will not rest until he gives up the ghost. That's when you children will be forming fake tears and "he was a good man". Honour him while he's still alive

hedonido:
That's why it's very painful when I see well to do or even very rich men who have been mumufied by their 'dependant' wife or girlfriend who herself is from a broke background.

The least a guy can do for himself when he is expected to bear all the financial pressure in the union (whether he's dealing with a wife, girlfriend, fling or olosho) is to assert and exert his utter masculine dominance, almost to a stupendous/dictatorial/uncompromising extent. There's no nice way to say this.

I would like this a thousand times if I could. I will not get married until I know I'm set for life and my wife must ask me before she even thinks of thinking. If I deserve no respect because of lack of money, every kobo I have must count towards my respect

Pataricatering:
Demanding your husband comes home after 8 pm is being ungrateful? Instead she should let him keep driving till 2 or 3 in the morning ?.even uber tries to limit the number of hours drivers drive just to reduce their stress- so a wife trying to reduce her husband's hours is being ungrateful ? Its better for your wife's not to talk in the house because any thing a woman utters seems to be either a challenge to your manhood or nagging - even if its for your own good .

This is nothing but sophistry and obfuscation that adds absolutely nothing of value to the thread.

You think any man wants to work at 1am or 2am? . Is it not common sense that of he hasn't reached his target he has to work more hours? You think Nigerian uber drivers just love waking up at 4am and getting home at 10pm? Smh

If this is the kind of logic you use in responding to your husband's arguments and assertions, no wonder he doesn't want to hear one more word from you. Some talk just makes one feel ill. smh

Fahdiga:
George Olajuwon Ogundamisi see your life. Dealing in drugs just to make illegal money to pepper your Ile Ife people. You will do your time in jail

How do you know he's not from Ogbomosho?

You really wanted to marry a Nigerian woman after just one month of meeting her? Amazing

You better go do Thanksgiving for the second chance you've been given to not derail your destiny. Secondly go and visit your parents with serious gifts; their prayers are truly effective in your life.

Werey see yansh he say the girl dey loving.

Another woman (33) said a guy once hired three bottles of Ace of Spades and one bottle of Veuve Clicquot.
But he didn’t tell her they were hired, so he fled when she opened one.
“He said he was going to the toilet and that was the last time I saw him. Luckily, the club manager was understanding and told me it wasn’t the first time such happened.
‘Since then, I don’t even look at people’s tables. I drink my Savanna and mind my own business,” she said.

Na 33 years old you just begin get sense, wey your mates done born finish dey look forward to grandchildren. Smh

A 29-year-old woman said: “They’re living a lie. Obviously I’m at groove to have a nice time and if a guy with expensive alcohol keeps winking at me, I’ll give them my attention. It doesn’t mean I’m a magosha (prostitute). I’m there to enjoy myself.”

My people, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, what is it please?

The northern guys have the tactics of this politics game on lock, ma correct carrot-and-stick be their approach

Base on bible justice, he should pay for seven times the value of that corn.

Don't judge a book by its cover. Baba even looks like he's coming from church, maybe the miracle funds wey pastor prophecy never enter and he gats hold body somehow. It is well with the stealer and the stealee

Ayt27:
Na oyinbo go finish this world

You better change

IAmSkinny:
It's a jungle out there.
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I'm glad the gentleman would end up not having a single wedding professional photo.

Lol. I bet he's not feeling bossy anymore

agbonkamen:
very annoying set of people. Cheap clients be ordering you around like they paid you reasonably.

They have the most number of demands and the most inconsiderate demands

IAmSkinny:
With inspiration from this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6790534/not-deny-photographer-food-wedding/1#106536714
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Here's one of my many experiences:
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Once upon a Saturday morning, woke up from bed and completed all the normal early morning rituals. I had nothing planned to do that day, so I swore on my thumb to sleep all day. After all, it was a holiday and I was visiting my familia.
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Just when I was about to start my all-day sleeping routine, I got a ring from a photographer paddy.He wanted me to shoot a wedding-the couple were having serious photography problem. Hmmmm, last minute arrangements? A huge red flag.

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I was reluctant at first and didn't want to move but colleague kept on ringing my phone so I decided to cancel my planned all-day sleeping tournament.

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Packed my gears and hit my other guy (light assistant). Got to the venue, met the groom and discussed my rates. I asked for an 80% up-front payment but groom brought up some donkey and Shreck story spiced with promises of "you would get your pay, as soon as we round up.Don't worry"-another red flag.
At this moment, I wanted to just leave and go back home but my village people persuaded me to remain and do the job. Brothers and sisters, my village people are very powerful.

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Wedding was supposed to start by 10AM but by 2PM, the officiating priest was no were to be found. Summary: Priest came around by 3:20PM and I and my assistant flew into action promptly.

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Now at the reception, it was past way, way past lunch time (past 5pm by now) and I and my assistant had been working/waiting since 8am.

I was hungry, my assistant was as hungry as I was. But I had to be careful not to miss any important moment of the event. Sadly, we didn't come with food and the venue of the event was quite remote.

Leaving to go and source for food would be quite risky as every moment counts so I reached out to the caterers, when the couples went in for the routine outfit change. I was snubbed soundly.
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I wasn't having any of that so I asked my assistant to pack. My intentions was to abandon the call-of-the-wedding and attend to the calling in my stomach. I had enough money for transport to the next town.
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On my way out of venue, I met the groom's brother who apologized furiously after I told him why we were leaving. He took upon himself the task of ensuring we got something to pacify the war going on in our stomach.

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Brothers and sisters, after the wedding, groom said no money. Claimed that my rates were high and hence, he would not be able to pay.
I figured out he planned to settle me with the donations and gifts from his guest. I guess they didn't deliver as much as he expected.
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I wept like a baby inside and barked at him like a dog outside. Story for another day.
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Dear intending couples, your hired photographer and videographer are amongst the most important invited people to guest. Without those two, memories of the day would be forever lost. We are not some random hungry folks with the intention of devouring all your burnt jollof rice. We have enough money for food but our breaks have to be timed properly so we don't end up missing anything. The least you guys can do is to cooperate with us and give proper instructions to caterers to work with our volatile time.

Y'all need to stop disrespecting photographers for any reason.
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Dear photographers, if them no give you at least 80% advance, no go. Sidown for house. Always ensure you carry extra cash plus if you can bring your own food, please do and save yourself unnecessary drama

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And for the rude bride's maid, just know you'll not appear in any of the wedding photographs. I've ensured that your presence at that wedding stays in the past.


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Drogunov
Felimax
Belafonte

This is absolutely insane.

An unbreakable principle of mine is that of something requires my payment and I can't do it, it's the right thing to negotiate fairly and I good faith. How can you tell agree to a fee and then tell someone that the rate is too high after a gentleman's agreement? Some people deserve every bad thing they get.

I wonder why people have this idea that they are doing you a favour by paying for your services. If they could do it without paying they would, and if they can't fair pay shouldn't even be considered negotiable

IAmSkinny:
Men cheap clients are the most anti-photographer people on earth. .
I have my own story. Maybe I'll share when I have time

Would love to hear your story

Kobojunkie:
What stopped his father? How did you go about concluding that the OP's father's foolish choices are result of "spiritual" interference? The man chose to have 6 kids without putting enough aside to ensure some of those kids were taken care of through college - is that what a wise person does?

Op, please do not for even a second think to blame spirits. Failure is a part of life. You learn whatever lessons you are meant to so you sure against them later on. Those who leave it all to chance are fools. The worst kind of fools are those who look to blame others or anything fot their faults - like your uncle there - refusing to sit down and accept responsibility for their own actions and mistakes in life.

There are people finding it difficult to care for even one child

However, I agree failure is a part of life. We've been taught to see it as an irredeemable flaw in a person but it actually builds character if one never gives up and continues striving

[quote author= post=106522490]Him go enter jail.. them no pay am ?[/quote]They didn't actually

IAmSkinny:
myself being a photographer, I owe the dude a breakfast, lunch and dinner.
As for the couple, let me not say anything.

Friends, family and cheap clients are the worst group of people to provide services for. They have this annoying feeling of entitlement

No be today yansh dey back.

It will end in premium tears, then they too will become rabid feminists. We've seen this script play out a thousand times already. Na youth still dey shack dem. Hitting the wall at 30 is inevitable