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Noah9:
Please I'm not asking anyone for money here and why're you calling me a Simp?

Just because I needed my wife back home?? It's my wife I married legally I'm talking about here.

You're still not getting it. You need to stop begging your wife. Why you get coconut head like this?

Na dis your behaviour make your wife coochie no dey wet for you again. You no know say women hate nice guys wey dey always supplicate? I'm sure you were always begging her for sèx each time she denied you till it got to rapè level.

Bro, hear me again, stop begging your wife and move on. If she comes back, good; if she doesn't, good.

I don't understand why men think they are at the mercy of their wives when it comes to sexüal satisfaction. If your wife isn't making herself available for conjugal duties, find another woman - it really is that simple.

Now,with regard to your sin, you have erred and have asked for forgiveness and shown contrition. I would advise that you stop begging your wife and her family. Overbegging dey cause massive disrespect.

You done shït for church be say you done shít for church. Forgive yourself, go home and expect the worst (divorce). It is what it is.

If you don't marry her, you won't die. If you marry, her you could die. Will not explain

Moferere:
Terrible, I don't know what people gain from rape.
The accused should face the full wrath of the law. If possible, he should be brought to the village square for proper flogging.
Nansense

Proper flogging? His skin, from head to toe, should be peeled under the hot Borno sun, then he should be lashed till he passes out. If he wakes up, the lashing should continue...ad infinitum till he goes to meet his maker

Qatar2022:
Investigate your wife, she maybe cheating on you that's why she's reacting that way, i maybe wrong though but do proper investigations

She's definitely cheating, and her lover is a violent person. She has absorbed her lover's energy and is expressing it to her husband. The fact she had an abortion and didn't tell the husband clearly reveals her as a possessed adulteress

MrBrownJay1:
so for the sake of children, you'd rather be 2 miserable people married, teaching the wrong values to your children, insulting/abusing/hating on one another, while infecting your kids with your miserable self/actions?!?!?!



thus my point on some people masturbating,,, and your point on people bringing an extra concubine when wifey is away for 3 months (aka the solution to OP's story).



there is a huge difference between a wife who is away at length of time and a wife who refuses to copulate (aka different ball game entirely).... but hey, even if that was the case, wouldnt you want to know why wifey have such state of mind about something so pleasurable?! it could be that YOU are the problem, thus not trying to fix/understand the issue could be just as foolish as putting perfume on shiiit... aka a waste of time.

There's a lot of fantastical extrapolation and projection going on in your comment. Why do we have to insult each other? Because of sèx? There's no need for that, ad I assure you should insults come into play I'll be the first person to exit the marriage. Not all marriages with dead bedrooms devolve into barbarity.



People choose to masturbate. There is no law that demands masturbation as sexüal release should one's sexual partner be unavailable. Choosing to masturbate is worse than staying celibate (voluntary or not). It's like drinking Sniper because you're thirsty. If a man is unable to marry another wife that's his problem and if he likes he can masturbate, that's not my problem. I have only advised against masturbation as it is detrimental to general male health. It's the same as advising people not to smoke, they are at liberty to heed or not.



The only reason a woman would refuse to have sex with her husband is lack of sexual attraction. There are tons of married women having copious amounts of sex with men who aren't their husbands. Their husbands get all sorts of excuses that their lovers can't even fathom. You think the woman who hasn't fücked her husband in 3 months isn't having sex elsewhere? I laugh

MrBrownJay1:
no man in his right state of mind would want to have sex with a log of wood... so if your woman do not want to have sex with you ever again, then you might as well divorce her and find someone who DESIRE YOU SEXUALLY, instead of keeping this bitter old wife around hile bringing another one (aka so old wife can take her frustration on new wife and scatter the whole thing)



so you mean to say that all men should/could be in a polygamous union?!



whatever you do... at least you wont marry another wife, which is exactly my point!

a. For the sake of whatever children we might have, I won't divorce her unless she expressly requests it or I find her cheating

b. There is no option that is available to every human on earth, not even food. Life is what it is, you take what you can and make the best of what you have

c. If I have a wife who refuses to copulate I won't divorce her but I would seriously consider marrying another. If the logistics are to my advantage I certainly will, the feelings or opinions of the frigid wife notwithstanding

MrBrownJay1:
A) not all women/wives will accept polygamy.
B) not all men have the financial/physical/emotional means to cater for more than one wife/family.
C) you mean to say that, if your wife goes on a work assignement for a few months, the solution to konji is NOT masturbation but to marry another wife?!?!?!?

no wonder so many men die an early death!

a. Any wife that won't accept polygamy should make herself available for her husband when he approaches her for conjugal rights. I could as well say, not all husbands won't rapè their wives when they deny them sèx. If you're married, fulfil your duties or be replaced

b. Well, that's their problem, isn't it? Not everybody on earth ca afford a house or even food, yet life goes on.

c. I do not masturbate. If my wife were to be away for a few months, I will regularly arrange visits. Furthermore, my wife will not need to be away for stretches of time as I won't marry a woman who would need to be away for stretches of time unless she is hospitalised or dead

MrBrownJay1:
dont listen to what others are saying (me included) and instead focus on your own life.... as nobody else but "you" will be living it. there is nothing wrong with masturation so long as you dont abuse it and/or think it is better than actual sex. masturbation is just a substitution for sex, and not actual sex itself. now as you can see, many men are quick to come to this thread to say masturbation is wrong bla bla bla, but dont give you a valid solution to what to do if your spouse is away for a few weeks/months.



i guess its better to sexually abuse little boys for years (while pretending to be abstinent) , like all them h0rnygoats in robe that are preaching in church and fukcing little boys, abi?!?!?!



so cheating isnt wack abi?! cheating isnt detrimental to your partner/union, abi?!
masturbation is actually great for the mental health and... so long as a man doesnt abuse it, there is no physical repercussion to the act. stop bringing lies to NL.



sadly, many of us are not honest with our own self....and will come up with silly excuses, as seen on this thread.

Polygamy is a far better option than both masturbation and cheating

Moorish:
If it is right to have multiple women why do men hide to do it

Why do you shït in private? Why don't you eat in the middle of a worship service?

Stevyne:
Why he deh reduce?
Na all these things deh cause infidelity

Women basically don't need to campaign after election. After she done born finish wetin remain wey she wan collect for your hand and where you fit go? I believe polygamy solves this problem for men to a very large extent. Having side chicks isn't wise in the long run

Stevyne:
Aswear My G!!!
Married men just deh disturb us with sex related matters

You don't know this yet, but séx drastically reduces in marriage

anthonyuncle:
it doesn't make sense

To you

Richy4:

Try and learn to provide information that has a backup system while speaking in public buddy... to avoid situation like this...
It is 21st century... Avoid beer parlour gist

Dey dia na. Aren't there numerous threads on this same nairaland decrying masturbátion and its numerous after effects. Wetin [i]consign[/I] me? Na my preeq you dey take self-service? Preeq na per head, take your own do wetin you like with am.

Now, that you mention it, I need to visit a beer parlour this evening.

Anigreat:





Dick wasn't made for one woman, it was made and designed for multiple women. So you'll be a failure if you stick to one woman in the name of being married to her and she bears the title " wife"

If King Solomon with all his Wisdom in abundance that was a divine wisdom given to him from above couldn't settled with one woman even two women, then while should i an Olodo settle with one pusssy, no, i can't and it can't happen.

Opportunity presented itself to you to drill some pusssy and you fuckenly scared because you have a wife. You have disappointed your ancestors even our father King Solomon. Failure like you.

Not all foods are for your consumption. Learn discipline and self control

MrBrownJay1:
you are using your female brain to jusge a manly issue....you cant do that!

4 weeks without sex is indeed a lot and this man should have waank himself to sleep every night, to quench the konji demon that was taking possession of his body!

Wanking is wack and detrimental to both dïck and mental health

Richy4:
Can you provide a prove of that?

The only proof you need is to stop wanking for 2 months and notice the strength of your erections and even your testosterone levels

peacefuldude:
Speech from a lazy man.

You need to go cure your erectile dysfunction and stop spitting everywhere like an epileptic patient

Hathor5:
4 weeks without sex is that hard?

No be here we see say person rapè him own wife? Now, this is another one almost patronizing prostitutes.

anthonyuncle:
she should've left him officially before getting pregnant for another man

Maybe she still wants to be married, no?

muheeb01:
-Do you think the woman did the right thing? Give reason(s) for your answer.



-What do you think the man should do in this situation?


Give reason(s) for your answer.

I think she did the right thing.



The man can do whatever he likes within the limits of the law.



She has a life to live and a right to happiness and fulfilment

Choosing to stay or leave is going to be difficult, so choose the difficult you can live it. However, remember that depression can kill

you're a finished man

This is some gangsta shït. Sorry bro, this one pass my power

angelEmade:
What kind of oloriburuku bridesmaid is that??
And the groom no even send anybody, man just dey take am with fullness of joy...
This is a great height of disrespect to someone you love and someone you are getting married to.

See the way he raised his hands and grooving his hardly erect dick to the yansh of Jezebel like lalasticlala whenever he sees a snake thread.
I can bet you, that bridesmaid don chop him dick before. I pity the bride, that man will definitely try to enter the babe again!

Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are

"Show me your friend, and I'll tell you who you are". Will not explain.

AdeOri99:
This is what I mean by challenge, I just realised that people are taking it to mean problems, and I am surprised too. lol.

Me, I often encounter challenge, not necessarily problems because I can solve them, and they make me mature quickly, that is what I mean, it becomes a problem when she proves unnecessarily difficult.

Got it

Young men, a peaceful woman is the best woman you can ever hope to marry, unless you don't have much going for you in life and are looking for somewhere to expend your energies.

Women, by nature, are chaotic. That's why they love bad boys that can scratch their natural itch for chaos. Even the most peaceful woman has braintouch from time to time, how much more a confirmed werey, na you go taya

If you have a vision and you're doggedly pursuing your purpose, I promise you, the last thing you will looking for is a challenging woman. Don't let them finger your brain o

OP, I kind of appreciate where you're coming from, however, it would be wise to end any relationship where the man cannot bring a woman under his frame of authority(tame her).

Sometimes it happens naturally if both the man and woman have similar terms. This takes the woman without any or much effort from the man. Sometimes, all the man has to do is translate his worldview to the woman and if she understands and accepts it she can be tamed.

Most conflict arises from a clash in worldviews and ideologies. The problem is many men refuse to let go because if sèx or a sense of having a woman. If you need to talk too much before a woman listens or obeys, the relationship is not worth it, in no time you start sounding like a nag and resentment begins to creep in, before you know it the relationship go still end. It, therefore, goes without saying that you save time by accepting reality as quickly as possible.

A woman should not be a challenge to her man, she should be inspirational (she should energise her man to want to become a better version of himself for the sake of their relationship).

After facing the world's challenges and hustling to survive, you still an go meet challenge for house? You go just die for nothing. Your woman should be respite from the demands of the world, not another mountain you have to climb

ecomalchemist:
He did at the concluding part.

@tellyoutsonthis !

yeah just saw that. I done go jump

I enjoyed this story. Thanks for the laughs and God bless your hustle