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Acct2:
Thanks to All your comments, believe me I expected different advices from different angles. What matters is LOVE and RESPECT from both couples. Thanks

It will end in premium tears.

Graxie:
I love what I am reading from most men here, this is an eye opener for some foolish girls. You will open yourself for any man without condoms, after you will not even help yourself to take preventive pills, when you discover that you are pregnant, you will come online and meet the hypocrites that will tell you to keep the baby. Every day the same story, no plans, no future. The same religious fanatics that will preach against abortion are the same people that will condem you for being a single mom. For those still in the valley of decision, better read this thread and see Nigeria for what it is.

Your post lacks basis and direction. Religious fanatics, at least the ones on this forum, repeat abstinence from premarital sex on a daily basis. Daily basis, in case you have eye problems.

Religious fanatics telling you to not abort is consistent with their religious beliefs; same beliefs that already told you to not have sex. If these religious fanatics still advise their brothers not to marry single mothers, they are still right.

Do not blame religious fanatics, they aren’t the cause of your problems. Nobody asked you to go and have children for men that don’t value you or even to have terrible behaviors that make you insufferable.

Face your problem by yourself. Take responsibility for your decisions. Stop blaming onlookers

phenylalanine:
I won't advice you to leave him, but keep talking to him and also be open to him, tell him you could assist if he can come up with reasonable amount for the rent. For the main time that guy shldnt touch you and he should zipped up and work like a man.

In other words, he can only have sex when he has money, aka olosho tinz

Ladybeee, you don’t have to continue this relationship, and you certainly don’t have to rent him a better apartment. You obviously know what you want, and you’re simply conflicted because this dude is different from what you’re used to, even though he’s almost what you want.

However, let me put it to you that money is the leading cause of divorce worldwide. This is obviously not nothing, and like I said earlier, these feelings of infatuation will fade eventually. You will be left with the stark reality of the state of his finances. If you’re accustomed to a certain standard, please and please, save yourself and your boyfriend any future heartbreaks and move on now, while you still can, before you start having children.

Forget anybody trying to compel you with talk of his potential, not all potential is fulfilled o. Life is filled with broken dreams and buried visions. People marry and live their whole lives in face-me-I-face-you o. That love you claim to be feeling can easily turn to hatred. When you pay house rent for two years in a row, it won’t matter how neat or kind he is , you’ll probably feel like slapping him with the broom when he’s sweeping . Now is the time to japa.

TheRedpillguy:
Translation. He is beta. See how guys get rich redpilled?

I mean, any dude with an above average IQ should get redpilled by this topic immediately. If any man thinks it’s being good to a woman that makes her stay, they should have a big rethink.

No finance; no romance.

This is why you never put a woman above your goals. You don't ever do it.

I wish guys knew this simple, but powerful truth. Most would not be the broke, poverty-stricken pansies that they currently are.

ibkayee:
Lmao how is that a cop out? I’d already answered a similar question and resourcefully copied and pasted my answer

Na so

Only a foolish man will be spending to keep a woman whose expenses far exceed his income. Ladybeee, please, do your boyfriend a favour and break up with him. He’s obviously star struck and will hurt himself to keep this relationship with you.

Break up with and take him out of his misery. No good can come out of this liaison. Very soon, when the initial butterflies wear off, you’ll come to accept the fact that you settled and he’ll feel inadequate due to your demands of a more luxurious life than he can afford.

Please, pity him, and yourself, and leave.

[quote author=ibkayee post=87887704][/quote]Of course. A cop out after dropping your opinion.

Ariza:
If you can't rent house for him like he would do if reverse were to be the case , Aunty carry your bag and go!

You can't cook food in the passage but you can comfortably eat out making the guy spend more. Aunty you have eaten his accommodation money already nah.

As in

I’m just worried for a guy that stays in a one bedder spending generously. Maybe that’s why he still stays in that kinda apartment.

ibkayee:
This isn't a personal attack on the OP because I'm not privy to his personal life, but generally speaking, I wish this same level of outrage was expressed when it came to the incessant infidelities Nigerian wives are expected to endure. Lol can you imagine if males could conceive?

I feel bad for OP because I've read the details and there's a proximity that interacting with him on the forum brings that has forced allowed me to empathize with him as an individual. However, if it was a random headline somewhere I'd caught I'd probably laugh

What’s this nonsense? Do Nigerian women not cheat and have their husbands forgive them? Ask around and you’d be shocked to know how many Nigerian men have forgiven their cheating wives. Even on this forum, many have written epistles to that regard.

Passing off another person’s child as your spouse’s is totally incomparable to infidelity. They shouldn’t be mentioned in the same breath.

Tripitaka:
A man once told me "If I cheat and my wife finds out, she can go. If my wife cheats and I find out, she will go".

This powerful but disgraceful statement, puts in perspective, the unenviable position of an average Nigerian wife. Helpless and ridiculed.

There's nothing wrong with the bolded statement.

XhosaNostra:
I find it bizarre.

Life is bizarre

XhosaNostra:
What could she have possibly said to her mother?

The truth.

I find it a little inappropriate

Many Nigerian women coach their daughters on how to hook and manipulate men.

XhosaNostra:
Maybe he'll call her on her mom's number, but continue

I find it weird that the mom is so super involved & actually rang you up like you guys are married.

Experienced women know a pliable guy when they see one. Marry the maga and cuck him. It’s a very good strategy.

Wolgrace:
The switch of admiring your newly transfered boss is too quick but it means he captured your inward secret desire than your colleague. I think you admire older guy with charming qualities which your colleague is not a match.

Note: your colleague aint a boyfriend yet.

IS YOUR BOSS SINGLE OR MARRIED? Update us.

Women already know they’ll bleep a guy before he even approaches them. Talk less of a guy she desires who’s her boss and more handsome than her current boo. This one will gbensh the boss happily and without qualms. But such cases usually end in tears.

Danielomisco:
most people here e screaming leave her,once a cheat this and that now let me tell u what i pove abt this story,the fact she confessed to u in details n felt remorse it means she is willing to stop that kinda way.Other guys think theirs girls don't cheat cos they are silent lol abt it lol.

She confessed because she knows it makes her look contrite and remorseful. Doesn’t mean she really is

I was going to lambast you, but you need help not that.

First of all, let me start by saying that you must have a zero tolerance policy for bullsh*t.

Your babe wants to eat her cake and have it too.

You guys were having issues in your relationship because she had been in talks with another guy. And she agreed to break off the relationship because she had fully committed to taking his D.

What does this mean?

She had taken the decision to end your relationship, apparently, she feels the other guy is better than you. She traded up and dropped you like a hot potato.

So why is she back?

Well, the grass has proven to not be greener on the other side. Actually, your side is far greener than where she ported to because you offer stability.

That nigga has chopped her ponmo and left her stranded. Her eyes are now open. We don’t know what sort of lamba he gave her to consider you irritable and dispensable, but we know it worked. Now that she’s been dispensed with, you’re suddenly looking like Idris Elba.

My advice for you would be to not take her back. She has shown her hand. She doesn’t value you. Next time a smooth dude shows up, she won’t leave you, she’ll f*ck him on the side until she can extract concrete commitment from him. Don’t listen to her mum either; women are manipulative, especially elderly women. Don’t let them tag team you, confuse you and cuck you.

Verdict: BIN THE HOE. Block the skank everywhere.

Mekanus:
Covick 1-9 or COVID-19, which one did the doctor cure?

Try activating your sense of humor.

Married woman. I just can’t

Nairalandmonika:
The issue is to get the right dosage of chloroquine. If u take over dose u will definitely die.

I hear hydroxycholoroquine is a different drug from chloroquine

This is a tweet I came across. So, medical personnel may want to consider this treatment. Sean Hannity is an American talk show host and he interviewed a doctor who’s handled 350 cases of Covick 1-9.

Please, share.

Lalasticlala, this may save lives

Olosho wey marry, na holiday e go. Las las e must enter street

uniqueogo:
you are wicked for saying that
u don't deserve a baby

You don’t deserve to be alive, yet here you are. Breathing and even posting on nairaland. Isn’t God merciful?

newdawn2017:
awww! U re so sweet, u let me win. Ur wife will be so fortunate to be someone like u.

Lol. Thanks. . Though, I still dey find wife sha. In case you get who dey find husband

MrBrownJay1:
absolutely, but i wouldnt/couldnt blame that hungry person who does whatever they need/can to feed themselves (so long as it aint a crime or against the law)

Absolutely. However, they shouldn’t complain when the food provider attaches stringent standards or behaves like a psycho.

Beggars can’t be choosers

MrBrownJay1:
also, you cant expect someone to act right when they hungry/desperate and cant even afford 3 square meals a day.

Why not?

They’re no acting right because they are giving themselves higher value than they deserve. If a woman will marry just anyone who can feed them, they deserve whatever else comes with that package.

newdawn2017:
My dear, I can't lie to u, it is.

Lol. Alright, I accept ma. Hope you’re good?

ibkayee:
Lool

I swear I nearly shouted blood of Jesus

ibkayee:
I think people who make a conscious effort to keep their virginity and are able to do it are worth commending

As for the virgin hunters:

People aren’t one dimensional, being a virgin doesn’t automatically guarantee anything but not having first hand experience.

You can be a virgin and have a nasty attitude, dress ‘sexy’, etc and all those other attributes people who obsess over virgins think are mutually exclusive. You can also appear ‘modest’ and have multiple sexual partners lol

If you’re just looking for tighter vagina however and aren’t expecting her to come as a 50s housewife, you’re definitely the more realistic of the virgin hunters and are more likely to find what you’re looking for

Ibukun, who’s that vixen in your dp? I know that’s not you.

iyaaliya:
Maybe you haven't experienced these things. So all women fake these cravings. When you understand how hormones go haywire in a pregnant woman's body, you will understand. I hated the smell of my husband's perfume so much that I never wanted to see his shirts around. The smell was so horrible yet I use this same perfume.
I vomitted every day for the first 3months at exactly 9am..9am on the dot...can you imagine that. I eat and eat yet vomit everything the following morning and we won't be able to sleep cos I had eaten too much yet very hungry. At work, our office canteen knows she must have a blocked bottled water. I was eating block and ple would ask me how it doesn't shock my teeth. Driving all the way to white house yaba to go buy moinmoin that I would vomit at 9am or thereabouts. Hummmm. Not our fault. I missed those days badly now.
Those set of people you mentioned; it happens to them also and they send ple around them if they are nice enough like husbands. No be joke abeg.

There’s a world of difference between super sensitivity and requesting for shawarma at 2am.

ubunja:
some guys are taking this too far. Women are made to fvck not hate.

I taya my brother. But again, there will always be extremists