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Davash222:
Nigeria Doctors don discover the vaccine
Or those ones tested negative?

I think we need to educate ourselves more about this virus. I learnt our body is designed in a way to produce anti-bodies to fight viruses in our body. This explains why after a while, someone who has contacted the virus would recover.

PS: I am not in the medical field and could be wrong on some terms.

lexy2014:
U want to explore total lockdown but u leave d airports wide open for those who are returning from corona infested countries like UK to stroll in on a daily basis. Wheres d sense in that?

Airports are closed to international flights already.
Land borders are closed too.

2 states already initiated a lockdown (Niger and Kaduna)

A total Lockdown is a way go to for now.

prazil:
Pardon my English and long easy as am a confused brother.

My girl was complaining of headache and after treating malaria and typhoid it persisted so on her own she did PT test and called yesterday that she think she's pregnant n I ask she go to a clinic and do a confirmatory test which she did and it came out positive.

Our Background
I am 30 and she is 27. We have been dating for four years now. She combines her education with a job that earns her 85k. She is currently in her first semester HND two.
I am running my masters and hustles where I earn about 120k per month.
Am the only child of my parent where as she is the first child of her parent with 2 other sibling.
Am from the middle belt while she is from the east. We live in the far north where the cost of living is a little lower compared to other region.

The problem
I we spoke at length today and she feels she can't keep the pregnancy.
She among some of her reasons are
Her education as she would be rounding up this year.
Her parent would be disappointed and she wouldn't want them to be disappointed.
She said is not sure she can face the shame that would come with the pregnancy.


I sincerely want her to keep the pregnancy as age is not really on our side and we would be taking a life We can't create. But I also understand I can't force her.
May I mention that her parent insisted she finished education before giving her hand out in marriage so the long dating period.

Am sincerely worried and scared for her. As she is seriously considering terminating the pregnancy and I want otherwise but she thinks am just been selfish as am not putting her into consideration.

Sincerely I don't see how am been selfish. We agreed we would be meeting Tomorrow to talk about it.

Please your advice would be well appreciated as I would be happy if she can keep it or at least point out reason why I should support her in terminating the pregnancy.
Thanks in advance

Let her terminate it. You are just still 30.

MacBook Type C Complete charger (Adaptor + Cord) for sale.
Location: Lagos
Selling Price: NGN14,000

ReneeNuttall:
We will get there some day

Lets be clear on what we are getting to o

Technology wise, I hope do too.

angelfallz:
You guys keep on saying there are remote companies that pay such high amount. Name such companies now, haba!!

We can't name them unless there's an opening. The fear of Nigerians sending mails to beg for jobs which could be traced back to you is the cause

I am not taking that risk again

WalkerMichael:
He's not so smart. Did a POS transaction. He went to lodge with a babe sef. Werey leleyi o

People they follow the guy.. He used a POS... Am convinced this guy would be an illiterate.

Dear OP,

Sorry you had to go through all these stress, I think the best thing is to just quit. Yes, I mean call for a divorce. You are still a young woman full of potentials and someone out there would die to spend minutes with you as your better half.

I would have suggested you stay strong and push to make things right but in this instance, you have nothing holding you back.

Your husband doesn't deserve your love.

gragragra:
Are you a developer or developer wanna be?

The Job description says

Front End Dev (Job title)
React/React Native (Framework)
Role: (Mobile Development)
5-8yrs (Building mobile apps secure coding experience, Mobile Dev, Knowledge of financial systems, Java Script ES6, JQuery, HTML, CSS)


Or are you saying before React/React Native, people didn't build Mobile Applications

Didn't you just edit your job post.

gragragra:
Shebi if you have comprehension issues you'd ask for clarity. The JD says 5-8years frontend experience & not 5-8years React/React Native experience.

Even when the core technologies & languages required were mentioned you still didn't comprehend.

Na wa

I take worthy blames but not this.

You job description says
Front End Dev (Job Title)
React/React Native (Preferred Skills)
5-8yrs (Preferred years of experience using the aforementioned skills)

khiaa:
If you were a one minute man and she reached her climax in 4 minutes the end results would still be the same.

When you are pleasing her orally and she starts to moan, move away to another area(breasts, thighs, neck, ears) to prevent the orgasm. You can enter her and get yours at this time and finish her afterwards. I hope this helps.

Med o.. The finisher..

This is so hilarious

For A library that was open sourced 2013, you are requesting a 5-8years experience.

People with such experience that I know are pros and would only consider 50/60$ per hour.

Can you pay that??

No relationship again jawe but no tell yet. You have one last job to do tonight. Make it count.

Omnivalent:
can a university graduate marry a jss 3 student?
please, help a brother.

If she's above 18, yes of course. Otherwise, we will believe the graduate is tricking her to marry him to satisfy his heart desires because she's believed to be a minor and can't decide for herself( says the law )

Before I tell you what I will do, I pray it never gets to pregnancy before I know she is screwing

She won't be a Nigerian first of all so abortion won't be illegal. I will opt for an abortion. She's a minor and I can decide for her so I have all rights to do that.

To me abortion is not a sin if done at the earliest stage (1 - 3) months being pregnant.

Ifyjos:
Ok no problem if he have no money for he school fee is not a problem, she will stay at home and wait until money come

You are a deranged person. You need help.

Some day, your daughter will have to pay her school fees again, your so called guy will have no money and your sister won't be able to help. Only then you will realise you single handedly destroyed your own life.

You took someone's joy and not just someone, your sister's. What kind of person are you?? Wicked is not okay to qualify you. All for some guy that possibly has no plan for you. Even though he doesn't cheat/beat you, it's a matter of time as he will soon get frustrated and depressed.

It's okay your sister doesn't like your guy. It's not like she's bad. It's what the society has made us realise and no lies, being with a man that can't provide for his own daughter is a waste of time.

Your sister will be back to okay very soon but I doubt if you will ever be okay. You will live everyday regretting how you met that demon you call boyfriend/baby daddy.

Bad girl.

Shibaraba:
Lazy corpers
Seriously

During my days na dem dey fear make we no rob them sef. When you if see corpers with confirm dreadlocks Wey eye dey red you go calm

Nonsense. I am a corp member too and last month I was robbed of my laptop, phone and wristwatch worth over 1million. You won't know what it feels like untill you experience it yourself.

If you don't feel sorry for the lose of the op, there was no need for you to comment in the first place.

Dreadlocks person

The abroad guy is a built man. On the other hand, you are a guy with a promising future. She's faced with the fact that she has a man that would give her anything she wants but her happiness and future is at stake to some extent while you are a man yet to be established (from her view) but her happiness and future is 100% with you in her life.

Should you do anything extra like getting a car to impress her?? Nopes, don't even dare. Let her love you for who you are.

Is she going to leave you?? Well, there's a 50% chance she will leave you for the other guy and her excuse will be that she doesn't want to hurt him after all the years.

What do I think you should do?? Be yourself, the best version of yourself. Love her genuinely. Don't go extra to win her over(buying her things to impress her). And also, prepare for a hard landing cause your plane could come crashing if the guy returns anytime soon but in the case your love grows with your girl and the said man is not back to take her for himself, do the needful. Propose marriage to her. Love comes at some cost.

Last year by doing what I love the most, programming. Fun fact I didn't even realise I made up to that until I stopped to review how people around me think of me. A lot changed.

Hard work still pays.

duduade:
I think you should also try to dress up and go out with him on such occasions

Not the best approach but this will solve your problem

You should be happy because they will be no one to say "I left you for a better package".

Having a girl at 35 aint bad. Get yourself in order first because even if you get a girl tomorrow, it is just a matter of days before she starts complaining about your joblessness.

The money goes into checking.. He could have blocked it.

Anyways, I think this guy story doesnt add up. They must have had something against him to put him away. They got another 100k cash shows that they got upper hand in the bargain... That dude aint clean.

He aint dating no girl believe that but also, that nigg*h aint gonna be loyal anytime soon.

He is passing time.

Red flag. Don't even try to settle. You clearly don't love this man. He is not your future partner.

Don't fall victim. Go your separate ways.

In need of 16gb ram. Incase you have one up for sell, quote me.

Thanks.

Ekene161829:
I did something I really regret . Me and my wife have an amazing marriage 2 years of marriage and we are blessed with a 7 months old baby girl. She is 28 and I almost 33. Last saturday I got invited to go out by some of my work friends , I got home late 2am, so madam wasn't happy. She was yelling me ,throwing hands and screaming at me . I ignored her and left the room to the living room but she followed me and I asked her to leave me alone but she kept going which made me angry, I took the back of my hand and gave her a slap on the mouth. She cried out and held her face and started crying and her lips was bleeding. I didnt intentionally hurt her , I just wanted to calm her down since ignoring her was not working. I said sorry , and I was literally on my knees begging her . I tried to hold her but she refused. The rest of the night was me repeating apology or i didnt mean to hurt you. She ignored me . She went into our room and locked the door , she was in there for a long time and the next morning , her mother and older brother was at the house and she came out of the room with her and our baby stuff and she said she was leaving me for good. I told her how sorry I was but her mother told me to get out of their faces and they left the house. I feel so ashamed and I've never done anything like this before and I never thought I would. I dont want to loose my wife and baby. I need both of them back . Should I attempt to contact her? What do I do?

Lets start with the fact that she made an issue out of it(You returning home 2AM). That means you have a wife that cares about you. Consider yourself a lucky man.

Also, we cant ignore the pesturing part of your wife but this is quite justifiable. Nevertheless, as a man you should never hit a woman unless it is a friendly one.

Your wife calling on her relatives to her rescue even though you claim this is the first time there would be a case of you hitting her is also justifiable. Although, a more deeply minded person would have chose to keep a third party out of her family affairs but still, we can not blame her as she felt hurt and needed someone to confide in.

Should you contact her? Yes, you should. She is still your wife and you need her in your life. If she does not want to talk to you, try get in touch with her father and explain things to him. He will calm her and in no time everything will be fine. After which, give your woman one hell of a treat.

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

The truth you don't know can never kill you.

Let your friend forgive herself first and then keep the story to herself.

rawfact:
Kindheartedd, this is going to be very long and deep so don't just scan through. My guess is that you are married to a Yoruba man. I can't tell the tribe you are from. But whether you are also Yoruba or not, you need to know who a Yoruba husband is, whether he is in church or not. Because church or whatever will never take his culture away from him. "Husband" according to Yoruba Culture is know as Ade Ori (Crown) of the Woman, and not just Head as declared in the bible. You can't afford to raise your voice back at him or those other nonsense I read from your previous post. He must have tolerated all that while waiting for you to outgrow them. Because such is for Boyfriend/Girlfriend Stuff - never a Yoruba Marriage. You will have to learn on how to humbly follow his lead. After all, you trusted his leadership before saying yes to his marriage proposal.

With that said as an introduction, you will permit me to abuse you where necessary despite the fact that you seem to hate such. Meanwhile, learn that abuse from a loved one that is above one (parents, elders, husband, uncle and co) is for one's good and never an evil nor intended as such. This is Africa for goodness sake and not some white man's land, where the wife throws out the husband out of his house while his kids calls him by his first name or even shuts him up. Even some good friends can abuse someone to stop one from making a wrong decision. No wonder your bible recorded that the sting of a friend is better than the kiss of an enemy. Anyway, I took out time to read many comments on your thread and I really commend the likes of Newguyhere, Triniti, TheRedpillguy, PrinceMajestic, tunjilana and a few others who were not timid to serve you raw facts. The rest commenters literally boosted your pride.

If you are Yoruba, certainly you will understand those that are mocked as "Iyawo Asiko" (modern wife). I am going to give you an excerpt of your words and remark each, not for you because I dare say that you will resent each remark but it is particularly for the single ladies you could dare advise.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

You bear "Kindheartedd" as moniker but this plan of yours alone reveals the opposite. Firstly, you want to abscond from a husband (not a boyfriend). Meaning of that culturally is running or deserting the one that paid dowry over your head and received you into his lineage (not just family), not as a girlfriend or baby mama but as the glorified (wife). Aunty, I hail you! Secondly, you used the expression "my kids". Very laughable. Culturally, those children (particularly the male) belongs to your husband's lineage which you are now part of if you are genuinely in it. Therefore, those kids belong wholly to your husband first, before your very self who happened to carry his sperm (child) for 9 months before delivery. You claim to be a christian but you certainly have no idea of the spirituality of marriage nor acknowledge fatherhood or headship of your husband over your household. Who will fix that rot in your mind? Certainly not God, aunty but your very self if you would. Finally on that, you plan to have the best not minding if it will destroy lives (your husband and the kids), changing phone number and living a new life. Some commenters that chose to be honest with you labelled the act selfish. I particularly recommend you get natural therapy for mental health.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

Listen, followers command the leadership they get. Whether family, company, state, or nation. Mere humility from you will change this same statement of yours to "He is loving, caring, wonderful though difficult to understand at times". Also, know that many Nigerian husbands really get cocky when denied sex by their wives. Too much testosterone in the body as some puts it. Some manage it well while some really get cocky and wouldn't tell the woman. But give your man good sex regularly and stay humble and watch that statement change. Never forget this: Yoruba husbands get very cocky on arrogant wives.


He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.
Your "Ade Ori" is owing you money? As in your husband? Who owns you and your money? Or are you building another family outside the one he is heading? Sister, you are not ready for Yoruba marriage yet o. Listen, if your husband that is carrying the weight of the house as the head, whether you are supporting or not, borrows money from you, particularly for that household, in your mind, settle it that you contributed and not that you borrowed him. Even if he ended up using the money on himself. Lots of girlfriends looking forward to a guy having serious relationship with them or even marrying them do lots for the guy without feeling owed nor trumpeting it around. Abeg, give yourself peace in your head because it's obvious you carried lots of garbage from Telemundo, feminist and other "fake lives" into your marriage (reality).


I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.
Your Husband (Ade Ori) o. Not even just a lesson but a hard lesson. Aunty, you need serious mental checkup. Your brain is filled with explosive pride. At this point, I think your husband should just release you back to your people through divorce so that the court can oversee the issue of child custody because it's obvious your brain cannot be humbled. Your stubbornness and arrogance is something else. Even the verbal abuse (though not the best) your husband use regularly to check/reduce the depth of those bad-luck characters is also taken wrongly. For you trying to even change your number from friends and family that could change your heart also confirms that your husband can never succeed over you. This is why fathers shouldn't spoil their daughters before giving them out in marriage. They become a pain in the head of the gullible men that marries them. Daughter wey dey shout back at hin papa, go do more for hin husband. Some wives will be competing with their husbands rather than complementing his leadership, causing unnecessary problems, particularly for the kids. See, you practically want to lead yourself, and your financial capability is also strengthening you in your rebellion. This is why a humble woman that has no money cannot really be termed humble. In fact, you entered into that marriage mistakenly, maybe for the wedding dress, ring or kids - never for the mission marriage requires, that is, if your husband ever communicated that to you. And if he did, I dare say your type will gladly rebel.

I don't want to quote others again because I know it is worthless for you and several of your supporters. But I know one graceful lady out there whether churchy or not will pick wisdom from my remarks when it is time for her to build her own home. Your bible records that a foolish woman destroys her home while the wise one builds it. Not a foolish man o. Go and search for where it is in your bible. If you hurt or destroy your home as a woman, you will be the chief beneficiary. Same way, if you avoid satan building a castle in your mind and heart through stubbornness and arrogance, you will certainly be the most beneficiary of a happy and joyous home whether u dey go church or not.

You have very small mind with a big mouth. What a shame you have made of yourself with this post of yours.

It's a marriage and not a bondage. We Nigerians should drop this sense of our husband own us shit. He is human just as she is human. She is entitled to her own self peace.

He should be asking for a job, not stipends to help his family?? Maybe but I don't think this man is even settled to think for himself. It's easy to judge this man as we could all easily say he has failed to plan but some part of me doesn't want to 100% believe that and also employ you guys not to do so.

Things are really hard in this country and I am very sorry this man has lost his job at about this time. If you have a job or have a connection that would help him, kindly reach out to him. Our words could destabilize this man and make him feel like a waste.

@op, I need you to believe you will get back on track soon but you must have at the back of your mind that you are on your own. No one is going to help you get out of your current situation unless you try to get yourself out of it first.

Be strong. It will be over soon.

I wish you well.

I need urgent help.

I have been posted in my current state but was rejected by the firm I was posted to. Now, I want to relocate to another state please is this still possible?

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