tearoses:


I doubt the story is true
A man spending his rent money on a side chick?
A side chick driving car that the wife bought? . . .in the same vicinity?

No I dont think that these kinds of women exist
unless maybe she herself is the side chick and she stole the man from the main chick and the main chick is just getting her own back

is there really anything new under
this our sun? no. You would be amazed at the silly thing some women do for love and this might just be one, when some women are deep in love, it is like they are under a spell, they would take all kind of trash thrown at them by their man. Though the story may be sugarcoated somehow but a man spending money given to him by his wife including their house rent on a side chick is quite possible. It maybe karma at work or sheer stupidity on the part of the woman.

tearoses:


psychic? - Thats the one million dollar question
Just teasing you
I read the OP

I knew you read the op but I didn't neither did I read the topic properly, some men can be very Randy especially when they understand their wives would continue to love them no matter what. And they use that to their selfish advantage. I don't know where some women get some men to marry neither do I know where some men get this type of women to marry.

when you get your next job @op, pay your first fruit offering and afterwards start paying tithes, paying offerings, sowing seeds etc. The Returns in paying all these is unlocking your financial prosperity and potentials. if you do all these, when others are complaining of lack, you would enjoy in surplus.

tearoses:


LOL
I'm psychic

I also read the OP where the lady said the man has been out of work for 2 years

like seriously, I just read the whole story now and in fact I just read the topic properly "her husband spends her money on his side chick" thanks for pointing the whole drama out politely my mistake. But you cant be serious about being a psychic

tearoses:

Its not his hard earned money

how did you figure that out

if husband is spending his hard earned money on a side chick, that side chick must be doing something right to earn money from your husband.

@op, if she can handle marrying a man with 3kids, what is your business? must everyone be like or act like you?

Money brings out the true nature of a man. A man might be humble today because he has no money but the moment the money comes in, he misbehaves. He wants to fulfil all the fantasies he had when money no dey especially with the women so really, it takes the grace of God for a man who has got nothing yesterday to be mentally stable when he has something in the bank today. The woman in question sef might even be part of the problem. When he had no money, how did you treat him? like trash? houseboy? he might swallow all these things knowing one day, he would get his pound of flesh. Not that I'm an advocate of the immoral behavior of the man but a coin has two sides. chao

the girl sure knows you ain't her mother. she just wants to put cracks in the marriage. It's obvious she's a daddy's girl but one quick important thing, does she sleep in between both of you @op or behind her daddy's back or behind your back?

@op, you have a very big problem. Do you know what the problem is? the problem is "what people, friends and family think about you". Judging from your post, that led you to marry an ugly man @32. Deep down, you love him but people seems to give some kind of glare when both of you appear in public. Still yet, you are still wondering and thinking "What are people saying about my husband?" you are the problem @ scaredy. so you need to redevelop mentally and stop giving a damn about what people say or think

Alexander001:
I saw biology 101 of physics student last semester in unical, it was a gender test "F9". out of 66 students only 6 passed(4 C's and 2 E's)

imagine Bio101? common secondary school biology? unical for that matter? NUC needs to look into this. If bio101 can be like that for them, what about PHY101 or CHM111 ?

Imagine, they could not make a 1.5 CGPA ?? this is what happens when dullards get into school through backdoors/runs or whatever and those that merit the admission are not given the admission because they don't have money to bribe, they don't know either the registrar or DVC, Very shameful. The brilliant ones are there languishing at home, writing jamb, post-ume every year. I think NUC should investigate how these students got admission in the first place. If the school has erred in the admission policy, they should be sanctioned.

And again the issue of Jamb exam result expiring after one year or academic section should also be visited, at least the result should last for 3years.

You know, about 1.6million or more students keep writing Jamb every year and the bitter truth is tertiary institutions in Nigeria cannot even accommodate half the number of those that sit for Jamb every year.

When Jamb brought out their last admission policy, it was indeed a welcome development but tutorial centers across Nigeria kicked against it because if it stands, the amount of student that comes for tutorials will drop and that would result to a drastic fall in their income. I think the new minister of education needs to revisit/revise that policy. Whereby candidate with high scores if not taken by their university of choice, Jamb as the authority to send/post them to another school. The addition to the policy should state "Posting them to another school should be made optional when filling Jamb form online"

Courting, dating for many years does not guarantee a successful marriage. I have known him for so so and so so years does not guarantee either. I know her very well like my right palm does not guarantee a successful marriage. Do you know what guarantees it? when you marry the right person. That is all. The right person will be selfless and dedicated. How can you beg someone that as already made up his mind? hope he doesn't regret his actions in future because that will be a tale of had I known

in Nigeria which is almost like an abnormal society, the golden rule is to mind your business especially when it comes to the issue of infidelity. But in a normal society, you speak out.

unfortunately this is what most working class women pass through.

bleaching knows no age barrier in Nigeria. It has eaten off the brain of women that is why they lack common sense. 60yr old woman bleaching? who is she bleaching for? is it low self esteem or what?

@the second story @op. Some Women are filled with one kind of senseless ego. Imagine if nations were women, they wouldn't talk to each other. The man did the right thing jare, condescending on Your husband family right on the wedding day

na so hin dey start small small, from licking sweat to licking different things. The girl had better report to her mother so that she can in turn follow her to school to interrogate the teacher to show her in the textbook where it says biology teachers should lick students sweat? are there no males there? why not lick male sweat. Awon oniranu jati jati

Some people are looking for just that 3k out there. Do you know what, call him. Feel over excited, thank him, shout, pray for him very well and end the call. All what some people need to keep on blessing some people is gratitude without sounding greedy. That alone would make him do better next time. Eni ba dupe ore ana, ari oni gba

God knows about it.

who is she making up for? the man left her to it to prove to her, he is less concerned about her beauty and make-ups. The only thing he is concerned about is her. Noticed he sent two different people to call her, still she was making up? maybe the man has been warning her about it thus the fuming. I don't blame the man, cuz he carried out his threat of leaving her behind for occasions they are invited to especially when wife wants to turn herself to masquerade.

1Michael1:

Trees don't wish, Bennyrazz. just kidding. Seriously though, look around you. If your parents had asked you whether to bring you into this world, if it had been a choice, would you have agreed to come?

you have not been exposed to life quite well enough and you need to be, it will help grow off some mentalities. To come to this world is not a choice you make, but to stay in it happily is a choice you have to make. To be successful, to be great is a Choice you have to make. You don't make that choice for anybody. The first time you hold or touch a newborn giving birth to by your wife under few minutes of delivery sends a kind of joy you cannot simply decipher into your innermost heart, it melts you. To hear your seed or your blood call you dada or mama for the very first time is something you wouldn't want to miss.

you don't want to have children, you are not looking for wife on NL but hmmm who told you men look for wives on NL? the only thing I would write to you is from the Bible, "He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and he would obtain favor from the LORD" and again, it is not the wish of any woman not to bear kids likewise is it not the wish of any tree to not bear fruit

@op, maybe he broke off with you after discovering what he doesn't like about you which he feels he cannot change. Probably you brought him bad luck or bad dreams or spirit husband keeps beating him? trust me, guys are sensitive to that alot. They don't just tell the lady, they tell their fellow guys who advised him to drop you. I'm not a mind reader though, whatever the case might be, all I can say is for you to accept your fate, try and build yourself back up, return to where you came from. Turn to God, look up to Jesus. The thing is, some single women out there don't know they have spiritual problems.

so you want to run mad if you see mad people, do you admire them? @op, be careful with negative words you use against yourself & twins and @ 9months you should still be breastfeeding them. It helps in mental development, physical development of babies. It also makes them attached to their mothers.

Nicely written by the OP. Surely the last days are coming several women would cling unto one man to bear only his last name. @bukayne, come and read it o. What bothers me is who are women doing makeups for? exposing cleavages for, slitting skirts for? wearing no decent clothes for? monkeys? naaaah for men. Because they know some men are carried away by what they see.

bukatyne:


Abeg leave that thing

Which woman wants to scatter her marriage?

The one her husband opened his dic!k for?

When will men take responsibility for adultery?

. Telling me you fancy a woman and slept with her is preferable to the devil made me do it or the woman seduced/snatched me

In addition to unfaithfulness mind control and puppeting?

Kai!

lol @ d one husband opened pen1s for? is @ bolded even acceptable did you actually type that what is not right aint right, you cant sugarcoat adultery, infidelity because that is what it is. A man that is very comfortable is the dream of any single woman out there even if the man is married. Not that I'm an advocate for cheating men but it is what is it. The kind of seduction spirit some women use en, requires comfortable married men to constantly pray against falling victim. As a man, respect your marriage vow. if you can't, stay unmarried until you can respect the rules of marriage.

some wives are FBIs or CIAs when it comes to investigating unfaithful husbands. Imagine the phrase "sparkling clean joystick" which means he must have showered. Meaning husband have been keeping dirty not so clean joystick?

The advice I will give is for her to increase the intensity of her prayers, increase the tone of her prayers. Make the prayers aggressive. The prayer goes like this "Any woman that wants to scatter my marriage, anyone at all that wants to divide my marriage, let them not no peace, let them be like trouble waters, let the angel of God pursue them"

Note, two wrongs don't make a right.

Mindfulness:


This is the result of a culture that taught women that men have to provide for them.
What else do you want them to look for?

There is nothing bad in a culture that ask men to provide for women. The main thing is, women of nowadays are very greedy, they want it all. My friend is wearing shoes of 45k, lace worth 120k, i must also get it. They compare themselves with other women regardless of their family background. A man Earns 45k plus allowances as a teacher in a government school. Level 7 or so. Now at the end of the month, husband collects salary, wife takes up to 30k just to buy clothes, make hair and all sorts of charade. Husband as to borrow to survive and do some chua chua here and there to survive through private tutorials. There is a big problem here, you as a man here, why did you have to marry a woman you can't maintain? The man as long-throat. Now if she doesn't get all these from him, she will look for a way to get it. As a woman, you know your husband can't afford to spend 30k on you monthly yet you coerce him through sexual intimidations to give that amount. You know if some women discover that their husband likes sex, that is the tool they use to get him. You are a wicked, selfish wife. So how wont marriage collapse, when both man & woman are the architects of their woes through selfishness & greediness? you see a woman that does pedicure & manicure for 15k, hair every 2 weeks at about 55k, you earn just 120k as a man and is that type of woman your joystick is always happy to see? you need deliverance and serious prayers.










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TooNoisy:


You have spoken well. Some people will even ask that the man must love them first before they submit. How can you marry someone that doesn't even love you? Or how can a man marry a woman he doesn't love? Half of these problems exist because people marry the wrong people and for the wrong reasons.

When you marry the right person and for the right reasons, we wouldn't need to argue if a woman should submit; she will submit easily.




Not just Christian marriages, even traditional marriages. For most traditional marriages, the man pays the dowry to the wife's family and you will notice the woman kneels (as a sign of respect and headship)


to feed her husband.

kudos @bolded. Both women and men marry the people they marry out of selfish reasons. They marry who they marry due to long-throat and when there is nothing to long-throat for in the marriage, problem starts. I knew a couple few years back, when they got married, they had nothing. They survived on gifts people gave during the wedding, the man & woman were gladly drinking garri while both were looking for Jobs. Fast forward to today, they have kids now, husband & wife working and they are living comfortable. I use to tell some men that a woman that long throats during courtship, complains, feels irritated is an early sign of what to come.

I really don't know the kind of spirits controlling women these days. You left your husband's house to travel with your Dad to the village without informing your own husband? you lied to him, you deceived him, is that not being selfish? And the Father in law that is meant to know better due to old age is an accomplice in this crime. Really this is pathetic. I really don't know where some men get all this kind of women to marry. This is how women give the devil the chance in their marriages, later they will start blaming the man of their own doing @op, tell your friend, it is cross, let him carry it. Let him take it to the Lord in prayers for direction on how to stop this from happening again.

Sh0llypopz:
Bwahahahahahahahahahaha!!

@Royal Roy: move to Religion section.

this thread stays here. Kudos @Acidosis. This thread has a lot to do with Christian homes. Any woman that does not submit unto her husband, any woman that is not loyal to her husband cannot be a Christian.

If you know you would not be submissive as a wife to your husband as stated in the Bible, why go to Church for white wedding? why ask for the blessing of the priest? do trad wedding and end it there or betterstill have court wedding, leave Pastors/church out of your life.