Jovialjune1:
Men are most often than not the architect of their japa problem, they either marry white women to secure citizenship while forgetting their family at home, or they complain about change in character of wives when they know the head and tail mentality they use to have in Nigeria is not applicable abroad, they can't talk down on their wives because they will get same dosage right back, they can't throw their wives out of the home as they use to do and brag about it in Nigeria etc

The solution; learn to adapt to new environment and new laws, accept the fact that equality is their watchword over there, nobody send una papa with the biblical headship and submissiveness mantra, and lastly, domestic violence will send you to jail permanently, learn to insult and shout back at your wife when she insults and shout at you, or walk away, abi divorce, those presently doing it don't have 7 heads, they are living in peace with their spouse, if you can't cope because of the need to be macho or display ego on woman matter instead of focusing your attention on contributing positively to your new society, come back to naija and continue your kind of life, na ontop woman matter una dey kuku show strength before that's why the country is what it is today, issa simple stuffz 😉

It's a general issue, stop blaming men for everything

NBAjunior:
I have this cousin of mine that have been fantasizing about she is just 14 I’m above 20 but I’m scared of doing anything with her incase it leaks out

Sometimes I think about drugging her and having my way


I’m also obsessed with my girlfriend I think about her body every now and then we have been together for like 8 months now but I just can’t get her off my head sexually

Please what’s wrong with me
Does this make me a phedophile?

You really need help, your daughter cousin will look at her the same way you look at that your cousin

illicit:
His response was so unprofessional

Congrats tho

Jackie Chan is a global super star so don't blame him Oga, you Nigeria youth always look for a fault

calabaman:
Nice poster.

However your response to Jackie wasn't professional!

My dear I will do than that, there's nothing like professional there

What of Nigeria guys that live abroad?

philo3:
Hey Good evening , please I need experienced and matured minded answers on this thread
.
I have a girl I love and if God willing marry her
She's humble, submissive , and posseses good qualities of a wife material.
I senior her with just months in age . same year of birth.
Can that marriage work out well because I have this ideology that the husband should senior his wife by some years at least 2years.

Just one or two child birth she will aged to the extend she will look like your mother

Be careful how you relate with people because people do take advantage of people like you

APCNig:
Just wait till someone in your generation gets to Olanipekun’s level

GOD forbid my family can't have someone as senseless like him

Foolish people avoid me spitting trash as usual

Battlefield2:
Good evening
I'm in deep pains right now, I bought a Redmi 12c for #81700 on Monday morning, Getting home, a friend of mine fell in love with the phone immediately and told me he wants it,I told him to go and get it himself.
He persuaded me and told me to sell mine for him that he will give me 2k on top, I sold the phone to him at 83k.
I had an extra 7k at hand making the money with me 90k...I wanted to go for something bigger than the Redmi 12c so I intended to up my budget to 110k.....Now where do I find an extra 20k

I don't know the type of spirit that entered me,I said I can do it with BETKING, I funded 10k from my Opay to betking in the hope of playing just 3odds and getting my 20k extra but Betking really fvcked me up.....I lost the bet....I funded another 10k and lost again
Long story short.....All my 90k is gone

I'm now on my bed thinking about my life,feeling dejected and depressed

I'm the most stupid guy on earth.....I'm sure I am
Now I am back to square one because of my greedness
Learn from my story
Gambling Ruins!

Nlfpmod
Take to front page
Let people learn from my story
Gambling isn't the way to riches

Congratulations

guobe:
That is because they are the weaker sex.

So because of that they should not take blame for the mistake they made by themselves?

guobe:
why do you feel so

Women blame men for everything that happened in their lives

But broke man don't need woman

turmacs:
What do you think will be on their minds

Yahoo boy , he is a criminal

Women don't take blame at all

IconicR:
Childish breakup. Very childish. I hate too much noise. She made a mistake dating you, you are too childish

Why are you crying for something that does not concern you

DrAbdulSuleman:
I've been married for 20 years, we've 4 kids . My marriage has been stronger than I've ever seen
Let me tell you how I got such strong marriage to a submissive, respectful wife

1. I didn't settle. I literally didn't waste time with stupid women . I dumped them even it was hard. This was important because it took me 20 years to find one worthy of marriage. If I had taken more than a month or two on potential women, I never would have had enough time to find a woman worth marrying.

2. I remember when a woman told me, on the first date, that she doesn't believe in disciplining children. We haven't gotten to the restaurant yet. and I turned the car around and dropped her back off at her house . She's now in her second marriage with three brats .

3. Look in the right places . the right places are like church, conferences etc. Places you'd expect your wife to go. If you meet a woman at a party or night club, and marry her then expect your wife to go to night clubs and parties.

4. I told my wife before we got married, that if we ever had an disagreement, and we couldn't compromise and resolve the disagreement, that we should do things my way. It saves our marriage and ends the unwinnable argument.

5. I respect my wife and act in a way that commands respect. I don't get drunk. I don't smoke. I go to church. I bring home money . I don't sleep around.


6. Money while important, is something that we've never argued about, even though we don't have enough. We spend responsibly . Because we both have a joint account, my wife asks before she spends over 50k. That said, I don't usually tell her she can't, but I do sometimes . If she wants a new dress or heels and we can't afford it , I say no and she drops it. She's pretty clever with our finances, so I ask her advice before large purchases.

7. Don't let others come in between you . That " bros before hos" crap is just that crap . I'm estranged from my own mother because she disrespects my wife . My mother in law is a bit better, but my wife told her off before for being rude to me . Her friends before marriage are long gone . She got rid of them. Good riddance. Anyone who tries to get in between us is gone .

8. I don't chastises my wife in front of others . In most extreme circumstances I pull my wife aside and correct her, but she rarely needs this . I remember my wife was being rude to my adult little brother once and then I excused us . Five minutes later we came back and she was apologizing to my brother. This impressed him since our mother have never taken correction from our father .This is also really important in front of your children. Don't argue in front of them .

9. You, the man is in charge, but doesn't make you better than your wife


Above all , find a woman that's good not one you think you can make into a good woman

Good advice, if they will listen

SosoTakemypain:
Good evening Nairalanders.

I Want to move to Lagos to pursue my music career by next year.

I'm in the east currently,I want to learn a handwork before moving to Lagos so I can be sustaining myself when I move to Lagos while pursuing my dreams.

What type of handwork or skill are mostly thriving over there??

Please anyone with experience should tell me which handwork or skill to learn before moving over there.

Thanks🖤

Swimming

On my gf mama bed

mariahAngel:


Then, the pastor did wrong to have kept part of the donations.

You see why many churches don't help people, I blame the pastor for telling them How much was realized

Nazgul:

A friend told me about it that it happened in his church. Besides why do you look surprised, most up coming Pentecostal pastors character becomes pathetic once money is involved.

Are you serious? What if this church decline to help them? You will castigate them when they help greedy people that suppose to thank the church rather they're demanding for all the money

donbachi:
Na the "thank you" wey dem suppose tell the pastor be dat.... ungrateful family.

Very greedy set of people, this is why many churches don't like to be involved in this kind of issue

vdestro:
Pastor is greedy

Shut up idiot, what if the church decline , you will still insult the pastor now he give them money they requested for you still insult him

Lexzeey:
As na you dey tell me to hustle before na, idiot.

Insulting me show how timid you are

Lexzeey:
What exactly do people aim to achieve when they come online to front how successful Thier life is? Most of them will claim they're motivating people, motivating people to feel bad? Or look down on themselves for not trying hard enough in life, if you are really motivating people you'd show them how to make something of their lives too, your motivation is even doing the opposite, its inciting people to become desperate to make same money or force it by going into crime or fraud, go to Instagram you'll see many of them clout chasing, even on nairaland dairy section them plenty, what exactly are you doing, people wey no Sabi you, they're not your family you're seeking validation under the guise of motivation, the UAE spender that was arrested earlier sweet my belle, such laws should be enacted in Nigeria because we have the biggest number of clout chasers in this country, you'll see many people tapping in to grace under their post, anyone who is successful have one story to tell about how they suffered for their money, you think I'd tell you the dirty things I did to make money if I'll become successful? Let us stop glorifying this clout chasing, tapping into grace on social media won't change your life, the way people react to the posts from this clout chasers is the reason they keep posting, if you abandon thier post and don't interact they'll slow down, move at your own pace no allow anybody give you high BP or make you feel you're not doing enough, they don't care about you, they're only posting the riches so you can validate to make them feel good and make you feel like you're not serious with your life, I know many of you will call me jealous and say no one owes me anything, yes but constituting a nuisance affects my sanity, and everyone needs thier sanity, can't you celebrate your wealth by buying nice things and treating yourself well? Must you flaunt it online? How many people you dey help with your flaunting?

Go and hustle stop picking offence over nothing

It's only you

Women and foolishness

turmacs:
Just look at how this foolish criminal is confessing to crime..Openly admiting to falsely framing someone of theft and forcefully taking their property, agbaya......Even though the phone collector is a woman, some useless men are like that too, they just don't have sense and saying they behave like small pikin is an insult to children... Broke and insecure men everywhere. Na Una mate dey buy GLE Benz for their babes for Festac here, na your mate dey build mansion dash woman.. Ordinary Tecno phone wey no reach 50k na him Una go dey carry Soldier go collect from a woman.. I don't have much to say but I have an advice for the ladies here, avoid broke men like plague, avoid them like cancer.. Sometimes too much suffering and poverty really messes with their brain and affects how they think, nonsense..Any guy above 23 years old that doesn't have a car, a House and 50+ million in the bank is a failure, avoid them for your own good and mental health.. A word is enough for the wise...

Why it pain You like this

duro4chang:
Always playing victim mentality

You're the worst

Trustmea:
why ladies no dey give out fake numbers again unlike before when it's common.

Because she will block you immediately you disturb her life

lawani:


Your parents must have given you minimum requirements. For example, a Pastor might say No children of Alhaji etc etc and then you search based on what you agreed with your parents.

No need talking to you until you reached the age of marriage then you will understand kid