How can we have check and balance with this kind of combination? All top leaders are from one party.

"The current zonal arrangement of offices in PDP is as follows: President (North-West); Vice-President (South-South); Senate President (North-Central); Deputy Senate President (South-East); Speaker, House of Representatives (South-West); Deputy Speaker (North-East); PDP National Chairman (North-Central); PDP Secretary ( South-East); and Chairman BOT (South-West)" The Punch newspaper, Nov. 3rd, 2007.

I did not go through all the responses, but take it from someone that has been there. I was not directly lied to though. I assumed he was older than me and he did not correct me. About three months into the relationship, we were taking a stroll and he brought out his driver's license and I saw his date of birth. I was already in a shitty mood that day, so I just asked him why he did not correct my assumption and left to cry. Why the cry? Because I began to wonder what more has he been lying about.

See, it is not a matter of the age, it's that the person lied or withheld the truth from you for such a long time. Now, mine was three months into the relationship. But two years? Come on now? She should feel comfortable enough to tell you after such a long time. Mine felt he trusted me enough to handle the confession well,  three months into the relationship and that's why he told me. We dated for seven years. Why we broke up? That's story for another day.

Honestly, I don't know what to believe. Two years is just too long to not tell the truth. I am a firm believer of telling the truth, because the longer you don't say it, the harder it becomes to say it. That might have been what happened. If you genuinely respect her, (see I did not say love, because nowadays, love no get meaning anymore) and you know you can get over this, then take her back. (Think you already did sef).

All the best, because you will need it.

Hey Femi, congratulations. Knew it was gonna happen big time for you. I am very happy for you.

Now, start to work out cheap ticket for me o. Just kidding.

Have fun at your new job and give it all your best.

Iseyi, I don't even remember who the head girl or head boy was, because I left in SS2.

I know a handful of ex-student. Mostly people in my class. Was thinking of a class reunion or something like that, when I visit Nigeria. What do you think?

Do take care. If you use yahoo IM, my id is beesee12.

@folahann, I will ask my grandma about the dishes. I might not be able to get ingredients to make them where I reside presently, but it will be good to learn. Thanks for your contribution. How is life in Ghana? Thinking of moving there myself. Where do you reside in Ghana? If you don't mind, answering all those questions that is. We can also chat on yahoo. Thanks.

Yes, Mukina. I am still very much alive.

How you doing?

@penfold, I was there from 1993 to 1995. I left in SS2. I really do not remember people. The name Femi Ojudun does not ring a bell.

Take care.

I knew I could count on my fellow Nairaland users.

Thanks so much, uspry1 and afrodixie.

Answers to some of the questions:

No, I do not have kids.

I am planning on spending three to four days max.

I don't know if my granny can read, so I am not sure we can play any game. We could try twister.

I am sure going with a camcorder and enough disposable cameras and my digital camera as well. Plan to take as many pictures as possible.

Thanks for the idea on scrapbook. I'll definitely do that and send one back to her.

Just leaving cell phones, tv and internet and all the "wahala" associated with everyday life behind, is more than enough to make me happy.

Thanks once again. I really do appreciate your inputs.

I am going to see my grand ma in the village. I think the last time I visited, was in 1995ish. I know there was no electricity or pipe borne water and stuff like that there. I am really not bothered about all that. I just want to go somewhere, with no phone, no internet, no tv. Nothing to disturb me. Just plain clean fun.

Now I know, after a couple of hours, I’ll probably be bored. So I come to you nice nairalanders, what do you think I can do to have fun? What kind of questions can I ask my grand ma and keep us entertained? If I have my way, I’ll go with a male friend, but I don’t want my granny thinking he is the one I go marry. I no wan put any man for chop block o jare.

Anyways, whatever happens, I plan on having so much fun, even if it’s just sleeping and waking up doing nothing.

This thread still going on.

Have fun.

What are the workers in Oyo State demanding from the governor?

Thanks.

My church is called Christian Life Center and it is an assembly of God's. I love my church, I love the message. Last week, we watched a video about how big God is. Mehn, if you ever had a view about how big He is, after watching this message, you'll be blown off.

Stay blessed!

Ciara feat. Fiddy - Can't leave 'em alone.

Mehn, I am loving this song. I love the contrast. Ciara and Fiddy. I need to find a rich thug mehn. That's the shit right there. Any rich thug in the house? Holla at me. 

Hi, Michele

Before I dole out some key points, I need to know some few things.

I see you made reference to Greece, is he in Greece presently? Why is he moving y'all to Nigeria?

Have you guys met before now, or this will be the first time you'll be meeting, physically?

It is only pathetic to the NINs.

This is so funny, I had to sign in.

Anybody that takes this too serious, is definitely a NIN. NIDs have a huge sense of humor.

PTH aka King David, you too much.

Tats, wow is all I can say. If I might ask, what's your email address, if you don't mind.

Debosky, mehn, you gat this on the lock down.

Babyosisi, nice update.

Who else in the NID camp I miss? You all are doing a great job, keeping us informed.

Don't hesitate to let us(NIDs) know if we need to contribute our "shit" allowance to the group. You know, God loves a cheerful giver.

Carry go o jare. This is three funny.  

It has it pros and cons. I believe the cons outweighs the pros. Can u imagine how confused iya alatas and epa will be? I know it would mean, we'll not be sprayin money anyhow, we'll keep the notes cleaner and all, but it does not improve the life of the average nigerian.

I am for and against it. Maybe we shld think of this after we have gone thru three handovers and send corrupt leaders to jail, then the impact would be felt more. The same amount, still buys the same things.

Since nobody came forward, I have designed it myself. Thanks.

[s]Calling on all the graphic designers. This is a competition on Invitation card design.

Requirement:
Keep it as simple as possible, because you'll need to send it to me electronically and I'll have to print it here.

That's the only requirement.

Not sure how much they pay for that now, but I am willing to pay something very reasonable to the winner.

So bring it on. Use your own words and all and once the winner is selected, we can work outside of Nairaland.

Remember, keep it simple and neat.

Thanks.[/s]

Great story, Flakylady. That is such a nice story. Happy for you guys. Love the part, of not sleeping together, until you got married. That is so nice.

Not to worry, as long as your marriage is based on Christ, it will be well.


More stories o. Calling on all the married people o. We want more stories. Thanks.

Titi, I am so happy for you. Mehn, this is definitely a good thing. I am so happy, that you are happy. I am happy, that you have found peace with God, because He is the only one you owe anything to. I am happy, that you thought about it well and made your decision. At the end of the day, it is your life and I am glad you took charge of it.

I would definitely pray for you and your man. There are good men out there and I always say it. You deserve to be happy and I am sure you are. Don't let the past drag you down. Look ahead and think about the future.

I wish you a very happy life, because you deserve it!

This thread is still going on, Wow!

I agree with you all, this is by far the best thread here.

Loving your story, flakylady. Waiting patiently for the second part.

Welcome too, damatiti. I am sure, your 25yrs of marriage, has been filled with love and joy and maybe sometimes, sadness. But it's all good. Reading from people like you, give us single ladies, hope.

GNature:

Thanks oo Miss Oprah Winfrey abeg, help me tell demm oo. You have said it all

Thanks, Gnature. Not seen you here in a long time, but I have not been here too.

Just telling it the way it is, no need to sugar coat it. Time people realize that their happiness is determined by them and them alone.

I have not signed on NL for a minute, but I had to for this.

This is what I don't understand. How two grown people, can date for four years and then end up breaking up, because one party said "no" to a marriage proposal. People, people, wake up. Getting married, dating, courtship, it is not just time to look pretty and have sex. It is time to know each other. You don't need to write exams to find out if the girl or guy you are with, will be your better half. It is quite easy. It is called, read slowly, COMMUNICATION, just like IICE pointed out. Really, what do people do when they are dating? What? You don't talk? How will anyone get a NO response on the most important question? That still baffles me. It just shows a lot of people don't have a clue what to do in a relationship.

Ok, to the topic at hand. Tell your friend, to contact me, I have a ton of friends that want to get married. I hope he is in Nigeria. Just kidding. I don't even know what to say. I have always said it and I'll keep saying it, we choose the way we want to live our lifes. I am so sure, 100% sure, I can even bet my six-digit salary on it, that he saw it coming or felt it. People just choose to ignore things.

If she does not want to combine marriage with career, finds it hard to hang around the guys family, does not get along well with the guy's friends. Me think, she is not a wife material. He should cry over it for a sec and move on. There are indeed better people.

I think I need to write a book on relationships. It is getting really sad.

Signing in to wish you a great day. May your heart desires be granted. Really nice meeting you.

You "is" a great person!

It's quite easy, Akin, there is nothing you can do, to make her marry you, if she is not ready to get married.

Seems you both are operating on a different wave length. That I must say, will cause a lot of trouble if you eventually get your way.

If you genuinely love your girl and you are sure, she feels the same way about you, then you both need to sit down and talk about it. It's really not that serious. There just might be a reason why she does not want to get married now.

Communication is the most important thing. If you don't assume things and you talk it out with her, you just might learn something and then you can start planning from there.

All the best.

Side note to all guys, just because there are girls out there that their life goal is to get married, there are other girls out there, that don't see any rush in getting married. Make sure you find the one that share your dreams and goals. It sure will make life a lot easy for both parties.

Wow, this place is still going.

Ikamefa, boo ni? Sorry, I have been off for a while. My YIM ID is beesee12. I am usually, always signed in, though, I might be miles away from my computer.

So how we dey take celebrate New Year now?

I have been good.

Took a month's leave out of here, cos my good friend was banned.

So how christmas go be for Dublin now?

You remember this song;

Christmas is coming, christmas is coming, christmas is coming, oh papa buy shoe for me.

Oh well, I plan on going over to a friend's house and just having fun.

Goodnight Ika and Genial.

I have not been here in forever.

I see watever is still holding it down. How you doing dear? Ready for christmas?

Nilla, sup girl. Congratulations on your grad. Got to let the whole world know.  

Ikamefa, I got to give to you girl, you are very interesting. If you don't mind, may I add you to my YIM list?

See we got some new people here. Sup, damsol? I guess your real name is Damisola, if there is a name like that, right?

Jaybaby, see you too here. Having fun as well.

If I forget you, no vex o.

This is definitely the fun place to be!

Wow seems this place is still on fiyah!

Watever, how u doing?

Mukina and Genial, I see u made it here too.

Odeku, where u dey hide?

Nilla, I dey miss u too jare. Still on my one month strike. Just signed in to welcome a friend.

Who I miss? Y'all should have fun and keep keeping well.

Wow feelgood, thanks o for the write-ups. You are doing good and I am sure the Mrs. is happy.

Me, still holding out for now.