Spiker777: The Son will always be my responsibilities indirectly I was giving her 220k monthly as upkeep for food and she was complaining the money was not enough.Unknown to me this money has been going into the don school fees and the rest I have made up my mind to say good bye thanks to everyone for their contribution so far
I think you should speak with her parent before you take any decisions on her...
If you can't take it anymore... just leave peaceful A lesson learnt from that marriage will help you for the next
olumide81: Hello Nairalanders, My partner want's us to relocate abroad. As a couple we make around 500k monthly from 2 businesses. I am however of the opinion that we can survive in Nigeria with available prospects coupled with the businesses we have at hand. We are a small family with 2 kids. I seriously need advice as she wants us to make a quick decision. Thank you.
You guys hav a very good income A buisness to yourself And a job that can grow in profit as time comes
I don't see why you wanna leave all this and start allover abroad... anyway.. I think you need to speak with someone that has been in diaspora for decades to advise you guys... expecially someone from the intended country you going too...
If you leave your buisness You will hav to start all over It will take you years to start earning pretty well Not like you won't make over 500k here... but bills will suckk it
You can try masters option while your wife get a full work permit or other way round
Your wife can apply for carer sponsorship visa while you guys travel with her...
Generally it's nice to relocate for the kids future... but think about it very well and make research everyday
Only listen to people advising you npt to travel with improper documents...
A short visa can make you struggle for real
Abroad now this days wasn't like before.. covid messed up things... and since 2010, many European economies have struggled with high debt and low economic growth... but in all its still far better than Nigeria standard of living....
If you hav the finance... pls make the decision and relocate... Don't do it for yourself, but for your kids....
Spiker777: I just discovered that my wife I married 10 years ago has a son before i married her and she had be hiding it from me .I just discovered now and I know find it to trust her again,what do I do?
Sorry about that... continue with your marriage.. love her again and trust her... but remember
She dint talk abt the kid from day one Which means... whatever concerns that kid is not your responsibility... so why bother...
bottlewater1: Good morning nairaladers and happy Trinity day
So I went to church with my family, at the entrance of the church members of protocol use their security gadgets to search us whether we carry any kind of weapon. Me that did not even carry Bible expect my phone and offering, yet they use their gadgets on me.
My opinion:
I was just laughing because it seems they don't trust their members again for instance me a member of more than five years and listen to the pastor almost every week. I think this acts in church will further discourage people from attending church services but to stick to electronic programmes
It's called precaution
Nobody can be trusted... Whatever they are doing is for the protection of you and other congregation
Breadfruit: So you people discard the garb of anyhowness when you get with white women? You reserve the worst of your behavior for black women but will still not let black women drink water and drop cup…
I don't know what you talking about miss.. I guess you don't hav to generalised it...
This mentality is common with our African men... doesn't mean everyone does it ...
okoroemeka: pls let us have an open mind and analyse things with the evidence and hard facts before us not imaginations,the speed of light is 300,000 km per second and the nearest star or planet system closest to Earth is Proxima centuri which is 4.2 light years away,a light year is 9.5 trillion km,so if you multiply 4.2 light years by 9.5 trillion km you will get the total distance in trillions of kilometers to our closest neighbours,any being that can travel such distances to come to earth will not be hiding in blurred pictures to collect our DNA,he will be worshipped as a god because he will have godlike powers and we will be like baby maggots and cockroaches in their eyes.
I get your point but I believe they are here, but hiding from us. Perhaps they find no reason to communicate with us. Perhaps they know that revealing their existence would frighten the world in general... and we are not threat, and don't hold anything valuable.
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Demigod22: you are right bro. I always want to settle down with someone that is highly intellectually inclined because I am sapiosexual, a lady that is resourceful, have sense of humor, humane and lovable.
When a White lady tells you she loves you, she is saying it because she mean it but when most Nigerian girls say they love you, you just have to check yourself, they may say it out of hunger.
You gerrit... not like they don't lie sometimes..but they are honest in some kind of area... It's part of their DNA I love you It's over those two words...don't joke with it...
They hav issues forgiving sometimes too
Don't cheat, if you do..don't get caught Don't abuse them physically Don't abuse them verbally If you do this 3 things... bro just know ur gf/wife is gone.... they can't forgive easily
When it comes with highly intelligent... not all hav that .. but majority possess it because of the society they grew up from...
Finally if you ready to settle with one... you will hav to erase the "AFRICAN MAN OF THE MAN " attitude and mentality...
Goan cook for me Goan dry clean my cloth I want to hav sex by force Sit down there.. You must not make friends all this will not work.
If you wanna last with her.... not like you hav to be extremely soft but you hav to learn how a husband behave in a foreign country with their wives....
If you don't follow the rules...you will be a regular customer at cops station
Demigod22: LoL, after watching a particular movie I wanted to marry a White lady so bad, not because of the color but their reasoning. I still have that fantasy but I am still in Nigeria anyways.
Congrats to you and your Dad is a real OG.
Thanks boss
Forget what you see on movies bro... don't use that to pick a white lady... whatever she was doing in that movie is written in her script... tho to be honest they are obviously different from our African ladies..
The white are not better but they hav different orientation and the major thing is that they don't hav entitlement mentality...
You need to study them for long time before you can make a decision...
Hav been hoping for over 3 decades now to settle down with one... so you can see the difference
Demigod22: My mom have a friend, a very good one. The woman really like me because I am a boy and she doesn't have a male child, so she holds me in high esteem. She has five daughters, my senior, my age mate and my juniors.
Since I returned back from school after my final exam, the respect is becoming too much, my mom started complaining about me being single and her friend becoming more friendlier. Her third daughter just graduated too, and my mom is trying everything for two of us to date. Recently, the started chatting me up frequently and I discovered she is not my spec. She is this spiritual and religious Bible kind of girl and I am a liberal. When I told her that I am not spiritual nor religious, I can see the shock on her face.
She doesn't wear trouser, no earrings nor necklace, a very decent girl by appearance of course, and that's the kind of girl I want. She is even complaining that I am too unstable because I am always traveling every now and then and she doesn't like it.
I am not ready for any relationship right now and I don't want any relationship that involves two families. I will get a girlfriend for myself whenever I am ready. So I told my mom to bury that thought, it won't happen and she said I am too stubborn and rebellious and radical, I smiled and said nothing.
So has your parents ever try to match make you with anyone before? Please share your experience.
My mum? Nope My dad? Yea..
He does that multiple times... trying to connect me with lady I don't know anything about...
Even when I introduce a friend to her... he will be like... my boy..marry this gal naw... she okay for you...
I usually told her.. Dad, don't border yourself I will not marry and other race except white...
He was happy when he eventually saw the white lady
Zonefree: To leave this country is the dream of every young person living in Nigeria.
When I eventually leave this country, I'll first go and barb KODO, so that foreign breeze go blow all the nonsense Nigeria sufferings out from my head.