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If i may ask you

- Do you believe there are wage disparities between a male and female employed for the same job, same day

- What is your stance on abortion

we have already discussed on submission earlier .. so no need

bukatyne: There will always be extremists and fanatics in every cause/movement.

Boko Harams, Ignorant Christians etc. comes to mind.

However, I always wonder when every anti-feminist (especially on NL) sees the extreme ones as a representation of the whole

I used to say 'what a man can do, a woman can do also' till it occurred to me that I was only doing what I accused men of doing: Claiming to be superior...

So now it is 'what a man can do, a woman can do also'

My mantra is always 'Do unto others as you want others to do unto you'

What era/wave of feminist does that make me?

@coogar...

pity you are wasting your time with a drivel-full personality

A person that so hates men that she derided Mandela as a jobless person - racist

A person that idolises Dame Faka Patience

Misandrist who hates the colour of her skin
Dont bother...

99cent: there should be a feminism music video. We need more noise...

Mandela is back in the news due to his illness. But let's take a look back to his "noisemaking" days which he got jailed for. Bunch of jobless activists noisemakers against apartheid. Who remembers d "free nelson mandela" song?

this is beyond absurd and I am highly disappointed in Soyinka.
according to him, it is "unconstitutional" for wives to give their husbands and friends political opinion. LOL

I guess he feels he (as a male) should have more authority over Nigerian politics than our first lady should have. seeing as he has an opinion on everything and doesn't seem to see the problem with his own actively meddling involvement in Nigerian politics. I wonder how he rationalizes that.

https://www.nairaland.com/1268672/should-all-feminists-chimamanda-adichie/39#16791764

hmm... i feel a storm's coming up

coogar: maturity in islam means when the female hits puberty(menses)!

not sure....need clarification from a muslim on this.... they also look at the emotional maturity

@maclatunji.. any insight on this

coogar: does his religion not support it?




sex offender by whose laws? you really think it's proper for some white men in new york to decide what laws should govern the people of northern nigeria? if at all, there's something wrong with the practise, let the people of northern nigeria(especially the women) fight for their own destiny!

Seems the muslims should come and let us know
The religion says if the woman is mature and ready for marriage
I dont think a girl below 17 is

coogar: how's he a pervert for fück's sake?

is he not the dude that married the 13 year old girl and says his religion supports it

He is a sex offender and should not even be around any person under 18 not to talk of girl only

pervs hiding under religion

AmberDelRio: I am not really where i should go so lets start here.i am in no way shape fashion or form trying to bash nigeriana or any ethnic tribe. Second, i am not a white person. Third, i agree i was and have been very impulsive with my decisión making. For the most part i understand where you all are coming from. I should have done my diligence by way of a check on his background. However checking the background from one american to the next is easy. Gaining any information on a foreign person is not only difficult but it is also more costly. I just came here hoping that i wouldnt get bashed for being naive and get some Solid ideas at the same time.

Youve not responded to my question

Please i sent you a pm but you aren't responding

The crying babe

Pukkah: People should be careful what they wish for.

There's a world of difference between theory and the real world.

Word.....

bukatyne: Then the 'innocent' daughters of Jezebel should not be blamed

They r never jesebel to me
Everything God created is gooooooood

what if the man wanted tobe turned?

tayoccu: Its the same combo.
Naruto and Sasgay provided the fire power, Minato and Tobirama provided the transportation.

Did the staff kill the flame or the pain technique to absorb jutsus...

Nice move by the kages but seems they used the natural tendency of the boys to their advantage

AmberDelRio: I am 25 and i am currently in college. I will be finished with all my degree credit hours in december.

I assume you are genuine
ok.. well as Calotti the Harloti has said, it is obvious you did not complete or perform any due dilligence on your hubby
Aside from marriage, you are pregant..Double jeopardy..

It is best you do not file for him at this present time
See and observe and watch

The next step is up to you

Lets assume he is married and has a family and you find out now,

Will you annul the marriage under false pretenses and,

will you keep the pregnancy or not

You have to assume the worst now...

Refer to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/1374631/important-things-discuss-before-marriage

speechless again... i respect your BIL

he stood as alone voice against his bro... not minding whether his school fees or accommodation will be impacted

Some people see the hurt their family members inflict but are also conflicted themselves and have to keep quiet

May God help you
May God help us//

Happy for you

Nice one... but you funny die...daughters of jesebel lol...

Hahahha.... the tragedy of the world

Wow... such bravery.. am Amazon

And u still took care of his mom?

Speechless

If u dont mind me asking

Whats your age range

Under 20
20-25
26-34
Over 35

Are you a college grad

Thanks

Choi........ Bros you burst for hia

Pukkah: Where did I say or suggest or insinuate that men are superior to women? My point is clear - men and women are different and it's cumbersome to demand that species which were even differently created be equal. Both genders are unique and were designed for a purpose. None of the two is superior and none is inferior.

Anyway, I wish you well as a self-appointed feminist who is trying to ensure that all the rights that are open to men are also enjoyed by women. Note again that men are not the ones asking for the rights women but the other way round.

As you go on your journey as a feminist, I advise you to consider doing the following:

Do not let a man 'toast' or woo you. Find a man to woo.
Do not let a man propose marriage to you. Propose marriage to your man and drag him to the altar. On the wedding day, do not wear white, throw bouquet or say to the pastor or imam that you'll cherish or obey the man. Let it be the other way round. Of course, you're signing the marriage register using a female name as the surname and your man is adopting that female name as his new surname.

Also try and practice female polygamy - polyandry; and let the men stay together under the roof that would be provided by you. When you go to work, call your man (or men) to get your meal ready, afterall you're the one paying for the food in full or in part.

If you happen to be around at meal times, read the newspapers and watch the TV while your man gets busy in the kitchen before he serves you the meal and announces that 'dinner is served'.

When (and if) you get pregnant, send your man (or men?) on ante-natal and when you're ready to deliver the baby, send them on 'paternity' leave. For the naming ceremony, get a female imam or pastor to conduct the proceedings while your man carries the baby throughout.

Do not breastfeed the baby, as only weak and suppressed women do so. Do not bathe, dress up or drop the baby in school. Of course, your man should do all these compulsorily. Tell him you're a feminist and it is NOT a man's world.

Socially

Sit down at events or offices with your legs carelessly separated like a man.
Stop plaiting your hair or fixing artificial hair or lashes or wearing heels or weak make-up. Men don't do all that.

When you want to swim at public pools, don't wear a bikini. Why should only men wear their boxers or briefs in public? Wear boxers like them too, expose your bosoms and swim.

Religion

Tell the Roman Catholic Church, The Church of England to appoint females as cardinals, popes or Arch Bishops. Tell Muslims to appoint female imams.

Get traditional religion to give more room/rights to females to become Oro/Ogun/Ifa priestesses as the ones dedicated to the female gender (osun and yemoja) are not sufficient or even discriminatory. The same thing applies to Hinduism.

Politics
Encourage women and your fellow feminists to contest for elections and attend nightly political meetings and gatherings. They may also choose to become political thugs and hangers-on.

Also upturn the traditional rulership across Nigeria. By all means, women must become traditional rulers and go through the rites.

Others

Talk to your man anyhow afterall you're equal to him. I can see you'll even be able to do this well from the way you responded above.

Once again, I wish you success in your journey as a feminist that's canvassing for equality of men and women but let me warn you to be very careful of certain enemies that will rise against you in this your self-chosen and 'honourable' quest. Those certain enemies are not men; they're women like you.

Ok.. keep supporting the child
Keep evidence

Reach out through ur friend or family to arrange some form of visitation though be prepared for insults n hoop jumping as she may want to suffer you[b][/b]

You may need to do dna test

bukatyne: What interested you?

About the behaviors of immigrants abroad... another bashing thread

Hmmmmm.....

Seems it naija bashing day

How do we know this post is geniune

Its not only naijas that do marriage fraud

So you were gullible and did not do background checks?!

So divorce and dont tar naijans with brush of crap

Yahiko pain was bad arze

Just saw ep 322 n madara is bonz

Damn that fight scene against the 4th division was tight

Then the meteor.....

bukatyne: Think the worst of Nigeria men ke?

Reread my post again.

Just a feeling....

Your discussion on the evils of naija people abroad was interesting earlier today

madam buka


This ur post funny....


Do people plan to poke their daughter or actually cheat?

Well cheating is not so good a defense but from my observation people grow apart and get bored hence cheating
Only few people set out to cheat

Married life cannot be planned to a T


You seem to think the worst of naija men
So a man does not do chores again n so the solution is divorce

WAS that justifiable?

bukatyne: @Slimyem,

I still agree with your post.

However, there is a flip side: most people trick their spouses into marriage. Some men will not tell you they will cheat or abuse; neither will they disclose they will sleep with their kids. Some women will not tell you they will dump you when in need or will sleep with their bosses to get promotions.

I listened to a program on radio once discussing a recently divorced couple. The guy did everything foe the lady while courting. He would cook when she came visiting. He had no problems with cleaning for her and washing her clothes.

Fast forward to after marriage, the guy suddenly felt the chores were beneath him. They came home from work together and the guy would still expect only her to cook and take care of the home while he watched TV. She complained and he said he did all those things to assist her to marrying him. Now she has entered, it is no longer his duty any more. See deceit of the highest order!

While I don't support the divorce as the husband was not accused of cheating, the husband ruined his marriage himself. He should have told the wife to be at all those stuffs was just still they get married.

Such storied abound hence the saying that marriage is different from courtship. All the sweety sweety seems to disappear after saying I do and I wonder why. I guess the lovers were never true to themselves

slimyem: I don't know about many of our parents but I know of MANY ladies of today who believe the boldened and who enter into marriages eyes wide open with men they know are serial cheats.
My problem is that these same ladies would sooner have problems with these same attitudes they deliberately waved aside, scream how they can't take it anymore, opt for divorce after a while, and then glorify it like its the best choice they ever made.

A lot of unmarried people are getting the message wrongly. Entering into marriages with the mindset that,if it doesn't work, divorce is the way out.

You are so crisp
I gbadun your post

Good we are on the same page

MRbrownJAY: ^the OP must do whatever he can to provide for his daughter, and if he aint got it, then at least provide for her emotional/psychological needs. some women will be quick to say that this is rubbish, but children need that just as much as they need diapers.....and if a father is failing on the financial front, then let him work twice as much on the emotional front.

we all know who they are, these damaged women seeking for daddy love that they didnt get while growing up....or them weak aaaasss boy raised by mummy, who got too much of mummy's protection and not enough tough daddy love.

MRbrownJAY: if it was my sister, i would certainly tell her that she didnt ask for my advice when she was rodeo riding the guy, so why ask me now? if the guy was good enough for her to A) date B) have unprotected s.ex with and C) get pregnant from him........then who am i to "now" say that the guy is bad? she should have checked his daddy values before getting pregnant by him.

as for the OP, yeah he is a bot emotional about it all, and talk nonsense about custody, but one thing is clear, he wants a r7ship with his child.

Hahaha.... and I support that 100 pc moreso its a girl here
Girls with daddy issues are not a good species
But firstly let him reach out to the mum n discuss plans - education, care etc
He has to step up