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no bi only people wey de waka naked for road de craze

benit:
Some water must have gone under the bridge. Give us more info about some happenings in your home that may have necessitated this; we may then be able to advice

CIA,SSS,CID,SWAT,FPI

no bi her oh!

swoosh:
If you think this guy's dangerously hot, chances are, behind close doors, u'd feel cold and want some of the 'heat'. Ask yourself if as a single girl you thought any of your male friends was 'dangerously hot' and how you handled that particular person

For even posting this, you have already confirmed you have mixed feelings-your not sure if u;d handle it this time- so my advice is quit the relationship-and-if possible-the job. Any contacts with this guy is dangerous for your marriage

And if I may ask, does your husband work?, or do you provide for the house. I ask that because a man would normally frown at such relationships except they had no choices (for instance where such relationships bring food 2d table- I remember u mentioned he needs u2 keep the 'connections')

I'm not married to a Nigerian, whites think differently when it comes to wives having friends with members of the oppsite sex. Yes at a time I had a crush for my boss but now I completely feel nothing for him, it was just for a short time.

When I was single I had friends that were hot but had nothing with them, in the university my lectureres called me 'cock teaser' because I was good at flirting without dropping(dem fail me no bi small). My husband earns four times what I earn in a month he is also a boss in his own company. I have a very good paying job and would rather keep my job than do something stupid that will jeopardize it.

una sabi throw punch for here ooooooooooooooo! na question I ask oooooooooooooo!.

Seun, I beg how dem de take close forum when person done get answer when im want

Elody-Ann:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tiv

The Tiv are an ethno-linguistic group or ethnic nation in West Africa. The Tiv constitute approximately 2.5 percent of Nigeria's total population, and number upward of 2.2 million individuals throughout Nigeria and Cameroon[1]. The Tiv's traditional lands are in the Nigerian states of Benue, Taraba, and Nasarawa in Eastern Nigeria.

Many members of the Tiv group can trace their ancestry to East Africa, northern Morocco, Spain and Portugal. They are considered to be one of the Bantuiod tribes.

True.
I am Tiv by tribe

zignor:
@blackcat . . .from your story so far, I put it to you that you're not a female
Ask me why?

why

WHY IS IT THAT WHEN A MARRIED MAN HAS FEMALE FRIENDS IT IS OKAY BUT WHEN A MARRIED WOMAN HAS MALE FRIENDS ALL HELL LETS LOOSE,

Come to think of it most married men find it difficult keeping their vows, unlike married women who do their best to keep their wedding vows. So why then do people frown at married women keeping male friends

The real reason, I started this forum is because, during my single days, I had only guys as friends never kept girlfriends (bad experiences) My bestfriend even up to the time I got married was a guy. People thought we were dating (me and bestfriend) because we were so close but there was nothing between us, I have done it as a single girl. The question is can I do it as a married woman

Seun:
There must be more to this story than meets the eye, because people normally don't ask for permission to send email to their bosses when help is needed. I'm guessing your boss asked you out and you said, "no, but let's just be friends". That would explain your guilt?

He did not ask me out

saucekid:
i have misgivings as to whether your husband knows the XYZ of the matter. . . . only surface material

My husband knows the xyz of the matter but isn't sure if it will stay just friends although he hasn't told me openly.

koolboi:
women are selfish they make frnds wit u for personal gains, and if your boss is being your ``friend`` because he wants to f uck u, u `ll say he`s evil why not try work towards wht u want and get wht u merit

if i were your hubby, i`ll frown totally at such r/ship

The only reason my husband cannot frown at this casual friendship with my boss is because he knows I had connections before I left Nigeria and would still want to keep connections now that I am married and in Europe, connections always come handy

Siena:
@ Blackcat: Hmmm, there's a lot you're not telling us here. Platonic relationship, between yourself and your boss? On who's terms?

The fact you're actually asking for advice on here, would suggest you feel there's more to your relationship with your boss. Why stress the fact that he's hot, and you're married? If it was purely on a platonic level, you wouldn't mention the above, indeed, you wouldn't be on here, asking for advice. When relationships are innocent, with no strings attached, there's no guilt. And honestly, there's guilt in your postings, reading between the lines.

Has your boss asked you to take things to a less than honourable level, or do you feel you'd like to?

I had a big crush  on my boss but it is all gone now.

tonte:
any way always carry a condom on u ooo because stuff may happen

No need to carry a condom won't cheat on my husband, I have been friends with important men before without strings attached, its just in this case I liked my bossed a lot but feel neutral now.

Alert:
you're obviously tripping girl be careful, by the way u have a funny taste for white men, I wonder why

Was engaged to a Nigerian man for 4 years before I met my husband, the Nigerian man treated me like shit and sent me to the hospital twice for skull x-rays due to beatings. Believe me, I'll rather "have a funny taste for white men" (remember, I'm married to one) than to have stayed single waiting for another Nigerian man to send me to the hospital out of jealousy or try to disfigure my pretty face!

crazykid:
If both of you aren't in the same country then it's ok to be friends; but do go to the exreme I.e calling him during weekends or sending him friendship mails. That would take that friendship to another level no doubt.

My husband is white, I am black
My boss is married(I guess), I am married
My boss is white, I am black
We both agreed to contact each other only when help is needed or to say just hello by e-mail only. No phone calls.

zignor:
ok, follow your heartbeats . . .it works

Thank you

What do I explain? I told my husband, I would like to exchange e-mails with my boss and become friends in order to help my chances of changing my department easily and if it gets to my boss asking for more than been friends like sex, I would quit and my husband understood. My boss doesn't work in the same building, infact not even in the same country. I don't think it will really lead to much,

no comments

not in the exact words but yes

My boss is dangerously hot (He owns the company) I'm married. We kind of like to be just friends (No strings attached) do you think its okay?

I will spend the early part of the x-mas day in the office replying to customers queries(work for one of the biggest game entertainment sites in the world). In the evening have dinner and gossip with my husband's family (Germans) . Its a yearly tradition.

Leks:
Many of us r culprits.As we analyse and criticise let's also search ourselves.I believe 80% of girls contributing to this message are not innocent.The issue of materialism has been on the high rise these days.It's so much in our subconsciousness that u can be guilty and not know it.So watch out for yourself;u could be worse than those we are criticizing.

WORD

Lola4eva:
@blackcat-engr kelvin and i have ended it on nairaland, the same way it started

make im beat am ojare all this coochie wey she just de show world so e never reach to beat tam?

frankiriri:
No food for lazy man and so no wife for lazy man. It is important for a man to have a means of livelihood before thinking of getting married. I don't think there is any fixed amount a man requires to get married. Every thing would depend on the individuals concerned. Their backgroud, education and experiences would count.

You are right and it got me thinking why am I the one here looking for help instead of him? And then another thought crossed my mine because I'm his friend and God doesn't come down to help people he uses others to help the less aggressive

On behalf of a friend. He read B.sc Economics. Lives in Abuja, graduated 1999, still no job yet. If there's hope please help him.

e-monkey:
Married without job ? - You will become houseboy. No sex wallahi . Others men will help you do this for your wife.
Married without GOOD job ? - You will become driver . Sex once a year .
Married with GOOD job ? - You will become the horse. You must work harder to make more money to pay for what is expected of you. Sex ? You will die of heart attack if you attempt it.

Return to your question "How Much Should A Man Earn To Sustain A Marriage?"
If that is even in consideration , better not get into it at all. else you will be miserable all your life. Otherwise find a loving, caring , level-headed woman who will marry you for what you are (whatever that is). There are several places to find such a woman , but the only one I know is outer space.

My advice young man is to buy a lot of condoms and enjoy your life and whatever money you have in your pocket.

Na wao, de guy need help not tongue lashing. He is already married, abi you want make im leave the wife. If you no fit help leave am alone I beg, people wey go help go soon show up.

This topic is the bomb.

Engr K how you and Lola take end

I have a friend who is married but has no job, is there anyone here that can help him out He holds a B.sc in Economics, lives in Abuja and graduated since 1999 but still has not been able to get a job.

A Nigerian can break into the hollywood movie industry, if you happen to be at the right place at the right time, accent is not a barrier as some may think. (Arnold Schwarzenegger was able to break in even with his strange accent)

unfortunately, I have never used forever living products.However, I know quite a lot of people that have used them and said its good. However it won't tone you neither will it darken you. It will just make you skin flawless. Especially if you use the aloe vera line of forever living products.

My dear the sun in Africa is too much to just use normal creams. Maybe you should try using sun block and toning a little. Do your best to keep away from the sun.

Don't tell me you put a picture of you or your sister on this thread and asked us to rate it.

it is indeed an amazing story brought tears to my eyes. I wish them all the best.

'grow fast' unlike the others I will not insult you. You came to us for advice and thats exactly what i will give to you. Marry the girl when she is 16 as advised by her parents ,afterall you have already done the worst by fucking her, the best you can do for her is marry her(thus making a decent woman of her), so her Hot cunt does not go sharing all over the place but DO NOT TOUCH HER TILL SHE IS 18!!!!!!! Let her live with her parents after the marriage until she is matured to handle your-----  you catch my drift

ettehgate:
action they say bring reaction

just try and name your dog chris oyakhilome in crist embassy

name your cat pope in the vertican city

they will surely give you award of excellence.

WHY IS IT THAT THEY ARE ALWAYS THE AGGRESSOR?

TRY AND NAME YOUR DOG YARADUA IN ASO ROCK AND SEE WHAT HIS  AIDS [both christian/muslim] DO TO YOU

Thank you, now you guys can understand why the Sudanese are sour over a petbeen named Mohamed.

olabowale:
@Blackcat: Maybe another batch of Children. I will be foolish I take your suggestion and name a
dog Jesus, and call that animal in a faintly audible voice, in a crowded St Peter piazza (plaza/square),
during mass. You will have a dead Nigerian laying on the flooe before Ratzinger, the German pope, will
know what had gone on. Like the Yorubas will say; Apa yon nie! I can't trust even as far as I can
throw you. lol. Be serious man.


By the way, Infidel is not found in the Qur'an. So the stigma of it on the Muslims does not work. However,
Keferi, Mushiriki, Munafiki, Kileb, etc will work just fine.

Now you can appreciate the feelings of the Sudanese.

ow11:
have you done NYSC? if yes did you runs your posting to ABJ,LAG or PHC? If No did you do your runs to stay in the capital of the state you were posted to?

If your answer to the last question is yes then you won't understand. When you see the abject poverty in Nigeria ( people drinking water from a polluted river, No light, No chair in a classroom, No hope for a better life, No access to health care, the list of No's is endless) and see ex-rulers and rulers houses in Knightsbridge, Palm beach and Hawaii, then you will hate them. Do you know how many children died because Ibori felt the reason he was governor was to buy a £250,000 house for his girlfriend? Do you know how many schools and teachers will benefit from that money. Is that his salary as a governor?

These men are hearthless People. They don't deserve pity. They don't pity others. If they did they won't steal. do you know how many of our problems would be solved if our leaders are accountable? all this tallk of Biafra and MEND wouldn't even come up.

Since we are powerless to confront them our only tool is to NAME AND SHAME THEM.

WORD