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Nigeria was put in brackets under the name. watch it again.

though pathetic, the avdert was funny.

baby, u dnt go around fantasizing abt ur ex and still say u wnt go back to him. that dear is confusion. now that u have a new guy, hw do u think he will feel if he knows u still have feelings for ur ex? except u are just seeing him as an excuse to get back at ur ex. baby, u have to watch it. stop all the cooking for him, and like others say, be firm about ur no.

Jairzinho:
Amodu qualified for the World Cup & he MUST take the team to the world cup.

Lets stop all these nonsense.

Its only nigeria that will give a coach,a world cup ticket free of any effort.

If he needs the WC to learn a thing or 2 then so be it. . . nobody's saying Nigeria will win the WC,or is anybody under any such illusions?

i just pray we dont disgrace ourselves there.

. . . . .and in the usual fashion, flying chickens wuruwuru themselves into the world cup.

the only way i can see the chickens going to the world cup is if we win and tunisia loses. tunisia will be very aware of that fact and they will try their best to get the ticket. even if they draw sef, naija no dey go anywhere.

[b]I read this story online about a man and his domineering aunt, and i thot i shld share it witht the house. What wuld any of u guys do if u were in his shoes? Excerps:-


Dear Aunty Kemi,
As i write u this letter, i'm in tears. things have not been going on well with my wife and i ever since i sent my aunt out of the house. i need your advice on what to do, as well as the advice of many well nigerians.

My wife nd i got married about 9 months ago. we wanted to start our lives together in the best way we could, away from the prying eyes of my extended family members, so after getting married, i requested my office transfer me to Abuja from Lagos. My wife is not from my tribe(she is a non-yoruba), ever since i began dating her, most of my family members were against me dating and wanting to marry a non-yoruba lady. i stood my ground, saying that this is who i want to marry. To God's glory, my parents supported me. My younger brothers also took her like the sister they never had.

I have this aunt of mine(my dad’s older sister). Everyone knew that this woman sometimes had alot of wahala about her, selfish, poking her nose into other pple's business, always wanting to take from pple but wasn’t willing to give. I was warned by my brothers to try as much as not to discuss my fiancee(now my wife) in front of her, but since her two sons(my cousins) were used to coming to spend sometime with me in Lagos then, they met her anytime she flew down from abuja for the weekend. They both liked her so much and i guess they ended up telling their mum, cos i was surprised when one day my baby called me and told me my aunt called her, asking about her, this, that. I was surprised that she didn’t even call me to ask about her b4 talking to her. Anyway i let that one pass.

I 4got to mention earlier that i usually give this my aunt some money anytime she asked for it, and that was frequently. Now that i had a wife and home of my own, my responsibilities shifted and i had to stop giving out money as frequently as i used to. This annoyed my aunt and she kept on telling me so. I tried expaining things to her, but since she didn’t want to listen, i decided to keep quiet.

The last thing that broke the straw was when she came over to spend sometime with my wife nd i. I was skeptical about the whole thing and told my wife so, but she said there will be no problem, that i shld let her come. She came with her 2nd daugher, and ever since that visit, my life has never been the same.

From day one, if it is not this, it is that. She never seemed to be pleased with anything my wife did. My baby kept on complaining anytime i got home from work, but i told her to keep her cool, that she will not be there for long. In the long run, she ended up spending more than 3 weeks with us, and she was always like she wanted to eat this, she wanted to go here nd there, even with the limited budget my wife nd i were following.

One evening, i came home nd met my wife crying in the room. I asked her what happened nd she said my aunt insulted her. i asked my aunt what she did to warrant such insults, nd she started shouting, telling me she never knew my wife was so disrespectful, that she had warned me never to marry a non-yoruba girl, this, that. I felt pissed and bad, knowing very well that my wife would never do such a thing. I had to call my dad nd mum who are in USA for advice. They told me to try as much as possible to get her out of the house.

I finally decided to act when things were getting worse. One Saturday i dropped my aunt and her daughter off at another of my big sister’s place, nd my wife had gone to the saloon and market. I had these motion detector surveilance cameras i bought while in the USA for my studies, and i decided to install them securely where they wouldn’t be seen. At least if anything happened, i’ll have proof.

For the next 3 days, i secretly recorded happenings going on between my wife nd my aunt. I also saw that her daughter too connived with her mum to treat my baby badly. On the last day, i witnessed her slap my wife, and when she went to tell her mum, she too slapped her!!! i acted as if i wasn’t in the know.

The following morning(Wednesday), i called all of them and sat them down. I quietly played the whole thing to them. I asked my aunt why she treated my baby like that. She refused to answer, rather shot daggers with her eyes at me. I also turned to my cousin and asked her who gave her the audacity to slap my wife. She was about to say some trash when i snapped. The beating i gave her that day, no one was able to stop me until i finished. I then told my aunt that i want her out of my house by the next day, and that she shldn’t ever come back. On my way to work, i called my dad in USA and told him everything.

To cut a long story short, my aunt went back to her Lagos and started painting my wife in a bad image, telling everyone who cared to listen that i beat my cousin and sent both of them out of the house because of a woman who wasn’t even from their tribe. Some of my other family members supported her, but my dad nd mum just told me to take things easy, that i shldn’t make any contact with them anymore.

Right now my wife is so heartbroken. She was so sad and depressed, she had a miscarriage, which devastated not only her, but me too. My mum had to talk to her a couple of times. I plan sending her to US to be with my mum for sometime next month. Right now i’m so sad.[/b]

abhosts:
Many People simply do not get it. Those guys appear to be performing well because they are playing against kids. So because players are performing well on the lowest stage of football, they should be moved up to the highest stage? (What logic). Most of them are in their late 20s and early 30s. In reality they do not have much time left in their careers. At least 80% of them will vanish into oblivion in about 3 years time.

I find it absolutely pathetic that Nigerians continue to cheer these shameless age cheats. I really feel very sorry for the real under 17s that laboured so hard for this tournament, only to be beaten by folk old enough to be their uncles.

U spoke my mind.

charles316:
yeah.like dbanj

guy wetin the guy do u? Or was your babe one of the "kokolets" that he "kokoed" in his koko mansion?

[size=5pt]still hate the whole idea of that show till today.[/size]

who is the stupid one between us now? if u have a law in ur house that states that no one must smoke and i come there and start smoking, won't u want to kick me out? try and be smart when thinking and replying to other pples post cos not all pple are as dumb as u are ok?

snowdrops:
Na wa o.
Radical islam has dug its claws even into football

This has nothing to do with being radical. it is a law in their land that there shld be no drinking of alcohol, and he broke that law. period.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill link=topic=348796.msg4879940#msg4879940 date=1257620919]Tell him to take a long walk off a short pier. You've done nothing wrong, that you even asked his permission before going out with her is enough to clear your conscience.

If he can't get over the fact that your relationship with her worked out better than his with her. . . That's his effing problem not yours. . .ya hear me?

You concentrate on your relationship and make sure you guys name you first child after me. [/quote][b]the shorter the pier the better.

@OP, this is one of the reasons why getting inbetween a close friend and his GF when it comes to their problems isn't wise. i dnt blame u for trying to patch things up between them, but u made a dangerous move dating the girl afterwards knowing very well that your friend dated her once. no matter wat happened, he will still lay the blame on u as waiting for the opportunity for them to break up. he might even say she saw your caring attitude towards their relationship ans since they were always quarrelling, that's why she decided to break up with him to be with u. some guys can be immature in their thinking when it comes to girls they like but don't want to let go, even when it is pretty obvious that there is nothing that can be done to salvage the whole issue.

so long as the two of u luv each other, keep your love strong. guess that was the way u were meant to meet. and don't let your friend try destroy your rship out of jealousy. 5 years no be joke man. talk to him like a man, and if he no wan hear word, leave him to heal his wounds.[/b]

Ok i'll put it in simple english cos it seems i've been speaking in swahili to u all along.

Kobojunkie:
How many complaints have been made so far to these government agencies responsible for providing you these services?

alot as quoted in my earlier posts.

Kobojunkie:
How many complaints have YOU as a citizen filled so far? Please I want to know.

Same reply, and i gave u an example.

Kobojunkie:
How many of those complaints have you made sure to follow up on since filed? I need to know this please.

I've followed up on almost all of my complaints, and i keep getting the response that things will get better, that i need to be patient. which, knowing myself, i am not.

Happy?

Kobojunkie:
See what you are doing now? You are here concluding that any complaint will yield negative, the same classic excuse used by millions of Nigerians to remain where they are today. The same excuse we used to make ourselves a GENERATOR NATION/a Nation of Citizens who would rather continue to spend money out of pocket for the same services they continue to pay from the same pockets, to the government each month.
Are you sure, you have the right attitude here?
But, the NEWSPAPERS are not the governments. I ask again.
How many complaints have been made so far to these government agencies responsible for providing you these services?
How many complaints have YOU as a citizen filled so far? Please I want to know.
How many of those complaints have you made sure to follow up on since filed? I need to know this please.

 
Note there are 3 questions there? The one asking if you have made a move, the other asking if you have made sure that there has been a follow up of some kind and the last making sure there was some final step of some sort.

Bro, pls try and READ AND INTERPRETE MY COMMENTS WELL.

i'm not concluding that every complaint will yield a negative response, but unless something, and i repeat, something is done by those who are responsible for it do be done, nothing will improve.

and i requote myself again

blackmann:
no matter how hard one pushes, what is the result? even if u complain, unless something is done by those who u complain about, nothing positive will happen dude. i've sent so many articles to newspapers to complain about such things and i know they were published cos i eventually read them in the said papers, and i know they were read by other pple too. there is a limit to what u as an individual can do to make things better, it is now the part of the parastatals to intensify their own efforts. or do u say we as a country cannot provide enough electricity for ourselves, despite the fact that we provide electricity for another country?

blackmann:
Alot my friend. alot.

i give u an example. i have a couple of my friends who work for mtn and zain. i go to their offices very well, and keep filling out their complaint forms. i usually call their customer services to complain about their poor services, and they keep on promising that things will get better. i virtually had almost 4 different lines back home just to tackle that problem, and still things were not improved.

most of these companies know that nigerians rather hope things will get better than complain, that's why they like making money out of us and still provide empty promises. and that is wat the OP stated. we need to stop hoping and complaining ad get up to do something about it.

if u want to talk about the electricity situation, i can't count how many times i went to their office in zone 4 abuja to complain.

Kobojunkie:
But @Blackmann, MTN and ZAIN are companies like your IT company example. They are companies that take advantage of the situation and environment to their benefit.

I am asking here how many times you have actually done the same with Government agencies depriving you and your family of the basics? Have you ever filed a case or complaint against PHCN, Water works, ministry of education etc in much the same manner? Have you pushed to ensure you get a solid response of any kind from these government parastatals?

no matter how hard one pushes, what is the result? even if u complain, unless something is done by those who u complain about, nothing positive will happen dude. i've sent so many articles to newspapers to complain about such things and i know they were published cos i eventually read them in the said papers, and i know they were read by other pple too. there is a limit to what u as an individual can do to make things better, it is now the part of the parastatals to intensify their own efforts. or do u say we as a country cannot provide enough electricity for ourselves, despite the fact that we provide electricity for another country?

Alot my friend. alot.

i give u an example. i have a couple of my friends who work for mtn and zain. i go to their offices very well, and keep filling out their complaint forms. i usually call their customer services to complain about their poor services, and they keep on promising that things will get better. i virtually had almost 4 different lines back home just to tackle that problem, and still things were not improved.

most of these companies know that nigerians rather hope things will get better than complain, that's why they like making money out of us and still provide empty promises. and that is wat the OP stated. we need to stop hoping and complaining ad get up to do something about it.

if u want to talk about the electricity situation, i can't count how many times i went to their office in zone 4 abuja to complain.

how many complaints? bros don't make me laugh. if u listen well, u will know that despite all that, nigerians are complaining.

Kobojunkie:
Dude, I am not in anyway saying it will happen overnight. But it will only happen when we all get tired of DOING For ourselves what WE PAY Government every day to do for us. It will only change when we stop being CONTENT with finding ALTERNATIVES and never considering those out there who do not have that luxury but deserve what we feel we do.

Like I mentioned earlier on. This religion of SELF RELIANCE did not start today. It start about 2 decades ago when people start giving up on government and government started preaching SELF RELIANCE to us. Our parents bought into the idea and start doing most of it all for themselves. In that time, we watched NITEL, NEPA, WATER CORPORATIONS go from ok companies to RUBBISH. Even the sanitation companies went bust because people no longer complained to the companies that rubbish was piling up on their streets. Instead people started turning open lands into rubbish dumps and the government nonchalantly diid nothing. Why? because instead of demanding better service, the people went into their caves and decided to provide it all for themselves. The quality of life went to hell in that country and people rarely said much about anything.


Why continue doing the same old thing? Why purchase yet another Generator? Why not COMPLAIN now, take that complaint a step further where possible and call up your reps, match for a cause etc

Upon all the complaints made, all the payments made for the government to provide, where is the situation of things today? are u saying that u don't pay for electricity bills, phone credit, ur taxes, etc every month? dont u buy units for your PHCN meter every now and then? at the end of the day, is electricity still stable? don't u still pay for the credit on ur phone daily? does that make the quality of serveice any better? despite the millions made by these companies daily, have they done anything to change the rotten situation of things?