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So sad. if it were me, that would be the last time she'll visit my home. i don't care if she's my mother.

maggad is more like the word.

it truly happened, but the mistake u peeps out there make is attributing such barbaric acts to islam.

I just read it online that former green-eagles, best ogedengbe, is dead. he died in UCH. i dnt know hw true it is, but if it is true, may he rest in perfect peace.

Not with these bunch of lunatics still in government.

Riskie:
In your first post your dad was a peasant farmer and now he is a doctor. Your stories are interesting sha

I kinda noticed that too, but in all cases such things do happen in naija very well. the pregnancy thingy, the one he mentioned about his ex being his boss, and now this.

I remember this pix very well, nd it never included yaradua in the middle. both ex-presidents were seated apart on the opposite ends of the sofa. someone must have done some funky work and planted yara slow in the pix.

She is confused.

what is he smiling about?

u guys no go kill man for Nairaland. I've had a rather sad day, but wen i saw this, all my sorrows flew away

Wey Don Becomrich sef? is he busy signing autographs he don forget ihn pple wey promote am here?

Always refering to an issue in the past that u've apologised about

someone would visit baba God that very day.

[quote author=z-murda link=topic=319881.msg4490100#msg4490100 date=1252228881]They might consider lying in wait for him in the church. Each time he says something, the EFCC should shout 'LIAR!'

How did he sneak into the country under the vigilant and super sharp eagled eye of our Police, Immigration, NDLEA, Customs, National Defence, SSS, Army, Mopol, SSS,CIBN, NDA, Military Intelligence, CBN, Naval Intelligence, NSE, Road Safety, National Security Agency
kai, abeg, I no believe
[/quote]He might have used the Alamaseigha method.

this is wat was sent to my box, coincidentally the same situation.

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I committed the sin of having sex while fasting. I know the repentance for this is fasting 60 days or feeding 60 poor people. Being a girl i cannot fast 60 days due to my periods, also it is difficult for me fast continuously because i often feel week and have headaches. So i want to feed poor people. But it is inconvinient for me to send the money to my country, because i will have to give explanations to my parents. I am in UAE. I know places where i can donate some money, but how will i be sure the money will be used only for feeding poor? I mean the money can also be used to provide clothes and shelter. Is this also acceptable as a repentance for the sin i committed?



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Sex while fasting atonement

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.



Abu Hurairah reported that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (saws) and said: "I am destroyed, O Messenger of Allah (saws)!" The Prophet (saws) asked: "What has destroyed you?" He said, "I had intercourse with my wife during a day of Ramadan." The Prophet (saws) asked: "Are you able to free a slave?" He said, "No". The Prophet (saws) asked: "Is it possible for you to fast for two consecutive months?" He said, "No." The Prophet (saws) asked: "Is it possible for you to feed sixty poor people?" He said, "No." The Prophet (saws) said: "Then sit." A basket of dates was brought to the Prophet (saws) and he said to the man: ‘Give this in charity.’ The man said: "To someone poorer than us? There is no one in this city who is poorer than us!" The Prophet (saws) laughed until his molar teeth could be seen and said: "Go and feed your family with it!"

Related by the Muslim and Bukhari.



If one is unable to control one’s desires for any reason and were to perform the actual act of sexual intercourse with ones spouse while in the state of fasting, it would indeed be a grave sin in the Sight of Allah. The atonement for this sin as prescribed by the Messenger of Allah (saws) is that the person should either free a slave, or (if one is unable to do that) fast for two consecutive months, or (if one is unable to do even that) then feed sixty poor people! Such is the enormity of the sin and the atonement of having sexual intercourse with one’s spouse while one is in the state of fasting.



Your Question: Being a girl i cannot fast 60 days due to my periods, also it is difficult for me fast continuously because i often feel week and have headaches. So i want to feed poor people.

Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, the wisdom behind the ‘kaffarah’ or atonements prescribed in Islam for one who unintentionally or swayed by emotion transgresses the boundaries of their Lord in ignorance is so that one may realize and comprehend the enormity of their transgression, and manifest their sincere repentance through the prescribed atonement.



The good scholars and jurists in Islam are almost unanimous in their opinion that if one swayed by emotions, or in ignorance, or unintentionally transgresses one of the clear boundaries of Allah for which a form of ‘kaffarah’ or atonement has been prescribed in the Quran or the Sunnah; one must not try to choose the form of atonement which is the easiest or most convenient for them, but rather one must fear their Lord and His Day of Accounting, and strive to manifest their atonement and their repentance to their Lord by opting to fulfill their atonement in the chronological manner it is prescribed.



Beloved Sister, the first option prescribed in the atonement for having sexual intercourse with one’s spouse is to free a slave; but since slaves are not available in the times we live in, that option is not applicable to you.



The second option is to fast two consecutive months for your momentary but grave transgression. Your menses is not an issue at all, for you could simply continue your balance days of atonement fasting as soon as you are relieved of your natural periods.



Simply stating that one feels weak or develops head-aches is not strong enough a reason to choose the third option of feeding sixty poor people! Unless and until you are so weak or of an abject old age that you cannot even fast your obligatory fasts of Ramadan; or the headaches that you (might) develop because of continuous fasting is advised against by a qualified and God-fearing pious medical expert, it would only be akin to piety and righteousness in the Sight of Allah, and a manifestation of your guilt of the grave transgression committed, that you choose to offer your atonement in the form of fasting two consecutive months (bar your menses days). And Allah Alone Knows Best.



Your Question: But it is inconvinient for me to send the money to my country, because i will have to give explanations to my parents. I am in UAE. I know places where i can donate some money, but how will i be sure the money will be used only for feeding poor? I mean the money can also be used to provide clothes and shelter. Is this also acceptable as a repentance for the sin i committed?

Beloved Sister, if your health absolutely does not allow you to fulfill the second option of atonement for fasting two consecutive months, only then should you chose the third option of feeding sixty poor people; and not because this option is easy or convenient for you.



Beloved Sister, if you do chose the atonement option to feed sixty poor people, there is absolutely no compulsion or obligation in Islam regarding the place where the poor are to be fed. You may choose to feed them in your home country, or if you wish, in the land you live in; that is entirely upto you.



If you live in a muslim nation like the UAE, and know a charitable institution who accept donations, all you would need to tell them clearly that the funds you are providing is against the ‘kaffarah’ or ‘atonement’ and must only be spent only towards the feeding of sixty needy persons. The good charitable institutions are well aware of the laws of atonements as prescribed in the Quran and the Sunnah, and they will make sure that your money is spent only for what is intended.



Beloved Sister, when the atonement clearly defines that one must feed sixty poor people, the funds cannot be diverted to clothe or shelter the poor, for that would not fulfill the requirements of atonement.



Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, as easy and as convenient it might be for you to feed sixty people, as your humble brothers and well-wishers in Islam, our humble advice to you, if you truly comprehend the enormity of your transgression and sincerely wish to manifest your repentance to your Lord, is to opt to choose to atone for your sin by fasting two consecutive months; that would be closer to piety in the Sight of your Lord Most Merciful.



Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.



Your brother and well wisher in Islam,





Burhan


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I hope it answers all ur questions

190:
huh
i knew it,it wud definately b 4rm auchi

so my other questions!

did she allow u use a condom

did she try the 69 position!

just curious u knw

Why u wan know sef? r u his sidekick? curiousity killed the olongbo u know?

[quote author=tpia. link=topic=318768.msg4478798#msg4478798 date=1252029289]so who poured black paint here? The guy who slept with someone, or the girl who willingly walked with her two legs to where she was going to be ravished?

anyway, generalized public salvation isnt practical. If you fast the way you think it ought to be done, then why worry about how others are doing theirs? Why not just face your own since all humans arent the same.

well, previously you said its a sin during Ramadan. Specifically.

Do you mean its a greater sin at that time?[/quote]Girl(if u are not a girl, pardon me), dnt misquote me. i said it is wrong to have sex in ramadan if the person u are having the sex with is not your spouse. and the conditions that married couples have sex during this period is after they break the fast for that day. It is wat i read from the Holy Quran and heard from Islamic Scholars that i'm telling. Period.

On the issue of the cloth thingy i said, i was just using it as an example, maybe i didn't put it the right way, but wat i meant is u having a white cloth u want to keep white thrupout nd u kinda want to dirty it. i may not be explaining right but i hope u understand wat i mean. it was wrong for the girl to even go to the guys house in the first place. besides, the guy too knew she was fasting nd he still went ahead to have sex with her. Ramadan is meant to be a month when u keep all your desires in check for the sake of Almighty Allah.

[quote author=tpia. link=topic=318768.msg4477619#msg4477619 date=1252006192]so its ok at other times except Ramadan? [/quote]It is wrong all the time. It's not only in ramadan and it applies to both islam and christainity. Abi wat does your bible tell u about such? i'm not being religious, but wat do the holy books say about sex outside wedlock?

IYA NGBALI:
why is that so?that one na cheating jo we no go greewhy person no go fit fok during r_amadan roll am down i no say na people like you go dey fok for church field during vigil and christmas eve

let me ask u something. how will u feel if u hold a white cloth and u are trying to keep it clean, and all of a sudden someone brings black paint and pours it all over the cloth?

Maybe the year that pigs start flying or when chickens start growing teeth, but with the present bunch of fools as our leaders, nope.