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ebyjoyken:
Hi! Good morning all.

I have been married for 10 years, and I have never had any serious issues with my husband, I have never treated his mother badly. I love his mum just like i love mine. I lost my dad last year and my husband never showed any concern towards my family, i didn't call any of my siblings or my mum till date.

But recently each time we are having a discussion he keeps saying that anytime I challenge him that he will ask my children to insult me. This breaks my heart because i was never rude to my parents as child even as an adult. I have never spoken ill of my husband before my kids, so i don't understand why he keeps saying that to me. My children mean alot to me, i have invested so much in my kids and they are lovely children. I am scared that he might start poisoning their minds towards me.

Matured advice needed please.

If you must challenge him, work on your approach. Don't be blunt, work your words to be soothing. He won't see it as challenge anymore but more of opinion.
Take your time to respond, always

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

Flee. Ask whoever mediates for him to go and marry him.

Conceptman:
Sars has done alot of harm, I just wonder why the government has refused to do anything on dis Sars issue

Same way nothing is being done about the rampant one chance and kidnapping. We just don't have a government of the people, from the people, and for the people.

This is a government from themselves, of themselves and for themselves.

BeLookingIDIOT:
We are NOT Nigerians,we are Biafrans.We shouldn't be selling any of our great technologies to the shithole until Biafra is acheived.Now they need our trucks.Nonsense!

Which tech?

By the cultists.
Every country experiences grievous crimes. My concern is that of Police is so unintelligent and ineffective to combat crime at least solve it to deter others from the same act.

kay9:
I don't understand why Ljunberg is looking so happy... Hope this hapless win against West Ham isn't blinding him to how horrible this current Arsenal team is right now.

Itis important he keeps himself in a positive winning mood. He made a different by bringing on Martinelli and benching Luiz. He is looking to have his own first 11.

He wants to keep his job

ideatoprince18:
What does Nigeria need warship for?

Do we have any external threat?

Why was it launched in UAE

Is the keel laying ceremony not good to perform in Nigeria ports or waters?


All this questions keep befuddling my mind

You prepare to waive up threats should they show up.

Patrioticman007:
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The fear of death has destroyed blackman creativity.

Not in this stance. A country that can't even maintain common CCTV is going into nuclear power plant.

A country that isn't serious with maintenace, R& , infrastructural development, human development wants to embark on nuclear project.

Are pit leaders serious at all. Who are they trying to impress for goodness sake? Do they know what Japan is doing to hold off disasters, etc.

They should start thinking with their heads. County that seriously lack good lining environment is not priotizing development of more habitable living condition but rather nuclear power plant when we have abundance of gas and wants

A county with high rate of vandalism and insecurity amidst chaos.

helinues:
Laughing hysterically.. So they have that nuclear power stations and cant develop the states?

3 daful

Are you that dumb to read

Sanusi is a goner. The Chairmanship is termly so what is the point. After 2 years it may be one of the other newly created emirates who will order him as Chairman.

Since it is like that, they should just scrap their emirate because it is now a political office in my own opinion.

unbitchable:
what is this one saying?. Did the sitting judge issue a detention order or a fresh order of arrest?.
what offense has he committed within 24 hrs of his earlier release to have justified another fresh charge?. you have a brain, use it.

DSS doesn't need the Judge to order arrest before they do. It is DSS I, even police can arrest without a court warrant or warrant, which ever way.

It's like you don't know these people when they are ready to reason your matter, they already have it listed to release when required. It is a season film and episode one has just ended and it is now episode 2

unbitchable:
Which Agency of government has the rights to disobey court orders?

None. They have complied by releasing him and was re-arrested for another count charge. The truth is his utterances and action appears grave to the constitution. Let's hope he gets over it asap

sassysure:
In other words, they just confirmed what everybody has been saying that dss didn't act on their own.
Case closed.

Why denying it before?

Read again. They said DSS doesn't need an order to do their duty holding to heart the words and action of Sowore

ddippset:
33 wins 1 loss
32 wins by KO.


This Andy Ruiz guy is so good for a "smaller" boxer that he is!

22 wins by KO.Check well

Joshua should keep this guy at long range to beat him or close but not mid

They will have to recreate the emirates after passing the law, else their existence is still illegal

I set my coordinates or destination and place on my dash behind my steering before moving.

slimthugchimee2:
Just watch this video from the 6min and stop disgracing yourself here

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=348651529333608&id=180168166239931

Mr Dumb, I wonder why you lack understanding. You are telling me to stop disgracing myself and you shared a video that has no Audio to prove what point. Is it that they mentioned all the qualities there or what. If you are intelligent you will get my facts and stop being idiotic. I said their finishing suggest poor job. The word "Suggest" is there for you to pay attention to.

slimthugchimee2:
Ballistics tests where done on it, with live occupants baba, stop posting ignorant statements, even the door that buhari is climbing out of shows how armoured it is

You understand English at all. I said the finishing suggest permutation for instant gratification. Let them give us a full list of its qualities/capabilities like its done world over.
I can tell you that the door Buhari is holding only looks heavy which doesn't mean it is armoured. When you have a poor finishing it brings doubt about all intrinsic factors that could mean

saajus:
I want to appreciate this but I reason a little bit with you. The finishing was very poor. We can do better

Well observed. I was thinking if the body is of ballistic materials to prevent bullet penetration then I saw their finishing which suggests that they only welded irons together, made it mobile, painted and called war vehicle. What a pity

Babaheekmat:
It's understandable why people hate ronaldo.

Handsome
Self confident
Hard working
Hunger for more
..
Most importantly.. Being the best in the business.. Best ever..


Blatter stated it clearly why he preferred messi. He said he no dey talk (humble)

Ronaldo is always talking and showing his awesomeness.. (pride and arrogant)


Laughing.. Mad peop plenty.

If we are being objective.. Half of the trophy messi has, he won't have had it without blatter..

His trophy cabinet is full of undersveed glories

Explain. Is that that CR hasn't gotten highest goal repeatedly across leagues, or He has won enough league finals or he hasn't won a trophy for his national team with his impact felt. Is it that he doesn't have hat tricks, or he doesn't score freekick that makes sense. Clubs that he left are still struggling to have his replacement so what is your point.

Guy whatever CR won, he deserves it and whatever Messi won, he deserves it.

Take the advice and leave the person unless you are not different from her as a person just as you have described.

Symphony1:
See pesin wey no get brains to think for herself...
dey advice Nigerians.

TOPCRUISE:
Meet The Jezebel culprit, Onyiyechi Abaruo

This one na "omo I never chop". She looks evil and stupid personified.

Oyinyechi should be tried for attempted murder. Umeh is the one who has the male friend and she asked him for money to treat Oyinyechi. Whatever that remains doesn't concern Oyinyechi. Oyinyechi is a devil and poverty stricken. She shouldn't be the type that should be found around well meaning friends.

I wish Umeh the strength to get over this and she must get justice as jail term and financial compensation for and from Oyinyechi. Where she can't get financial compensation, Oyinyechi should serve 20 years for defacing Umeh because she has given Umeh a life sentence of Face defacement.

seangy4konji:
Na wetin man deh see ooo...on this tar road ooo..na few....am not talking of adult wen oo..ladies and young adults. Very few.

Take for example...as abuka be capital city. 80% of ladies there are olonsho...you can argue if you want..it's the truth in our face..even the ones with legit work use it as cover up.

So the street is your yard stick. Anyway it appears you womanise and also patronise the so called Olosho for you to come to your conclusion derived from your own world

MNDY:
And do you know that the more y'all keep defending yourselves against the truthful bashing, the situation gets worse?

The new generation of you ladies have totally lost it. The earlier y'all accept the truth and work on it, the better....instead of going all feminist and comparing men with women when the latter is criticized.

Why are you using all your strength to generalize? Any way it shows you are use to such people and that makes you their type

seangy4konji:
Very few brother. Very few

Where, when and how did you conduct your survey to know that they are very few.

Randy100:
This kinds of mother won't be existing in the nearest future.

Many exists. Is it because he took to social Media that is why you are painting a fallacious picture

Go to the NPF and report the situation or EFCC Request they should get transcripts of your calls and that save you.

Beeron:
This is dead on arrival unless it's gonna be piss poor cheap. How can they make such a high viscosity oil when the world is currently embracing the 5W30 viscosity type that fits all weather condition. CLICK on my username to view the latest CHEAP Benz on SALE.

How does 5w30 fits all weather condition?