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Mr Rtk5, Have you tried asking what she wants. Sometimes all a woman wants is attention, listening ear, lil help at home.... etc but out of ego, you do what pleases you and expect her to be over the moon.
She is an adult, acede her request,not what you think is appropriate especially when she voices it out. Take a step back, listen to her even in those implicit demure and see her transform .

Wish a blissful home.

Rtk5:
I've been married to my wife for almost five years now. My major problem with her is that she lacks gratitude, she doesn't have the spirit and character of appreciation.

Infact even if you buy a private jet for her, she will be happy at the moment but after 5mins she will forget that you've ever done anything for her and if you don't do things for her, you will see her complaining more than the way Nigerians are complaining under buhari.

This her attitude is really becoming unbearable.

Mr op, Have you tried asking what she wants. Sometimes all a woman wants is attention, listening ear, lil help at home.... etc but out of ego, you do what pleases you and expect her to be over the moon.
She is an adult, acede her request,not what you think is appropriate especially when she voices it out. Take a step back, listen to her even in those implicit demure and see her transform .

Wish a blissful home.

GioneeOnline:
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How please?

I've got a problem with my GIONEE A1 lite. Google based apps aren't opening, such as play store, chrome browser and map. How do I sort it out?
I'm based in Bauchi

Really nice post @ Op. Jzk

"Not all hobbies will spin you money. Its a
myth that if you have enough passion for
somethng you will definatly make it. NO
What you need to do is to find a gap in the
market and fill it. . . .then have a passion for
it."
I just feel d need to rehash these wise words frm tearroses. it is d simple truth.

madam op, I tried to excuse you that this may be ur way of griefing-rants... especially when u feel djdola's case was unprofessionally handled. but generalising and mudslinging all nigerian doctors is beyond me.. I am particularly disappointed that it is coming frm someone with supposed medical training. worldwide there are 3levels of health care-primary, secondary and tertiary. you dont expect a private facility with minimum equipment to handle a poly trauma patient. and it is praise worthy a doctor is humble enough to refer patient appropriately. perhaps you hav lost touch with reality down here. considering the hostile work environment,insensitive govt., poor renumeration, archaic tools etc. a nigerian doc has to contend with compared to his foreign counterpart, me think they deserve commendations. yes, there are unscrupulous few that taint the profession; blame it on d bug of corruption and inaccountability that has plagued d country.it is not peculiar to medicine

Love is the reunion of a pair,
In a new domain though unaware,
Of exactly when and precisely where,
You first saw those eyes, glimpsed that
stare,
Love! Not disapproved by religion,
A secret of Allah kept hidden,
A beautiful ailment, a painful prison,
With frenzied thoughts, obsessed visions….
Love! For which the creation exists,
Begins deep within, manifests in kiss,
Those in it's midst, do taste bliss
And those who do miss, live life amiss
Love! Which part of it do you deny?
The occupied mind, the tears you cry?
Constricted chest? The late night sigh?
The fool is then whom, you or I?
Ammar Al Shukry ibn Hazm Islam love
love notes MuslimSheikh Yaser Birjas
http://muslimmatters.org/2015/02/14/love/

Op, you saw a doctor and you did not throw all these questions at him/her. All we can do here is speculate based on d history you gave.I am inclined towards testicular torsion and epididymoorchitis as top differential above hernia but ur doc is in best position to say because he examined you.If my suspicion is right, early intervention is key as d complication may be irreversible if you waste time. Nut shell, visit a trusted private hospital ASAP.You may pay instalmentally for ur surgery if finance is a challenge.

valid points raised by the writer.It can only serve to bring d best out of our democracy.Worldwide,leaders are questioned by their citizens,more so journalists especially when you hav a quixotic manifesto like buhari's. so i don't get d ramble of these hecklers garbed as APC lackeys.

@Op, i dont think you shld go d herb way...I'm not convinced d typhoid was properly treated...fake drug,non-compliance wt dosage,resistance due to antibiotic abuse.etc. Also your test result showed positive occult blood.i think you shld follow dt up wt more investigations.if you are seeing a GP, request for a referal to a specialist if you feel you are not getting better.

Your baby most likely had a seizure following d fall. It may or may not hav any sequel.Get her examined by a doctor and run tests if required.

Damn! Is this story for real? Let's assume it is.Op pls, it is not normal and you need to do something fast.Only a masochist will enjoy such union and you hav shown you aint one. I will refrain frm giving my opinion on ur husband but pls dont mind those saying you shld sit tight or brace up to d task. For God sake, we are talkin abt marriage.If you dont enjoy ur honeymoon,then i wonder wat lies ahead. Irrespective of ur past, you dont deserve this.

Kazrem:
Salam alaikum brethren, I will be happy if anyone can help me with the information that I need.
A younger sister of mine wants to further her Arabic knowledge and has had some bad experience as regards that (not meant for here). Recently she heard there is Arabic class (or college, or something similar) at Lagos University Teaching Hospital, LUTH and wishes to apply but she doesn't know how to and other requirements. I would have helped her to find out but one, am not that chanced presently, among many other reasons. Additionally, she asked me to enquire about the Arabic class and I have promised her that I will at least to morally support her.
Please is there anyone who knows about the Arabic class in LUTH? Jazakumullahu

I asked someone. She said:She just needs to come with a passport n pay for d form.She'l b tested to know what class she'l fit in to.And classes holds on weekends 10am till zuhr.

Liver Abcess....
This is one of d best news i've read in recent time.Life is for the faithful.may Allah continue to be with you Hammed. God bless all d supporters of dis man.

@babyosisi,i doubt the op was not informed of the diagnosis. A lot of d time, patients live in denial. They hop frm one hospital to d other in search of a favourable diagnosis.It is most likely a CLD and dy are rooting for d cause by d various investigations.I suggest op returns to luth or another tertiary hospital(nothing less) and hav a frank talk wt his physician about management options. Then we can talk about cost.Op pls do that today

Any diagnosis yet?... may Allah be with you Op.

'Boys shack,men build homes'

swtbby:
salam, something happened and i thought I should let you know.
OK I was sleeping and it came to have fun , tried to resist which just made it angry and it started to stab my tommy . the pain was unbearable , I was fully awake and alert but too weak to move a muscle . the more I recite the more stabbing I received ,was trying so hard to get off the bed but it was drifting me futher into its world then something unbelievable happened.
'something' (I can't explain what) started to recite to my ears, (like rukiya imams do) and the jinn began to loss its power, the stabbing stopped but it grabbed my arm with its claws , those were not fingers but sharp claws and I was trying to pull away and I could feel my flesh almost tearing.
finally I was able to open eyes got up and out the door didn't bother to look at what was next to me on bed

Wow! Sis. your are winning.This is not d time to relent.Pls hang in there.stick to d sunnatic advices and d storm will be over soon biiznillah.

Thanks for ur contribution, @ all.
...Sissie, you dont think you will be makin dis section of d land 'arid' by diverting discussion to our mobiles?

*Attempts to rekindle thread*.....
So it turns out i was watchin a wedding video at a friend's house.I couldnt hide my admiration for d groom's demeanour.He was all happy and ecstatic while d bride just maintained her calm and flashed few smiles at interval. Well,it is usually d other way round or equal expression of joy frm d couple, so i pointed out my observation and praised d guy for loving his wife so much......Few days later, my friend and i were discussing and she mentioned dt d dude was having his 2nd marriage. 'Wow! Is d 1st wife dead?'... 'No'. barren?,troublesome?... Of course she didnt hav answer for my barrage of questions.But i think it is an insult on d 1st wife.it.s like d guy chanced on gold having lacked d opportunity to behold even a bronze, by d way he was grinning frm earlobe to earlobe.
So my Q is:
How will you feel if you were d first wife in dis case, presuming things are going well in ur marriage?
2. Do you agree it.s an indirect 'insult'(considering d man's overjoy as if he's been missing somethin all d while) on d 1st wife?

One that is reliable.

Thanks

^Appalling!

@Deols,wat do you think abt punishment for zihar in d Quran?.I mean for someone to blurt out in a fleeting moment of anger, and d atonement is 60dys fast.I think if d tables were turned,women will be caught more in dis and we would not be able to cope.

Hehehe....Psychiatrists where are you? See your patient at large.

On a lighter note.Deols i was readin surah khaf yest. and i remembered you.By your fiesty nature, you would hav reflexly smacked khidr right inside d boat were you to be Musa. I hav a feeling you wont last till d third lesson cos you would hav departed frm that ostensibly 'evil man' when he killed d poor boy.Lol.

Eagerly waiting for d continuation.may Allah strengthen you.

^done. I hope it delivers.

Babe,dis ur catharsis was bound to happen soon or later. I understand you perfectly.A lot of people hav dis tots too but i told you how i manage mine.you will come out stronger when dis phase is over.while you raise ur questions,Pray ardently and keep good company.
Concernin my hubby havin an aisha,it depends.if he is as noble as d prophet himself i wont mind.But if he is d average joe we hav around dt cant even manage one wife i'll simply excuse them.

@ deols i no sabi how to argue o but i understand where you're coming frm.i will summarise wt an adage: ori bibe ko ni ogun ori fifo- (we will not severe d head because it aches.)
This cases you bring up are exceptions not d rule.They are divine and d fact dt people hav abused them doesn't give us liberty to proscribe them.To me,Islam stands on a tripod.Quran,wa sunah wa common sense. Anybody abusing female gender under d guise of 'permissibility' has his Lord to answer to.