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At 30, you don't sound like you r mentally ready for marriage having read your replies and comments. And I think your mum knows also that you r not psychologically ready hence why she wanted you to achieve certain things before marriage. Go ahead and do what you want. But be sure your wife does not remote control you( I sensed this)

This time - leave and leave with your kids. The kids are your only leverage, and you will take them and he will do nothing

Isnt two kids enough? You earn 5m/month? You r even lucky to have both genders. Your wife is right to do family planning.

The time is now if you want to make a move, but be ready to start at entry level in big 4 (they dont pay well) which means you will earn well below your current salary. OR if you don't want entry level at big 4, switch your role in the bank to risk management, Finance, treasury.......You sound too smart to be in customer service. Not that I am undermining customer service, but I feel it's not challenging enough for you

You kept emphasizing on the age gap as if it is 60 years gap. There are many things which should be of greater concern, not 15 years age gap which is not a big deal. if he's not divorced, stop talking to him. If he's divorced, do other independent findings.

everything is going well for you except the sex. That's like 70/100. no marriage is 100%. live with your problem bro. do you have kids, if yes, perfect. manage your problems - because you dont have real problems. a problem is when your wife is a terrible human being and doesnt care or respect you or your family or anyone around you. If you divorce your wife because of this, you are a big FOOL and you will regret it for the rest of your life. It's been 10 years and she may not be too keen about the sex again. Introduce new activities to spark up your relationship- don't keep her at home. go on vacation, have some moments alone together, get her a job. if she's a house wife. Let her interract more with people everyday, go to parties, clubbing /gym together, bring back those things you used to do when you first fell in love. Your wife is bored- DO NOT DIVORCE. My guess is that your house doesnt work or she's not actively into something. So you leave ur house in the morning, come back in the evening to a good food and clean house, and taking care of the children and you start demanding for sex. She's living your life- let her live hers' and you will see changes . I am a guy and been married for 8 years and I can tell you that you are the Problem

. Nigeria is not hell. You have to make your life count for something. many people are happy in Nigeria and suicide rate is higher in the abroad. Many people who have japa are not happy and life has been tougher for most of them, but you see these perfect pictures and you think life' s good.

48 is not old in a country where life expectancy is 70+. You think you r old because you r in Nigeria where life expectancy is less than 60. At 60, people are still active working abroad. Infact retirement age is 65 in most of these countries. I only addressed the age concern since that's your challenge

You don't have HIV. dont let your mind play tricks as you will soon start having HIV symptoms. HIV is a very difficult virus to catch and you most likely will not have it even if you sleep with HIV positive person unprotected. That said, always use protection subsequently but REST, you no get HIV...you can buy the rapid test kit which is about 3k. It's as accurate as any lab test expecially if you wait for 3 months or more

WTF, Hepatitis shouldnt qualify as a condition that will prevent one from getting a job. haba!!! This would not happen in any developed country

About 40%..I live in Ontario Canada.

There's no guarantee that she will get the visa, and if she does and refuses to marry you, move on brother. Forget those sacrifices and move on with your life..

keep being on your medications even when you observe changes. If you can religiously stick to it, your viral load will soon become undectable. HIV no be big deal anymore; it used to. But you must be on your medications.

This is selfish...haha!!!

This is public data..I fact checked this on NBS and this is fact...you can't be too lazy to check the website

She's still ignorant. No one will catch the disease naa..haha!

Man is betting on himself

he's a guy with many followers...some of the guys on that list werent even his friends...he needs a smaller crew, so you guys dont think he's a ritualist

You can do both..

You didn't state what kind of job they are. This is more important that the information that you have put put

sentiments aside. Lagos is working, but people will say it's because it's Lagos.......

Even if you run to under the rock. Anywhere in the world, the law enforcement agencies have the right to write to the bank to freeze your account when you are under investigation...una too dey spoil nigeria.

AlfaSeltzer:
This is why I left Nigeria.

No rules. Anybody will just do as they want.

Probably from efcc or the police...could be that you received an inflow from someone who's under investigation. check yourself or cliques. You r in some kind of trouble...

I experience Oral Thrust often..I don't have HIV. There are more than a thousand reasons why you can have oral thrust. Your mind is playing tricks on you. You are suspecting HIV because you recently had an unprotected sex. We have all been there. go and get tested so you can have peace of mind. Luckily, HIV is not an easy virus to catch. Go and get tested and sin no more.

tommykiwi:
Bank job should be out of the list for, so let her make her own decision.

Wish her all the best.

banking job is amazing. Stop discouraging people. I have been a banker for about a Decade and I am doing very well. If you don't want to be marketer or an operator, the onus lies on you to study relevant courses or certifications so you can move to a more specialized department. There are more than 30 departments in a bank. I am in Finance, and been a banker for almost a decade now. Having worked in two banks, I am doing close to 1.6m/month with many perks. When you find yourself working in a bank, aspire to be a banker and not a bank worker....my two cents

i earn 1.2m and i dont consider it anything...I still cant afford a brand new car even if i save for 2 years

well, I would advise you to remain here unless you are getting your permanent residence in the UK, but I doubt it. You are probably going to relocate via a study visa, which is another stress. The next wahala will be to look for post-study visa or sponsorship. Currently, you are better off than someone who is netting 1500-2000k pounds in the UK. Before I left Nigeria for Canada, my salary was 1.5m/monthly. Not that I am earning more in Canada, but I am a permanent residence and that comes with alot of benefits. Don't leave your averagely paying job for a study visa. If you want to leave to any country, make sure it's for a permanent resident status.....

Ladies, If you are a A or F, DM...lets hangout next weekend...40k for the night..i am serious

There is no issue here. She invited you to her family event, and you expect her to stick around you. you sound like a jealous type. You are only his boyfriend, not a fiance so you r not expected to be introduced to his family yet. Propose to her today and everything will change. As a guy wey I be, I can't introduce a girlfriend to my family members in a family event. Stick someone, have some drinks, and wait for me when I am ready to leave...watch from distance, while I give you full gist later

220k...2013...entry level salary at diamond bank..we thank God!!!

funshint:
I just like Russia's transparency....now imagine the loss figures on the Ukrainian side...those guys can lie like geez!

so you thin Russia is not lying? you must be joking to think only 1,300 died so far. The constant shelling says it all. They r facing tough resistance from the Ukrainians. Their Soldiers arent good enough, and they v been dependent on air strikes lately cos they have got the gadgets. On the ground, they cant fight

about Half of my monthly salary should do...My house rent a lil above 700k