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Shallom

@ Ivvie,

If you by any chance come across Godsgirl please tell her she is "wanted" unrgently on Naira land.

Shalom

Kobojunkie:
I must confess that most all my stews burn and what I do is add water or add more oil but it continues to burn Stock contains water , what is wrong with adding water directly ?? why meat/chicken stock??

Hey Kobojs! No qualms about adding water, only that it saturates the stew and reduces the delicious taste. To me, adding stock is as good as adding water and all other ingredients in a direct proportion, so while softing your stew the taste is preservered. But like Lady-Ti said, some don't like the meaty taste/smell which I regard as the "bomb" in stew. So, I guess it is different strokes issue.
For the burning, keep the heat on medium and stir at regular intervals. I must tell you it takes patience to get good result.

Shalom

@ Poster,

Preparing delicious stew starts right from the market. How? Your choice of tomatoes! Make sure you take your time to select red as in RED tomatoes, not squashed, and preferably round ones. Quarrel with the seller if you need to because they will mix all sorts together. Please avoid yellow tomatoes like plagues; nothing can give your stew sour taste like the yellow or yellowish red tomatoes.
Blend your beautiful RED tomatoes with onions and fire pepper (in desired qty)  and dry thoroughly before adding oil, then slice lots of onions. To get a nicely fried stew, let the temp of your cooker be moderate and stir at regular intervals. Add spices and other regular stuff and you are done when your onions look kind of transparent.   

Oops! Forgot to sound a note of warning . . . NEVER add water to your stew if too thick, use meat or chicken stock as the case may be.


Shalom

toshmann:
gentlemen of nairaland let us tell ourselves some hard truths, never pray to be unemployed while your partner is working. if that happens, you will see the "other side" of women in your partner. you'll lose respect and honor before her and u'll be reminded as often as possible who is paying the bills, u'll endure any shit to avoid a quarrel b/c every quarell will be punctuated by. . ."how much did you bring"

leave all these babes wey de yarn encouragement for this thread. just pray it doesn't happen to you, and woe betide you if it happens to you and the partner in question is an ibo babe life go tire you

if it's the babe that's unemployed, life would go on as normal. very very normal, but for you heheheheheheeeee. problem dey

that, my brothers, is the sad truth

truth hurts

Unfortunately, Toshmann, there are lots of women out there and very few wives. In my last post, you will see that I capitalized REGULAR in qualifying home that either of the couple losing job should not be a biggie. This is to acknowledge that there are irregular homes and a man losing job in such will become the fellow in your post. At any rate, a marriage that is initiated and runs on God's principles will survive any storm.


On a lighter mode, I totally disagree with your putting the Ibo tribe on the spot vis-a-vis this issue. I don't know what experiene you have with the Ibo babes but for me I am more than convinced that they are direct descendants of Sarah, Abraham's wife, in the bible. Why? See 1 Peter 3:6 - Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord Talking of the tribe whose female folks know how to treat a man right, I give it to them!!!


Shalom

@ Poster,

While either of the couple losing job should not be a biggie in a REGULAR home, both losing their staff of bread at the same time could be disastrous. I believe maintaining a good communication at this period is the key to getting back without doing the forbidden. They should both be open to one another concerning how to resolve the issue and make conscious effort not to let seeking for meanings of livelihood tear them apart. One cannot overemphasize the rate at which communication can disappear when a couple is faced with the issue of survival.

On the other hand, I will say there are situations that prevention is the best solution. Couples (and even singles) should endeavour  to have enough fund in cash or in an easily convertible means to take care of at least  3 months expenses in order to provide a comfort zone while trying to find their feet if this unfortunate incidence should befall them; knowing they can keep afloat for 3months without their jobs gives them enough rooom and peace of mind to think clearly on what to do to remedy the situation as quickly as possible.


Shalom

JeSoul:
hmmm I'm pretty sure most of the people in here giving marital advice are not even married. Anyways, zazoo you are doing something that most people cannot do, give yourself some credit for being strong thus far. I suggest you take your concerns straight to him, tell him what you've told us in here, he is afterall the one person in the world you should be able to talk to about anything.

Most people that have never been married will not understand that all financial/material comfort will not take the place of the actual physical presence and time of your spouse. That you can be able to share the small, simple things of everyday life together is soooo important and must never be underestimated. My advice, talk to him and tell him your unhappiness with the way things are. You and your daughter are his FIRST priority in life, and should not come in second to a job, no matter how good a job or how much the money.

Well said Jesoul.

@ Poster,

Like Jesoul rightly said, please talk to your hubby about it. Hey! be tactful about it. Don't tell him he has put his work before you and the kid, at least that should not come at the begining of your talk with him. Just tell him how much his family is missing him and ask him if there is anyway he can adjust his schedule in order for him to be able to spend more time with his family. Use the word family so that you don't sound like you want him to yourself alone and also work round him nicely so that he does not see you in the light of an ingrate like some folks are already insinuating. Necessity they say is the mother of invention, by the time he gets the flow you will be surprised how much balance he will be able to achieve.

Meanwhile, please do not let the picture of ingrate being painted on this thread get to you to stop you from discussing your feelings with your husband. You are not being ungrateful, you are not being selfish and you are not asking for the impossibility. You are simply asking for your marriage to be put in the right perspective. One of the major reasons why God created the institution of marriage is for COMPANIONSHIP; dear sis, go for it!


Shalom

Hmmn! why can' t I snap out from thinking/feeling a guy posted this topic?  


Shalom

Ivvie:
Ms. Pilgrim


nb: Society is the building block of families. A husband to a family is a man to the society. The same applies to a wife in a particular family. There is no reference to fellowship anywhere.

In the bible days, they were called breeches. If you are walk and live by the bible, you'll understand that some words need to be looked up as you meditate. Besides the King James Version, you should always reflect to the greek and the Hebrew references to pin-point the initial meaning to certain scriptural references. Your level of the WORD is plain. The WORD is new every morning and dynamic in revelation. Depending on your level of prayer (prayer life) and revelation, WORD is coded and interpreted differently. When you are into the supernatural, things become different and many things that meant the world to you become useless and needless. It's what the white man calls vain or vanity. The verse in Genesis is not limited to fellowship (as a matter of fact, I don't see where it denotes fellowship because it's a curse being placed at that point and there is no harmony in a curse). You simply have no understanding of that scripture. It is deep - meditate on it and you'll find out that God doesn't play. Eve's action was so hearty; to defy what God had said and bound her within the constaints of man in mankind. To add what I stated in the last post, 7 women would take hold of a man and make clear how independent they'll be but would want the man's last name so that they wouldn't bear reproach. "And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man saying, We will eat our own bread and wear our own apparel; only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach." This has come to pass. Today's woman seeks to be the career type neglecting the family's priority and the role Paul clearly states. The pants too is their own apparel that they have designed after their own hearts. I'm not a people's person nor do I socialise or mix with people but I keep hearing women say "Men are hard to find these days." Besides the fact that I easily get irritated, the truth of the fact in life is that issues, troubles or afflictions don't arise from the dust. They all have roots and the open gates enforce the roots to ensure that they remain perpetual. It may sound wierd but this is true. There are some problems in life that the prayer of a woman cannot resolve. Talk to your pastor or intercessor. The authority of a woman isn' strong enough to negotiate the principles to get the desired result. You will need a man and the issue can be resolved sometimes with a simple prayer or combined prayer. It is a level of prayer.

As for the whole confusion, I blame Christians, not the ungodly or the perversed. The fear of the Lord is what makes nations sit up. It is obvious that when the elements of the earth was being reprogrammed, Christians had no spirit of judgement to cancel the understanding and render the counsel void. However, they complained and probably enjoyed it. 50 years later, it's has a sub section on nairaland and also a political issue of conservatism and liberalism. The anointing of Jehu needs to be reinstated to rid the earth of the current generational wickedness.


^{What really is the status of a man? Do men even know what their "status" is? That verse was not discussing a woman's desire to a man's status. It simply says her desire shall be to her husband - which simply points to fellowship.}

I'll explain this to you. Marinate it with common sense. When your husband (supposedly) says something and you say the other - or - you fight him or nag at him, what is that suppose to mean? It's simply the Eve in you. God laid a rule, Eve did hers because she taught she was smarter. The same too with your husband you might think you are smarter so, you nag, fight and sometimes make a full of yourself.


I'm not here to stir discord or hatred neither am I begging to be friends with me. Let nobody see this as a hate speech. I usually don't talk about this but to close personal friends and my Christian brothers and sisters that care to give an ear.

@ Ivvie,

Below is from your post above:

There are some problems in life that the prayer of a woman cannot resolve. Talk to your pastor or intercessor. The authority of a woman isn' strong enough to negotiate the principles to get the desired result. You will need a man and the issue can be resolved sometimes with a simple prayer or combined prayer. It is a level of prayer.

Could you PLEASE, PLEASE and PLEASSSEEEEE point us to the part of scripture where you got this from



Shalom

agbo ben:
About mfm prayers i thinf they are very physical and too one kind. i know christianity teaches forgiveness and love for oue enemies but with mfm its different.

could you please explain how their's is diffferent. Besides, have you been to any of MFM's program before?

Shalom

What is it exactly that you find puzzling about their kind of prayers

Shalom

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an HELP MEET for him.

This is my believe of what a wife should be to her husband but certain comments from the married folks have been more than baffling to me. Please see the scenarios below, and these are just the few that came to mind now:

1. A married colleague came close to me and perceived my designers pefume and he went like this: "Hmmn! nice perfume but would you be able to continue to use such perf after getting married"

2. To a sister at church" Sis, you are late again today" and she went like: "wait till you are married then you will understand"

3. A friend, married of course, said to me " so how was lunch" . I said "Great! I ate out". He was like "You are always eating out anyway when you get married.

Give me a break! A helper comes to help one to achieve MORE, so why are these folks creating opposite impression? are they saying two heads are no longer better than one? Well, a friend used to say it is not just two heads but two GOOD heads that are better than one. Probably that is the case with the folks with such "till you get married" view.

To the married ones in the house, what has marriage done to your graph Upward trend or otherwise?

Singles please feel free to put in your 2c.

Shalom

A preacher once talked about the story of an old pagan woman he met on her way to the stream to give offering to her idol. This woman, he said, had two children. One was extremely sick and always looked like she would drop dead the next moment and the other was quite healthy. Man-of-God  tried to talk the woman out of performing human sacrifice but she would not listen to him. So MOG thought, "well she would probably give the sickly child", but how wrong he was when he saw the woman returned with the sickly child. Out of curiousity, he approcahed the woman and asked why she gave the healthy child to her idol instead of the sickly one and she looked at him with a slight frown and said " I will NOT give a SICKLY offering to my god!!!"

If a pagan knows what is beffiting, how much more the children of the living God.

As per the 5bucks issue, you may want to read Mark 12:41-44 to understand how God sees our offerings.

Shalom

Quote from: hollys on July 28, 2007, 03:40 PM
hi, of course u can marry him if u really love and he loves you too.Hope it is the real thig for him as well,we wouldnt want him to go looking for another 25 year old in the next 8 years would we?    ;Dso sweetie just be sure of your true feelings then plunge in.Good luck! And enjoy your friendship with Zignor

Friendship with Zignor Ok o! Me, am waiting for the surprise jare . ,  .   

@ Zignor,

Please don't relax your aggressiveness!!!

I no talk am If I be prophet I for dey wack tight o!!!

How sad and painful when you opened your heart to love someone and the best you got was a stab on the back. I agree totally with vigasimple in his/her analysis and recommendation. One thing to add is this: if you go ahead and take her back then be prepared for the memory of the experience to hunt & hurt you for the rest of your life. I have learnt from experience that anyone that can lie can practically do anything that goes by the name evil. Once I find a lie in anyone, I'm done with the person.



Shalom

ALWAYS put your actions where your mouth is and trust will follow.

Shalom

Simply use appropriate instrument at the appropriate time and neither overdo it nor underdo it. 


Shalom

yes dear, and I didn't mean the whole "bus hitting" scenario, it was only a wise-crack.
  :oBoon is in a relationship with you but you didn't notify me?

@Kobe, what are you feeling like?

Anyways, catch ya fun while it lasts . . . .


Shalom

Godsgirl:
@ Boon:

Thanks,  It's a compliment coming from you. It's just that sometimes I really hate to express myself. When I do, some do not believe me or think I am naive.    These "some" have been hurt by someone they trusted and now totally give up hope that anyone else could be any diff from the rest. I am not saying this is what you think of me, all I am saying is, I do speak from my heart and I try to keep the Lord very close to it. I take a forum such as 'Naira Rules' seriously; If one comment of mine would touch or change @ least one person's life, I would count it all joy in the Lord. I am just a messenger-Not sure how much longer I will be here. Already as it is, I have had problems getting off the forum at times and that is not good. I need to keep some balance in my life-anything I am addicted to that is not God, cannot be constructive.  As far as my little exchange w K0be, It is not easy to love someone who does not want you. But I do not think violence or hate would help matters. Love is a choice. Love is God.

Agape!

@G-girl,

You are not alone on the addiction of a thing. I went through it myself though I never agreed with the thread that says so. Meanwhile, having not seen you online for a couple of days have made me to change my mind on where my addiction lies. I can only hope you have not taken your final exit from Naira rules. Anyway, the Spirit of God is one.


Shalom

Godsgirl:
Hey K0be  You are so funny, That quote relating to violence was based off of your bus scenario. lol

Don't worry about Boon taking me from you, I am here for everyone and FYI Boon is involved in a relationship so, there you go!

Agape!

k0be:
yes dear, and I didn't mean the whole "bus hitting" scenario, it was only a wise-crack.
:oBoon is in a relationship with you but you didn't notify me?

@K0be & G-girl, you two should just snap out of this assumption galore! 

. . . did you folks had something going on before? I seem to be missing something!

Shalom

Using a knife, cut a cone out of the bottom of the onion (where the roots come out). The diameter of this cone should be about a third of the diameter of the onion, and about 1/3 deep. Take this piece and throw it away (don't put it down the disposal!). This piece contains the part/gland that makes baby Jesus and everyone else in the room cry when you're chopping it up. Once you've gotten that piece out, chop off the top, peel, and slice the onion.

Been doing it for years, and it works like a charm. You know your cone is too small if it doesn't work, because you've cut into that teargas grenade.

Cheers!


Shalom

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Inspired By Media Group, Zondervan, and West Angeles Church of God in Christ (COGIC) presented "The Bible Experience, Live!" November 15 in Los Angeles to mark the official launch of Inspired By, The Bible Experience. More than 5,000 people were in attendance for the event and the response to the program was extremely positive. It was hosted by Star Jones Reynolds, who conducted interviews during the program with Kirk Franklin, Blair Underwood, and Angela Basset. Dramatic readings were performed by Courtney B. Vance, Bassett, and Underwood as well as many others. Musical performances were given by Kirk Franklin and Marvin Winans.

Watchout for our own Pastor Paul Adefarasin as he played God.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mpAQoIuF264


This is simply awesome!

Shalom

G-girl, where are you??

Tried the cone style, it worked like magic!

Thanks poster, I can now add more onions to my recipies

'll try the salt and also the submarine methods for backup . ,


Shalom

You may want to use the get-away thread instead . . . . or send me one

Shalom

Some days back, can you recollect what was there before?

Shalom

You may want to explain the part of your post I put on bold font.

Shalom

I am grateful because I know God
I am greatful for the wonderful family (best in the world  ) in which God has placed me
I am grateful for meeting the poster on Nairaland
I am grateful because I am out of Ng for now
I am grateful because the air we breath is free and not taxed
I am grateful . . . . .  . . . . more to come

Shalom

This is "fraud" Never knew it is possible to . . .


Shalom

This is a very depressing statement to tell someone,

especially coming from someone you are intimate with

i am so depressed this morning i don't think i can work

what do you guys think?

@ Poster, if I say you are a man, would you be depressed? Of course, you will say you are not because you KNOW you are not. So, tell me why you should agree with your b/f as per being old. This means you are not even sure yourself! This is an issue of KNOWING who you are. Even the most (w)urgly (as a member put it on a thread) folks (aka atututyoyo) will still tell you that they are fearfully and wonderfully made, how much more you that without I seeing know that you are good looking. How did I know, abi? Easy - your b/f!!! Ask yourself why he is dating you?    Listen my dear, nobody and absolutely nobody can tag you "old" without your CONSENT. So, you first need to discover who you are and then move on from there, okay?

Meanwhile, get your "chicky" self to work before ya oga go label you "liability" or " persona non grata" if you lose your job on non issue like this.

Shalom

I know my husband is a Nigerian that is already in the States.

. .  . so "whiti" has no chance with you


Shalom