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Patrickyemi:
The GOAT for life. Do you know you can make money on YouTube by creating football highlights? Mention me if interested

Donjazet2:
My only question for the original poster is this;

If the man is allowed to have a side chic and sleep outside the marriage, is the woman also given that same free roam?

Because what you've outlined here seems to be one-sided and caused by financial patrimony.

I hope all women reading this understand that they must strive to be financially independent, don't let yourself or your source of money be from any man even your husband.

Love and cherish any man you have, be obidient and respectful to him but make sure you are earning in your own right. Find something legit that pays you.

Victoria938:
Mum 99k, dad 1k rest in peace mum 😭😭

KellyFORMAT:
soludo you can create your own bank for accepting old naira

247Hustler:
Suicidal thoughts and a near-dropout experience

Apart from not having any money left to buy food, I was also informed that I needed money to pay mandatory dues to department and faculty-student associations. I also realized I had to pay another fee before I could be allowed to register for General Studies (GES) courses. Back then, students were required to do both online and offline course registrations, and not completing the offline registration meant that the courses would be removed from the student online portal. To be able to complete the offline registration, students were required to show receipts for payment of student dues and GES courses. In my case, I could not pay for any of them, which meant I would not be enrolled in courses in the session.

This time coincided with the student matriculation ceremony. Matriculation was not my business because I was busy fighting for survival. So I did not attend the ceremony. About two weeks later, the deadline for course registration was announced, and students that failed to register by the deadline would automatically lose their admission. This announcement greatly disturbed me and I locked myself in the hostel and cried all day on an empty stomach. I was going to lose my admission because of about twelve thousand naira (#12,000).

I was tired and frustrated at the same time. Out of my frustration, I decided to call my guardian again to see if something could happen. I begged them to assist me in borrowing any amount even if it was ten thousand so I don’t lose my admission. They told me that there was no money and they had no place to borrow it. After I got off the call, I became suicidal and thought I should end it all since there was no hope of survival. However, on second thought, I decided to hang on to see if a miracle could happen along the line.

Finally, it was the last day of course registration and I still couldn’t find the money to register. THEN, I GAVE UP AT THIS POINT!

OhGeeBee:
Being alive to see Messi lift the world cup.
Alive to see Arsenal potentially winning the EPL after 18yrs

I look at myself and I don't think there's anything to be thankful for, maybe life but it comes with mysteries.

HedwigesMaduro:
Ronaldo would have done the "siuuuùu!!!" in his living room. His fangirls would still be celebrating the goal by now. If you realize how heartbroken they are now (to the point of being incoherent) you'll know how they would have deified Kolo Muani as their great savior and deliverer.

Kirchoffs:
Me I just Dey wonder how penaldo go take pay that him Argentine babe bride price with money way messi Dey . Ronaldo fit dump that babe sake of say messi win World Cup

Jokerman:
� #Qatar2022 top performers:

⚽ Goals - Mbappe (
�️ Assists - Griezmann, Bruno Fernandes, Kane, Perisic and Messi (3)
� Key passes - Griezmann (22)
� Tackles - Hakimi (26)
� Saves - Livakovic (24)
� Dribbles - Mbappe (25)
�️ WS Rating - Messi (8.2

#FIFAWorldCup


So Penalty can make someone now have highest ratings... no more dribbles or key passes again

Vipro:
Takefuso Kubo
Tomiyasu
Minamino

Japan are kinda blessed sha

Rozross:
See nicely made cake by a correct Nigerian babe. You are dodging sugar because of erectile dysfunction abi? �

Kastonkastroll:
RIP to her but is definitely not from my heart. Some people will say she wasn't there when slave trade was a thing then, but omo the blood of those bastards British monarchs runs in her vein. I no wan speak bad about d dead, but what the British Empire did to Africa and africans is unforgivable. The inhumanity was very barbaric. Using padlocks for person mouth so that he no go chop ur food, chains for necks and legs, and u dey still flog them. I'm sorry but some things are unforgivable.

Even the diamonds that were used to make her crown were stolen from Africa by the thieving British monarchy.

RIP to her

silverkings:
The hymns I played today messaged to me

1

We have heard the joyful sound:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!
Spread the tidings all around:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!
Bear the news to ev'ry land,
Climb the steeps and cross the waves;
Onward! 'tis our Lord's command;
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!

2
Waft it on the rolling tide:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!
Tell to sinners far and wide:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!
Sing, ye islands of the sea;
Echo back, ye ocean caves;
Earth shall keep her jubilee:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!


3

Sing above the battle strife:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!
By His death and endless life:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!
Sing it softly through the gloom,
When the heart for mercy craves;
Sing in triumph o'er the tomb:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!


4

Give the winds a mighty voice:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!
Let the nations now rejoice:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!
Shout salvation full and free,
Highest hills and deepest caves;
This our song of victory:
Jesus saves! Jesus saves!

LadyD22:
First of all ewwww disgusting
Secondly no if the man said he prefers my sister and she accepts then good for them , they deserve each other ,why would I hide my sister because of man ?? This is not a loss it's a blessing in disguise, if I hide her today what of tomorrow ? My children's aunty boya I should kuku erase her from the face of the Earth on top of prick matter , if clothe no size me I go give person wey e size , since men want to be passed around like hand me downs
My sister is not mad , she'll even be irritated at his lack of self respect and indisciplined behavior , that's if she's the same sister I've been mentoring since childhood, no sensible woman would accept to settle down with a man who does not acknowledge her relationship to her family that's if she comes from a good family or has a love for her folks

Most times what causes this is that some people's parents have informed them that marriage is the end goal and now it's a competition of who gets it first , I can't say if they have happy marital life but I know for sure that they will remember it everyday they see themselves , they'll feel guilty , insecure , they will feel threatened by the sister whom they believe they betrayed , they will have wild imaginations of what if ? What if this man changes his mind , what if there's another person

Basically most women who agree to such have low self esteem and believe marriage is a goal , they attach a lot of importance to it and therefore they jump when they see the first boat no matter where it's coming from or who was on it
How to prevent it ? Me personally I don't think I have the energy to be imagining such a funny story , my sister remains my priority before any man , she knows this much , we've suffered together , all I want for all my little ones is peace and happiness , I don't know where those 3 picked their sisters from

Gee64:
I get am. The 2 videos complete.

tutudesz:
The pastor treated you with kindness and you repaid him with death How much was in the bag

WoundedLamb:
The majority of secondary school students are below 18. You know this. You know these guys sleeping with them are wrong. Sexism will not allow you view things properly. Do you guys think treating fellow men's promiscuity with kid gloves makes you more of a man? Would you be OK with a corp member messing up your girl child in school? You guys will go to any length to defend men even for the ugliest act. A teacher messes around with a secondary entrusted to him and somehow you want to make it the responsibility of the girl child? Who should be correcting who? In what planet is sleeping with your high school students acceptable? Why not call a spade a spade?

IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no

tensazangetsu20:
Besides men can marry anytime they want even at 80. I for one want to marry at 50. 50 because they say single people regret being single at 50. I am happy being single now but if I reach 50 and don't like it I go marry then at least I go don dey see better money probably as a software architect or CTO.

bukatyne:
Just extra two minutes reading would let you know the OP said the issue cuts across races.

It is not a black woman or Nigerian woman thing.

Concepts such as 'marrying up', 'hypergamy' etc. are not Nigerian concepts.

obembet:
At 23 I got married immediately after my first degree. Had my first kid at 24, got a master's degree in my area of study, yet without a job. My ex was doing well in his business and he carried all the financial responsibilities of our home while I shoulder all the manual work; ranging from cooking, laundry, cleaning, buying groceries, making sure that every bills are paid, school runs, etc. All he does is to provide the money to carry all of those. I'm all- must -be -tidy kind of person so I made sure to maintain that.

I'll make sure I keep the house clean, prepare his favorite meals which I do by following the meal time table cos he loves three different meals for each day. Most times he will come back with a different meal to be prepared for him after I must have made dinner. This must be accompanied with fruits or nuts to crack, extract, slice and serve. As this continued I became perplex and may complain but he never listened or appreciated all my efforts.

As years come by our population increased and I begged him to buy a washing machine. This is a no go area as he believes it makes one lazy. After much begging and no compliance for about two years I stopped washing his main clothes, but washed only his inner wears. I saved some money and got myself one. He was happy I did so and gave me 25% of the amount I bought it. I later learnt that that was a bribe to start washing his clothes again. All my married life I never had a full house help. His relatives will come, stay for some time and leave. Even while they're still around I prefer to do some things myself for some reasons.

Now this is my round the clock non paid job from from year to year. I'll wake up by 4:00 am to prepare children's snacks or meal for school, wake everyone up by 5:00 am for morning prayers, bath the children and at the same time have clothes rolling in the machine while breakfast sits on fire simultaneously. By 7:15 am I'm with the children on the road to school. Keeps them at school and gets back home to continue the outstanding works. I may come back to meet ex still sleeping or brushing his teeth. I will serve breakfast, help him choose his day wear and most times look for one document or car keys.

I tried to get a teaching job which can help me continue my “rat race” at home. None of them lasted for more than four months, reasons I couldn't figure out till today cos I believe I'm very good at that.

By the time I could say “ehee, time to rest” it's already 3 to 4 pm, time to get the children back from school. Preparing dinner, helping in homework, correcting complains from teachers if there's any, bathing and feeding them. Sometimes I still find time to play and tell stories with the kids. I buy everybody's wears including ex's, especially during festive periods. I guess that's the only time I have to get new things for myself. It never bothered me cos I'm happy putting smiles in the faces of people around me. I'm always preparing home-made groceries cos I'm good at most of them.

I could remember vividly a friend advising me on improving in my outward appearance which I gave little attention to.

By the time I'll retire to bed, it's already 11 or 12:00 midnight. And so it continues.

I never received any form of appreciation; either in kind or in cash. And to worsen it all, he became so abusive; verbally, physically, emotionally and would complain and blame me in every misfortune of his life. Life was so terrible living with him. Yet, I did not complain until he pushed me out and finally left.

Most times we focus all our energy into building our homes, that is wonderful, thereby neglecting ourselves which should come first, it's not being selfish. I celebrate every member of my family every year but I was never celebrated for the thirteen years we lived together. After reading a book, “what kids need most in a mom” by a retired white nurse; Patricia Standforth, I started changing my status but things have started going sour in my marriage and I was kicked out by hubby. He got a nullification note from the church, refused me access to the children, etc. Though I'm working towards getting a civil divorce from the court.

It's been two years now and alot of people could not believe it when they meet me, as a mother of five who's so young looking, energetic and sophisticated. I've got a lot of space and time to travel, learn new things, meet new friends and recently working towards getting an MBA.

And more importantly, I wouldn't want to be seen where I was left.

Edited : Obembet

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Seun
mynd44

Mercychen:
To me, nothing really special about marriage because I've moved closely with married people and all i see is stress, stress and more stress!

Imagine the daily routine of a woman. Especially those who are not working.

Wake up early ( when youre not ready)
Prep the children for school.
Prepare their food breakfast.
If hubby is nice, he'll help drop them off otherwise, you do the school runs.

You get home and start putting the house in order. And attend to other chores staring you in the face. Time is ticking

Get ready to prepare lunch.
Then before you know it, it's time to go pick the kids.
Come back, freshen them up.
Serve them
Attend to their home work.

The you get set for dinner so hubby can have something to eat when he gets home. Before you know it, the day is gone and you're fagged out. Same thing continues tomorrow and on and on until....

Imagine if you're a working Mom and now have to combine all these with work...

Now tell me what will make a single viewing all these want to get married?

Truth be told, that's another thing I calculate and i relax and continue enjoying my single life.

Many married women are not happy. They are silently crying!!!
Forget all that fake smile they wear when they come out. They are not happy

Even the men are not 100% fulfilled. Responsibility wan break their neck.

Let's tell ourselves the truth. Even if you're rich, it's still not that easy.

I've seen a rich couple who both drove madly to school at the same time to pick their ward and were reigning heavy curses at each other at the gate because they both argued earlier on who's going to pick the son. So it's like non of them wanted to come and it was already evening and the boy was still in school.

I guess they called the house and the nanny who was babysitting their twin babies then, told them the boy was not home.

Omor.. see the speed they drove into the school compound with. Wify packed one side, hubby parked the other way and they both jumped out of their cars rushing Into the school and abusing each other.

Wife : " You shouldn't have come" useless man" As she stormed into the classroom

Man: ori e ko pe. why did you come? You should have remained at work"

Hmmm... So much hype about marriage. Abegi!

mariahAngel:
OK. There's this one that occurred to me: If you find someone in an unpleasant situation, imagine yourself in that situation and do for that person (as much as you can) what you would want to be done for you if you were in that situation.
Give/do to others what you would want from others.

pigineng:
I find it difficult and impossible to urinate in public rest rooms, and in the presence of anybody no matter how pressed I am.

maureensylvia:
Hahahaha I don't blame him though
I was on shorts

Moz22:
God forbid bad thing.. ti ewure baa boju weyin, áfepe felepe

Righteousness2:
Listen,
Abortion is evil!
Abortion is Wickedness
Abortion is Murder!

The Doctor performing the abortion, the person that provided the funds for the abortion and the lady that donated herself for abortion are all Murderers.

Telegram234:
Baba must they explain everything to u..

DropsMic:
1. Throwing the word brother, forever and blood....loosely etc.


I F *cking hate it when people refer to me as BLOOD

josh123:
if u want him to notice u, have money first. Pussy is cheap he can get it from anywhere. Be rich......

seunny4lif:

Werey

My problem no be the prophet and his prophecy but that yeye interpreter, that was shouting like a mad man
The interpreter was so sure about the prophecy than the prophet self