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hopefulLandlord:
you can't know because there's no difference. I came to this conclusion when I asked Christians to tell me what observable tragedy can only befall someone who God has abandoned and Christians couldn't give an answer. here's the thread https://www.nairaland.com/4473432/god-never-abandons-people#67053665

it's the peace of God.HE said"my peace will I give unto you not as the world giveth"

LadyRosa:
Wow! MY Bad.
Since she didn't say anything positive about him then I advice you stay away from her. But, you're not supposed to confront her, I think that's childish. Again, you should have a mind of your own in decision making as not all advice must be taken into consideration.

When a friend tells you a guy is bad, the onions is on you to do a background check to see if truly the person is bad. I have come to understand that sometimes extraordinary folks are painted black and that is the more reason I hardly go with the flow. I'm always interested in people, many people rejected because I would want to unrevel the mystery surrounding them to see what others claim they saw. In several of my findings, I understand it's just human error and envy. It's Normal to throw stones on trees with ripe fruits. And Envy and backbiting has its headquarters in Nigeria.

Don't be too close to her, but let it slide. MOST importantly Do not reveal your paroles to her.

you don't talk like a lady.I like your wisdom.you are the kind of lady I will like to marry.i don't want to marry someone who is a lady(with a lady's mindset).
Your kind is rare

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laughitall:
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Prettylima:
Very decent couples i tap into this blessing.

we can make this happen

Neverwill:
bros you know when you are under a lot of pressure na. Normally the act disgust me even tho I'm learned enough not to judge anyone. I just feel so dirty. Babe Knows something is off with me, I'm in the seating room here just so filled with guilt. We promised never to hide anything from each other, I have never cheated on her with a woman and this. I have brushed my teeth More than 20 times, have had a bath since Wednesday more than 10 times even twice this morning but I still feel dirty and guilty

even if you brush your teeth 114 times a day and bath 76 Times a day,u will still feel guilty.

Confess to God and ask for his forgiveness
Confess to your wife not to your kids and ask for her forgiveness also.

And also forgive yourself

These three things will restore your peace of mind ASAP

Mustiboy:
Exactly.

I spoke with a mother some time last year, and what she said shocked me. She said she wouldn't mind her kids doing internet fraud as long as it brings them money. She said, after all, they are only helping Nigeria to collect back the wealth our colonial masters stole from us. Such disgusting mentality.


I wonder what parents teach their kids these days, no morals whatsoever. Have you noticed how kids just walk by you these days and don't greet? I personally don't mind that as the greetings don't feed me; however, it makes me reminisce the times when we greeted every elderly person we came by, not minding if we encountered as many as 20 before getting to our destinations. We never got tired of greeting. Up till now, I'll greet you as long as you're older.


All in all, I still feel the sitting room is the right place parents can leverage to instill manners into their kids. Let siblibgs bond together and spread love. I've seen brothers and sisters who hate each other's guts, and I believe it's their parents who failed to help them bond.

especially the girls,they won't open that their dirty mouth to greet.i don't mind I they greet or they don't,but it's not just right.


P.s-God bless you for this post.when I start having kids,their phones shouldn't be their boss

Righteousness2:
Calm Down bro..
According to you, she changed after Pregnancy.
Just see it like the things that come with pregnancy. Some ladies could be very unbecoming when they are pregnant.
So stay calm and do the best you can.

pls sir,are you righteousness89?

larryking540:
y reject a food ,it's better u take one spoon and act okay or filled up than reject the whole pot ,

oga,u never chop some food wey you no go fit swallow before �

Mustiboy:
The see finish that day was unbearable. It started when I refused to eat the food she offered. She got angry and was talking anyhow. I got angry too, and she insulted me in front of everyone. That was how i took my leave.
I got home and she was apologizing blah blah.


As for why I changed my mind, I pitied her when she was crying. Obviously, I still loved her.

I think rejecting a lady's food is one of the greatest thing that annoys her.i can relate

TripleDdotcom:
For as long as humanity will not go through the PROPER means to navigate the affairs of their life, they will continue to fall in calamities as a consequence of them not going through the proper channel.

Now in your case, what's proper??

A man sees a woman he likes, they court each other, finding out about each other's qualities and see if they are fine with them.

They must ask each other important questions and know all what's vital to be known about their prospective partner.

If they are fine with each other, AND they are now ready for the next step, they now introduce the family members.

The family members, especially the elders, will use their wisdom to assess the candidate to see if there's something that their son or daughter could have missed from the candidate as a result of them being blinded by love or because of inexperience and naivety.

Another importance of introducing the family members is that it sets everything in motion with a serious impression and outlook.

for example, if a man toasts a woman and tells him he wants to marry her, they've courted and the woman likes him, if she tells him to come see her family, this will instill the impression of seriousness in him or will expose his intentions. If he has sinister motives in mind and isn't serious about marrying the girl, it'll reflect in the way he responds to that request.

Now if all the family members are involved and matters have been settled, they now marry each other. then they will feel at ease sharing their assets or possessions (sex, money, properties) with each other cause of the bond that has now binded them together.

That's the proper channel. But humanity will go through improper channels and rush things with themselves these days, giving out their possessions to people that have not proven to worth it yet and they will start crying when the consequences arrives.

This proper channel may not guarantee that there'll be no problems 100 percent of the time but its waaay more credible and safe than not doing it.

And the wisdom in what I've said reflects in your life already. Just for you to know I'm telling the truth.

You gave out yourself to your first man, had two children with him and now he's not ready to marry you. You have now become a single mother, striving to foot all the responsibilities all because you gave yourself and your intimate commitments away too early to someone who doesn't deserve it.

Let this serve as a lesson for you. Don't let love or emotions blind you. If you meet a man that's not showing any commitment to you and is asking things from you too early and is seeming to hide some vital information you should know from you, jilt him and Block him!!!

If you don't heed daddy's advice (meaning me) And you get hurt, don't come and cry to daddy (me) about it.

God guide and help you to do things properly oo..







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By the way, please check my signature and patronize us for your data. Na beg I dey beg.Thanks

u av said it all sir.i love your post especially that daddy aspect

tunjilee003:
damn! bro slawomir is highly educated....

I noticed that too

MejiLoyon:
Who sleeps in an ashawo house? Oga nack your nack waka. One of my men that time obinna like ashawo house die. He is very shy. Even to calling ashawos. Na me dey do front. Plus he dey buy me free beer so I dey follow am go. Obinna go say he like that one...I go call her. He go nack pay come continue him beer. After sometime preeq go rise again. He go say make I call another one. Before the night obinna go nack like three. In a week he or two he don go through the hotel. Na to find another ashawo house again. Obinna na ashawo map. Every ashawo house for Akure he know am. Even obow street he don run am. Yes obow street na name of street O.
I see ashawos as cum buckets. This one nack that one nack everybody nack. Them dey find the LCM of preeqs. Funny part be say na married men dey full there. Because madam for house don lock yansh

nigga,you Sabi OBO Street in arakale.almost all the houses there is a brothel

mansakhalifa:
Did you play Splinter Cell (mobile version) and Gangstar?

guy u no go die Young.splinter cell on Sony Erickson phone na like sey u dey heaven.

the game too look real.av been trying to remember the name since.thanks to you

blinking001:
In life never choose your wife over your family and never choose your family over your wife..

this is so simple and true.hmmmm.i didn't get it at first but on a second look.it became clear.

thanks for this sir

Mrshape:
Yes it can work .
But why reduce 50% of the student mark on that question when the student did exactly what the textbook you prescribed for them did.
I am writing back to the teacher.

what if the taecher has instructed them in class to always eliminate twice

BigSarah:
Humans are going to Mars to turn it to a shit show like they did with Earth...
This discovery of Mars is making religious statements(there's only heaven and earth) appear silly.

ma'am,it's in the Bible that God created heavenly bodies

yomi007k:
1.I don't get into arguement with anyone even if I am right, I try not to lose my senses becos my anger can be dangerous and I am glad I have been controlling it.

2.I know that many people are frustrated so that makes me know how to deal/relate with people properly.

3. I know that Africa/Nigeria will not get better so i drew up my contingency plans.

4. I dropped 7 cardinal sins.

5. I obey 10 commandments.

6. I drink lots of fluid, organic drinks, fruits and vegetables. Practice intermittent fasting and exercise daily.

7. I read wide far beyond my job scope.

Etc.

and what are the seven cardinal sins

Tony142:
No mind them

but,are you a teacher? just asking though

Tony142:
it seems education is your problem in life, go to any big market around you and see crowds everywhere, I was in church on Sunday yesterday, church was full of people everwhere, why do not you people complain about market?...because you do not want hunger to kill you abi? or why do not you people complain about church?..because you are afraid God will send you to hell fire if u did not worship him abi?



The same Government that shut down school is asking people to go and do their national identity number and link it to their Sim card, let me ask u have u being to NIN office? go there and see the crowds of people trying to do their National identity card



u people will not talk of market, church, NIN office, international border that is open, clubs e.t.c na only school ona see to talk about #nonsense



The problem of Nigeria is not covid19 but hunger, insecurity and poverty


people die by accident, people die by electric shock, some sleep and dey did not wake up, just like the way people die by road accident so also there are over 1 million ways to die and covid19 is just one of them


we cannot run away from covid19, we can only learn to live with it and manage it like the way we manage malaria, HIV, cancer, sickle cell e.t.c

guy,you made my day. God bless you sir.
dey no wan use eye see school.why

CalliDora1:
And You're here saying it as in a 3 year old is stronger than you or too big you can't control or make him take instructions from you any longer?

Who allowed it in the first place?

Somebody you should give his size and ground him from watching TV for weeks, you're here sounding defeated. If you cant control him now, I wonder when hes now a teenager what you'll do.

Turn on the tv station you want to watch. If he starts to react, give him a Stern look and if he doesn't behave, get the cane and whip his ass real hard. Yes hard because he seems to have grown tougher than you. So you need to break him down. I know you'll think I want you to kill your child. No! Just a strict dicipline to reset his brain otherwise, like you said, it will affect his academic performance and once that happens at the foundational stage, you might never get it right again.

In my years of experience as a teacher, I've observed that the slow leaners are the ones who are always glued to the TV. During class sessions, they won't respond but during break period you need to see them downloading all they saw in the cartoon movie with demonstrations too and you'll be like so this child can be this active and expressive... Only in the wrong things and not in their studies. Im talking about up to basic 5 level.

Yesterday, some of my basic 5 students were like, "miss J, this question is too difficult" during exams. And I was like, move to the next question then. And these are very cheap questions I set out of pity. If they studied instead of watching cartoons, they probably will not have difficulty answering those questions.

What I'm trying to bring out here is.. children naturally dont want to do the right thing any longer and if you allow them, you'll be the one to bear the brunt in the end.

God bless you ma'am,we need more of you in our schools

bizme:
Many times the fact that your children comply with your expectations after flogging doesn't mean you have achieved the goal of parenting. Many times it means we have bullied them into submission. Just like many kids would obey a bully in school, not out of reference or understanding, but out of primal fear.

Have you wondered why many children from strict upbringing mess up big time the first time they get to higher institution where no parents are to police them with flogging?

Children are children. They have an independent mind, and it is okay to cultivate communicating with them and even seek other options for exerting discipline like denying them of something they so much desire. Being children, there are many forms this could take.

If we are being objective, most of the flogging of children taking place around involve a scary dose of undisciplined temper on the part of the parent/teacher. Together with so much verbal abuses from them. The same with teachers in school: you explain something to your pupils which they don't understand. Rather than seek ways to communicate effectively, you start caning them blue black as though the process of caning would magically impart understanding.

I am not sure many people had the kind of flogging I had growing up, both at home and in school. It was almost literally a daily phenomenon. All of them out of anger. Yes, I have turned out marvelously well, but that's more in spite of those floggings rather than because of them. I plainly became immune to the beating, and very adept at hiding my terrible deeds. Last year when I told my mum some of those things I had been involved with as a teenager and living away from home, she almost held her head out of fear thanking God that I had survived them. Unfortunately, both of them have destroyed any semblance of friendship that should have existed between us as parents and children.

Our parents should learn to communicate with mouth rather than sticks.

sir,I think you are wrong on this.yorubas will say"ti a ba fi owo otun ba omo wi,aa fi tosi faa mora".
Meaning,after scolding a child by flogging or verbally,we should bring them closer to us by showing them love.
I think where many parents got it wrong on that .they flog only without making the child see where he/she was wrong and why they flogged them whilst assuring the kids that you love them and would never flog them again if they did the" right thing".
That would make the child to realize that his or her parent did not flog him or her out of anger,but out of parental love.
Having said that,I would like to correct ur second statement.i am a maths teacher in the school I teach,and students failed my subject woefully.why because most times when I will be in their class explaining,they would be busy doing one thing or the other.i would leave them alone and continue teaching after warning them severally due to the fact that there is a no flogging policy where I teach.



So with these few points of mine,I think I have been able to convince you that flogging a child is better than verbal treatment.thank you.:-�

maak400:
1. My family is hale and hearty. 2. My sister got married and is living comfortably in her matrimonial home.

whaoh,am so happy for her
























but how did you know

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
I hate ludo game
It is more of a game of luck than perfection

Real niggarrrrs don't rely on luck
They create their own luck by mastering the game

that yeye game?na women they play am.real men play draught where you can never win by chance

crackhaus:
Some elements of your story OP are not tying up properly for me...


1. Your niece is bold enough to invite her boyfriend over to your house without prior notice.
2. She's also bold enough to introduce him as her boyfriend to your face.
3. And then the ultimate display of boldness was to lead him to her bedroom where they spent three hours.

How? Why?

Na wah oo...
It feels as if you're the visitor in that house and she's the owner, because that's the only way any of this will make sense.

Okay let's go with it for a minute and assume this is all for real, why is your wife stopping you from talking?
You have a right to be upset, you have a right to lash out... this is not something you should be afraid to step on toes for.

As a matter of fact, it is YOUR duty to call your niece to order... NOT your wife's duty.
The girl is your niece, your own relative...
Whatever you do to reprimand her will be taken more lightly since you're her uncle by blood. Don't even let your wife be the one to chook mouth because the niece can go report her and twist it to make your wife appear like the bad person.

Just imagine, she say she want to counsel her gently... Lol
Pikin wey nor get respect for her host family.
You should drag her ears well well sef, I'm sure her parents will thank you for it.

you make sense sir

MEGA4BILLION:
I see contentment while insatiable people are running their mouth.

My simple advise:
take your marriage life off social media or else sons and daughters of Jezebel will scatter it for you.

true that,going through the comment can make the lady think or act otherwise.


Yoruba proverb comes to mind.Ti is eni ba ta,eeyan ma a n dawo bo oo je ni

CalliDora1:
This is gbogbo ile "cleaner'.. it served everyone in the class back then.

that's not the cleaner we used in my primary Skul days.do you remember the cleaners that they will draw pictures on

YourBestWriter:
You mentioned all of these, and you forgot to mention Macmillan textbook primary one to six.

I can remember a few of the book's main characters: Edet (primary 3), Agbo (primary 4) Ali and simbi (primary 1 and 2), Omo (primary 5). Not to forget the story of a boy that played dead not to be eaten by wild pig. Lovely stories; I loved Edet's stories because of the adventures.

That book really helped my English.

his friend climbed the tree and was surprised his friend did not die after the pig grunted in his ear.

CalliDora1:
It wasn't called "pick pin" during our time. It was called "stool down".

it's true .

Beverlyjean:
Its ur useless father thats a fraud...infact Ronaldo will use money to turn to to his toilet cleaner fir the rest of his life....one naira no de ur account but u have mouth to talk

having said this,I will never argue with Ronaldo fans again