Marriage

IbeOkehie:


https://www.google.com/search?q=CRIME+STATS+BY+RACE&rlz=1C1NDCM_enUS837US837&oq=CRIME+STATS+BY+RACE&aqs=chrome..69i57j0i512l3j0i390l2.4047j0j4&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Hope you know that they arrest blacks first before asking questions?

bepositive11:


You need to learn how to see things from their perspective. While you're thinking "they're racist", they're thinking "it's better safe than sorry"

We can't deny the fact that Africans, Nigerians especially, have made a bad name for themselves. If we want people to feel safe with us, we need to start working on our reputation

oga travel more better still, read more. Western media has brainwashed you. People that commit crimes most aren’t black.

bepositive11:


I think we need to be honest with ourselves here. Nigerians are well known for making a bad name for themselves. We are well known around the world for fraud. Unfortunately, the innocent ones end up paying a price

How can they differentiate between the Nigerians who are genuine, honest, and kind and the Nigerians who are liars, fraudsters, and thieves?

I honestly don't blame them for being afraid. Even us Nigerians, we are sometimes suspicious of the intentions of our fellow Nigerians

keep quiet. They don’t even know if you are a Nigerian or not. They are running away cause of your color. Not every black is Nigerian.

What would happen to the West of Russia teams up with China and they decide to form their own world power. Well let’s continue observing Africa

FavourWrites:


Vascular dementia is for old people with multiple strokes, right?

But I'm still a nineteen-year-old girl.

young people have also been diagnosed with dementia

FavourWrites:
Please help me Nairalander! Do I have a medical problem? Why do I forget things a lot?

Here’s the thing, I am someone who forgets things a lot. This may not sound like a big deal to you, but this problem is ruining the relationship I have with people.

There’ll be times when my friends would call telling me to do stuff for them, and the next day when we meet and they ask for the feedback, I’ll be there looking stupid because I didn’t remember them calling me at all. This is a problem because most times they think I faking the fact that I failed to remember.

I’ll be nineteen in a few months but I’m seriously worried for myself. I’m the kind of person who buys about three PEN every single day because I always forget where I dropped the last ones.

Don’t get me wrong, I do well in school, I currently have a 4.8 CGPA. The things I’m taught in school always seem to stick in my head, but every other thing doesn’t.

I have lost a lot of valuable friends because of this. Yes! It’s that bad.

There was a time I had a huge quarrel with a toxic friend, we ended up breaking up our friendship. But when the next semester began, I started wondering why she wasn’t talking to me. I tried approaching her but she ignored me.

I didn’t understand her behavior until the day I was flipping through my diary where I read that I had quarreled with her.

Please, I need help! My mum complains a lot about my behavior! Do I have a medical condition?

This problem is so bad that I had to buy a bracelet that connects my phone to my hand because I have lost count of how many times my phone slipped out of my hands.
If not for the sound that my phone makes when it hits the floor, I never would have known that it slipped off my hands.

I can’t write all of the experiences I’ve had, but please I need help! I’m tired of carrying a book Jotter/planner around, and I’m tired of setting an alarm for something small like “TAKE THE CUP BACK TO THE KITCHEN".

HELP ME!

This could be early onset of dementia

Pascopele:

Firstly you are human and have needs,
Secondly, why leave your wife abroad and stay here alone, It quite dangerous
Thirdly, is it forbidden to marry more than one wife

hope you know the wife has needs too, so is she allowed to cheat?

engrrichie92:
I'm a tech bro, I currently do 1.5M Monthly in Nigeria and I just got a job offer last month in the UK for 4K pounds monthly(after tax)

My guys there be complaining about bills and how hard it is to save and all over there

So, If you were me, which would you pick and why?

Modified: will also like to hear from those in the UK; what do you think guys?...Now that you know how it is over there, what would you advice?

@lalasticlala...please help push to front page for more engagements

if you are earning that well in the UK and you won’t stay in an expensive area like London, please go abeg to UK

Corrupt and misogynistic agency

This is a threat

Amotolongbo:

Dear Tacha,

A man is a man and will never become a perfect woman even after trans...
A woman is a woman and can never become a perfect man.

If i am in your shoes, I will prefer to work so hard on myself to become a perfect woman to complement an inperfect or perfect man (anyone I’m fortunate to marry) to build a perfect home and raise perfect children

That’s why you are not in her shoes

olamoses75:
if she's a good woman, she won't have a fling with another guy. A good woman respect her body and her lover. Maybe you've a special definition for "good".

who is a good man?

od501:


I'm soo... done with bitter women like you. I pity that Simp that will fall for your trap

suddenly I am bitter cause I said a man should no reap where he didn’t sow? I am not married to fraudsters or incompetence

od501:


I can understand your frustration , you sound like another conquered feminist that has been seriously dealt with by an alpha male. It's good news, that means that Nigerian men are finally waking up .

Anyways, did you read where the Op said that she ran aways with the child, and was seriously humiliated by the wife's family? I doubt you did. Frustration has beclowded your sense of comprehension. Nigerian gals, be reasoning like expired Zobo since 1090 BC

She ran away with his child and for 24years he didn’t see him? Una dey ment. So you took that hook line and sinker. Smh. Everything you can’t accept, you begin to claim feminist. Oga shift, una two fit una sef

seunsiju:

Bro, is not about money, my parent can take care of it, but the ting be say , i alrady have a son last year with another girl, the biy sef never reach a year old, both him and his mom are staying with my parent, then this happen again, how will i explain this to my parent

the same way you explained to us

od501:


.... women!! I no dey pity who dey oppress una at all.... una mind are wickedly distorted.

So... since it is right to call a man who impregnated a woman a sperm donor, is it right to then now call the woman who gave birth to the child a worm donor. At least, for the sake of equity.

This is why I will always regard FFK as an alpha make. Women don't deserve pity.

A man that abandoned his child for 24years only to seek him out because he doesn’t have another son and is dying is a what? You uselesss Nigerian men would be supporting bad behaviour.

od501:


Because he is the father. Isn't that more than enough reason?

no, he is a sperm donor who is only looking for his son because he has been unfortunate not to have another one.

golbe1972:
With deep pain in my heart I'm crying out for justice and help from all those who can help me locate my son .

The last time I saw my son was when he was two years old before the mother eloped with him. His name is Nelson Raymond but I heard they've changed his name to ADEWALE.

The woman in question is from a popular Kotun family in Lagos. I was literally slap on the face due to my financial incapability. The woman's name is RONKE KOTUN, heard she's married to one Mohammed.

I was deprived access to my son because I'm not a Muslim and she thought I would influence the boy from turning away from Islam if I should be in his life. The last time I managed to get her contact she boasted that I'm nobody in Lagos and can't take her anywhere. I contacted the Justice court for mediation but we couldn't locate her to serve her an invitation.

Please I'm using this medium to reach out to anyone with useful information on how to track her. I contacted a family member of hers who claimed he doesn't know where she lives, yet he kept collecting money from me under the pretence of helping to locate my son.

It's really depressing as this is my only child and I'm not getting any younger and with underlining medical conditions which makes me think I might never see my son again before my time comes.

Please this is a plea of a helpless man seeking for justice.

lol, you are only looking for him because he is your only son. May God keep him away from you. Wicked man

eniolorunfe:


The bolded is the reason why he is saying those things to your mother… that you are nagging, don’t give him peace etc etc

You need to work on that flaw and learn to master your emotions. It’s not about pretending, it’s about wisdom and understanding the “art” of being a woman and where your strength lies.

Do you have to pick his calls? Even if he’s calling to act like everything is normal; you not picking his calls will send a clear message to him that there are issues that need to be discussed and would allow him miss you. Hopefully that “space” will remind him of how valuable you are to him.

Even when you start working, do you just blurt things out to your coworkers or even boss because you don’t know how to pretend? There is an art to these things or else you would have to be changing jobs over and over again.

Like I said, self development is good but you don’t have to lose your marriage to achieve this.

hope this is the same advice you’d give if the roles were reversed. A man left his home because of an outsider and it’s the victim you people are blaming? Let him marry the babe na

Brownygold002:
. I told them already, dad said I should be patient dah it's normal. Mom is mute. M just confused and tired.

they are mute. Are they waiting for something to happen to you? Nawa for parents o

Islie:


https://thenationonlineng.net/10-reasons-why-your-husband-may-be-cheating-on-you/

Hope women are justified by this too?

babyfaceafrica:
not everybody loves social media, what's special there abeg free the guy!!

make una dey divorce cause of social media na, na una go tire

Explorers:
Portable Hair Dryer, 1940s.

we have this now

eldoradoxx:
Leave your brother to peacefully divorce his wife. You have described him as a person with impeccable character and attributes which sits very well with me. One thing you learn about people like him is that they live by rules and standards, once its over for them, its over and nobody can stop them. It takes discipline to be like him and he will apply is rigid disciplinary standards to his divorce as well so stop disturbing yourself, he won't shift grounds. Women should learn the kind of husbands they have before attempting any rubbish. It is faster to get divorced by a decent man than any other brand of men.

Every little thing, divorce are you people married? Social media advisers

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Same thing I warned my wife about.

Anyday she tries such rubbish, she's a gonna.

Then you become a serial divorcee, since you lack emotional intelligence ad the ability to stay in marriage

youmour:
I remember a friend who posted her husband picture on IG after so many years of marriage and not posting,only on the first day the marriage cast, apparently baba is a serial cheat.

Abi o, like why is he running from the media, does he have outside wives and kids

Genesiszero:

She developed it suddenly, her counsel of friends are the internet type......
And some people can be extroverted in real life and quite in the internet

he probably alienated her from her friends. Secondly, marriage is full of ups and downs, this is not a strong reason to divorce abeg. The court will throw the case out. Adults acting as children

GoodHardDick:
Educated ladies are arrogant, disrespectful and full of pride. They hardly submit to a man unlike an uneducated lady who's just the opposite.

what does submission mean to you? Modern day slavery?

Noah9:
Sir, she did not tell me her reasons,
how would I know, when I'm not a witch.

I'm also sure it's because of that incident, that's why her parents are acting up. She might as well add some lies.. Who knows.

Seriously I'm so depressed.

you are not remorseful. You have a daughter, imagine she came home and related her husband did the same to her, how would you react? I pray this never happens to me, if not the marriage is dead. Because of the population of low self esteem ladies, you people now think a woman life revolves around a man. I would rather live alone than stay with a monster. Follow the advice from your fellow abusers, I am glad she left.

OlawaleBammie:
ahh, gender has many to do oh, female normally have it easier

so you think I have it easier? No one has it easier. I am the only one amongst my siblings doing great, so I have to help out where I can

lecturer50:
A 27 year old divorced woman with 3 kids came to me to borrow N20,000 to add and pay house rent.

I told her I would give her money in a few weeks time when I get the money.

Last week, she came back from her nursery school teaching job and right from the door of my room, she started shouting " I cannot sell my body for money"

I asked her what happened and she claimed men wanted to sleep with her to give her the N20,000.

I consoled her and told her that some men like giving women such condition before they can help the women.

She answered that if I am among such men who sleep with women before helping them, I should tell her so she could forget about coming to me.

I said that I am not among such men and that I would give her the money when I get it.

She thanked me and left.

I have a male neighbor whom the woman has been having sex with. It was the male neighbor who advised her to come to me because he is not working.

That my male neighbor started giving me attitude. He answered my greetings grudgingly.

I wanted to stop greeting him.

But then I observed that my next yard female neighbors also did the same. They stopped answering my greetings. That divorced woman is living with/near those female neighbors. Other males around were still friendly with me, except my next door male neighbor whom the woman has been having sex with.

So i asked my male neighbor what the problem was because he and the females around were giving me attitude.

He said nothing at first.

Later, he said in a friendly manner that I should have respected myself and not asked the woman for sex, because when he started having sex with the woman, it was she who initiated the move, and not him.

He opened up to me that the woman has been telling people that I wanted to sleep with her for the money.

I was so shocked and ran to go and meet the woman, but he held me and said that the woman strongly warned him not to confront me if he wanted her to continue visiting him.

I told him the true situation of things and he said I should forget everything because she is "just a woman".

I wasn't having any of this, so I confronted her in the front of her female friends in her room.

She answered that she believed we misunderstood ourselves. She said am I not a man? Why must what I heard bother me.

Some males around said I should forget it because the society has given women weapon against men which is rape/sexual assault allegations, because even if women are lying against men, people would still believe the women.

They said that the best a man should do is to hope he is not falsely accused by a woman because there is nothing he can say that anyone would believe him.

Because the society believes a man always wants to have sex with every woman, therefore every accusation from women would be immediately believed.

I answered them that even if a person is a chronic thief who is well known as a thief, he would not keep quiet and just accept it when he is accused of stealing what he did not steal. He would shout and defend himself.

At least let them accused him of what he stole and not what he didn't steal.

They say I am a man and it is nothing to a man if a woman accused him of wanting to sleep with her. One girl there was telling me that there was nothing wrong in a man wanting to sleep with any woman. That there is nothing to be ashamed of as a man, if you have a desire to sleep with any woman.

Can you imagine that?

I believe the society should form a group to cater for men also.

So many black men were falsely accused by white women and were killed because no one cares for the male gender. You cannot just accept false accusations because you believe it is nothing since you are a man. What if you end up losing your life, freedom or happiness because of it?

Men are so ashamed to rise up and defend the male gender. But women always group together to defend a woman who is abused by a man.

Men would rather defend the female gender.

But know that if you are ashamed to defend a follow man against a woman who wants to destroy him, when your time comes, no one would defend you.

What goes around comes around.

Don't think that you are safe when other men are not safe.

Don't think that if a woman accused a man falsely and the man is being imprisoned or killed, that you cannot be a victim tommorow.

If you like abuse me.

Never ever allow your female neighbor to enter your apartment. Secondly, let your dealing be made public or better still through texts so that you can have receipts