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olabrad:Educate yourself please, and know that the truth will set you free, and liars end up in jail.
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teemy:No it doesn't. Just as he is not so stupid to call the police and accuse me of theft because I took 10 francs out of his pocket, so is he not stupid to claim I raped him because I got sexual with him without "prior notification plus consent". We wouldn't have married if he was that stupid, and the police and court he takes that stupid accusation to is not stupid neither. If I however beat my husband over the head with a pestle to knock him out and tie him up to restrain him and then "got sexual" with him all without "prior notification plus consent", I'm very certain my ass will end up in jail for a considerable amount of time, and not only for spousal rape, but for battering and abuse too. But I don't think he'd have married me if I were psycho like that. |
Natbrowny:No, the men are lousy and not marriageable, and are only good for temporary hook up And yes, it might be because "the quality men refused to date them coz the ladies don't show/have good traits", so the women just hook up just like men do booty call. Quality is like beauty, it's in the eye of it's seeker. And many do find the quality they want or can settle for, which is why very many women and men do marry. |
Luckysbab:The thing most of you don't quite get is in the following, and especially the italics: The proposed law also makes it impossible to use lack of sexual relations as an argument in fault-based divorce. Most of you don't know what "fault-based divorce" is and the consequences of it, and that it applies to both genders. And you can't be bothered to research it, which just shows a serious lack of brain use and is rather pathetically sad. Of course a person can divorce their partner, including a wife (or husband) who refuses him him (or her) conjugal relations for any length of time. You can always go to court and say you don't want to be married to that person anymore and divorce. You can even claim it's because of refusal of conjugal relations. What you can't do is claim it's their fault, because that has certain consequences, and that consequence is all that France is removing here. |
cr7lomo:It is not because white man says, but because it's the wise thing to do to treat both genders equally. |
Many women do hookup because there are not enough quality men to date. I can order you on uber man and kick your ass out when done.
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Dtruthspeaker:Sorry dt, but the bold sounds like 'who square root help', and you already know my view on that. |
SpaceX:That's your opinion and choice. When a good woman finds a good man who respects and regards her, they might marry because they benefit each other, is my opinion. |
Luckysbab:It's a bill that already existed for years where I live, and backward France is just catching up due to recent happenings. |
ono:Except that I live in the very real world where quite a lot of bad things have happened to me and a lot has gone very wrong with my plans, which are not as tight as you think because reality does not work the way you seem to imagine. I'm just not willing to add to those bad things by ignorantly marrying a person who does not respect and value me, because that's like making very bad plans, and that's just plain stupid, though not the end of the world since divorce is an option. As for your, "prepared for the unexpected", you must forgive me for not, especially if you mean bad things where marriage is concerned, because I'm far too focused on the good things I can make happen. That said though, I do have house insurance in case my house burns down. |
zagorakis:I am Nigerian. Both my parents are from the Orolu Kingdom of Ifon Osun, my hometown. I grew up in Lagos to my very early 20s, though my first 7 years were elsewhere. And I travel the world to educate myself instead of ignorantly thinking Nigeria is the world. And yes, there are very lovely men in Nigeria. My wonderful amazing loving father who rests in peace was one. He didn't have to take care of my mother however, because she is a very powerful woman who can take care of herself, so they put their resources together to take care and bring up very powerful children like me who don't need to beg anyone for anything because we can get off our asses and sweat from our own brows for what we want. So when you say what you think a Nigerian man means when he says "street", it is what Nigerian man you says, and not what every Nigerian man says. And nor does every Nigerian man or woman "go back to the dating pool, which comes with "whoring", because some actually stay married all their lives without whoring. In my hometown we say, n'kan ti ẹyẹ ba gbe jẹ ni gbe fo. Translated is, 'what the bird swallows is what it flies with'. It means, you do what you are taught. If you are taught to "go back to the dating pool, which comes with "whoring", then that's what you will do. And if you are taught to respect your partner and treat them with love and regard and respect, you'd do that. Now yes, there are lots of "women out there doing very well for themselves and are still single craving If you do have value, and I don't mean in your pants or your wallet, but in your heart and in your brain, a sensible woman would never let you go, and would likely treat you like a king. But without value, be lucky if you are ordered for the night, here's money for taxi when I'm done with you, please get out! Seriously, I feel for you boys. The world is changing fast around you but you want to live in 1826 instead of upping your game so you have value in 2026! It's sad! |
drsibz66:You are funny. Yes, I have sons. And I have educated them to respect and love their wives, whom they have wisely chosen. And the one thing they will never ever say is "You just another woman", because I brought them up to be loving and caring and respectful of other human beings regardless of gender, race, colour, tribe etc etc etc, so its unlikely their wives will wake up one day and yell rape and divorce. But if they do divorce, they very likely wouldn't lose all their life work because their wives have jobs too, and earn considerable incomes. And the law where they live might even give the children to my sons and tell her to pay him instead. Unlike some you see, they married their equal, and not some poor uneducated girl from some village that they can exploit. |
Murketeer:Seriously? How about he loves her and she loves him and they both want to sleep with one another to express their love for each other? Or do you think people who love one another fear being accused of rape in the morning? Dude please! Would you say I love you if I fuq you whenever I want to and even if you are not in the mood? |
Murketeer:Good for you. Did you go through my own posts to see my own opinion on the matter? Go on. Show me you can. Read my own opinion and then quote me when you are done, because it just might happen that you might be the amazing wonderful caring considerate African man that I can not ever resist being made love to night and day and twice in the afternoon. |
lailo:That "organisation with structure" you mention was a human, man specifically, organised structure. And those men didn't even bother consulting the women whom they structured to not even educate. But time has passed, and the world and the structure has evolved so that women go to school to learn to organise the structure so you men can't so easily oppress us anymore. So I suggest you evolve into the new organised structure or go and get an uneducated girl from your village that you can oppress. I'm not her. And please, if and when you do marry and happen to have daughters, I beg you not to organise to structure them to think they must be bed slaves to any man, because she deserves better, and you deserve better from your empowered children.
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Peterlove11:If they hadn't evolved, they surely would have died, or at least be like some third world country that places a low value on half its population. For your information in case you don't know. When Europe were exporting their Bible to Africa, they were abandoning ignorant beliefs and were advancing into the knowledgeable age of enlightenment, and it pains me to see that some are still in the darkness they promoted to you. |
Kukutente23:So you now have stooped so low that you have to insult my loving caring considerate African father who treated my amazing wonderful loving African mother like the queen she is, and is the sort of man I thought you might be? I guess you now can see why you had to be interviewed and assessed so I don't marry a regret and have to divorce you! Or don't you think your words reveal your mind? Should I think you can treat me as I deserve when you insult my father?
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zagorakis:I agree. Though. I don't need to go to a street since I have my own home and can go back to it. zagorakis:Why will I "choose to stay in that marriage" when I am educated enough to provide for myself and feed myself and clothe myself and protect myself and even go out there to get a man who respects me and treats me so well that conjugal is not a right but a thing we lovingly enjoy together anywhere in the world? Is it that you think women must come from the street, or that there are no loving caring men in Nigeria? |
Peterlove11:And see how western nations are amazingly evolving to now give women rights and power instead of sticking to Biblical ignorance that claims woman is man's rib that should submit and be silent. It's called, progress. |
neonly:Did you kill my wonderful father who raised me with my amazing mother? |
drsibz66:You don't know what I worship, and are just making crap up to believe, which shows one shouldn't bother what you think. Come back to me when you've bothered to do some basic research about me please. |
Luckysbab:Why? Did you read me write somewhere that you must stay stuck to a partner that doesn't satisfy you? Read my numerous posts in the thread. Your question has already been answered. |
drsibz66:You are the one who should not be minded since you are obviously far too lazy to read. Because if you were not lazy to read, you'd know I know the person you are telling not to mind is an African man when I was cooking him that African meal he loves so much and was marrying him and worshipping his African bit before he began grunting like a pig I can not stand! |
Host78:You are the one being stupid in thinking you can't just walk away from a relationship you don't want, and I am giving you extreme cause for walking away if you can not find simpler reasons to walk away. If they seem to extreme for you, just walk away and pay the cost, instead of limiting yourself unto believing her not letting you fuq is you only reason. And note. I don't give a flying fuq what irritates you. You and your opinion is irrelevant. |
Host78:Dude please, mr not naive, you can very easily create reasons why you want to divorce your wife! You can cheat on her for instance, and that could be your reason. You can just abandon her, if cheating don't work. And if you are really really desperate and can't reason better, you can beat the shït out of her and say that's why you want to divorce her, though I strongly suggest you find much less vicious reasons! |
Peterlove11:There used to be a time when there was nothing like rape of women. Women were not even allowed to vote or inherit from their parents, get degrees, have bank accounts or choose whom they married, but now women are presidents and prime ministers and heads of states, and a woman is talking to God!. Don't you just hate the "recent concept" of progress that women have pushed.
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Murketeer:He is actually trying to tell me that western women are stupid, but this law France is now introducing has existed for a while now where I live, and evidence does not show he knows what he's talking about. But perhaps you need some information, so here's a link. https://www.richardnelsonllp.co.uk/guides/marital-rape-in-the-uk/ After you've read it, provide me with your evidence for your supposed "level of hate that western women have for men" that will make them "exploit this law to the fullest". I'll be waiting patiently for it, and thanks in advance. |
zagorakis:You have obviously not read enough of our conversation to know why I'd marry him or not. He offered a lot of promise then I found he was all air. |
uchman:Experience tells me you got to really work your brain hard to find sense in anything I write. Try it a couple or so months and come back to me. |
uche87:https://www.nairaland.com/8609561/uk-doesnt-destroy-nigerian-marriages#138314194 |
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