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EmperorIsaac:
Truth is what we call marriage in Nigeria is pure nonsense....heavily transactional and bereft of the concept of love in its essence. Quote me daily!

Most Nigerian men have not been educated to love and respect their wife, and think she is a rib who should just provide them with sex on tap. And when you tell them, they think you are just being woke.

https://www.nairaland.com/8609468/france-moves-abolish-concept-marital#138312943

The EU would not declare war on USA for any reason. It is USA that is declaring war on Europe by threatening to steal Greenland.

That said, wars are not what they used to be, and would likely not be fought with bombs but with finance. And a country that is almost $40T in debt is likely to be very vulnerable to those who hold its bonds and have been more prudent.

Both of them, to be honest.

I've not see Seun live, but watching Femi at the Shrine is like the Abami Eda rose from the dead.

Kukutente23:
Why will African men mean backward pigs? Does African women mean dirty bitches?
Being backward or "forward" has nothing to do with race
The African man was more morally upright and responsible than his Caucasian counterparts whom you worship

I wasn't worshipping "Caucasians counterparts" when I was extolling the non-pig "morally upright and responsible" qualities I assumed you had, so stop showing your ego is hurt when you finally failed to meet up to my standards.

A man, African or Caucasian or from Mars, who thinks a woman is for his gratification is a pig.

ibrahimawelo12:
For Nigeria e no Dey happen ooo

Nigeria is not the entire world, sir, but the day will soon come when we restrain you in Nigeria too to respect your wife and consider your union more than for your sexual gratification.

Watch this space.

cr7lomo:
There's nothing like rape in marriage....

Not where you live perhaps, which is probably why some of you come here with your backward thinking and end up being deported or jailed.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4grr3368n3o

Kukutente23:
Your grandchildren have learnt to be choosy
That's a turn off for an African man like me
Tell them to stick with oyinbo

I don't tell my grandchildren what to stick to. I brought them up to use their own mind and choose for themselves what they want.

And to be honest with you, considering how backward some African men can be, I'm glad they are in the position to consider a larger pool to choose from and that my grandsons are not "African men", if by that you mean backward pigs.

Just imagine if China or Iran were doing the same thing in USA!

Dididrumz:
Na wrong name you put for your note.

BeardedMeat:
Is good marlian the one that created the post??

Oh! I must have confused him with. I'll go correct and post.

Thanks for pointing it out. And Goodmarlian, my apologies.

dollytino4real:
is good because hard work pay but shame dey kpai plenty

Shame when my mates are in the bus I'm trying to sell my eggs and canned Coke to or what?

In fact, now you make me think. One of my mates died just last week. He was the sort who'd think I should have been ashamed.

Kukutente23:
May I warn you that you have only two applicants here while I'm in very high demand. You may not have all the time in the world to do your investigation before you're accused of trespassing into occupied territory and molestation to wit

Sorry dude, but I'm not seriously considering applications, as I already have what I need, and just feel the need to educate you young ones so my grandchildren don't end up with or as pigs.

You should come see them laughing as they read my posts in fact. They've already told me you don't qualify.

toboizilla:
That’s one side of the coin, on the other hand it means there will be nothing as cheating. You can F**k you ever you like. Whether it’s accurate, it’s not for me to judge

No, I don't agree that my body on your tap means "there will be nothing as cheating", and your assumption is most definitely not accurate as far as I'm concerned.

In fact, another side of the coin makes me think I will cheat on you precisely because you f**k me whenever and probably however you like without considering my own needs or desires, which I'd likely cheat on you to go find, though I'd in fact just divorce your selfish f**king ass on the grounds of you being selfish and only thinking of your f**king self and what you f**king want.

I after all don't just want to be f**ked, but would rather love and be made love to.

Kukutente23:
You ma'am are a hopeless romantic and a progressive one at that
I'm a traditional man so I'll leave the naming out and stick to the cuisine and rubbing part

Well, I've described what you would have to be to be married to me, and I would investigate you for those qualities before we get that far. So, if your tradition shows you to be unqualified, there's thankfully many other better fish in the sea.

elipheleh, please don't bother applying, because you wouldn't even be called for an interview based on your submitted cv.

elipheleh:
If you ....

Dude, please. You definitely do not have the belly nor the brains that I would want to touch even with a ten foot barge pole wearing gloves!

You are not my kind caring regarding respecting considerate loving brainy Kukutente23!

elipheleh:
If you jump on me without taking my permission, I will sue you for rape and you'll go to jail. So you think this law permits a woman to touch the man anytime she wants?
If you even rest on my shoulder without permission, I will sue you

I'm your wife, and not just some woman who jumps on you anytime I want!

The judge you intend to sue me before is not stupid like you think! And I definitely wouldn't have married you in the first place if this is how shallow you reason!

Please read my other posts on the thread and get with the program!

lailo:
When the world begins to have problem is when they allow women to be among decision makers. The world will never be the same again.

Yeah, keep women down. Weak men like you can not compete otherwise!

Thankfully, your are failing now.

Kukutente23:
So what happens if the husband is not feeling giddy enough at that moment to have his bit in your mouth while you've already taken the liberty of fixing your lips on it? Ain't that rape right there?

Of course it is! It cuts both ways. But I do expect us to have sufficient respect and regard and love for each other so that when you say, "not now, honey", instead of irrationally yelling rape, I'd respect your feelings as you always do mine.

There's after all tonight or tomorrow morning when I hope you will feel giddy enough, my darling, especially after I've cooked that meal you love so much and after I've rubbed your belly while wearing that very sexy underwear I know you can not resist.

zagorakis:
You are just naive, and probably not married, otherwise you would understand that women would exploit this law to the fullest, a husband would Perpetually be working hard both outside and within the home to be able to consummate his marriage.

I should introduce you to my grandchildren so you know how naive I might be.

Husband, if you work hard at making me want you, I definitely will exploit you by jumping on you every morning, but what makes you think I'd let you touch me if you have nothing to offer me?

dollytino4real:
u get mind o

I sold eggs and canned Coke at the Lagos end of the Ibadan expressway to get through secondary school, and I fried chicken and chips to fund my education in my birth land I returned to.

So yes. I get mind. I needed it to survive.

Kukutente23:
Your brain is a biological device as well
It simply makes no sense to reduce sex between partners to a mechanical act
Rape is even more mechanical than biological

Sex is not "a mechanical act" is precisely why it can't be a duty I am obligated to perform when I don't want to!

I sure would want to have sex with you, husband, if you make yourself desirable and irresistible. I'd in fact be the one waking you up with your bit in my mouth because I love you so much and enjoy you. I just hope you don't want to divorce me because I can't leave you alone.

But know it's not got anything to do with the content of your wallet or pants when I'm more interested in your very irresistible smart kind considerate loving mind.

Host78:
This is not about being in the mood.

This is something far more serious.

Imagine getting married to someone. But they have no intentions of sleeping with you.

Now by this law, you cannot divorce them.

This is not true! You can divorce them. You just can't divorce them on the basis that they don't let you sex them. You can always divorce them because you don't want to be with that person anymore!

But the question is, why would the person you married have no intention of sleeping with you?

What did you do or not do to make that person not want to sleep with you?

ComeComing:
Hmm. this one na monitoring spirit o 🙄

I'm monitoring you in 10 years time too. That's what schooling empowers one to do. It has nothing to do with some imaginary nonexistent spirit.

Kukutente23:
Lol
Sex is a spontaneous biological act based on hormones not a mechanical act.

Does you biology control you and not your brain?

Farrason:
So if the intimacy that builds the bond between man and his woman is now based on rights, what is relationships without a bonding sporadically random intimacy activity?

So, you need some law saying your wife should let you sex her instead of you forming a relationship with your wife that makes her want to sex you?

Do you also need a law to tell your children to love and respect you instead of you earning your children's respect and love?

And should your employer too have a law that makes you serve them instead of you willingly serving your employer because they reward you?

ComeComing:
I feel teary and speechless after reading this

Life is full of ups and downs. And to be a man is not a day job.

To start with, I'd advise you consult a spiritual adviser. Tell your mum to take you to a strong spiritual adviser for cleansing. PLEASE DON'T IGNORE THIS ADVICE.

Ọgbeni, you don't qualify to advice anyone yet!

Go to school!

ComeComing:
This woman and confusion sef

Anyway, take note

Dude! Go to school please. It will help you up your game so you focus more on what matters more!

ComeComing:
Like theriously?

Oboy make i run enter this poly sharp sharp manage do like 2 years ND and travel out fess o..

Now, that's the spirit. You'd be better off for it, I promise. Especially if you don't bet and beg through your education.

always247:
bro dont go to any fvcknng school, school na scam. I graduated, and na begging and betting dey sustain my life. how i wish i learned a skill or japaed out of the this shvvttt hole of a country

mchewwwww

What did you graduate in, and where?

Are you aware that you might have graduated without actually learning anything, and that might be the reason you are betting and begging?

Graduating should after all have taught you how to study hard and pass exams, but here you are betting and begging, which makes me think you never studied at all or you wouldn't be playing kalokalo, that isn't even providing you with your daily bread, with your life.

ComeComing:
Wat are you trying to say?

My point exactly. How can I be trying to say what I've already succeeded in saying?

What's more important however, is what do you understand I said? You did attend enough school to comprehend what you read, right?

ComeComing:
Fvck school mhen.. make money fess.. money on my mind rn 🤑💰💰

From the way you've written your post, I think you would benefit from a little more schooling. But I'm very willing to wait for you to come tell us in like 10 years time, what you decided to do and how it has panned out for you.

I've made a note in my diary to come back and ask you then, and suggest you do same in case I forget.

You, sir, will live very long.

lecowas:
This is just a normal thing even if it's not in the law, whenever someone lies with another person who is not "in the mood", something just doesn't feel right, cos both parties have to be actively involved.

No one should be forced to have coitus even if they are your spouse. What a lady decades ago still felt like rape even though physically stronger than her. No means No.

I think you are far way too intelligent and decent for some people here.

Ironfaceman:
If you most take permission to have sex with your wife, you might as well pay a woman money for sex.

brain54:
Why wouldn't anyone be obligated to have sex with their married partner?🤷

So, you need your wife to be obligated to have sex with you, and if she doesn't give you permission, it's okay for you to rape her by having sex with her without her permission, and you think that's a healthy desirable relationship?

Can you not imagine doing what you can do to make your wife actually want to have sex with you?

How do you enjoy sex with a wife that doesn't want you to have sex with her? No, actually, ignore that, since I'm certain rapïsts must enjoy rapïng their wife!