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obembet:
It's illegal to have Messi,Ronaldo,Zlatan, Lukaku in the same League.

God will make new goats.

Kobojunkie:
I will not be among the first for this one.... I go wait as long as possible.

Even Putin himself never take am.

manos:
Note: it's a bit long... I could have summarized but I want those contributing to get a crystal clear picture of the situation, so that they can give better and specific advice.

The major problem here is that she mixes up things to be done in the kitchen with things done only in the toilet.

I have been married to my wife for over a year now (no kids yet) and there are certain unhygienic habits she has been displaying, since we started living together. I have been seeking ways to help her improve on it, but a calm correction from me always leads to a bitter argument between us. (She claims I complain too much whenever I point it out)

For example, she always clears her throat early in the morning and spits in the kitchen sink. (despite the fact that we have 2 toilets with wash hand basins; one in the room and also a guest toilet, with a wash-hand basin which is basically 3 steps from the kitchen). Then she goes to the bathroom, gets her toothbrush and comes back to the kitchen to brush her teeth, while doing several things with toothpaste and saliva drooling from her mouth all through.

The other day, she prepared breakfast (spaghetti) for both of us with the drooling toothpaste mouth and i refused to eat from it. I didn't complain to her either, until she asked why I didn't take my portion of the spaghetti from the pot, later that evening. I mentioned to her that, as always I find it disgusting to eat spaghetti, seasoned with toothpaste drool and saliva. The response I got from her was a hiss and then she said that, next time I should inform her if I am not going to eat the food she cooked so that she would not cook for me."

I let that slide but I felt she missed the point. The next day was her birthday and I decided to prepare breakfast for her.
While I was in the kitchen cooking, she came in with the same drooling toothpaste mouth to take a kitchen Scissors in order to cut something on her pants, even though we have another scissors in the room for such purposes. In the process of trying to pick the scissors, her hands which were covered with toothpaste drool had to cross the pot which I was cooking with. I mentioned to her that I was not comfortable with that and she just hissed as usual, still picked the Scissors and left the kitchen while angrily saying that I am just a complainer. I lost it at this point and proceeded to give her a lecture in anger about basic hygiene and why I can not keep quiet over these things because we live in a shared space and how her actions have a direct effect on me. It ended in a shouting match till she kept quiet, without accepting she was wrong.

This is the pattern almost everything takes when I try to correct her. The worst part is that I would still have to be the one to apologize for shouting at her because if I don't, I might be subjected to a week long silent treatment which I dread.

There are other more unhygienic things that are done by her, which I might not be able to post here due to the fact that I am not completely anonymous and she is still my wife but I hope this information is enough for someone to understand my frustration and profer a solution.

As you have already discovered from experience: lectures dont work.

You can talk from now till the next 20 years and she will keep doing these.

There needs to be a consequence.

Become unreasonable too.

Escalate the situation.

Do things she finds annoying, irritating, disgusting WHENEVER she does what you don't like.

Psychologists call it operant conditioning...

I can personally go as far as pissing in the room, if I find her actions disgusting enough.

Show her you are also a mad person and she will behave herself.

You didn't start it. She did.

Nice people are always taken for granted.

recievesense:
Let him learn from New Zealand first. Nigeria has handled the virus better than him.

You won't what you dont test for.

Spirit husband.

She is definitely doing the right thing.

Goodplace:
A man of 42 wants a pretty lady, young, to marry. But he thinks he might be to old for her... What can he do... Pls advice.

He only needs to have what oga Ned has and age will not be an issue at all.

dheilaw1:
Does he have the power to order the removal of mace?

Well, as he has already demonstrated, yes .

You might want to prefix "legal"

Valoa432:
Prayer na prayer, that's why Christianity good so.
You no need to bend ynash or use kola but.

Conditions dey as well...

"Seeds" and tithes.

FullBlastLight:
I wonder why all d Human Rights Organisations, Human Right Activists & other Civil Society Organisations are so chicken-hearted & hiding in holes at such a critical time as dis when their actions are much needed!

Does dt mean they all view citizens' right 2 peaceful assembly, association & protests as an aberration & uncalled for in d Nigerian democracy?

Why are they muted, for crying out loud?

Must everybody be a coward in d presence of a known tyrant operating within d context of democracy?

If they eventually fail 2 play their role as one of d integral pillars of democracy, both ancestry & posterity wil impute it unto them as being more brutal & wicked than Buhari-led govt in its entirety!

Frankly, all dis things no balance, at all!

Activism no be degree.

This thing you typed now means you are already an activist.

So wetin remain now na make you go protest.

JAMO84:
I don't get it; Igbo are trying to blackmail APC to give them the presidency, after voting for PDP since 1999! Can you work for UBA and receive salary from Zenith bank?



I AM DONE TALKING

Nicepoker:
Ned the pussy hunter.

Don't insult the man.

He is a terminator.

LongLife4all:
Like I have been saying, what Diezani looted may be a child's play as compared to this woman if her office is investigated.

Diezani was at the source.

ethicallyright:
If they had sex, it means Praise is a 40 seconds man. Who completes sex under a minute?

Tonto Dike's ex husband.

Made4naijaceo:
Nigerian billionaires are the most casual set of billionaires in the world, from Teony Elumelu to Dangote to Femi Otedola, they act like every normal human being.

Very funny.

Before? Should they snuff gold?

piggyvestashawo:
Nigerians

This isn't unique to Nigerians.

Amazon had to ban many US sellers because they hoarded hand-sanitizer and other related supplies when the corona stuff started.

This guy for example was stuck with 17k bottles of hand sanitizers after he got banned: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/14/technology/coronavirus-purell-wipes-amazon-sellers.html

Hahaha, when you think the Bible has all the tales.

Omo, make una come see gist!

Clergy20:
And what bad economic policies have this government made that have resulted in Shoprite leaving and have also stopped local supermarkets from growing?

Our exchange rateS for example. Makes it difficult for them to do business.

Electricity. Security. Shipping/Haulage.

See the kind of morons we have in our political class.

falcon01:
if he dies it's on him she was clearly leaving. Whatever it is happened between them, he should have let go but she clearly was in danger and had to defend herself. God I love America

Naa, she was no longer in danger.

She already drove off, stopped, then shot the guy.

Marks112:
Hi everyone, my mom is a celestial woman so she believes in all these things.
She asked 4 pastors, 1 said she’s okay, others said no.

But the thing is I am exhausted, I can’t start all over again and I love her and she loves me very much. She’s not your average Nigerian girl that loves money.

I have just been thinking a lot cos I don’t even know what could happen in future that will make the pastors say no.

And the main thing here now is now that my mom has asked these people she will never support this marriage, how do I convince her?

And I can’t break up with my gf she has been with me through a lot .. I just tire.
Been praying to God that if she’s not for me she should be the one to break up or f*ck up
I don’t want to hurt her.

Tell you Pastor God told you to tell him to divorce his wife.

KingTom:
I've seen this happen before, beside my house lies a telecom mast. Apparently the crows had placed several nests atop those masts, when the engineers came, they threw everything down including the crow eggs, the one who climbed up and threw those things down was attacked by a flight of crows see as sky turn black that day... the boy who lives across picked one of the birds and started nursing it, I kid you not, these crows would hover around him from down the street till he gets home. They called him the Crow Whisperer, meanwhile anytime the telecom engineers come to top diesel, the crows will attack that particular engineer, every single time fascinating creatures, those crows.

Enjoy a piece of internet history...

World War Crow...

bolaayenimo:
A church member is jobless or has no verifiable source of income. But he pays in a hefty sum of amount into the church as his tithe (10 percent of income ).

Should a church ask him the source of money or just regard it as God's blessings?

Nah, God will sanctify the money.

JAOS:
this man is a troublemaker

Google, Facebook, Wikipedia, Twitter, etc are banned in China.

Is that trouble making?

majamajic:
Beyern Munich is Chelsea next match , bro it seems u know nothing about football
Lampard will not say this thing u just said
Aggregate will be 8-1 against Chelsea vs beyern Munich

You are not a nice person...

Lexusgs430:
Why they signed such a loan, with this conditions..... Is truly alarming......

Was it a deliberate act or an omission...... My mind queries.........

You can get a lot done by bribing key people.

E be like the thing sef na open cheque.

Donniest22:
Then it's now atletico that needs a kepa?

They can manage, they have a good defence

oglalasioux:
Keep deluding yourself that your mother is a saint just because she gave birth to you.

Haha...

I remember back then in primary school. Some guy was trying to convince me that all parents have sex to produce children.

I no gree.

Maybe, everyone else's parents, but not mine .

No mind the guy.

Chienex24:
As much as I frown at US aggressive behavior in general, Iran should learn how to stop making noise!!

They can calm down and develop their military then if US threatens them, they can strike back. They can learn a clue from North Korea.

Their own gra gra just too much!! That is how they do gra gra and got their general killed and till now, no substantial revenge has been carried out.

The US is actually the "aggressor".

I love the US more than anything...

Their culture, ingenuity and enterprising spirit has made the world a fantabulous place.

Even this internet we are using now, including operating systems and browsers, na them.

But right now, they have Iran in a hard place...

They can't even do business with most countries because the US has placed sanctions on them.

What is the origin of the US/Iran beef?

In 1953, the CIA overthrew Iran's democratically elected government because... oil and installed a puppet.

After they took back their country in the 1979 revolution, the US has been beefing them ever since.

On another note, aircraft carriers are relics of the past.

If you field them against any serious adversary, they'll be blown out of the water on day 1.

Missiles, which Iran has plenty of, has rendered them obsolete.

...and a group of evangelical christians were convinced that they had found the remains of Noah's Ark.

If you were wondering. Above is your answer.

Did they also find Adam's half-eaten apple?