₦airaland Forum

udysweet:
Story of my life

Seems they don do you .

tbaba1234:
Many women find it difficult to just leave, especially when there are children involved.

You are very right.

johnson232:
Really!!!!
Rat don chop this one brain finish....
men who are marry more than one wife without ending the first are stupid?
How many monarchs in this country got only one wife?
right from the biblical days men marry more than one woman & still retain the first?
it's a long aged tradition & will continue to stay... u women can go to hell, or those married to weak men can continue to butcher them... men will continue to marry more than three women....

the woman should thank her stars.... she got married to a weak man....

Since I told you that rat ate your brain you haven't been yourself. Sorry e hear? I know say e pain you but you hardly make sense. You don't have to mention me in every post, it's beginning to look very stupi*d .


I suppose you are the strong man that can't be butchered to ngwongwo . With this your always half baked reasoning , you still feel strong abi? It's alright, just stop following me upandan NLand.

Some people must really be very stupid. If you are going to marry another wife, please end it with the first totally. I don't know what you expect living with someone that you have hurt that deeply and even had the guts to roll in the hay with her. Excess morale and unbridled arrogance combined.

This is just terrible! She could have just left man.

EfemenaXY:
Lol! You know it won't just end at your catching a glimpse of the child. You'll definitely want more and eventually begin to find fault with how the other parents are raising him/her

It's really a terrible situation, better fitted for a story book. I prefer never to find out , you are very right about extending from glimpse to take over .

She should buy that herself since owu ji di guy.

EfemenaXY:
True.

But what about the one you've raised, loved, cared for, nursed when ill, etc. Would you suddenly "switch off" that child?

Cc: mindfulness, Onegai, Cococandy, Ifyalways, Sambarry

You just can't switch off, I will continue to be all I have always been. Just will love to catch a glimpse of my real child, I might still decide not to disrupt the family .

EfemenaXY:
Exactly. Best to just get on with it especially if the current parents and family life is good. Why rock the boat? Or trade certainty for uncertainty?

@op: I'll do nothing. I think the main issue will be for the parent. i.e. what if the parents discover years later that the child they raised / currently raising isn't actually theirs because their kid was mistakenly switched at birth?

Now that's a tough one and doesn't bear thinking of.

Yes, I think your version will pose a better debate . I will look for my child, it's difficult not to.

Nobody can give me such headache .

If you are driving it yourself,it is profitable. On hire purchase is also profitable if your driver is honest, most are filled with stories. A bad driver will make you wish you left your money in the bank.

have a lovely weekend all!

Coral...

Lovely neck piece for sale .

How can you leave your little girl to urinate out of your sight!!! .

The kids will get used to the reality on ground, don't get depressed over that. You did well to run for your life and be there for your daughters.

I won't bother looking for anybody, my life continues as it is.

Someone simply asked for his Facebook account and promised to give him money once he provides that , why was releasing his FB account so difficult? If someone is really genuine, why should the person be bothered about being investigated? People can lie with anything, so mentioning the dead counts for nothing.

Are you a child? What will happen if you don't pick her call? Tell her that you have had enough of her insults and you prefer not to hear from her again. I don't see why I should keep in touch with someone who lacks regard for my family . To even think that you sometimes regret because of her insensitivity shows you are too immature mentally. Obviously your mum wants you to have the kind of life she had, use your head!

I don't like this .

Transportation business gives lot of headache. Look for good interest rate and fix the money if you don't know what to do with it.

Mindfulness:


I have to love the design and of course we all love quality but if the design (fabrics, color, form) is good and the quality good enough and I feel like spending money then I go for it.

If I get a designer piece, then their logo needs to be very small and barely visible - or better - not visible at all.

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cococandy:
I love brands jare. A girl cannot come and go die.

What I do is I go for the not so expensive brands like MK, Marc Jacobs or Calvin Klein and their likes. You can get great quality without breaking your bank account.

Who has $1,500 to buy Chanel or Dior bag in this buhari economy? I mean some people do of course but mehn...

Yesooo, it's good to go for what flies it for you. Generally I have no affinity for anything in particular. I used to have for long braids but lost it somewhere along the line. I have to consciously remember my own need these days.

SAMBARRY:
no be me o. I don't mind spend 4-5hours going from store to store pricing goods
iF it's one thousand naira difference I'll go to another shop and price it TILL I get a good bargain and good customer service

Babe I dey like go shopping with person like you when am in high spirits jare . if it's clothes shopping ooo. No time to start price vegetables and fish biko, am too impatient .

Mindfulness:
I have to see it and love it. The brand is irrelevant.

You are like me here, brand is irrelevant to me.

bukatyne:
How is that a bad thing?

Many people still want to go the traditional route when it comes to marriage responsibilities...

The husband provide and the wife takes care of the home.

Not every husband wants an 'independent/earning' wife

Thank you!

SAMBARRY:
LMao. This brings me to my second story.a friend OF mine wanted to do traditional wedding so she Said i should help her buy lace that her and her husband will wear on their engagement ceremony because She knew I was good in lace so I got to this store and I met one overbleached yellow paw paw lady chewing chewing gum pasha pasha and blowing bubble with IT, her legs on the table and was busy watching keeping up with the Kardashians. I needed her attention because her sales girls didn't know the prices of some of her materials but she was so engrossed watching khloe Kardashian filing her nails so I hissed and left her shop because she was so carried away with the Kardashians. She was telling me I should ask her girls what I want that they'll attend to me

So I just got angry and left the place. Then I overheard her asking her sales girl that how many yards does she wants to buy that her wahala is too much like this then the girl replied that she's buying a lot o.she Said she wants to buy for the couple and couples parents

Then she called me back aunty please come back I then said you and who.shebi the Kardashians are more important than what you're selling. She begged me but I didn't answer her I said when it's not only your shop that's in idumota.shioorrr.

Any seller I enter their shop and I don't get the right treatment I leave because I am the one bringing in mmy money for you so I should be treated nicely and if I'm not I leave irrespective of how nice IT is.my money goes into pockets of those that have good customer service

I wonder why these women open businesses in the first place. I don't like market place , so I tend to be very swift with purchase. If I really want something, I block out other factors and get that exact one that appeals to me. I rather return the rude favour, piss you off badly and still get what I want. The shoe woman nah Igbo woman, I feel it's an individual thing .

Sambarry did I mention that 3 versions of me wore the shoes and it was still in almost mint condition. Very lovely shoes, worth the trouble.

SAMBARRY:
in Nigeria people don't respect you based on what you have upstairs But how you brand yourself outwardly
It has almost unconsciously turned into a culture. For a person to treat you with regard he must either be your relative or he dresses an looks expensive

Lol, I always think of the one that benefits me first. Let someone else teach her ooo. I hardly notice what people are wearing except it's conspicuous or unusual . That's why it baffles me when you see ladies analysing others like is there project work.

SAMBARRY:
ok she thought you were probably the younger sister and someone sent you to buy those stuffs


You shouldn't have even bought anything from her and walked out

I have encountered such nasty experience.very recently about a month ago.I was on my way back home WITH my daughter when I passed by a supermarket. I saw a very beautiful clutch purse and I stopped by wanting to buy it.so I walked into the supermarket and asked how much it IS, the woman first looked at me for a few seconds and asked if I tell you the price can you buy it?I was like what is that supposed to mean then she said it's 7k.I brought out 10k and counted it in her presence. She too was using eye to count the money with ME, I said you see this money with me here, it's not going to end here. I came to buy something I fancied and instead of you to behave civil you were asking me stooped questions whether I can buy it.

She was now like Haa aunty koribe,emabinu.I said wura let's leave here joor.I went 3shops near hers to buy exactly what she was doing shakara for and deliberately passed by her shop to spite her. I made sure i didn't put the clutch purse inside a nylon so she Will see it.She nearly cried in bitterness.it was obvious She was just controlling herself

Meanwhile that's why I love the igbo spirit when it comes to entrepreneurship and attending to customers. Every customer is a king and is treated as such. Even if you don't buy and you just Window shop they will treat you like you own the world.which brings me to my last story.last week I went to price Curtains because I wanted to have an idea of how much Curtains are now.you needed to see the way this igbo guy attended to me.he was so courteous and warm.I had to tell him bros don't bring everything out I just want to know how much it is and so because of his hospitality I vowed that I will go back there and buy it which I did yesterday. However I saw other Curtains which we're relatively cheaper and finer than his but because of his pleasant customer treatment which I received from him I bought it from him

The bottonline is if you don't look down on your customers and treat them nicely even if they came to windowshop, even if your shop is under the ground they will go out of their way to find you.

The last story is lovely, that's the way it should be. I took the shoes because it was everything I pictured in my mind's eye. I chose to please myself even if the seller is full of shi*t.

SAMBARRY:
so because of 3k the seller was so rude?I'm sure she's a sales girl not eve the owner OF the supermarket. Anyway thats how sellers are.they judge you based on your outward appearance. Meanwhile you will see some ladies wearing wigs of 70k and they don't even have 10 naira in their bags yet people will be looking at them like they have millions

She was no sales girl ooo, probably she is used to seeing thick madams or pregnant women buying baby things . Also consider that it was 7years ago.

I don't know about wealthy but I went to buy kids' shoes and socks, I entered a certain kind of shop my friend recommended . She told me that they sell quality stuffs but quite pricey. When I picked a pair and I inquired about the price, the shop owner took a glance and responded " it's expensive ". I repeated " madam how much is it? ", she responded with " that shoe is 3k last ". I gave her a piece of my mind, dropped 3k on her table and threw the tiny shoes into my hand bag. I didn't bother checking out her socks. She was gushing out apology but I was already on my way.

I was a student and looked like one, so she assumed that I won't know the value of original kid's shoes or be able to pay for one.

Mayflowa:
Like you. I once saw ur pix

Really? I doubt that.