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InformedLola:
Better still, you can also get a source of livelihood, and supplement what he brings home.

You talk is not related to the topic, can you manage 5000 for a week? Give your answer and suggestions to who asked not me.

doofanc:
Really? So fornication isn't bad again?



Can u imagine. And it is so common in married men.

Who said fornication isn't bad? The issue here is dying, cheating , married men not fornicating single men.

Hopefully the mistresses will start dying alongside their married boos,not the men dying alone. It takes two to make it foam.

Omotola was once ukwuless!!! wow!! The metamorphosis is ehhhh shocking!

Even those with parents can't confide in them. The average Nigerian parent makes a very bad confidant, confide in yourself, by yourself and for yourself .

If a random girl sends me messages talking what you mentioned above, the truth is, she can't get my reply. Just keep an eye on your husband and be sure he isn't the one selling you out.

She is sick, her husband doesn't understand the meaning of marriage . He should have sought help and not throw her out, most women won't leave their klepto husbands.

No, I cannot manage it if kids are involved .I can reserve balance if there are no kids,just buy a bottle of red oil and a paint bucket of rice. By the time whoever gave such upkeep eats oily rice for a week, he certainly will improve.


Besides which upkeep are you talking about? I assumed house upkeep, chop money matter.

I will simply wash with my toothpaste and continue with my brushing .

Only unfaithful married men die in hotels, am yet to see a single man die after the romp. Is that karma or what?

I cannot blame the kids I don't know, don't expect kids you never cared for to care for you, father or not. He might not even have kids to start with, only God knows his story. Everything said here is based on assumption, RIP to the dead.

ENIMONEY:
. amen and you too. thanks

Thanks .

They didn't create themselves.

bukatyne:
True.

I know two men who said they will never cheat because they know their wives will walk out.

No looking back.

All these future punishments na wash.

If a man sleeps with all the women in his village and asks for forgiveness on his death bed, God will forgive him and heaven is sure.

Sadly, the wife carrying bitterness and hurt might not.

Confirmed!! Future punishment nah pure wash, you go wait karma tire . If there is a definite consequence, it won't be as bad.

ENIMONEY:
dear life is a personal race. and at the end the choices you make affects you.. I am just trying to make people see reasons not to cheat but I can't control any one.. if I marry today n my hubby is a womaniser although it can't happen, the best thing to do is pray for him and beg God not to punish my kids for his sin and leave him. no Mr and Mrs in heaven o.. Na only me dem born so I won't kill myself over someone not willing to change. I am begging because I have seen the dangers.. nuff said.

OK dear, got your point. Surely infidelity is dangerous but those that indulge can only see the fleeting pleasure. May God grant you the type of man you seek.

Gosh!!! People get mind.

Why nah babe?

ENIMONEY:
Lol.. we have seen politicians disgraced and their nudes leaked to milk them for money.. most ladies date married men for money and someone who would do anything for money is not someone you wanna be with.. there are thousand and one reasons why we should be faithful, and politicians are not really a standard, their lives is a mess already except for a few.

Tell me a popular politician you have seen his nudes. My point is that you can't threaten a man to submission, decrease in life span is no threat to keep a man faithful. Only a man can decide within himself to be faithful or not. Your role as a woman is to decide what you do with his infidelity if it affects you. Am not preaching about role models here, my point is that the comments are beginning to sound like scare tactics, like practically begging with gritted teeth " please do not cheat! ".


Dying young is not a threat, innocent women die in child birth and life continues. Death isn't a threat to a cheating man and you can't manipulate a man into not cheating with threats. Pray for a man with a conscience if you aren't married already, that's all.

Lol!! I think adultery shortens the life span of poor men only. I mean look at our politicians, very few die early with all their atrocities including adultery. If you hate adultery, just stay away from someone that indulges,that's all. Threat of a shortened life span can't faze a randy man, most live for the moment.

People only treat you the way you accepted to be treated. It's not in my place to tell any man what to start or stop but it's in my place to decide what I can or cannot take. What I do with whatever you started or stopped is entirely mine to control, It's as simple as that.

Opening up to him isn't why he is serving you divorce papers. He has checked out on you and there is nothing you can do about it. How can you be begging helplessly for love and acceptance? if you succeed with begging, he will make your life hell. Being served a divorce is not the end of the world, no one died. Pick up what is left of your dignity and woman up or you can continue begging. A man with a mistress is a ticking time bomb, if he doesn't divorce you today,he will eventually.

Any amount can cook soup depending on what you call soup. 1500 soup will certainly look the part, a decent soup should be from 2000.

Don't be deceived, there is nothing like a loving cheating husband.

datigbogirl:
"If he ignores call his attention"..." Keep talking as if nothing happened " very bad pieces of advise.... It's like you're locking horns with him...don't do it.

Locking horns indeed, give your good advise and leave my bad advise to whom it may concern.

I just hope your darling salt is the only ingredient you use to prepare these self acclaimed tasty meals you speak of. Don't tell me you add anything else because I won't understand why you will need oil and not just salt to prepare your stew .

Please have some respect for your person, go back to your parents. What exactly are you begging for, for love or marriage? find yourself a life.

Being single beats living with the disgrace a public husband has to offer. A cheating man cannot lead himself right, so how can he lead you? May you find a better man.

cococandy:
yea when I was reading his narration I was cussing the woman in my mind until I read her side.
SMH.

If there is anything I have observed in these marital squabbles, it's hard to see a woman release the first fatal blow. Once the woman releases half measure, it's just a matter of time before you see the man bleeding all over the place seeking sympathy. No woman wants a ruined home, so am always patient to get to the woman's side of the story. He is just unhappy that she could move on so fast, nothing more.

Congratulations OP, she is so beautiful!!

cococandy:
I read o. Ikoyi registry marriage.

Just gave her the response that suits her situation.
Don't know how she felt the man will treat her well when she saw with her own eyes the way he was being an asss to his first wife.

OK dem marry? Thought she said something about having abortions because they weren't married, no mind me jare, I just dey skip the long tori.

Why do I even think that the 30k part of the gist is just a lie to spice up your story .