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Mind your business sir, otherwise you will be a gossip topic in that compound. Caretaker already gave all of you a soft instruction. You'll appear like a compound rebel because of a small upcoming criminal girl.

For the sake of your safety, plan to leave that vicinity. You calling the attention of the mother earlier had generated a kind of soft eneminty with those small boys... They are not just yahoo boys.. They are cultists too.

Leave the girl... It's best she stays long in the cell to learn her lesson very well. She's becoming a criminal and this might be God's way of cautioning her. She's just 3 months plus in that street

Jagun jagun... Such an interesting movie. That movie was massive.

nonhuman:
I bought this chicken today for 6k
Merry Xmas

You bought a bird.

Earthen:
Someone suggested Wema to me earlier..
I have also heard GTB and Access are relatively okay

Wema... You wanna cry? Wema ke? I strongly believe wema is the worst bank on earth. I will suggest you go for moniepoint microfinance bank.

Is she into drugs?

Dear op, it is important your displeasure is felt if not uttered by words. It's not your right to send to her. The moment they start making it look like it's your responsibility to send money to her, please dodge it and send at random some other times.

A strong man must be unpredictable. No one should programme you to always vomit money during Christmas period. I'm not saying it's wrong, but they you don't owe them.

You can send much more than you've been sending later. Be unpredictable sir. Especially, this time they just misbehaved.

Meanwhile, as per the land, neglect it, that you asked your wife to reject it is a message strong enough to express her displeasure and of course yours.

It was simply terrible

First of all, how did you make aver 50m if it's true you come from a very poor family? Can you explain the process? Which land banking? Which crypto)trading? Which farming? Na this nation Nigeria we gather dey o.

CorrectionFLuid:
It's also not an attack against women. It's an attack against the society. Just like woke-ism

cc kobojunkie cococandy

Apt... But like they they thought they are revolting against men, but it's really against the society. Wisdom will not kill you. Smiles.

Again... Femisim is demonic... It's not an attack against men but against women.

gaskiyamagana:
Which line?

Cursing an institution that is cursed proof. Will you dare to curse Israel in public Let us test something.

Moniya4Real:
So, because we are Christians now. We shouldn’t believe in a known fact of happenstance. Just answer a simple yes or know. Being a Christian doesn’t mean we should not say it the way it is. I agree with the Bible verse that supports this curse issue. But you yourself know it has happened to people in the past regardless of what they are talking about

I also know as a pastor that issues bordering on heart attack are not 100% natural. Many are have spiritual root cause. In this case, this man was judged because he crossed the line.

Moniya4Real:
Yes, I am not ruling out that fact sir. But we wouldn’t have been relating it with religion if it had happened in a different circumstances- which has happened to literally numberless people before. Such cases have been heard of on numerous occasions .I believe we Nigerian Christiana mostly gave it this narrative. Yes! The possibility of it being a mere coincidence is very much possible

So pastor, do you think it is possible that it is a covenantal response of the God of Isreal, 'El Elohe Israel'? Do you know that no one curses a covenant carrier free of charge? Can anyone curse you and go scit free? Or is Christianity just a mere religion to you? I doubt if you are a pastor as you claimed. But if you are, you sound too carnal and civil... No one gets civil around God. God is crude.

Moniya4Real:
I am a devout Christian- a pastor at that.But no be today people they collapse with heart-attack while giving speech naw.

So, pastor, you think this is a mere coincidence? Yet you carry the Bible and preach from time to time? Sir, whoever ordained you a pastor has cheated your destiny.

Kobojunkie:
Stop dragging God's mention down into the foolishness of you.

Submission of the woman in marriage — God cursed marriage by it — was a curse God placed on women after the fall of Adam and Eve in Genesis 3 vs 16. You would know this if you reasoned why the same God said that His blessings exist on those(men and women) who would live as Eunuchs for the sake of His Kingdom. God placed no such blessings on those who are married.

What are you really struggling with? Doesn't nature teach you that women are more fragile and men are more agile?

Doesn't nature teach you that they are not the same and won't require the same treatment?

Doesn't nature teach that if they are not the same, they are not equal?

The Bible is a compass big enough to direct you on gender treatment. The Bible placed the women where they belong and always advocate a fair treatment for them, for both genders.

I understand that as a domineering woman who loves control, gender fairness doesn't appeal to you until you're treated equal with the other gender.

Are you struggling with how God made you? I have worked with women like you before who love to exercise control over men... Like Jezebel, you know what, I killed the witchcraft in her and eventually made her fall in love with her gender nature.

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.
So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.
Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.
I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.
After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.
So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.
We have not been in good terms since then, Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

Women hardly apologize.

Oga she has offered you a trait that you must reject immediately. Or else, she will offer you more.

Quickly reject this one and with maturity, demand her to apologize.

Do not eat her food until she apologizes. Be very frank, strong and meek at same time.

Explain to her again that she needs to apologize for a subtle jibe at your mum. Even if you're wrong, let that trait be enforced on her.

Then after her apology, you go ahead and take her on a treat or a surprise gift. Shey you get.

Women have a way of offering you some nonsense.

Weak men swallow it until they become the wives at home.

Jennyclay:
No woman, I repeat no woman should ever leave her female child(ren) under the care of any man not even her father

All rapist, child molesters, nudes blackmailers and woman beater shall not see the end of this year. Amen!!

Honestly, Nigerian men irritates me so much!!

You sound emotionally foolish. This is one of the main characteristics of silly women. Their emotion has taken over their brains.

I have a little daughter who is like my pet and the most amazing personality I have around me.

Do you think all men are child molesters? That your silly father molested you doesn't suggest that all fathers are possessed.

I guess your father must have molested you because your stand against the males is absord.

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

Sorry sis. Can you simply show him this post or get someone to do that for you? Making him understand that you, his wife typed this.

Meanwhile, you don't change who you are because you want to retaliate. You're bigger than that.

You can as well discuss with someone he respects so much.

Feminism is simply demonic. There is no gender equality... God only permitted gender fairness.

Honour men in their uniqueness, God made it so. Honour women in their uniqueness, God made it so.

Those comparing gender and advocating for equal treatment are not wise.

The female is not subservient to the male, there must be mutual honor. BUT the wife is subservient to her own husband ONLY.

Feminism is simply demonic. There is no gender equality... God only permitted gender fairness.

Honour men in their uniqueness, God made it so. Honour women in their uniqueness, God made it so.

Those comparing gender and advocating for equal treatment are not wise.

The female is not subservient to the male, there must be mutual honor. BUT the wife is subservient to her own husband ONLY.

Round one!!! start!!! The match just started.

I can read many silly people thinking this is a coincidence.

Well, I dare anyone of you to get a microphone and speaker and go to a very busy place and start cursing Israel... If the same fate or even worse don't befall you. Try it and leave story.

Please permit me to bring my marriage issues here for the very first time. Its true I've been on this forum for almost 10 years, I'm not very good at opening threads. But because of the necessity, I had to create a new Moniker so that I can briefly share my worries to ease off the pains in my heart.

Though she is very hardworking, generous and kind, but she has some very negative traits that belittle whatever admirable ones she may have.


This marriage has lasted a little over half a decade. But the problems I've always complained about right from the start is what I'm still talking about.

(1) My wife bottles up her anger a lot. If I offend her, she will never (hardly) tell me about it, I will only get to know about it through her facial expressions or her response to conversations, and if I ask her if anything was the matter, she will simply say "there is no problem".

(2) She takes too long to forgive. I can plead with her for forgiveness till "Thy Kingdom Come", yet she is not moved by my pleas. She will continue to wear a sad face for a very long time, (sometimes hours or even days) before she will grant me forgiveness, sometimes even in minor issues that I sometimes overlook if she was the one that did it.

(3) My wife hardly apologizes when she wrongs me. Even if she does apologize, she will expect me to accept her apologies immediately she said "I'm sorry" but she will not do the same if it was the other way round. That's pride!

All of these I have dealt with in silent pains with no hope of improvement in sight.

As I type this message, she is all alone in the room because of a situation we could not resolve. For over a week, she has carried a long face for reasons I do not know. I have asked severally, she keeps telling me "its nothing".

For over two weeks, she has not allowed me to touch her, neither have I had sexual intimacy with her. She keeps refusing all my advances to the point it was so painful after I pleaded with her for over one hour she still did not yield that I almost forced it on her tonight, but I exercised restrain.

All effort to have her talk to me in sincerity has not yielded any positive result for the past eight days.

I've told her of my suicidal thoughts (I'm not joking) but it fell on deaf ears because whenever she crosses her mind over something, bros, forget am! She can't be convinced to take up a contrary view.

Modified: As a result of these, I have relapsed once again to masturbation which I had overcome in the past. Since cheating on her is not an option for me, at least for now. Though thoughts of it are on my mind, but I can't just do that.

Please help a brother. Depression is gradually setting as my thoughts are going wild.

I need good suggestions please...

Seekness!

Bro... See the world of the wives is a very different one. What you listed here are very common among wives.

Especially no. 3. They don't apologize o. You better apologize on her behalf and accept the apology by yourself. Many wives don't apologize!

What you need is not mature advice, you need mature silence and mumu-ish look.

Hope you're not already nursing one of the babies they made before.... I just hope.

cococandy:
Does not need to command his wife

Go and read on leadership. I guess you need it like urgently. I already told you that in extreme cases like the op's situation, that is what is needed.

Meanwhile any woman who finds her husband's command irritating is a rebellious woman... And that is called witchcraft.

Your boss command you at the office, if you're a police woman or military woaman or even a teacher, they command you and you say yes sir, but it's only at home that your husband becomes a weakling and loose his voice and authority. Is that not witchcraft?

Ladies don't marry if you're not very submissive. Or marry a weakling like the op.

Dear op, as a matter of urgency, go and hunt for resources on improving your strength as a man/husband. I will recommend some books of Myles Munroe and Td Jakes if you care. There is a book called 'mastering female dynamics' you need to read that book. God help you.

cococandy:
How does one command a wife. Do you say “Verily, verily, I command you”?

Is this real life? People exist who think they can command their spouses?

Best and ideal case scenario is that you express your feelings about whatever misgivings you have considering the decision your wife or husband is about to make and most likely they’ll consider it and halt their actions.

The feeling of possibly offending you or creating unnecessary tension in the relationship is often a good deterrent (At least to a loving and respectful husband/wife). I honestly think most people wouldn’t do something if their spouse is expressing that they are not on board.

But to command? As in the very grammatical expression of „I own you and I get to decide for you“?

Okay then I’m going. Ihukwa

Madam never marry a strong man. A man who understands what is called strength and leadership... Just settle down for a simp/a week man.

In leadership, there is a place for command once in a while when situations warrants it. In this matter as the op. He needs to exercise his authority as the head of the home. Let the wife then plead.

How will my wife plan to attend a wedding ceremony outside the country and just give me few days notice? You dey wine? I won't release her!

I'll give her a point blank NO! and see how she will handle it. A thorough bred African woman knows how to handle the situation and get her desired result.

There is no gender equality in marriage. The Husband is the head of the wife and the home.

I hate weaklings. I'm not a bully too. It's called strength. Don't marry a woman become a mushy mushy at home.

Stuffs like this are irritating.

naijamanyoutube:
If you dream of something, then do research and find out how to make it a reality, and then work hard at it. And with some luck, it might happen.

Yeah... True... But you know, after dreaming, I need to wake up to the reality of the low resources. Making a global tour is expensive for middle class as me.

Be careful of a call from your past. It will definitely touch your present and slap your future.

I wish I can join you for this kind of happy tour. This kind have always been my dream... But I don't have the resources for it. I only have the hope for it. Stay happy brother. Wouldn't mind joining you on this kind of tour if you won't mind too.

This nation is gone