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Na unnecessary copy copy fashion go kill our young lads.

The face is different from the breast,may the elders of this noble forum enlighten us on what might be the problem.

@ op,may God have mercy on you.

daddytime:
Patience and understanding my man.

HOME UPKEEP MONEY, HOW MUCH SHOULD A MAN GIVE HIS WIFE?

A must read for every couple.

Last Friday evening, I decided to gulp down a couple of beer bottles at a joint before going home after a hard day's work.

Sitting next to my table were these two guys whose discussion was almost disturbing the rest of the people in the bar. One seem to be bitterly complaining to his friend about his wife. "My wife wan kill me", "she too like money", "she is too demanding, infact I am tired of her nonsense.

From his utterances and countenance you will know he just finished a fight with his wife before coming to the bar. Probably the friend called him out in other to quell the situation.

The friend was trying to calm him down. Johny cool down nah, what is the matter? I thought you and your wife have out grown these constant fights that have almost become a ritual. Ahh ahh, be a man, calm down and tell me what happened.

Then the man started, could you imagine? before I use to give my wife N30,000 as the home Upkeep money. She was complaining that the money was not enough. then she will be asking for small small money untill next Upkeep money. One day I came back from work to discover that NEPA has cut our light because she failed to pay. I was not happy because I have already given her the monthly Upkeep, when I asked, she said there is no money. Then I decided to take up the payment of NEPA bills which is about N5000 per month. The next month she still complained and we quarreled as usual.

To make her happy, I increased the monthly Upkeep to N45,000. To my surprise, I came back today, just barely three weeks after giving her the money and she continued with her usual way of demanding for more money. That's why I have to beat her up.

Even though, I was keenly listening to their conversation, they did not care. Considering the way he was glancing at me from time to time, it seems he wouldn't care if I say something.

Then, I adjusted closer, and assisted his friend in calming him down. After calming him down, I asked him, how many children do you have, he answered 4, then I asked, do you have a house help, he said yes, I also asked, is there any other person living in your house, he said yes, his wife's sister is living with them. That is a total of 6 people, if he is added, there will be total of 7 people living in the house.

I now asked him to get his calculator. That I am going to teach him a simple calculation that will surprise him, and help him manage his family. He brought out his mobile phone and opened the calculator.

Then, I asked him, how much do you think is the cost of one plate of home made food. i.e. food prepared in the home without additional Restaurant cost. He thought about it for a while but couldn't come up with a figure.

Then I wadded in and told him, let's say a plate of home made food costs N100, which you know is impossible because an average home made food for a low income family should cost between N150 to N300 depending on the quality.

If one person consumes N100 per meal, then s/he will consume N300 in a day, if he takes breakfast, lunch and dinner.

That means s/he will consume N300 x 30 =9,000 in a month. He was pressing the calculator without knowing were I am driving at.

N9,000 x the six (6) people in your house = N54,000 excluding you. If your cost is added, let's say it's not up to N,9000 because you don't usually eat lunch in the house. Let's say it is N200 x 30 dayss = N6,000 if your lunch money is excluded.

Then the total food cost in your house per month = N60,000, that is, if a plate is N100. Remember that a plate of food can never be N100.

If the average cost is N150, then you should be thinking of N90,000 per month as the food money for your home. Remember, we have not considered other expenses.

If the average cost is N200, which is still not too costly for a good home made meal, then you should be thinking of N120,000 per month as the food money for your family.

At this point, the man was looking at me in utter surprise with his mouth wide open.

The friend immediately cut in awe, thank you my brother, thank you my brother, you are God sent, I have been telling this my friend that women hardly waste money but he never agrees.

He started calling the bar man , abeg bring a bottle of beer for this our friend, infact bring two at a time and a plate of perper soup for him.

I now asked the man to call his wife immediately and apologise to her, which he obliged, men have ego issues but not in this case because he have realised how wrong he was.

He called the wife and said "Babe, I am so sorry for hitting you, please forgive me. I have realised my mistake, please forgive, At this point we can hear the faint voice of his wife crying and sobbing at the other end. We asked him to invite her over. He begged her and told her the name of the joint we are in. Though the wife initially refused but his friend took the phone and asked her to come that we will be eagerly waiting to meet her. Then she agreed. The husband took the phone again and asked her to take Keke drop.

In the next 20mins she was with us. And we all apologized to her and narrated to her about our calculation, how she is so right. We could see a wave of inner joy that engulfed her. Then smile showed up on her face and she leaned on her husband's shoulder.

Then, I ordered for Fish Berbecue while the friend was ordering for more drinks.

We all went home happy.

Women are indeed amazing, they try much hard to keep the home going without little or no appreciation. When they go to market, they will price and price and will not hesitate to go round the whole market to ensure they are buying at the best price.

Men, let us appreciate our women a little, please.
Kindly share widely to bring peace in various homes.

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God bless you, you will live long.

TruthHurts100:
I notice fermentation like 2 hours after production. I can smell it.

Why are you storing them in a freezer? It's suppose to be in a fridge.Similiar thing happens when you put zobo drink in a freezer,it will be so iced that the water and zobo content will be separated in the bottle used in storing them.

eazzzy1:
Lol abi sis, na to scatter everything since the love Dey shack am. I don’t think it’s a soul tie, I think it’s adults acting like children.

Unfortunately their selfishness is going to destroy two families, turn the kids to children from broken homes and their respective partners to divorcees, something non of them bargained for.

Calling it a soul tie kind of takes the responsibility out of their hands making seem like they have no control over their actions.

I wish their partners find out and decide to date themselves too, so basically family swap. I no holy pass but to fall in love outside your marriage and even worse to a fellow married person. No judgement here sha. Let them keep chopping life .

Sir, this one is not chopping life, sleeping with another man's property and claiming not to have control of is the highest level of irresponsibility.He took a woman out of her father's house in the name of marriage to disgrace her and scatter the lives of innocent children he birthed.....

LuvB:
Nah. My wife is far from suffering . We're happy . This is just a dark side of me I can't speak about .

Women are very sensitive, your wife is suffering emotionally that you are not even aware of.Stop boasting about happiness, you don't even know what it means.You can't be sleeping with another man's wife and claim your wife is happy.You are wicked and selfish.You didn't marry your wife because you loved her but some other selfish reason,is that not witchcraftism.

Sorry if I sound rude,I don't like what I hate.

Na waooo....

Hahahaha.... some of us are getting tired and confused at same time.

saucecode:
Mechi onu dia

Small small oooo, you wan kill am?

Inside life oooo..... inukwa excuse

Or they might have acquired a property or investment with the name,or even have some certificate with their husband's name.Just like some women still bears their father's surname few years after marriage.

Hey!!!is this possible? God ooooo

Akposy:
It's in the recipe she posted
Flour, egg, melted butter, baking soda, baking powder, coffee and cocoa powder

Thank you,I was curious about baking soda.

officialJP:
the 6years working is not that stable and the pay has never been more than 20k with high tp, and I cloth myself and do the feeding sometimes even send something to my Mom so no much saving and the saving i borrowed him

For you to have to borrow to someone and give your mother shows that you are trying small.Locate a church close to your place of work and be sleeping there while you save for a place of your own.At least you will be saving that tfare.Start from there,God will direct your path.

GreatResearcher:
I think this woman has no male child. Reason for her bitterness.

She has four children, two boys and 2girls,all her male children are married with children ooooo
I think she is trying to say that if you miss giving your male children the right Godly training at the early stage of their lives, you as the parent will lose out but I personally think that it doesn't matter whether a child is male or female once that child is trained right will produce a better result.

rentAcock:
I'm so grateful for my parents. I went the bed until 18yrs old and they never disowned me.

Hahahaha...

Na waooo, this people have started again oooo

obonujoker:
Lol.... Shey na Ajegunle high school abi na Bariga junior grammar school wan keep up to this guidelines??

Abi na Awori College or Ajangbadi High School? mtcheeew.....

Childish.... you divorced because you feel you made a wrong choice.But Late Pastor Bimbo Odukoyo once said *'you are not as responsible as you think you are if you married an irresponsible spouse"*

Hian....she get time ooo,are you sure this will not end in 'nairaland's premium tears'

Hmmm....na so this small girl go take go prison.

Aunty Weldon ma!!!

Nice.... kudos

Akposy:
Wow.I made that cake for my birthday before going to NYSC camp...how time flies. Can I get the recipe. I don't have it again.

To stop them from pouring, use a cup cake pan. You have to put the cupcake papers in the cup can pans or tins before baking.

The cake looks moist and yum. I called it Chocolate Mud Cake


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This is the pics

Good evening, please can you name those condiments? thank you.

Stop that body cream, please!!!!

Hmmm... what relationship does this forum has with snakes?

Mama the mama.... lol.

Hmmm

Mtcheeew

Mtcheeew.....