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sisisioge:
Hmmmmm

*She doesn't like sexx
*You force her to do the do
*You don't get election with her except with enhancement but you're perfectly ok with others.
*You found one enhancer but you had to work with her timetable to use it.
*You read her the riot act about sex availability and suddenly after she had a talk with you regarding sustainable solution, the drug that has been working stopped working
*Now you are back to nothing working again.....hmm


Oga, I hope you've not been spending money on finding solutions....cos madam knows the solution o. Meanwhile, as you knew from start that she doesn't like sexxx, biko no stress her fa. As for your needs.....

It amazes me how men call women fish brain when they are.....

@ op, if it is truely spiritual, listen to this op.

I am not always in a hurry to jump to spiritual issues, but it may truely be spiritual.

There are too many concerns about a woman whose husband has barely slept with her for 8 years, even if menopausal,, but not worried for the husband. It has all the signs of self centeredness. She needs to be at the clinic seeking help and has not shown she truly love you or does not understand how love works.

If spiritual , my theory is that when op was not around for 2 years,, she felt at peace and desperate to keep the "peace" took some steps.

I will recommend they start with romance, thathas failed from the op's account, and makes me wonder how sexual attraction can even last long for couples in the neigbourhood of 50 's year by my estimation. It is not unusual for a drop in sexual attraction between couple of 20 years, but to not able to even bring yourself to touch one another suggest deep seated issues. Start from romancing for now, it may not be spiritual.

Greatmec:
I have been married to my wife for close to 20 years now.
My wife is a very faithful woman. But I can describe her as frigid. As sex/romance/love making is her weakest point. Since she scores very high on almost every other indices except intimacy I thought I could manage.

Anyway 8 years ago I traveled outside the country for 2 years and came back as I used to do. But this time around I noticed that I could no longer get an erection when I want to do the do with my wife. Since then I/we have done everything to look for solution, but curiously till now non has been found. If I go in with another lady everything works out very fine. If I even use an artificial V.G everything works fine. But once I near my wife my John Thomas will not stand. If it makes a mistake and stands a little and enters the honey pot then it will ejaculate within 10 to 30 seconds. It is extremely frustrating.

I have tried medical solutions severally. It didn't help. After several studies I have come to the realization that someone must have placed a charm on me or my wife for the sole sake of giving me temporary impotence only when am with my wife. Something like "Tesho" a charm placed on mostly Yoruba girls to prevent them from having intimacy before marriage. Anyone that wants to have intimacy with them will temporarily become impotent. And if such charm is not removed on her that scenario shall continue throughout her lifetime. That is the scary part. Such charm has no expiry date.

As a matter of principle I do not and have never patronized native doctors. So I have restricted my solution finding to Churches/pastors/prophets etc. Unfortunately after 8 year, till date I have found no single solution.
Right now I am open to getting the solution wherever I can get it.

The answers I seek are:
1) Who placed this charm
2) Is it placed on me or my wife
3) Most important: How to end this charm

I reside at Aba, Abia state.
a) If you know a good church/ministry or man of God that can solve it please inform me.
b) Otherwise if you know a herbal home/ native doctor that can only solve it and not make me enter into some other fetish/complicating things please inform me.
Please help a brother out of this frustrating situation. Thank you all.

May be try masturbating when she is beside you and see if you have an erection. Have you been to the clinic? what if her "frigidity" also affected you. Sex starts from the mind, it is more intense as a mind thing for some men. Have her naked for at least 3 consecutive days with no intention of having sex but just to romance her, while doing this imagine how loving a wife she is, just remember only the great things she may have done for you.

While away, did you nurse the idea she may be cheating on you? That may also have messed up your mind.

Dpsychologist:
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

haha. Possibly even cheating and keeping a side nigga in the name of " i was with him"

All the fraudulent yahoo yahoo and family members are out baring their fangs and claiming whataboutism.

Before any oyinbo will ask about a Nigerian politician, they have heard the proverbial "Nigerian prince" a thousand times you sons and daughters of perdition.

Yaya Bello is a big thief, but yahoo yahoos are criminals of international proportion plying the disgrace of Nigeria in a Pan continent way

NigerianAngelo:
How old is Singapore?

Singapore? Remind me the population of that country. It is not even as populated as Akwa Ibom. Are you also ready for a full fledged dictator, a smart one like Lee kuan Yew. I said it earlier on such dictators tend to bring fast change. Although Singapore is a tiny country and a wrong country to try to compare Nigeria with.

she wants to go back? She said he is a good man. I doubt he is a good man if he got someone pregnant while dating you and dumped you to marry her.

"we discovered". This girl wants the guy back, only God knows what she misses in a seeming dysfunctional man.

dettolgel:
Tell me how believing that we can provide the basic things we need and not necessarily at the level provided by the western country a contradictions that warrants your defence?

Secondly, are you saying with the amount we are generating we can't afford to clear our streets of refuse dump?

That we can't afford to provide a decent public school and that we cant afford a decent healthcare system?

Are you telling me that majority of our public funds that are being stolen if put into its intended use that we won't have at a decent country?

I observed that you guys don't read to understand but to attack anything that seems like a political text. What you failed to understand is that I am not only referring to funds being stolen in this administration but since the existence of Nigeria. Development is like a step you build on it over time. With what we have generated since 1960 till date should at least have the basic necessity of life not necessarily European or US standards. But every household should be able to have flushing toilet, our waste management system should be functional so is our public schools and hospitals. Whether we have speed train, space ship or the best military is not necessarily required.

what defence ? I speak reality and not theory solution to our problem. Nigerias growth will be gradual, may be annoyingly slow and steady. If you want fast , maybe a smart benevolent dictator. The issues are multidimensional. If i indulge you with waste management, you will agree that challenges with WM varies across states and more prominent in highly populated states, Lagos is a good case study. How many Lagosians even pay approved waste managers to dispose waste? How many have designated waste thrash can? How many do not throw refuse out of their car or public vehicles? The people who contribute to the problem in no small ways ironically join the cheap complain bandwagon. I see someone write here of some good old days, it is mostly nostalgic imagination or tales you were informed. Lagos was ranked dirtiest capital city in the world in 1973, go figure.

Baxilexi:
This is non sequitur friend.

The person who charts the way takes a longer time than the person who follows the way. Everything in life follows this principle. Once a hypothesis becomes theory, it can be replicated.

Nigeria has no excuse not to be doing better than its present quagmire. Where we are was where many countries where years back and today, many have taken a bullet train to catch up with their contemporaries, ex India.

We can choose to wallow in our misery or become intentional about creating a new Nigeria, and put an end to recycling of impotent politicians.

i have no doubt that we can be better, however i dislike those who travel and starts whining about how Nigeria should be like US. I am also a diasporan and believe Nigeria will get there . Nigeroa has nothing to benefit from Nigerians who whine all day and begin to talk down on the country that raised them just because they crossed the sea. Its growth has to be deliberate and collective. A boy who eats the rice of the neighbor and begins to castigate his mother thinks he has the full picture.

dettolgel:
Rwanda is not like the US or UK but have a semblance of a government that cares for the masses. Our infrastructures don't have to be in the same level as theirs but some basic needs should be provided for.

For instance, every household should have access to good plumbing system eg functional bathrooms and toilets. Secondly, waste disposal shouldn't be an issue at least in this present day. Thirdly, our schools should be well funded and regulated. Not the disparity that exists between public schools in the villages, where there are neither teachers nor chairs for students, and the public schools in the cities that are barely getting bye. Juxtaposition it with good private schools and you will understand the failure of the system.

Furthermore, our hospitals do not have to be as massive as Johns Hopkins and the likes but we should be able to get good health care and treat with respect both the patients and healthcare providers. I doubt if in terms of structures if Cuba can match the US but their healthcare system is open to be emulated. There are big hospitals in the Netherlands but not in the same league as the ones in the US yet healthcare services in the Netherlands is world class.

I can go on and on in every sectors. The idea is to use what we can afford efficiently not pissing it away through embezzlement.

Rwanda a one city country that was forced via brutal dictatorship in the name of Kigali that at best you only visited and stayed for 2 weeks. I likened that country to a 2 bedroom flat households owners try so hard to facelift the living room, but the kitchen and 2 bedrooms paint a different picture.

While Nigeria is gradually improving her budget to make clearly noticeably impact aside the looting by politicians and civil servants, its budget is abysmal low to get most things needed done and even maintain it. We are always quick to compare with countries with over 20 times budget per capita.

How old is Nigeria?


Just 70years ago, many states barely had 10% literacy rate, half of the population were almost naked and living like early man, but we suddenly think Nigeria should be US when we travel to US. We fail to see our role in the "failings" of Nigeria. There is no magic bullet, we will grow slowly and steadily at least in the next 15 years.

Zico5:
2027 is going to be brutal. It's going to be battle between APC and the masses. Let Tinubu continue to rule anyway he like. No condition is permanent and that's what he fails to understand. Everyone knows all this nonsense is an act to silent the opposition but he is playing to the gallery. He is not bigger than the masses.

all these empty threats because people are asked to do the right thing He is winning sha. Dont have HBP o.

hisexcellency34:
FCT Minister, Nyesom Wike looking fit, muscular and macho. Nice one sir.

There is nothing fit in "pot belly". I assume this is a distorted picture, however Wike's recent pictures shows he is currently looking more fit than he was many years ago.

To all those who think a man is healthy when he is rotund, obese and fat in the cheeks, it is Nigerias media showing unhealthy politicians and rich men that created that false image on your head.

Justnation:
When you were clapping for zelensky to destroy his nation you never knew the consequences.

Don't blame the great Donald J Trump for your stupidity.
You take Russia for a joke

oh yes, i remember clapping in year 2099 for Zelensky invading Ukraine in a war as a russian spy.

Trump will end the war in the first few days he said @ campaign. Oops, it is 5months already.

Lanretoye:
The only news that give some people joy is when they read Lagos is smelling.funny thing is that they are so quick to key into and take advantage of opportunities in Lagos,they will still come back and tell you that jakande made Lagos the fastest growing tech city

Jakande and Ambode .....lol

Nahunger:
We understand cause and effect!!!

But Nigeria is bereft of economic laws, we all know the oil licence has already being shared to cronies..



How is it possible Nigerian government can't build a bigger and functional refinery than that of Dangote do the maths...

Nothing will change, it's just a circus trip.

Even if we produce 50 million barrels per day, nothing will change.

The poor leaders of before are were even better in terms of welfare and investment than the present crop of luuters 😁😁😁🤗

Talk is cheap. Mention the licences that have been shared to cronies in ogoni land. I guess it is the same easy loose talk . Nigerians are all a reflection of the leaders. Although some are worse than the other. In 2016 at the height of low oil price and vandalism, by a group called avengers, many states were owing over 6 month of salaries to civil servant due to very low states allocation. It took a 20yr repayment period BAIL OUT to almost 30 states to save the day. The overwhelming majority of Nigerians are not different than the "luuters". Dey play.

Nahunger:


I used to doubt when they said bots comments and APC 30k crew comment on this platform.

But with this thread my eye clear 🤣🤣🤣🤣


Nigeria has been drilling oil for more than 30 years yet.
1. Food cost
2. House rent cost
3. Transport cost
4. No pipe borne water
5. High unemployment
6. Heavy tax to foot the bill from excess borrowing
7. Very poor electricity

And yet those bots up there are saying, drilling oil in ogoni lane is a good thing and will improve Nigeria, like how? In what way 🤣🤣
Delusions 🤣🤣🤣

That cheap money from oil production was what made majority of Nigerians benefited from highly subsidised tertiary education , fuel subsidy for many years and even cheaper cost of living compared to many west african counterpar. E.t.c. It is the failure of civil servants and politicians to use that cheap money from oil to diversify to other production to improve our income base that led us to where we are right now. Our population was increasing in great measure, yet our biggest earner which used to be about 2.3million barrels per day of oil production reduced to 1 million barrels per day. Most Nigerians don't understand cause and effect. An increase in oil production will improve the country. The question is to what extent? Many politicians, civil servants as well are planning to steal though, the reason why wealth is not distributed.

Dtruthspeaker:
Ah. Story

She deceived him to marry her. So now that she is married, she has gone back to her former ways.

simplistic view. Are you even married? Who knows if it is a pre teen behind this moniker.

apprentist:
Hello Guys, let me first of all say the cliché "It is well".

Now let we start.
I met my wife years back just before the COVID-19 year during which we dated for almost a year and then eventually got married just when the lock down was reducing. I started this story this way because I wanted to emphasis that during that period, we had so much time to bond and she was mostly available to me as she only worked on shifts 2 to 3 days per week.
We could sit and talk for long, go out at late nights and have great s*x as frequently as we needed.

This I think gave me a mirage of an anticipated marriage life so I didn't hesitate to take it a step further ones the lockdown was relaxed.
I also made it clear to her that her job would have to give way when their kids start coming as I had plans to assist her further her edu and also put up a biz for her.

Speed up to after COVID-19, she resumed work which till this day demands 5 days a week and 2 to 3 Saturdays per month all from 7:45am till 5pm. Often times she'd return home tired and would manage to make dinner and off to bed till the next day circle continues.
It became worse when we started having children. I drive them to school as early as 7:40am before dropping her off at her job. And then I'll pick them up by 5:30pm or 6pm when she's done with her job for the day (let me mention that this extends to public holidays and school holidays or breaks).

I got tired and in December 2025 I told her she has to quit the job. My plan was to enroll her back into a private school after my kids are Upto 4 years as one of them still depends on breast milk. I also gave her the option of starting a business which I understand is a dynamic move and might not be successful, but at this stage of my life it's something I could afford to risk and so I didn't mind.

I must also mention that out of a 100% sex, 50% is not mutual as I could sense she isn't interested and 40% is a denial as she would rather deny me of s*x with the excuse that she is tired.

Simply put, I'm tired.
I'm a Christian and divorce isn't an option. Also I can't cheat, but I am starved of s*x and my kids are not given the attention they deserve.
Pls advice me

Your immediate options will be try to get to bed early with her, no later than 10pm and possibly wake her for sex at 4am or thereabout. On the 2 weekends in month she is free, good time will be 6am, let the romance last longer, determine her highly erogeneous zones and play with that a lot. In fact on one of these weekends, romance her so well and refuse to have penetrative sex, by doing that you are manipulating her sexual desires towards you. A
womans vjay has its own brain. Lol . it remembers sexual encounters that makes her cum and wants to have more of that encounter. It also gets more stimulated when sexual encounters is rationed, it is a reverse psychology to increase her want for sex.


Set up a business or get her to school ASAP are your other options.

Arostar2023:
Who is responsible for the sabotage and what's stopping his prosecution?

Sabotage is hard to establish, reason why i mentioned it may be sabotage. Jamb has mentioned it is a third party contractor. To explain it in easy terms for you, it is like you having a company, and you outsource diesel supply for your generators to your company , if the company decide to supply petrol , and this is loaded to your diesel generator, you know the deal. How well can you prove sabotage even if it is one?

I will believe JAMB will have a way of dealing with such 3rd party contractor, possibly an end to contract.

ogascomax:
People will be shouting Lagos is worst hit as a reason why the South East should not be angry. If an Igbo man was the JAMB head and all six States of the West was affected will they tell me that they will take it easy with the JAMB boss. Because any time Igbo people complain they will be saying they are playing victim mentality. I am not an Igbo man but I dislike the evil campaign against them. It just show that they are jealous of what they have achieved as a people.
Why will the whole five Eastern State be affected not just one or two and you expect them to be quiet. Una be really yeye people.

someone responsible for software update of SE server dropped the ball. Who knows if it is even sabotage to pass a point. If i give you 5 people to manage in a small building, i will expect you to delegate duties amongst the 5 , one of them may drop the ball and you may have no control of preventing it. Everything is not Nsogbu Nsogbu.
The numbers of people affected in Lagos is higher than the SE. It is highly likely, the 3rd party contractor that won the IT. Job for the whole of SE , also managed Lagos. An error identified and an attempt made to fix it ASAP.

In 2024, UK medical doctor exams, an error was identified where wrong results were sent out to hundreds of medical doctor. It was discovered several months after. Those who passed were told they failed and vice versa, it was a technical glitch as well. Imagine doctors who had gotten jobs on the premise of passing an exam that they failed. https://www.bma.org.uk/bma-media-centre/bma-says-doctors-are-devastated-by-the-appalling-exam-mistakes-made-by-the-federation-of-royal-colleges-of-physicians-of-the-uk#:~:text=The%20BMA%20says%20the%20error,is%20nothing%20short%20of%20catastrophic.

Hopss:
Read about a case some few years back, a man bought coca-cola in quantities and shipped abroad, thinking of the profit he's going to make, when the consignment got to the designated country, it was shipped back to Nigeria , declaring it unfit for human consumption. so the man sued coca-cola bottling company. The following conversation took place
Prosecutor:Why did you produce a substandard product for me to export, there by making me to lose my resources.
Defendant:we never knew you wanted to export it, the drinks we produce in Nigeria is made for Nigerian market and not for export.
So you see, the coca-cola might look same but not the same quality. Mind you this really happened in Nigeria, it's no fiction .

fables. African stores have Nigerian drinks for immigrants who are stuck on taste.

Jamb of those era had serious malpractices and exam leakage. I laugh at people who did not know Jamb then used a defunct Afribank ONLY to sell a large Jamb form with prospectus, exams were conducted on same day and results when released can only be checked in Ikoyi office with a jamb slip . The other option is to wait for inefficient Nipost to send it to provided mailing address of candidate.

For Jamb to designate exam centres, students have to wait to receive jamb exam slip in the mail, and if they don't get one, they go to their city assigned special centre to sit for the exam. Many candidates claim to not have received the slip so as to use the special centres as it is widely believed the paper exam leaks more at the special centres and it is true to a good extent. Exam leakages happen usually 1 day before exam date.

There was no type for subjects untill 2000, when Salim, then Jamb registrar introduced it to curb malpractices. English exam question number and arrangement of options was the same for all students. 4 figure table used to be the route to smuggle and write the options.



It was a hot mess and there was no good old days but nostalgia deceiving many. Interestingly, it was hard to see candidates score above 290. Children of nowadays should not let the olodo and agbayas of then to lie to them. I opine that current candidates are smarter and more brilliant for obvious reasons like improved access to technology and information.

In an average Nigerians mind once a supposedly rich man is slim , something must be wrong with him

It is just a typical mental vision of a rich man in a Nigerians mind. He is also not appearing hairy raising suspicion of agege.

Boy is just slim, just like his dad at his age.

Retrogessive bill. What country in over 200 countries has a law forcing people to vote? How do you enforce it? Has electronic voting been canvassed via a bill?

There has to be punishment for lawmakers who waste the time of members of house with mickey mouse bills like this to claim they sponsored a bill.

Nigerian journalists and numbers illiteracy.

Show me a video of Sanwo olu saying this.

greatness77:
Azithromycin and doxycycline is the best affordable medicine to treat most of those common STDs that our girls are sharing to us, azithromycin 3500naira
Doxycycline is 400 or 1000 naira
But my advice is try use CD, yes we know raw is sweet but wetin d sweet d kill oh,
If you keeps on getting infections and treating it with dox or azithro one day those infections will wear body armour and starts defending themselves against dox and azithro, raw sex is very dangerous, I'm a stunch fan of raw sex but somebody here advised me to use CD but I refused to listen now I'm battling with serious and lethal std that is trying to vandalise my joystick, I'm typing this in pain, I've been drinking doxycycline but no sign of relief I priced azithromycin but they told me is 3500 which I no get
I regret my life, I will not have raw sex again😪😪

The bigger trouble is if you have no kids and you plan to have kids later. The repercussion usually wait till then, many fire blank and starts blaming their female partner.

Drug rehabilitation homes needed. NDLEA should partner more of such homes in its war against hard drug usage.

Lifestyle choices is the number ONE determinant of what is enough as income ! This applies anywhere in the world !

To explain further, it is a choice of what city you live, what kind of house you live, what food you eat, how you eat the food, what car you drive, for men what lust they chase, E.T.C ?,

IF YOU CAN'T REGULATE these choices, no amount will be enough.

Agbegbaorogboye:
OBJ paid $12bn debt and got forgiveness for $18bn
Tinubu pays a paltry $2.77bn and you think it's far better.
Are you sure you're thinking right

in less than 1 year of the current regime over $7 Billion forex backlog was cleared including foreign airline operators even while maintaining forex reserves within $40 billion . Obasanjo debt forgiveness was tied to a direct debit of our reserves to pay debt and there was a corresponding fall in foreign reserves that was quite noticeable. Many african countries in AU and not just Nigeria got the debt forgiveness and it was over 5 years in to Obj administration.
Another one, when Obj got in to power, Nigerias debt was $25 billion in less than 5 yrs it increased by close to 40% to $34 billion