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jansie: ok. i apologise. this is not d purpose of this thread.

Nothing to apologise for

jansie: if u wudnt go 4 islam cos of alhajis, y should i cos of ur friend? ehn lov, btw. am not takin anything personal ooo

Yours is hard luv. It was his recommendation na.

Let me think. I will then suggest

mansys91: one of the finest actors in nigeria( i mean professionally), the first nigerian woman to appear on opera Winfreys show, done good international movies, one of the first actors to get a solid endorsement(lux), the question is what is special about u?

Tell them haters

jansie: tnks chinelo. i get ur points now. so u win!
while trying to settle for something not perfect, i hav so many choices
which do i pick since i cant build

Hope you didnt take anything personal.

My friend recommend Islam

Mujah1deen: Why do you keep calling yourself a Catholic then? No wonder you refuse to embrace Islam(the only true path and the truth) it is obvious you can't respect/follow simple rules

If I join Islam it may be disastrous for me because i do not understand it. Why should I bath with a paper written in Arab? Those who were around me didn't help as well. Why should one recite prayers in a language they dont understand let alone converse with??

In Catholicism some things are debated. e.g. they used to use Latin and it was abolished, they recently loosened contraception and HIV/AIDS and condom stance. So there is progress.

Unfortunately I question things I don't get indoctrinated. Remember all these religions came with Arabs and Roman ( whites ) some of the things was with reference to them and their culture not to black culture.

E.g. Islamic way of dressing. It may have been like that because of the culture and weather Arabs found themselves in, maybe not because Muslims are suppose to wear like that.

So if questioning is wrong, then islam is not for me. Dont fight me ooo. Just debate.

jansie: chinelo sweetheart, recommend me a church so i can start attending maybe they cud change my `personal belief' to the supposed or acclaimed `beliefs' dat i ought to have known 4rm birth chinelo sweetheart, recommend me a church so i can start attending maybe they cud change my `personal belief' to the supposed or acclaimed `beliefs' dat i ought to have known 4rm birth

Please na. I cant choose for you. You " Personal cnvictions and beliefs " are on the way.

This is similar to looking for a man to commit to, and you have a list. Deep down you know, there is no human being who will fit snugly and perfect into you list. Men are already there trained and grown up
So the best solution is to build your own men or cut some of the requirements on your list.

Same thing with church. Churches are already there, built from different doctrines and foundations. Branded around a grown man ( Pastor ) You just have to fit in and ignore the rest.

I am Catholic, I don't agree with celibate priesthood, churches stance on woman priesthood, homosexuality and artificial contraceptions etc. I found the church there already existing, so I cant change it.
If I am to focus on my "Personal beliefs and convictions " then I will have to build my own church.

My solution is:

BUILD YOUR OWN CHURCH LUV WITH YOUR "PERSONAL CONVICTIONS AND BELIEFS"

jansie: my dear chinelo, if i tell u how i came about those list. these are not things that one priest or pastor came about n i just took hook, line n sinker. like i mentioned in my previous post. those are my personal believe n convictions. my foundation that wont change years from now

I hear you luv. YOUR " Personal beliefs and convictions " which are not the same as the churches.

What if they don't match exactly as per your expectations.
I dont think having " Personal beliefs and convictions " already will help you find a church in already existing pool of churches which were also built on the foundations of someones ( normally founding Pastor ) " Personal beliefs and convictions "

Mind you all these churches start and they are always branded around one Pastor and his " Personal beliefs and conviction " and his vision.

Your expectations are too high luv. You may be disappointed and change the church again before one year anniversary. Hop around and see.

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Not everyone is like uuu smello!

Her face ( ugly or not ) pays her bills and she ask for no dime from you. She is well know and popular. I bet she gets paid a better salary than you.

She gets to be the face of known brands, how about you? Have you ever advertised for anything let alone Indomie

She owns her whatever. She is enjoying wherever she is I doubt she even has time for Niaraland to see what you said about her, because she is busy jett setting luv.

What about you Show us what makes you outstanding

You so ratchet girl

If you don't have anything nice to say its better you keep it to yourself.

jansie: @chinelo
i'm nt jumpin into conclusion. i undastand wat u're saying perfectly. foundation. yes those are d foundations i listed in my post. so whatever doesn't fall into dat. i cant bear. i wasn't even born into pentecostal anyway bt i know better than be deceived. when i see what i want, wud settle for it. but 4 now, d search continues

All the best my love. I can bet the search will continue till old age.

jansie: d fact dat i was raised in a particular church doesn't mean i must remain there forever even when i know where it may lead me to. so ur point is invalid.

All that wish list you had on front page may change in 2 years. After two years you may speak another language of another pastor in another church, who is more miraculous than the last one. The tongues spoken in Reedemed church wont be tongues anymore in two years

That's how Pentecostal members are. Very gullible. Its always hard to give them advice.

So I am not sure whats invalid.

Not fighting o, just advising each other. Hence I am still advising you go with the flow.

jansie: d fact dat i was raised in a particular church doesn't mean i must remain there forever even when i know where it may lead me to. so ur point is invalid. i knw where u're goin

See you are jumping into conclusion. I am not going no where You requested input and am trying to have input.

All I was trying to establish is, whether you have a foundation where you can use as a basis and help you choose.
I said your childhood church could help you choose, I never said stay there and continue. If you have a foundation,it normally helps one to choose.

I remember I was once confused myself when I got to Uni, with all these born agains, who were surrounding me. What helped me determine if my confusion was really confusion was to go back to my basics and establish what went wrong.

The same people who were fishing me to join their churches are no longer in those churches anymore even before we finished Univ. That is my only skepticism. Pentecostal members change churches like under wear ( sorry to be blunt ).
They fish you to the supposedly truth and leave to discover another truer church according to them. That tells alot about a persons spirituality and character.

Personally I dont like that confusion in my spiritual life.The stable one can be confusing on its own.

jansie: yes i didnt as a child

I see. Your problem is big. If you attended church as a child it would have been easy, because you would have had some kind of foundation

Now that you never attended any church, its very likely that even if you choose one, you will still change it. I find people attending pentecostal churches to changes churches anyhow. If Pastor in church no 1 does this they get angry move on to the second one.

So if you had a childhood church it was going to help you choose. I can bet, you will change churches until old age. I would recommend for now go with the flow and then judge

jansie: i wasn't raised in any church :-)

Ok, I see. So as a child you never attended church on sundays

jansie: hello nairalanders, kindly recommend a church for this babe. u see i've been 2 so many churches but just a few seem to douse my curiousity n even d few have so many fault that i tend to stay home attimes on sundays. ok, lemme specify some things i personaly believe in and would no doubt change. so the recommended church must believe in the following:
1.speaking in tongues
2.trinity
3.wearing trouser, earrings n not covering hair
4.tithers
5.preaching d `gospel' n not sin every single day
6. has love n care for its members n not what they can get 4rm members
7.are doers n not mere talkers
8. regularly take communion
9. celebrate all kinds of functions:bdays, wedding,etc
Amongst several things also. i want to be goin 2 church n not b a couch potato.of all d churches i've been to, i enjoy christ embassy bt they av good leaders n bad followers, too money-couscious n i realise most dont even practice what their MOG teaches, though their pastor is my mentor. kindly tell me which good church to go. o_O
tnks

OP, may I ask without being rude. What happened to the church you were raised in.

Whats wrong with the church

jansie: please stop derailing my thread. is dis a form of setup to stop people from commenting. stop it else i report

apologies sweetheart

Mujah1deen: Allah knows best.

Allah knows child molestation

Mujah1deen: age is only a number. And love doesn't know any limit

Jeeeesuuu, I cant can never marry someone my grandfadas age. Sorry ooo.
Too wrong

Mujah1deen: She probably didn't know what to do in a church, besides don't you
Christians eat the body of Christ?
She was ignorant about your religion, why you didn't give her some advices or hints before actually going?

I don't get your last question, don't you Christian/catholic look at pagans as infidels too ? at Muslims as terrorists? You even call every non Christian a pagan.

I dont think she didnt understand, she simply disregarded my religion. In Catholic church there is a lot of stand up sit down for someone to have time for a munch She was simply rude. she can never eat in a meeting at work, no one has to tell you that.
Why eat when i am having a meeting with my most important man??
Had I refused to put a headscarf on my head, she was going to e unhappy.

Catholics dont judge. Catholic make their standpoint clear and we let people choose. e.g. Catholicism is clear on homosexual, hence they don't marry them, but then again we don't discriminate against them. We love them and the come to church

Secularist:

ThankU ThankU THANKU!!

Dem don nearly spoil market for me for here, because i dey find wife i be scammer. Wetin man pikin no go hear for this life.

Mujah1deen: If they weren't straight you would still complain.

Never been interested in them. I regarded them as father figures. Actually grand fada figure.

I was disappointed actually

Mujah1deen: We can correct her, don't you think so ? Especially if she didn't do that on purpose.

I took one Muslim friend to church one Sunday as a agreement to introduce each other to each others religion.

She just opened her food and started eating in the middle of mass. Thats how much she disregarded my religion

So how do I join such. How do I convert when Muslims look at me like an infidel

[quote author=isale_gan2]You sound terribly ignorant.

So, Alhajis are beggars where you live? I doubt they would have come on to you if they didn't feel you welcomed their attention.

I know an American girl who was complaining to me about a Nigerian (Christian) guy. She was having a conversation of a sexual nature with him. When he told her he was interested in having a girlfriend even though he was married, she continued to entertain his advances - asking him all kinds of things and flirting with him. That's a test from a Naija guy to see what kind of woman you are. "Girlfriend/mistress," not even wife. She even invited him to her house and then called another boyfriend of hers, a married guy to come over and scare him away. She was just playing with all these men. . . and one day she paid an expensive price for it. Don't lead men on. They have feelings too.[/quote]Leave the Christians na. They are always sinners. Sin every second, every millisecond. What do you expect from us Christians. We have changed Moses commandment to suit us.

Stealing is "Steal but dont be caught" What do you expect from us. Leave us please. We love sins son much. They taste good

Mujah1deen: I was talking about the whole alhajis are poor or beggars living on handouts. I doubt people can steal a wife, if she becomes your wife that means she wanted to leave her husband. Period

Didnt like their approach especially when they are in that position

[quote author=isale_gan2]Stop entertaining this creature. She's just using the opportunity to insult Islam.[/quote]I am talking to him Sir. So abeg leave us. I am not insulting anything but sharing my experience

Mujah1deen: what about a wealthy man? Wealthy enough to cater for all your needs?

What do you mean by I'm too jealous? He will still perform his duties so you have nothing to worry about

Money cant sleep with you daily, when he has other wives.

Aaaaah aaaah, my man and mine alone. I dont mind sharing with kids from previous relationship. But not sharing with other woman. Sorrry ooo. I am not that generous

Mujah1deen: it makes more sense lol

So, Sheiks are allowed to steal woman. Is that why it make sense