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most women nag for a reason. when you have a nagging woman check yourself ...most of the times .... there is a reason she keeps nagging and thatvis because you fail to give consideration to her complains or make amends ......

MOnkeyBabe:
God God God, you are like the most intelliGent human BeinG on NAIRalanD. Oh, I maRvel at the wisDom of GoD BeStOwed on man

thank you babe

one thing i always say to people is DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. Emotional trauma is one that even medicine cant cure but time ....

While the best advice would have been to find someone else... truth is your man aint going to change his mind except another woman makes him feel the need to and that woman probably aint you.( this may have hurt forgive me )

weigh your options and shoot for your happiness . Remember no one will cry with you or share that pain if you choose to leave him for someone who doesnt see marriage as an issue.

But if you simply cant , am sure the tickets are left open for you.... It may just be his way of indirectly telling you he has no intention of marrying you knowing fully well most woman will not settle for that his option .....just so you prepare yourself ontime

beautiful piece

its been a long time coming ........HushPappi finally got hit....Interpol aint Efcc oo

SweetCunt97:
It's well

lol ....

SweetCunt97:
If you in Abuja, abeg relocate go Lagos or east. Many Men in Abuja are fakers. Freeloaders.

i am in abuja ooo ....

Kalapizim:
You are narrow minded to even bring this topic up.

many thanks for the polite slap. how can people even ask such questions in this 2020

What nonsense caption....

this is true to a large extent, but in life there is no blueprint .........

DModeCntStopMe:
The more I read and try to understand your write-up, the more confused I get.

i do not know why people just get up and switch up on people who they have a relationship....more like one day you are in and next minute you are out.... (that is switch up)

foleskay:
The video just dey vex me. See those stupid onlookers shouting bro bro bro hes not breathing. They could have pushed d erratic officer away. This can't happen on d streets of Nigeria without passersby resisting and fighting off the police away on d man. I trust my naija peeps for this. This treatment can't happen in full view of d public without fighting those police. Nonsense US

That isnt entirely true if the case happened in Nigeria . they wd rather stand and watch

i dont even know people get up and switch on others ....

crackland:
More men will definitely want to marry women like their mothers, but very few women will want to marry men like their fathers.

Says a whole lot...

says alot indeed...............

eni4real:
Is that the reason why you do that to your profile pic??

curiosity kills the cat

Klass99:
@ Seekness,

First of all, I like your writing ability it made your story enjoyable to read.

Secondly, I am not married but do not be quick to discard the opinion of a single person on the basis that he/she lacks marital experience.

True, single people may lack that sort of experience, but some of us have solid relationship experience from relating with people of different races, age and gender. This is what I know from my own decades on earth. Actions really do, speak louder than words.

Show your wife that her attitude hurts and show her that you can play her game too. Show her through actions, don't tell her or try to dialogue anymore, talking to her and communicating verbally hasn't worked, so try something new and different.

Some people say, two wrongs don't make a right, I say, giving people a dose of their own medicine is one of the best and quickest ways, they learn how to adjust their attitude towards others. I learnt this the hard way myself.

Two wrongs can indeed make things right (in certain situations). I'm not a fan of "talking too much" either. I prefer to show people who I am and what I can do. I also pay attention to what people do, more than what they say.

OP please listen to this

ednut1:
You are not a serious person. After the last thread you still stay put. Keep dating yourself

lol, you know matters of the heart can be very dicey... its just a matter of time she would realise

charlesELIKIBA:
oh wow.
this has got to be my best read so far.
you maybe right about comparison because sometimes I feel anything my cousins are today is out of their fathers wealth and not a fresh beginning like mine. that's the only comparison I can think of
truth is for me I have blamed my own mother the most, you know for giving me out.
to be honest if I have anger for anyone on if I was treated differently, that anger will be on my mother.
and this has affected our mother, son relationship.... it's not there at all.
I am beginning to think I know what to do.

it's just poped on me after reading what you wrote. maybe my uncles wife is expecting of me like a son because I have refused to recognise my mother as my true mother. just maybe this is the connection that needs to be broken. I need to love my mother more and unconditionally.

I think I need to talk to my mother about how i feel. oh boy can belive I am teary just writing this sentence. I feel this is it really.

MODIFIED: I FINALLY SPOKE TO MY MOM ABOUT IT.

I spoke to my mother today and she said my cousins were crying they wanted me to stay with them at their base (this was after she and I, I was 4yrs old when we visited them the first time.)
at that time my cousins were 5yrs, 4yrs and 3yrs respectively.

so when they revisited hometown, on their way back to the base the kids were crying uncontrollably and my uncle and the wife couldn't bear it anymore and they had to turn back to come pick me up.

she said it wasn't that she couldn't care for me in a own little or do we say penury way (even tho I still feel as a mother she could have insisted the most but she did it of freewill. if you can't trust anybody with your kid at least not your blood brother)(but she has a history of her kids not spend childhood with her, so I find it as a cheap excuse from her)

years later she said she ask my uncle why he returned me and he said it was the devils work.

we just had this discussion tonight and all this while I tot she just begged them to cater for me.

you see why communication and confrontatiin is always key before conclusion?

abarat:
I could remember when I just graduated from Uni. and no money inflow, I was always scared of falling in love to avoid heartbreak,.
A lot of girls came my way, eventhough they knew I was broke, they would still agree to date me and only leave when they realised I wasn't serious with them whereas I was trying to avoid heartbreak... lol

Then, there was this particular young lady I met, she was just 18yrs, so beautiful and intelligent. I don't know how she did it but I fell in love instantly. She also loved me so much that I was already planning to wait for her and marry her.

Also, I did tell her my plans to become rich and just because she knew I'm a man of vision, she did love me the more

Then, after a year down the relationship and still no job, still no money; her true character (woman character) start to show. she didn't really care about me like before, she would just lost interest immediately I start talking about our future, she hardly call etc. Anytime i tried to talk about it, she would say she still love me and does not know whats wrong with her, she wasnt love freak again, she was just playing my heart like table tennis till I eventually got tired and we broke up.

So from that experience, then I realise there is nothing like true love. we are all selfish. everybody wants the best for them self and when they realize you may not be able to give them their heart desires at the long run, they will leave you. That girl telling you as a broke guy that she can die for you will leave you as long as better offer start showing up.

In conclusion, my advise for young broke guys is that chase that money first before any lady. Don't be deceive by those I love you tales because they will eventually break your heart..lol Never fall in love when you are still broke to avoid heartbreak.
peace out!!

there are and have been exceptions ... so this isnt entirely true

This hurts the eyes

That boy is not useful

Folzye:
Smiles.... . Why upload a picture u still intend to censor, very weird.

your opinion.

Folzye:
The picture on ur profile have something weird on it

It is nothing weird , i deliberately censored some part of the picture .

she looks good.

Folzye:
Lol, have u checked ur profile.. Ur display price picture...

what exactly do you mean?

that he isnt mentally ready for commitment

Confusion

Ningen:
Another dimwit.

Only someone with a non-existent self-esteem and sense of self worth will tolerate a cheat.

You are not even ashamed to announced it's not her first time cheating... You must be worthless.

Just cut off your balls and feed it to the dogs.
If you don't know what to do, STOP being a man.

Jeeeez

Oh gosh .......the church isnt spared too from the atrocities ?

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OP i wont judge you but id like to point out the mistakes you made before advicing you.

1. dating a married man in the first place is soo wrong and you were so overwhelmed with greed to believe him even accept his offer about a male child. Whatever that man was giving you and your family , you could have earned alil of it if not all if you had been hardworking .

2. you were so eager to take another woman's home and cause her tears too.

3. your mom goin spiritual about things was such a huge NO.

If you commit suicide , and murder that innocent child , you will never find peace.Please retrace your steps to God and find comfort in his forgiveness. You need to go back to ur mom and find something doing to help you raise that child . May the odds be in your favour.

you can choose to sue the man .

and if you still considering suicide which i and others have adviced against , kindly send your baby to a motherless baby's home before you do it . pls note ... when you leave this world , your demise will not shake the man nor the world ...you might probably not be missed ... so choose your options carefully.