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The poor guy

They’ve started advising her to be remorseful. You killed someone (lets assume by mistake), took his phone and withdrew his money. Went home like nothing happened. The shock and fear should have made her ill but no. Even her family didn’t notice a change in her demeanor.

This person has serious psychological issues and would have killed again if she wasn’t caught.

Someone I know allowed his wife to sleep with a guy for a big money contract but at least they were married. When I asked him why he agreed, he said he thought about it and that she could have cheated and he would still never know. They got the contract, are living big and they are still together and happy. I call them Mr & Mrs Smith, only the husband knows why.

I don’t like the idea of taking money from the guy while leading him on & she’s betrothed to you but be careful. With women of today these are the things you deal with. Sending her away may not be the fix, there are no angels out there.

Get a proper understanding of whats really going on. Is she being truthful to you or is she considering the guy. You must find this out first.

PENNYSWAP:
Greetings guys ..

I’m in an emotional trauma right now. This girl I have been dating , I want to marry and I have gone to her place and did a few of things my hand could afford traditionally .. I’m hoping to do the rest by Xmas .

She is a new graduate and she told me to open a side business for her to make small small change instead of being idle.

I told her to give me small time to save up money .

There is this guy she always talks about that is a yahoo boy and has plenty money , long story short , she came to my house last weekend , we were discussing, I wanted to use her phone and play 9ja ludo but she insisted on not giving me the phone .. she held the phone , turned her back after pressing it for long she gave it to me .

I angrily seized the phone , told her I bought the phone and sim that I’m seizing it.

We later settle and she slept early hours of the nxt day , I woke up brought her phone and it was on plane mood , I removed it from plane mood and a text msg came in from some guy .

I went to her WhatsApp to check the guy out and behold , she blocked the number on WhatsApp.

I unblocked the number and sent him message first , we started chatting , the guy was saying how he loves her and all that shit and the money he sent her to open up a side business.

I woke her up , confronted her and she said she did it for me since I was wasting time to raise money for her , she had to take it from her class mate , the said yahoo guy .

That she’s sorry not to tell me about it since .

She said I should allow her answer the guys calls so that she can get more money from the guy. I agreed and gave her the go ahead but she promised that she won’t allow any man see her unclothedness aside me her husband to be.

My mind has been heating up , why she lied to me and hid something of this nature to me .

The other mind is telling me to impregnate her then dump her when she’s 6 months pregnant that if I leave her now , the guy might take over and I will be the mugu here .

Guys what do I do , I need to wicked this girl I swear , my mind is boiling

Some one I have done 45% of her dowry is doing this to me . Kai I be mugu Oooooo

I need advise from real niggaz

Not initiation per se but its like yahoo. You don’t just pick a laptop and start yahoo. Someone directly or indirectly has to put you on. Thats the orientation.

BigBashiru:
I agree with your assessment - quite accurate....
do oloshos get initiated? What kind of initiation?

Love is not a scam. It mutates. The idea of love during our grandparents time wasn’t the same as it was during our parents and is not the same now.

You must understand what obtains around you and adjust accordingly. Red is red because everyone agrees it is so. So having a different opinion than the general idea puts you at the receiving end. A girl might love you, give you anything and everything and never be faithful. Thats the idea of love now.

They all have to pass through that hoeing phase these days but it usually passes. I give kudos to the guy you quoted blacksavage

He may have 99 problems but a woman will never be one of them. He’s hacked the code.

Obarofrederick:
My brother, na so the matter just be. Trusting this present generation of girls is at your own risk, there is nothing you can do that will make them loyal. Their thinking these days is just one sided, same orientation guiding them. There is a book written by Rollo Tomassi, titled "Rationale male". This book contain hidden knowledge about the female gender and what we the male must do to counter their tricks and manipulations. Love na big scam!

I once met this guy in Unilag in 2011 or thereabouts. I came to see my young bro & cousins who were students there. I went there with a deep brown colored 2010 ZDX, he saw it and was thrilled, so he walked up to me. We talked and exchanged contacts but the relationship didn’t go further. If he can see this I’m sure he remembers.

He must have had that 2006/2008 range at that time, do you know how much that was at that time?? Delsu? Are you kidding me? Lol! The reigning expensive car then for big boys was evil spirit. It was all over Unilag. The big girls In unilag at the time could have given DELSU boys a good run for their money talk more of the boys.

Mrxawe:
Haha I remember this dude. But if he was the richest in unilag back then then unilag dey learn. They need come delsu

Self defense but after the murder she did not raise alarm. Self defense she took his phone after. Self defense she went on to withdraw 5 million from the man’s account until GTB had to block it. Self defense she went home living her life like nothing happened even after he was declared missing & found dead.

Self defense, a man who gives you access to his ATM card & pin is not a man who would want to kill you or has such in mind unless provoked. Self defense but you think in a fair fight, she would really stab a trained boxer 3 times and leave him for dead?

Its a good thing you’re not a lawyer. This straight road to death sentence my brother.

As someone with a decent background in security, let me tell you what happened. This girl usually a no nonsense Olosho. She may look innocent but she’s had the most ruthless orientation when she was getting in. The type that you take home & begin to size you up. Looking for pecks & clues. If you got stuff on you, they drug you & lift it. If you are a big fish & no chance to lift on the first night, she ensures there’s a repeat until she wins.

The guy gave her his card to get money; she saw the balance & went greedy crazy. Drugged him & killed him.

FinallyFamous:
Na wa o

She fit claim Self defence if CCTV no dey the room.

If CCTV dey the room tor, na lawyer go talk that one...

But why??

Young ladies: Leave married men for their wives,

Married men: leave people future wives alone for their husbands

You cant. Nigerians living in Nigeria are not eligible.

I skipped your points, sorry, you thought you made sense but they’re dirt.

What does your being a London have to do with this? Nothing.

Reality is...you’re not in London. If you were, you wouldn’t see a cup of coffee as something to brag about.

Also, I’m willing to stake on the fact that you most likely have never had coffee.

YouWillNotWin:
Lol, you have intentionally skipped through all the points I raised in specific sequence and I am not IPOB -

I am in London having a beautiful cup of coffee while you are overrating the NA and talking crap as expected. No point arguing, carry on, we will see how it ends. The truth is the NA needs better training and education. You cannot carry out collateral damage and expect to sleep at night with both eyes closed. People are desperate, people are angry, people are impoverished and what does you overrated NA do, they pour flames over the fire.

Daft people.

If they have lost why are you so worried? You should be happy.

War isn’t fought on twitter/FB my brother. Creating multiple fake accounts to propagate your nonsense wont do you any good. Propaganda can win you an election, not a war.

Nursed aggression doesn’t mean you’ll win and the victim doesn’t always win. This is no home video or happy ending cinderella story. You could still die with your nursed aggression if you don’t employ tact.

Wisdom is profitable to direct. Use wisdom, not nursed aggression.

Kandeed:
So will the Army track them to their respective homes using Twitter or FB?? what you see Igbo people do on Twitter or FB is as a result of nursed aggression n oppression. imagine 90% of igbos supporting UGM pls tell the military they've lost this battle even without drawing the battle line

Good! Now you’re beginning to unravel.

If the army decide to shell the whole of the east, what does IPOB have to fight back to make it a full blown war? You’re a joker. Even Boko Haram with AlQaeda & ISIS backing hides from the NA, talk less of IPOB.

The day you pick up arms against a country you have declared war. You are in a war but you don’t realize it yet, the war has come but you’re still waiting for it, lol. If the Army bumps into IPOB/ESN miscreants or goes into their hideouts they’ll open fire, thats war man, wake up. You’re living in a bubble and under some strange illusion which is peculiar with most IPOBists.

If you want peace you have to drop those arms on the terms of your opponent.

Army arrives after IPOB/ESN vacates? Well they need not vacate. They can as well not be in a hurry and wait for the NA to arrive. Joker.

YouWillNotWin:
Conext of article - "if the Nigerian Army start to shell and bomb Igbo towns and cities, this will become a full blown WAR - i am sure you understand"

85% of Igbos are against UGM including me and especially many of us who have hundreds of relatives in the army.

But..

The way to stop the violence is not to create more violence. They should work with the indigenes, police and government to eradicate the UGM plague which we all hate.

However, what I have been told by people on the ground in Imo State is that the NA is going about maiming, killing and abducting mostly innocent youth in the hundreds. And the funny thing is they always arrive at a crime scene after the UGM have vacated ; then they start killing innocent people. If this approach continues, the NA cannot win, it will fail.

So if you are a soldier etc tell your strategists to learn from Boko Haram and to do better this time to CREATE PEACE not WAR !!!!

There is no context here. You’re being sneaky on this write-up. Giving IPOB more credit than they deserve and subtly encouraging their activities. One thing is, the Army has a media department, they see this things you lots write and report it.

They have a strategy team who will analyze and decide on the line of action. With every nonsense you put out that paints the NA as incapable, you’re asking them to use more force. Innocent people are bearing the brunt, you lots really don’t care about your people. Its a shame.

If you had intellectuals, schemers & strategists in your group; they would have pointed these things to you. What I have stated here is what people pay serious money to get. Report back to your group and use the info wisely.

YouWillNotWin:
If you read many of my articles you may realise that we agree about strategy etc. Put things into context and revise the purpose of the article. Dont come back with another comment without reading the article again 'in context' and proper reasoning..

Your online onslaught is too weak. You lots lack strategy. Look for respected writers & journalists who have clout and reach and are sympathetic to the cause to write for you.

This is too childish a strategy and dumb a write up. What is the capacity or capability of IPOB as at today to face the NPF in battle talk more of the NA, you guys lack think-tanks and hardware. These sneak attacks are not it, you are putting the safety of innocent people in the East in jeopardy.

Imagine if you got the like of Chimamanda & others to write on the challenges of the igbos in Nigeria and why they must secede, it would have more impact and reach than a million of these dumb nonsense.

Same military that has received accolades world over for their gallantry. Even the US has not been able to end the Talibans or ISIS.

You are an ignorant loud mouth.

kettykin:
Useless 5th century military and their scorched earth policies. This is why boko haram has been routinely routing and brutal inflicting heavy casualties on them for more than 10 years . I have never seen such a useless military in human history

I stopped reading after the first paragraph. If you’re ever caught on the suspicion of armed robbery, once you get out, go & be an armed robber, thats on you. You’ll be caught and thrown into prison, no one will care if you were acquitted the first time.

Anyone or entity that picks arms against the citizens & property of the state must be met with as vicious force as the nation can muster.

If he’s innocent he has to be set free. Online propaganda wont cut it here. Let the police do their investigations. You don’t get to say who is innocent or isn’t. You all like to malign the police at the slightest but you forget they are they ones out there confronting these infidels on our behalf and receive the brunt of the idiocy named ipob.

Sit this one out and let them do their job.

Reference:
Hmmm....but in the 'wisdom of your assertion do you not consider the fact that if the fellow is NOT a member and perhaps knows nothing about these criminal gangs, has no affiliations or interests in these groups HE MAY BECOME RADICALISED BY ASSOCIATION.

This is what we constantly say about the structure of Nigeria that promotes the repetitive lines of errors. The kind of errors that caused a once radical but timid religious movement in the early 2010's to become a raging, carnivorous, blood letting, cross border amorphous insurgency we witness today.

Once again the inability of the security authorities to get on top of the situation and fight violence with intelligence, justice and in best practices will cause manageable problems to metastasise.

We should be careful as a country and the whole lot of fellow citizens out there should demand that the right thing is done by the authorities this time around. This country CANNOT afford fighting on two fronts no matter the bravado by political office holders.

Citizens MUST demand for a de-escalation of the situation and a peaceable negotiated settlement SOONER THAN LATER.

When this matter gets out of control folks like you goading on the government to act without fidelity will begin to bemoan the fallout on the wider society, the stability and even the economy of the country.

Violence PAYS NO ONE.

She doesn’t want to marry him. Leave her alone.

Lol, if you think all ipob supporters are conductors or jobless then your head is in your bum. You don’t know whats going on. Him having a job or whatever doesn't mean he is not one of them. Heck! Ipob just contracted a US lobbying firm for $750k where do y’all think the money is coming from.

If its a case of wrong place, wrong time, let him prove his innocence, let them continue to escalate the issue. The situation is the country is dire now, especially in the east. Everyone must be very careful how they move and who they mix with.

Morever, the way I see it most easterners are guilty by association. You see how they cheer these ipob/esn guys in videos when they go out to kill and destroy? You think the police/army don’t see these things. Unless y’all come out vehemently to condemn these folks, the innocents amongst you will also bear the brunt. The police/army men ipob has been killing have innocent children, wives & relatives too.

All is fair in love and war.

Whaaat!? You married a 22 year old girl?? Thats almost like an abomination these days. Also you married a woman who enjoys the company of another man? Whats the basis for the so-called bestie, don’t you realize its mutual admiration and likeness if not love. She even called him, saying all that in your presence. I thank God for the man that I am.

You should have tried to break the bond before you got married. Ladies of that age are too fickle and unreasonable. You’re at the point where anything you see, you have to take it. If you try too hard to break them, she’ll turn on you and make your home miserable for you. She could go to lengths to get at you. They’re hardly rational at 22.

I’m sorry to break it to you that this matter has no suitable solution since you already spoke to her about it and she did not change. Whatever decision or action you take, she’ll react negatively. You have to look for a way to manage the situation until she gets older, mature and wiser which could be in 5-10 years time. And I feel like apart from the bestie issue, there are a whole lot of other issues you’d be dealing with because this person is clearly not ready or ripe for marriage. Prepare your mind.

Go to romance & marriage section.

suratwo62:
Divorce is allowed in Christianity and Islam. Marriage is negotiable.
Surah 33:28

(33:28) O Prophet,41 tell your wives: “If you seek the world and its embellishments, then come and I will make some provision for you and release you in an honourable way. (33:29) But if you seek Allah and His Messenger and the Abode of the Hereafter, then surely Allah has prepared a great reward for those of you who do good.”

Even if he said so, as a senior Nigerian military officer that wont be out or order. His allegiance is to protect the entity Nigeria & keep it as one.

But Ibo youths under the guise of UGM/ESN/IPOB murdering security operatives in cold blood, destroying public property and disrupting the general peace is ‘heartful’?

Okurrrrr

Even in the capitol, an American citizen was gunned down for about the same offense. And I’m not a PMB fan but the directive is not exactly a ‘shoot innocent peaceful law abiding ibo youths to death’ order. I would not support any of such.

First you gave out money you couldnt afford to give, now you have promised money you don't have and you’re talking about goats and shit

Dundee United

Tell him you don’t have the money & go about your underwhelming life that has you frustrated because you gave someone 20k & you’re about to lose your mind because same person asked you for 30k.

PuZZyNegro:
If I don't rant, how will a goat like you see space to type shiiiit?

Should have told him your mind instead of coming here to rant. I don’t really understand why you have brought this here.

Lol. GEJ canceled subsidy and some of you protested saying we could not buy for N143, he wants to kill us, he wants to steal our money, there’s no subsidy bla bla

Well, the same set of people who protested with you then are about to cancel the same subsidy that they say was non-existent and you may be paying N300+ for the same product you refused to pay N143 for.

You played yourselves.

With all the people in the civil service, its still not working. We must make these tough decisions for Nigeria to work.

The Nigerian government is not an NGO. Even companies downsize when they’re not profitable. A situation where money that meant to service and develop a whole state is being shared amongst a small amount of people in the name of civil servants can not continue.

Most states are borrowing to pay salaries, paying half or owing for so many months. A lot are in debt, how long will this continue? Kaduna is paying the new minimum wage and the Governor has stated he wants to pay even more but needs a qualified, right-sized workforce.

Go to local and state govt offices. Most of the workers are just there doing nothing or not much to warrant full employment. Most of the ones that are even working are not offering any value instead they have messed up and corrupted the system.

Didn’t you see scripts of the simple test conducted for teachers in Kaduna some years back? People who cant write an application letter or pass exams of the same wards they teach were drawing salaries. Tell me what fraud is?

Slimdan360:
Your main concern is the civil service,how much do they even pay them,can the short vile man in kaduna sustain his family with #30,000,but you want to take that away from them,not that the money from their salaries will be used to build industries where they will work o. The short vile man should confess that he wants to start saving for 2023 election but I assure you,over ambition will definitely kill him.if the short devil is genuine in cutting cost,it won't be from the civil service but from political appointees,it's only in Nigeria that we have personal assistant to every political office holder,haba,whats their use,and they pay them nothing less than #150,000 but here u are,accomplice or maybe political appointee to the short vile man,while my advise for u is to retract your steps for the consequences of supporting evil is grevious.

El rufai is right on this one. However, there should be some form of compensation for the retrenched.

From the resolution, its a big win for Kaduna. Other governors would implement same in their states once Kaduna falls through. Even the FG.

El rufai might be annoying sometimes but he is a visionary leader with balls!

OK.

KGD10:
It's not man slaughter. Didn't you comprehend the statement? The lady was heading out for the door when he chose to attack her. He intentionally killed her. It was the lady who actually made self defense by defending herself from being raped and ran towards the door afterwards.. The lady wasn't the one holding him but rather he was the one holding the lady. The lady defended herself and flew for the door. At that point he should have let her go as the lady wasn't holding him but heading for the door yet he intentionally picked up the stabilizer and went after her to kill her intentionally. He already nailed himself with his statement. So much for the stupid lots who tried to cover for him by giving him such stupid statement in the first place, just like kufre nailed himself with his stupid write-ups. Stupid people.

Lol, I hope you haven’t misunderstood me.

Anyway, manslaughter will most likely not put him away forever and thats were this case maybe be headed and I’m afraid to say that he has a decent chance.

WinterMinter:
Thanks for conceding with me.
At least he admitted to murder or manslaughter whatever the court ruled,he will surely be out away forever,never to witness humanity

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Great! You have asked salient questions that will be useful in court during cross examination.

Its left for prosecution to pick holes in his story and use it against him; rather than creating an imaginary sequence of the events to counter him.

My point here is whether he is lying or not; flow with his story, pick holes and nail him! Put him away forever. Thats what important.

WinterMinter:
He was actually defending himself since he was alleged to be physically attacked by the victim,but why will a girl decide to have sex to a complete stranger who just got her cheated ?

And where did he found a condom that fast without the girl contemplating ok it, assuming they did had sex?

He claimed he was attacked by her a stabiliser,which is a baseless point,he is a man and based on his size he can overpower her without much stress disregarding the fact they were having sex.

So why will he attack and kill someone trying to run for her life assuming their points were valid?

I’m not the killer, relax.

Its his word against hers but she’s dead. Let him tell his story, we’ll put holes in it, tie a rope around and hang him with his own damn story. Its simple logic. In court, you can not counter his story with your own version of events as you were not there as witness, neither are you the victim. Only the police can through proper, meticulous investigation but that hasn’t been the case.

My point here is crystal clear; I suspect you do not have a proper idea of how the court works. Morality, sympathy, empathy or sentiments don’t work there. Only facts and tact; thats why a guilty person can walk free if they’ve got a good, smart lawyer.

Sterope:
Yeah and I lifted stabiliser while lying down


What does CGPA and right to life have in Common? I am very sure that wasn't how I explained it.


Why are you asking me that question? Am I the state prosecuting the matter?