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continuing from aisha's post

Pride goes b4 a fall

Shit Happens,
Every cloud has a silver lining

Studied English Language @ N.A.U
Currently learning French
Graduate Member of NIM
Thinking of writing CIPM exams
Thinking of doing my Masters in Communication Arts

I'd like 2 know ur decision. R u gonna leave her 4 ur boss?

na u know oh, u're on ur own.

If ur right arm causes u 2 sin, cut it off.

[b]I am breaking up with my girlfriend because she is too perfect” was the out cry of a frustrated man in a 9 month relationship. Some people may ask,” are you crazy?” or “can we swap girlfriends”? But what would your reaction be if you were in his situation?

In my opinion these is nothing like a perfect relationship, there must be conflicts. Having conflicts isn’t the problem but how the conflict is handled has always been the issue.

No matter how identical two individuals are, they must have areas in life where they differ in opinions, interests, ideologies or beliefs.

In a relationship if both parties are exactly the same, on person is irrelevant and has seized to exist as an individual. Rather he or she is a reflection of the other person in the relationship.

It is possible that one person is laid back and not really into arguments or conflicts. He or she might just give in to prevent further arguments. In my opinion peace at all cost is no peace at all. Avoid arguments may seem to be ideal in the short term by the effects on the relationship would be felt in the long term.

In some societies, having the so called perfect relationship would be a perfect scenario, especially in societies where the man is regarded as the Alpha and Omega. He barks jump to the woman and she replies how high. In such cases, she seizes to express her feelings, disapproval’s or concerns for fear of retribution. She exist as a figure head an in most cases a sex object. To everyone else she is the perfect and obedient wife, loving caring and probably a references point by jealous neighbours and relatives. Only if they knew what the situation really was.

Why would a woman subject herself to a lifetime of misery, depression, slavery and emotional denial? Definitely her marriage to her husband would be wrong model to her children. Could it be because of:
Religion

Some religions regard women as lesser beings and require them to be subordinate to their husband. Hence thy have no voice, vote or opinion.
Tradition

There are traditions and cultures that also regard women to be lesser than the man. They are given as gifts to worthy friends or business associates. In some cases they are presented to the ruling monarch as wives. There is a practise in a tribe whereby men entertain their guests with their wives. All you have to do is visit a friend that believes in that foolishness and you can have his wife for the night.
Desperation

Would you blame a woman that has been in numerous relationships and everyone ended in a fiasco leaving her heart broken. Besides her biological clock is ticking fast. This time she has decided to deny herself her liberty, voice and opinion in order to please her husband. She fears she stands a better chance if she goes with the flow and do exactly what he says, thinks or feels.
Intimidation

Can any one identify with this? In a situation where one person is intimidating, the other person seizes to exist because he or she believes he/she doesn’t stand a chance in the argument or conflict. So to keep the peace, he or she just obeys whatever the command is. Most women married to soldiers fall in this category.
Lack of self esteem

It is possible that inferiority complex and lack of self esteem can contribute to how one reacts in a relationship. When you feel that you are being done a favour by being in the relationship then you would always be subservient side doing every and anything possible to please your mate. These are 5 reasons why people remain in a bruised and battered relationship
Hidden intentions

Well, its possible he or she is after something, hence the reluctance to oppose or disagree with anything. There are gold diggers around looking for whom to devour. It could be for financial gains, immigration purpose or to conceal damaging medical history.

An ideal relationship is one where there is true love with no fear of intimidation. Both parties are free to express themselves and express their innermost thoughts, dreams and aspirations. In areas of disagreements, they both seek a middle ground or agree to disagree.

In life we are bound to face conflicts with relatives, friends, work colleagues and in places of worship. It is crucial that both parties master the act of fighting fair, conflict resolution and diplomacy without having to compromise ones believes and values.[/b]

Culled from
http://www.peleodiase.com/blog/do-perfect-relationships-exist#more-130

VACANCY

Parkway Projects is a world class IT software and services provider based in Lagos. We have a need for seasoned, experienced and result oriented professionals to join our existing Software Project Management Team. Remunerations are generously commensurate while there exist numerous opportunities for significant skills acquisition and advancement. All interested and qualified individuals should forward their Résumés to cokiche@parkwayprojects.com.

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POSITION

PROJECT MANAGER (preferably female)

Educational Qualifications (for all job categories)

• A degree in Computer Science, Computer Engineering or any related field with a minimum of 2nd class lower.
Skill Set
• Software Programming / development skills. -Beginner/Intermediate Level
• Good background of I.T Systems infrastructure. -Intermediate Level
• Project Management.- Beginner Level

Experience
• Software Requirement Specifications & Analysis
• Exposure to Enterprise Software Applications.
• Expertise in Microsoft Project & Microsoft Visio.

Certifications
• Any related certification will be an added advantage.

Personal Traits (for all job categories)
• Excellent communication skills
• Organizational Abilities
• Interpersonal Skills
• Ability to work with a team.

BUSINESS ANALYST
Skill Set
• Working knowledge of at least one high-level, object oriented programming language
• Detailed understanding of enterprise web application architecture and operation
• Significant experience designing enterprise software solutions
• Working knowledge of computer networks and protocols
• In-depth understanding of various standards and protocols for software interfacing
• Strong verbal and written communication skills
• Proficiency in working with Microsoft visio, Microsoft Powerpoint, Microsoft Word and Microsoft Excel.

Job Responsibilities
• Client interaction for system requirements gathering
• System requirements analysis, and modeling of software solutions
• Documentation of software functional specifications and top-level system architecture
• Analysis and documentation of application change request requirements
• Documentation of business solution proposals and statements of work
• Slide presentations of existing and new software products and solutions to customers

Experience
• Working experience will be an added advantage.


U.I/GRAPHICS DEVELOPER

Skill Set
• High Proficiency in graphics design for web based applications and websites.
• Great knowledge of HTML, XML, CSS Style Sheets.
• Proficiency with graphic design tools like Fireworks, Corel Draw and Web design tools like Dream weaver.
• Experience with Animation like SWISH, Adobe Flash will be an added advantage.
• Skin design and implementation of skins for portal solutions like DotNetNuke, Rainbow Portal, LifeRay Portal is a major plus.

SOLUTION SUPPORT OFFICER

Job Responsibilities:
• Certify compliance of On-site IT Systems infrastructure to requirements & specifications for every Solution Deployment.
• Internal & On-site Deployment, Patching or System Integration of Software Solutions in Production Environments or Live Service Systems.
• Logging & Documentation of Deployment configurations, re-configurations and System Patching.
• The Delivery & Administration of Technical Support for Deployed Solutions in accordance with established Service Levels for Clients.
• Configuration, Support & Administration of Internal IT Systems infrastructure.
• Active engagement in the achievement of Goals & Objectives in line with the company’s vision relevant to responsibilities granted to you, which may be amended from time to time.

Skill Set
• Knowledge of developing software applications in C#.net and/or VB.net
• Experience in team based software development.
• Ability to deploy browser based software solutions on Microsoft’s IIS and/or Apache web servers.
• Knowledge of creating/managing and supporting databases such as Microsoft’s SQL Server and Oracle.

Experience {also applicable for software developer}

• Should have been programming in a production environment for not less than 6 months.
• Should have total programming experience of not less than 1 year.

SOFTWARE DEVELOPER
Skill Set
• High proficiency in developing software applications in C#.net and/or VB.net [preferably asp.net web-based applications].
• Experience in developing highly structured software applications using development platforms including middleware tools and portal frameworks [preferably .NET framework 2.0].
• Experience in team based software development


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