You!! Yes You!!! Why are you looking around. Its you I am talking to. Yes its You. Your testimony will take your enemies by surprise. It will not be long. You will laugh very loud... Make sure you testify at the alter of God.

Wow. missed you my bestie. safe06.

@onweprinces. I wish you are nearer me now. I would have dragged you into a gutter and poured pepper on your anus. What. JESUS. Did l read well. Oh ok. its a joke abi. I want to believe you are joking. Are you for real??. stressing yourself because of what your sister-in-law said. Oh my God. I am so angry now. why did I open this site today of all days.

You must be drunk. Let your sister-in-law go to HELL. What if the child is not your biological daughter. What if you used a donor sperm with your husbands consent. what if the child was adopted?.. what if??. What in this world is her business??.

Why are you allowing a fellow woman take your joy. I want to believe you were not ttc. oh Yes, you were not ttc if not you would not have taught about giving the child away.

I see you as one of those ladies that cook up stories to discourage people from doing ivf. You are just fake.

MARRY XMAS TO WONDERFUL MAMAS.

safe06:
cjnone2...are this ya face ....i af milsed you oooo...

*singing*. U abandoned me,love don't live here anymore...

Don't do that again..okuya?good girl...
Appreciate your popping out to acknowledge my hailing,may God grant your beautiful heart desires...amin

I still have our pishur u know...

. My belle ooooooOh.. Are you for real. My God. What kind of human is this Safe06. Sweet darling. I love you more than yesterday. You are the best and would always remain the best. everybody around is wondering what has gone wrong with me with this kind of laugh. Safeo6, If anything happens to me today.. My people una know who to hold responsible. I don laugh tire. who is collecting entrance money from the new comers. Had there been not need for ashebi here. Oh darling Venus. I see you from the silent mode. Its honestly been a while. So far so good. God Almighty indeed has been faithful. Sweet Alwaystrue. chop knuckle.
@all. It can only get better. When the going gets tough, the tough gets going.

hellos my wonderful people. This is to answer present to my sweetest darling Safe06. I dey oooooo. God is keeping us.

Hello everyone.
@ummtwins2. Goko is sold. along Nyanya/Mararaba hold up. You may wish to send anyone that stays along that axis to buy it for you.

@all, I have a book on Ovarian Cyst and PCOS, anyone interested can mail me on cjnone2000@yahoo.co.uk so that I will send the book to her.

May God almighty bless every womb looking unto him this year with glorious boys and girls In Jesus Name.... Amen.

e-hugs to everyone.

Congras to the belleful mamas. Praise to God on high for those who have delivered their prince and princess.

My people, how body Long time no see.....welcome to the newbies.

HAPPY GLORIOUS NEW YEAR TO US ALL.



Just saw this now......PLEASE READ AND BE ENCOURAGED!!!!!!!!!!

GOD IS NEVER LATE...... MARRIED AT AGE 43, GAVE BIRTH AT AGE 60

They got married on September 3rd, 1998 and had their first child on December 29th, 2014. Excited 60-year old Tunrayo Alagbe who christened her first child on the 5th of January, 2015, says God is never too late.If you wish to read about their story find it below....


Paul and Tunrayo Alagbe were married on September 3, 1998 and had their first child on December 29, 2014.Read the couple’s journey through the years of trials to the unfolding of boundless blessings.



''I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will seeand fear the LORD and put their trust in him (Psalm 40: 1-3).

The above Psalm verses aptly describe Mrs Tunrayo Alagbe’s testimony of the Lord’s goodness as she finally gave birth to a daughter at a few months shy of 60 years of age.

It was a sunny afternoon on Monday, January 5, 2015, and the atmosphere was radiantly purpled by the stylish outfits of many who had come to witness the naming ceremony of the lovely daughter of the Alagbes. The crowd was surprisingly large, even for the African setting, as many braced the burning rays beating down on the premises of the Women Missionary Union (WMU) headquarters of the Nigerian Baptist Convention (NBC), Total Garden area, Ibadan, just to show their solidarity with the couple.

As the President of the NBC, Reverend Dr Supo Ayokunle, affirmed during his address at the naming ceremony, “This child has, from the beginning, started breaking records. I have never seen a naming ceremony that attracted this kind of crowd. Also, no naming ceremony has been conducted on the premises before now. This goes to show that God can do anything, anytime, anywhere and anyhow, pleasantly, for his own people. For those who wait upon God, it is never over until it is over. This is an occasion for us to understand that God’s ways are not our ways.”

The Retired Executive Director, Women Missionary Union, Nigeria, and a close friend of the family who anchored the naming of the baby, Reverend Mrs Yemi Ladokun, took the audience through the time of waiting. She showed to the crowd some flowers from the bouquet used during the wedding and stated that she had kept the flowers thinking she would use them during the year after the wedding during the naming ceremony of a child but she was wrong as she had to wait for almost 17 years.

The child was given close to 40 names including, Halleluyah, Testimony, Esther, Jesulayomi, Ileri-Ayo-Mi, OkikiJesu, Adepate, Oluwatoyin, Omoronike, Ibiyemi, Oluremi, Motunrayo, Mo-F’Oluwa-ke, Aderonke, Odunola, Eri-Ipe, Ewa-Iyin, Itan-iyanu-ife, IturaOluwa, Favour, Oluwadamilare, Titilayomi-niwaju-Oluwa, among other significant names.

‘A childless woman has no honour, no respect, no place’

Speaking with Sunday Tribune on the experience during the years of anxiety, Mrs Alagbe noted that the many years of worrying, coupled with the delay before marriage, contributed to making the experience quite worrying. According to her, “I wouldn’t say we were not worried, but God wascomforting and encouraging us. It was not a pleasant experience at all. We experienced delay before marriage but this one was more excruciating. However, God sustained us.”

On the most nagging worry during the times of trial, the couple notes that the African tendency to look down on a childless couple was a constant source of concern. According to the mother, “InAfrica, having children is very important. If you’re married and childless, it’s like you have no honour, no respect, no place. You’re nobody, so to speak.”

The father, Paul Alagbe, further stated that “She would sometimes say if she had known that it would be like this, she would not marry me as it seems like she is a problem to me.” His wife affirmed this by stating that “Medically, I was told he has no problem, but I was the one whose fallopian tubes were blocked. I felt like I was a burden to him, like I shouldn’t have come his way and instead allowed him to live his life.”

‘Childlessness does not mean you are married to the wrong person’

The president of the NBC, Reverend Ayokunle, who spoke on challenges and godly responses noted that nobility and godliness does not immune an individual from trials. According to him, “Childlessness is not a modern-day challenge. The fact that your family is childless does not mean you are married to the wrong person. Some couples who do not have the problem of childlessness have other problems. Would you rather exchange childlessness for blindness, for instance? A problem is a problem but God is always there.”

On her general outlook during the period of not knowing how things would turn out, Mrs Alagbe, whom many describe as cheerful, warm and always ready with a smile, narrated “I kept hoping. I cherished my personal relationship with God because I know that the day you die, this issue of having children no longer has meaning. So, I was jealously guarding my personal relationship with God, especially in relation to eternity. I tried to enjoy other things God has blessed me with.Although, I was often disturbed by that one thing he had not done, I tried to enjoy what he has done and in my own little way, I served him, hoping He will do it. I thought that if He doesn’t do it, He knows why and knows how to sustain me. That’s also why I didn’t visit all sort of places because I know that if I eventually get a child from the wrong source and I end up in hell, what use will it be? Besides, God encouraged me that He will do it and I trusted in His promise.”

‘There was pressure on me as the only surviving male to have a child’

Her husband, Mr Alagbe, was not also without his own troubles. According to him, he was constantly reminded about the need to take the alternative option by getting a second wife. This was further hinged on his position as the only surviving male child of his family. As Mr Alagbe puts it, “We were six in my family; four of them died and it was just me and my sister left. All my siblings who died did not have any children and there was pressure on me as the only surviving male to have a child. However, I was convinced by my faith not to do anything negative.”

God never comes too late –Mother

Mrs Alagbe, who started treatment in early 2014, was confirmed pregnant in April 2014 and the reaction of the couple when the news first broke is too much to sufficiently capture in words.

“I didn’t believe it. It didn’t have much meaning to me. It was like I was dreaming. However, as time went on, I saw it becoming a reality. I just kept thanking God because He said He will do it according to his promise in Psalm 40. I know that this miracle is for God’s name to be glorified and for the hope of people to be reawakened so that they believe that God still works miracles. God never comes too late,” Mrs Alagbe stated.

For Mr Alagbe, his reception of the good news was almost unbelievable. In his words, “It was like a dream. I kept asking myself if it was true.”

While echoing the joy of motherhood, Mrs Alagbe stated that “I just praise God. I’m delighted that God kept his word. In January 2013, there was a prophecy in our church that God will do it. Several people came to me and told me to hold on to that prophecy because it was for me. In addition to what others had been telling me, and the support I received, especially from my church, El-Shaddai Baptist Church, Pastor Mrs Olateju and many people, I am happy that God has been faithful to His word.”

‘You can still help people even in your own sorrow’

While acknowledging that going through childlessness is no trivial task, Mrs Alagbe advises couples in this situation to guard their relationship with God whatever the eventual outcome. As she points out, “Even if at the end of the day, God doesn’t do it, it is to the advantage of the couple. I reached that stage where I told God that if He doesn’t do it, I’m okay with His decision because He knows what is best for me. My advice is that they should hold on to God and ensure that their personal relationship with God stands. They should also do other things to serve God because when you serve God, you are not likely to be too sorrowful and you’ll be happy to meet the needs of others and minister to people. Couples should not aimlessly trust God but anchor on a verse on the Bible and trust the eventual manifestation of God’s word. They should also help others. You can still help people even in your own sorrow. When you minister to the needs of people, your burden is lightened. The couple shouldn’t become so averse to others as if barrenness is the only problem in the world. Afterall, God has done other things that they can enjoy and appreciate. Let them hold on to God.”

Mr Alagbe, affirmed by friends and church members to be a friend of children and who also teaches children in the church, advises couples in the situation to ensure that they are not hostile to people, especially children, no matter how hard it seems.

Taking more wives is causing more problems –Father

In his advice for men who are currently undergoing the challenge of childlessness and who, like him, had been advised to take a second wife, Mr Alagbe encourages them to fear God, stating that “If they go for more wives, they are asking for more problems. The best thing is to hold on to God and see beyond the immediate situation. Right from time, I knew there was a problem but I also considered what the situation would be if I was the one who had the problem.”

The couple attempted to relive the priceless memory of viewing the child for the first time. For Mr Alagbe, “There was anxiety at the time of delivery. I read Tribune newspapers a lot and I had read something about a similar case in which the operation was not successful and I kept thinking about it. But when I saw the baby, I almost cried. I was very happy.”

For Mrs Alagbe, “I was just happy. I don’t know the words to use. I was excited. I was thrilled that the baby had come at last. I had her through Caesarian section at Vine Branch Medical Centre and at the theatre, when they told me ‘this is your baby; it’s a perfect baby,’ I wanted to scream and say ‘Wow! So this is what was in my womb!’ I lack words to explain. Even though I was in pains, I couldn’t sleep throughout that day. I was just looking at her and I kept saying to myself, ‘So this is you I have been waiting for. Where did you hide?’ I was really very happy.”

Dancing Sekem, Sekem. Sekem.. Oh my baby o. her name na kingsdaughter. Yes you are indeed kingsdaughter. Who else would have done this if not the king of kings and lord of lords...... There shall NOT be any Barren in the land....... I repeat, There shall NOT be any Barren in the land. The wicked can only try but our God pass them. sipping Moet/Hennessy/point & kill fish @ that mama Boko corner on your account tonight. LWKMD.... Nothing dey happen. I am soooo happy for you my darling.

God has shown his people mercy once again. Baba God, you two, three, four. hundred much.

You will carry to term IJN. You will deliver like the Hebrew woman IJN. Your child will be a wonder to his generation IJN..... Enjoy.....

@twintower. Why cryth thou? knowth not thou that there is a God in heaven the most powerful?. The only guy that divided the whole universe with the pillars best known to him. The only God that knows you even before your mama marry your papa. My dear, our brother David for bible think one day shake his head and said.... @Twintower sis, since I was born, and now I am old, I have NEVER SEEN THE RIGHTEOUS FORSAKEN OR HIS SON'S BEGGING FOR BREAD..... DADDY Abraham for bible call his wife one day and said.... Sweet Sarah my wife....... This our God is a Covenant keeping God. Sarah laugh put head for daddy Abraham head and said,,,, Yes sweet.... My Issac is a living proof . COOL TEMPER FOR JESUS..... Your case na moi moi for where baba Gody dey... Help me greet mummy @alwaystrue. Tell her I love her more than agege bread. @my Bestie Safe06..... The baton of bfp don land, carry run like Usen Bolt .

@santaagelo25. HWD to our one and only beloved sweetest darling husband in the house. General, OON. OFR , my brain is misbehaving . Hip! hip!! Hip!!! hurray.......... Happy anniversary dear, May God increase the bond in your marriage. May he crown it up with Godly children that will depopulate the kingdom of darkness and populate heaven. May you never suffer waist pain when madam calls at night.

Its your day, kindly take madam to a sweet corner. whisper into her ears how much you love her. Renew your marriage vows once again.

Kissssssss from afar.

@safe06. no allow us look for you again o. or else watin happen in 1820 go repeat itself here.

@newbies, welcome to the family of lovely mothers/fathers, potential mothers/fathers. seat jeje and watch the almighty at work.

@MIA oldbies, I dey tuwale.. Hope say everything dey go jejely jejely..... Nothing dey happen, Baba God dey heaven.

@belleful mummies, una congratulations... The God that started this work will see you through 9months.

@offloaded mummies, how body, how sleepless nights.. . Enjoy your new status... Its all about God.

For those going through difficult times..... Tell your mind,...It would have been worst than this but Baba God averted it... It will end in praise.

I no fit talk how much I love una.........e-hugs.

........Any power monitoring my intimate affair with my dh. I vomit fire and brimstone upon you... IJN..Amen.

..... ..Any man/woman troubling my child bearing, like Achan in Joshuah 7, Let the host of heaven trouble you now.... IJN.. Amen

....... Every power, man/woman waiting for me to conceive so that he/she will terminate it as miscarriage.. YOU ARE A LIAR.. I BIND YOUR
SENSE ORGANS, SOUL, SPIRIT AND BODY OVER MY FETUS IJN... AMEN

......You power/man/Woman that has decreed that over your dead body will I carry my children.. hahaha. I agree with your decree now, I
announce your obituary tonight IJN...Amen... Let the angle of God strike you to death NOW IJN... Amen.

........ Any power that is saying I will not settle in my marriage... I laugh at you in anger... I explode boko haram bomb in your territory now....
IJN... amen.

... You mother in-law, father in-inlaw, sister-in-law, brother-in-law, father, mother, brother, sister, in-fact, anyone related or associated with me
plotting against me in my marriage..... ehehe BE DISAPPOINTED AND BE DISGRACED NOW... IJN...Amen.

.....Let the earth, sea, air, trees, land hear me...... Any one operating through you against my joy and testimony... REJECT HIM/HER NOW ...
IN JESUS NAME..

.......My name is favour, Miracle, goodness, blessing, wonderful, grace, peace, joy, untouchable, un-kill-able, the apple of God's eye, a
wonder to my generation.

......... I can't fail in my marriage, I can't fail in destiny, my life can't be cut short, my glory can't be diverted, obstructed, stopped, covered,
manipulated or exchanged.

..... .You!!!! Yes You!!!! demonic/ocaultic/witchcraft kingdoms.. Hear me.....The name of my jujuman is JESUS.the lion of the tribe of Judah, The ancient that never gets old, the creator that was not created, the forth man on fire with the three Hebrew men, The only ocean divider, the pillar of fire and pillar of cloud.... hehehehehe. My mighty man at war, the agigigigigigigigiious God. tongues of fire.

wow!!!!! wow!!!! wow!!!!!. The one and only mamatriplets. Is that you watching you from 3D. welcome lovely sister. soooo glad to hear from you. hia! Hia. thank you o to anyone who started this gbege, see as all the MIA mamas don answer present!!. Who say God is not good. I have said it here before, no woman who had ever gone through ttc would watch another ttc woman suffer gbege and keep quiet. hahahah one of my former neighbors who waited on God for 4 years before she had her first child does not like to see me frown for a day more or less cry, she will be all over me, watin happen madam? watin, tell me, she will even start crying.. hahahaha. ttc is a BASTARD.......
@Venues, Your armpit dey very clear, I can attest say nothing dey inside. hahahah I love you, sweet darling, good to know your okey.

@beloved, I don dance Sekem tire. God Almighty is too faithful to fail. You are one strong lady. am not surprise. Congratulations darlings. kisses to the angles.

@safe06, @pinky, @similer, @all still MIA mamas, an angle is standing at your door step, just open the door and collect the gifts I sent through him and thereafter come and answer present here.

@alwaystrue, @Blendy77 and @all who despite all odds is standing for ttc women both physically and spiritually, No words, Not even if I add all the Webster, Longman, Oxford or Cambridge dictionaries together will I find words to describe you. I love you so much, above all, God will show una wonder wonder goodies goodies

Read and be encouraged.
DIVORCED BECAUSE I COULDNT HAVE A BABY

I Met my ex-husband in 1993 when i was 18 and we loved each other . And in 1994 we got married. He travelled abroad in 1996. i waited for him for 9 years before i joined him abroad by then i was 29 years . After i joined him, he got irritated, saying i should hurry up and have children . He started making caricature of me making references to me as barren . I started training as a nurse and after i got a job in the same hospital as him. Before i knew it , he began having affairs with people in our work place.Even when i was a student.,It wasn’t easy , cos my home was hell. i had abuses on my childlessness. How i passed my school exams ,till today i don’t know. He started dating my manager at work cos we were both in the same industry. Even when i confronted him , he didn’t deny it .
I had issues with irregular periods so we tried IVF and it failed . All hell was let loose .Then he called me that someone was pregnant for him and that someone was my manager at work. I Begged him to still stay with me even though there was a child on the way. He said he wasn’t interested and that i should leave his house. I cried and cried but God told me that he will give me a child. By then i was 38 years. He was insulting my parents everyone that spoke to him , he picked a fight with,. later he moved out of the house to live with my manager. He also got me a divorce just to get rid of me. I still refused to leave cos i loved him and i remembered how far we had come .
Finally i moved in with my sister and we divorced in July 2011. Then I started seeking God more than ever.

March 2012 i saw this guy at the station awaiting for a bus who happens to know my sis. And we got talking , and after chatting with him, he asked suddenly if i was married and i said no. He took my no and said he would want his bro to marry me . May 2012 his brother called to say has heard a lot about me and that hes interested in me. Even when i told him i was divorced he didn’t mind. We got married. Between Jan – Feb i began taking fertility medication 2013. In Feb i missed my period. And that was when i tested and found out i was pregnant. And in Nov 2013 i had my pretty daughter at 41years.
The joy in my heart when i see my daughter has caused me to forget the pain i went through as well as forgive my ex-husband. God is so good . He has wiped my tears . I don’t know what you are going through ,but keep trusting God and he will surprise you . And to the men , as much as its in your power do not abuse your wife because of any circumstance that she cannot change. Support her , go through that journey with her. I am in a happy place now.My husband is a gift from God . I encourage everyone to hold on to God he knows how to change your story .

hellossssssssss. greetings to the off loaded mamas and belleful mamas. how una dey!! too numerous to mention. make every person chop knuckle.

I still take touch light dey find some persons name. Too many pages to cover but make una help me read this.
Who amongst you here is upto 50 years, abeg aswer present sharp sharp?. infact, read this , change the name to your name and shout hallelujah to God most high.

>>>>>> copied and pasted.

My aunt Mrs. Ijeoma lives in Lagos and has been married for years without a child. When you talk about humility, kindness, love and all the good things of life you are talking about this woman.

Her husband Joseph has been supportive, kind, loving and he never thought of getting another wife even when his late mum did all she could to frustrate aunty Ije,he did not stop loving this woman.

Everytime she tells me Stanley, I want a miracle from God and I just tell her that God will surely do it. Wetin I sabi say I go tell am again?...lol.


Just last night while I was eating with my mum, she told me that Aunty Ije would be coming down to Asaba to stay with us and I asked if she had finally gotten the government job mum was helping her with but mum no answer again.

And then her answer was 'erm erm erm Ok, don't tell anyone for now, Aunty Ije is pregnant''

I screamed and e remain small make pepper enter my head ooo...lol...

SDKers since last night I have been smiling, Joy full my belle. Aunty Ije is over 50years of age!!!

My Aunty and her hubby are expecting their 1st child and I have decided to bring this news to this great house (SDK blog).


I declare that the God that made this possible for Aunty Ije will bless you today, all you married women who cry everyday for children, all those women that have been having problems with their husband's family over child bearing, YOU SHALL CRY NO MORE.

Before the year runs out, your belle go come out...you go notice small change for your body...if you go hospital doctor go tell u say 'MADAM', you go answer 'YES DOCTOR', doctor go say 'YOU ARE PREGNANT', and you go tell doctor say 'DOCTOR IT'S A LIE'....hehehheeeee.... Then maybe you go come faint small...then when you don wake up, you go come shed 'TEARS OF JOY'.

Abeg make una follow me rejoice for this great news wey enter my family. God bless una....

Shout out to all the mamas and papas in the house. May the unchanging God wipe yours faces soon. The storm is OVER!!!!! there shall never be any barren amongst God's children, humiliation, mid-nite tears, depression, running from one doctor/hospital to another are ALL OVER IJN. eeehhhhhhh. Am sooooo so joyful. Isaiah 66: 9. God can not ask you to bring forth and shut the womb NO WAY!!!!!!. ONLY WAIT!!! AND WATCH THE ALMIGHTY GOD AT WORK. It will seem like a movie. It will do you wammmmmmmmmm for eye. heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh. NOTHING DEY HAPPEN BABA GOD DEY FOR HEAVEN.

UNA CHOP KNUCKE KNUCKLE...........................I LOVE AND MISS UNA DIE

@Goldenbaby, I love your spirit. I love the way you are handling this sensitive issue in your union. .........Let God's will be done......May his will be done in your life IJN. You watered this thread with your pictorial posts, God Almighty will water you. You have putten every effort to see that this thread does not die, God Almighty will never allow any good thing die/expire in your life IJN. The devil with his agents is not in control of your life, God is in control, you are yet to see God's wonder in your life, he will bless you beyond measure this year IJN. Its well with you.

@carinpro, It seems darkest before day breaks. I see you coming out victorious in this trying time IJN. Its just a test and you will come out excellently perfect. Please hold on to the promises of God, He will never fail you. Death itself is not the end of problems. You don't want to end in hail, that is double suffering, suffering on earth and in hail (God forbid). You will make it. I whispered to the holy spirit to watch over you. They are all around you though you might not see them. They will NEVER allow you die without fulfilling your destiny. NEVA. (((((hugs my love))))))peace

HELLO ALL.

This post is not meant to scare you my darling sisters but to encourage us to hold on seriously on the garment of God and never let go, soon, very soon, he will answer you. Despite what the situation is, God is able to surpass all situations and answer us. He will do it, yes he will give us children, Its his vow and he must fulfill it in our lives. please lets learn from this and know that our efforts may seem right initially but it might not worth it at the end of the day. Its not easy waiting, Yes I know but lets put our hope/trust in God Almighty.

Put it at the back of your mind before you do anything in the cause of ttc that .....Its only the living that gives birth to children..... This action am about to take will it make or mare me? May God almighty direct every of our steps IJN.... Amen


Enjoy
Mrs. Titi Okunowos story

''I got HIV in the process of looking for a child,I got the child but it came with what I didn’t bargain for — a virus I may live with for the rest of my life.”
Globally, sexual transmission is responsible for 75 per cent of HIV infections. But Okunowo did not contract HIV through sex. It all started with a love story.
When Okunowo met with the man that would become her husband, it was almost love at first sight. But her husband’s family opposed their union. So, when they tried for a baby and there was none coming, Okunowo began to fear for the future of her marriage.
“I didn’t want to lose my husband. I didn’t want him to look outside for another woman who could bear him a child. I wanted to protect my marriage and I also feared my in-laws’ wrath,”
Driven by the desperation to have a child and save her home, Okunowo went looking for help at hospitals and trado-medical centres. She moved from doctors to herbalists, submitting her body to injections, incisions, transfusions and all manner of invasive procedures. In her desperation, she did not request any of the doctors or herbalists to sterilise the tools or use new ones.
She says, “I won’t lie to you. I visited everyone and everywhere I could to get a child. Once I hear that someone somewhere can help me get pregnant, I would run there as far as my legs could carry me. Name the state, I have been there. And I am not talking about hospitals alone; I also visited herbalists in three different states.I went through all sorts of procedures, both medical and ‘native’ in my desperation. Some of the places where these procedures took place were not neat but I didn’t care. Neatness and safety was the last thing on my mind. I did not ask if they sterilised their blades or not. I just needed a child. I needed to keep my home.”
With her eyes misty and dark, she recalls one of the places where she once sought help:

“It was such a filthy place. Sharp metals that had been used for some incisions lay on the floor; some were covered with little blood. At a corner, some animals lay, to be used for sacrifice. The herbalist that gave me the incisions did not wear a glove or anything. He did not sterilise the blade he used. But all these did not matter to me then.”
Her indifference would later haunt her. But first, Okunowo got pregnant in 2003. She gave her husband the good news and returned to school to sit her final exams. When the pregnancy was two months old, she started bleeding. She went to a dispensary to get some drugs to stop the bleeding.

“Even the chemist (dispenser) was a quack. I have to tell you the truth so that others can learn from my story. He gave me all sorts of drugs and assured me that the drugs would stop the bleeding,”

The bleeding stopped but Okunowo’s problems had just started.
When she was six months gone, she started bleeding again and went for a laboratory scan. She was told that her baby was deformed due to the drugs she had been taking and that the child had little chances of survival.

Advised to abort the baby, Okunowo then went to another hospital in the Alakuko area of Lagos State and requested for the foetus to be evacuated.
With the loss of the pregnancy, Okunowo hit the road again to search for a new baby.
She started making the rounds of hospitals and herbal centres.
“Some would say I needed to flush my tubes, others would give me all sorts of injections. I did them all,”

Shortly after she got pregnant again in 2005, she fell ill and was advised by her doctor to undergo some tests to ensure that her baby was in good form. When she went to collect the result, she noticed hers was in a brown envelope. Others collected theirs in white envelopes.
“I knew something was wrong. I asked the receptionist why my result was in a brown envelope. She just stared at me. So, I walked to the corridor and opened the envelope. The result said I was HIV positive.I wanted to die. I thought my world had come to an end. The pregnancy did not matter anymore,”
She fled to her elder sister’s house, crying with the fear that her life was over. While there is growing awareness about HIV/AIDS issues in Nigeria, many Nigerians still see an infection as a death sentence.

“My sister and mother are my confidants. I can tell them anything. When I got to my sister’s house, I was sobbing. But I was shocked by her courage. She called my mother and both of them told me that it was not the end of the world.”
Then, her mind moved to her husband: Was he infected? Did he give her the virus? What would happen to their union?

Okunowo is one of the 3.1 million Nigerians who have the Human Immunodeficiency Virus in their bloodstreams. According to the National Agency for the Control of AIDS, 58 per cent of the members of this group are women but only 23 per cent of women in Nigeria have comprehensive knowledge of HIV transmission and prevention issues.
AIDS is the leading cause of death among women of reproductive age (15- 49 years) and the prevalence rate among young women aged 15- 24 years is three times higher than among men of the same age. Stigmatisation, though dying out, is very common.

“I first thought that he might have infected me, even though we were both HIV negative when we got married. When I summoned the courage to tell him that night, he said he would test himself too. He did and he was negative.”
Okunowo then began a quest to know how she got infected with the virus. She found the answer through counselling.
“In my first counselling class, I was asked about my sexual life and health practices.I was told that in the process of visiting quacks, herbalists and unlicensed health professionals, I must have contracted the virus because of the unhygienic conditions of the places I visited.”
But where Okunowo expected condemnation, she found support.

Sorry for the long post. ....ITS WELL....

fearful & terrible God we praise you. may you alone be God in our life. undo whatsoever d enemy has done against us IJN

@zarammum, relax, God is stil God. @testimony, God wil wipe ur tears soon. he sees every tear that flows. we will laugh soon IJN

@all, merry xmas. may d birth of Christ bring more joy, peace and favour of God in our homes IJN

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@all merry xmas. fasting/prayer mood activated8-). by God's mercy our next xmas wil be celebrated wit our babies IJN

@Alwaystrue. Thank God the mamas have said it all. ttc is not an easy road even our beloved Daddy Abraham can testify to this. Its well with you. Its in order to be emotional at times. That makes us human but not to allow it overtake our trust/hope in Almighty God. God has delivered your package at your doorstep. The angels sent on this errand are waiting patiently for you to let them in. Your set time which is now will never pass you by IJN.

@Mummy Lore&temi3. I can't sleep tonight without replying your beautiful mail. How do you people cope . This is the toughest jamb question for me in this forum. @lizzylaw has said it all, No body is coping well . ttc is not something to get used to at all. for me, There is nothing we can do about it with our physical strength or tears. My sweet sister, put it at the back of your mind that (ITS ONLY GOD THAT GIVES CHILDREN). There is nothing you can do about it until its his will to give you. No matter what is happening around you, no matter what your dh or his people are feeling, your life is more important at this moment more than any thing. Its only the living that gives birth to children. You can enroll for the tailoring if you wish but this will never make you forget ttc but its better than staying idle. God will give you children, its your heritage as a child of God. Be happy, love yourself more. Appreciate the gift of a good dh and good health. I tell you some women who are ttc have dh who traumatize them emotional. Some have in-laws who have vowed to make life unbearable for them in their homes until they give them children. Some even have their biological parents/siblings trying to put them under pressure due to ttc as if its by anybody's strength to give children. Be happy, the God that gave you a wonderful dh will soon give you wonderful children. Your children will make you proud. Please do your soon to be born children a favour by staying strong now. They need a healthy mummy in future. They need a mum who will read stories with them like @hawtmummies mum . Be happy my love. Above all, make God your anchor. Come to the understanding that God will NEVER forget you. cheers sweetheart.

@Gen. B. Congratulations on the arrival of your baby. Soon ur dw and child will recover fully ijn. Like @lizzylaw said. I don't want to divided this house or offend you. I know you are a loving and sweet dh for registering on this mostly female dominated forum. God bless you. dear brother, me no like d tone of ur last post Thank God you have girls. I don't have anyone at all, So many of us have gone through unimaginable trauma to have a child we can call our own. God loves you so much for letting your wife get pregnant easily. Please don't allow the quest for a male child affect your emotions/home. My primary school teacher had only female children. I heard the man loved the wife so much that he did not give in to the pressure of a second wife for the sake of a male child. My dear, no family will be mentioned today in terms of affluence without mentioning that man's family in my place. The ladies are all married now, they have given there parents heaven on earth. What don't they have?. My dear, No body puts her dw under pressure in my villa now due to the wonders of God in that my teachers life hehehe. They have become a wonder. Come to think about it in the ordinary sense, Is it not women that care for their parents more than men in this our country Nigeria. Ask my father, he will tell you better . Is Ngozi Okonjo Iwella not a woman? Is Obey Ezekwesili not a woman? (pls add those you know) are they not proud daughters to their parents?. Let me shock you, I heard about an only son who sent his father to early grave due to his negative life style. I heard he went to the extent of hiring bad gang to kill his dad so that he inherits his property. Life oh life. Long live @Gen. Buhari's family. I love u sweet brother (no let ur dw hear o)

@hawtmummies, yes o. abeg make nosey friends/in-law park well, its children toy/story book all over.

@zarammum, You have got me thinking, honestly its not easy to be ttc and jobless no matter how rich ur dh is. God will locate you very soon. Be strong, its well with you sweet sister.. ((((e-hugs)))

@all, nothing dey happen. As long as God is on the throne we will look back to this thread and laugh at what we went through because of ttc. Our children will surround our tables very soon.

@lizzylaw, I have long stopped telling people am ttc. I have even warned my parents/siblings to keep that law for me. I have grown above ttc pity. for what?. I have five of them right inside me. They will soon take their position in my home. yes, as per nosey friends/group members... madam how are your children?...... Oh they are doing very very well. Those kids are wonderful children...... discussion closed. hehehe. I am now.... Let them say behind me. They are on their own. Its well. Lots of love darling sister.

@alwaystrue
..l heard u singing on ur dedication day .. Jesus I thank u o. U don
giv me three babies @ once l go dey praise u.. haha

@always on point. ride on sweet sister.

@dinma, welcome darling, keep a bottle of cool water beside you and enjoy few pages back. Who knows, you might find quick solutions from previous posts from mamas here. I wish you quick promotion to pregnancy section IJN.

@all, this weather cool die . each new day brings us closer to our joy.

greetings! greetings!! greetings!!! my beautiful people (in safe06 voice) . I just dey feel like Patience Goodluck(first lady) right now. I mean Modupe Alakija (richest woman in Africa).

@mummyf, (apple of God's eye) @iyabetajos (God's anointed pikin), @skimpychic (iyabeji) . Pink22 (miracle/wonderful handmade of God) @joybik (blessed woman) @favourd gal (favoured indeed - iyabeta), Godiya-always (God's special pikin). @mychildishere (beloved of God) @iya-ibeji (sweetest pie of God). my sweet, loving, jallof, tomato safecious safe06 (God's sample of all round blessings on earth). una thank you so much for your response on my last post on in-laws. even those that did not read it encouraged me. una too much. Honestly, I learnt soo many things from your post. (keep them at bay for now till God's wonder manifest) yes o. na them go look for us.

For those that did not read my post. I felt some of us will be having issues with their in-laws because of ttc. I just sent a poser for us to discuss how one can weather the storm of parents-in-law disturbances in this trying time of ttc. I did not get response from people, I felt I deviated the thread and decided to delete it.

@Hawtmmmie & @mowfruitful una congratulations o. Hold on to your faith. Don't allow anybody or circumstances tell you otherwise. sooner than you expect, your children will liter the new houses with toys. una go tire to have children. Let me borrow @alwaystrue words (mouth go tear) at the wonders of God in your lives. Its just a little while you will laugh loud.

@enkaay. That is a real testimony. God is always great.

@mummy Alwaystrue, special greetings. Hands on the ear.

@mamatriplets. Its time to come back. The devil is not in control of our lives, God is in control. No matter what the issue is, God has sorted us out. Its well with you and your household. we miss u badly.we need you back. God have sent angels to dispatch your goodies. they are right at your door step. ((((hugs)))) love.

@safe06. I screened for joy when I saw your post on that dream and your exact description of @cjnone2. What a mighty God we serve. Yes we have waited enough for this water (children) we have searched and searched for it to no avail. We have even used our human efforts yet no result. Now the master is here with the water (children). The enemy wanted our wait for the water (children) to be in vain by stealing the bucket. . He lost the battle. We have finally carried our water (babies) home. yes our children are here. Every ttc woman here will partake in this water (children) that God himself has shared. I see a mighty wind of change here. change from ttc to pregnancy section. Its all about God. am on my kneels to honor this special God that gives his children special things. @safeo6, make afraid no catch you. Its for good. Before God does any good thing, he will reveal it to his people. Our prayer now is that this dream will manifest speedily. I cover this dream and its manifestation with the precious blood of Jesus, Any man/woman/demon that will stand against the manifestation of this dream be disgraced and burnt by fire IJN. I send thunder and firestone in their camp. Let confusion overtake them. IJN. Let the glory and favour of God Almighty back up this dream IJN.

@all, its well with our soul, its well with our marriages, its well with our lives, the devil can only try, but God has the final say. ttc is not a sweet delicacy for any woman, no matter how long, As long as God is alive, our wait, tears, pain and tribulations because of ttc will NEVER be in vain. guide your hope/faith jealously. soon we will all rejoice. It will be congratulations galore amongst us IJMN. amen. - shalom

@safe06. l dey fear o. ur description about @cjnone2 is 100% correct. may this dream manifest speadily. amen. lov u

Am so sorry for deviating the house with this topic.

@tbaby4real. May the peace and love of God surround your home. May the Almighty God watch/guide every step you take. May you have so many reasons to laugh. May your marriage be heaven on earth. IJN

@safe06. safecious mummy safe. safe06 worldwide You tooo much.

@pinky, This your testimony needs to be documented for generations to see how wonderful this our God is. May this God who has done this for you do more and more and more for you and your household IJN. There will be no more tears in your home. celebration galore.

@mummy lara&temi3. How great is this our God. At his own time, he makes everything beautiful. God will visit us at the right time and the time is now.

@always on point. The grace of God is your strength, soon, we will hear your testimony of God's goodness.

welcome @omonakpa. your stay here will be short IJN.

A woman shared her testimony with us few weeks ago during her child dedication. she said she was ttc for 8 years, on the 6th year, her dh impregnated another woman who gave birth to a baby girl. She never had any hint of this second woman till few months after d arrival of the baby because her dh is a military officer who is always on posting to different locations. She never knew her dh had carried wine on the second woman. her dh told his people/relatives he is no more interested in her, that he is just allowing her answer his name out of pity . Her relationship with her in-laws had gone sore due to ttc. All her in-laws hide the second woman from her. When she heard about this second woman and her baby. She nearly died. She hated every thing on earth. She lost hope/trust in God and man. she left her home to a sisters house. A year later, the baby girl took ill and died. The husband and his people came back to beg her, she, her parents/siblings rejected his begging initially but later gave in after much pleadings/pressure from people. story fast forwarded. few months into their reconciliation, she took in and delivered a set of twin boys. . I saw them o. She said God has taken her to another dimension of patience and trust in God. Nothing seems impossible in her sight again. What a world?.
I was in tears throughout her testimony. What a mighty God we serve. Several things came into my mind. My mind went to Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. Why did God allow them to enter the fire first before he showed up. I guess they would have been beaten or even striped naked by Nebuchadnezzar's soldiers before casting them into the fire. Why did God allow a second woman, emotional truma, midnight tears before he answered her? No answer and I might never get an answer. Believe me, I personally have so many questions to ask this God when I get to heaven. so many WHY'S

I lack words to described this God. No wonder he said his thoughts are not our thoughts neither his ways our way.

@all, what are you going through in this ttc journey?. Does it seem the whole world had left you behind?. Have you lost trust/hope in God and man like this woman?. Has your dh left you or about to leave you because of ttc? What is your parents in-laws, friends, neighbors saying about your ttc. You might say @cjnone2 does not understand. hahaha . I understand more than you can ever imagine. Remember I am wearing this same ttc shoe with you. IT IS WELL. This God that removed the shame of this woman will remove your shame IJN. Your ttc will not get upto her situation before God shows up on you. IJN. This God that made this woman laugh loud will make you laugh soon IJN. Remember the story of @diamonring, @arlington, latest @udoka. God is faithful; he will NEVER change because of common you. I am seriously holding his garment and will never let go unless he releases my 5 (five) children. What about you?. Even your enemies will hear your testimonies and praise God. shalom.

@skimpy, happy belated birthday sweet sister. May the peace and love of God be upon you, ur lo and your family IJN.

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Congratulations once again @udoka. This scene of your life (ttc) has just closed . While on the stage of this ttc scene, you acted with all your strength. You gave it all your best. you came out as one of the best actress in this scene. Congratulations. another scene has automatically been opened with the arrival of Nanichukwu. What a world. May God almighty give you the grace and wisdom to act better on this scene of motherhood.

@all, soon very soon, we will leave this scene of ttc and join mummy Nanichukwu in the next scene. Its well.

singing:::. d devil said NOO. God said YES. mummyUdo, Azonto mood activated. shame to barrenness