@all. l love this forum die. see suggestions upon suggestions, see prayers upon prayers. see personal experience upon person experience just to solve our own pinky pinky issue. God bless all of una. @pinky. am singing..... 'don't worry, be happy for every little thing gonna be alright'''. No wonder they said a problem shared is half solved. its well with you. just ponder all these suggestions and allow God to lead you. that doctor is ........... God pass him.

@favoured girl. I used to put my finger on my veej & pour water inside to wash it until I heard from beloved1993 that pouring water inside the veej in the name of washing it is not too good for ttc so I stoped but only to notice that my pants get stained on daily basis with brownish discharges except the days l bd with hubby. If I mistakenly put my finger inside my veej, all I bring out is thick watish substances.

@all, una good morning.

@all abeg make una help me answer this question. they thing dey worry me no be small. I use to wash my vj with water while bathing but I stopped when I read here that washing vj with water is not too good for ttc. these days I always have my pants stained each day with brown sustances. I have done tvs, no wahala, taken antibiotics yet no show. If I put my finger in my vj, I will bring out alot of whitish subtances. I no understand watin be this. Has this happened to anyone before, if yes pls what did u do.

Abeg make una no read and pass. laugh if you like but abeg answer me.

@pinky!. God is on the throne. Do you know you are a special daugther of God Almighty? A daughter that uses her voice to praise and also lead others in praising him (Chorister) in his Sanctuary. I see your praises release your miracles sharply sharply IJN. All will work in your favour IJN. come sweet pinky, watin happen , watin make dokita think the way of this hysterectomy . what was the symptoms . sorry if am being too personal because this your post don give me thinking boot. pls if you can, lets know because there might be some sabi sabi mamas in the house that might know a better solution than this so called hysteroctomy. its well with you. ..... THIS TOO SHALL PASS AWAY VERY SOOOON. (HUGSSSS)

@Joysolo, congratulations. I see this bfp going round all of us this month of August IJN. carry go, nothing do you dear.

@mercifull: I follow you say a big Amen to this wonderful prayer by this misterious pregnanat woman. You too shall testify very soon.

@all, if una no miss me, I miss myself. una happy belated new month.

@Lore&Temi, I read ur post about ur dh recent negative reactions and took a big breath. Most times our miracles are closer when situations around us seems worst. Hold on there, the good lord is your strength. ttc is a challenge and I tell every ttc around me that ttc is only meant for those with lion heart, even if you don't have a lion heart, immediately you were ttc for more than 2years, God will strengthen you. yes its not easy but soon, very soon men/women will look at you and say "what a blessed woman" I tell you if your dh like let him sleep with 20 women at once, non go carry belle because you are God's divine project and he will NEVER allow you see shame.

As for your friend who because of ttc decided to dress anyhow. my dear, ttc no bi sicknessoo and what I hate in my life is pity. for What? God forbid. I dey make shakara pass those with kids. If I don't make shakara now, when will I make it, If I don't wear all those my sweet cloths and make up now, when will I wear them. God punish devil. tell her to have a rethink and stop giving devil/men avenue to mock her. I travelled home November last year, my sister in-law that is not married confessed that "I dey on/sweet". watin. her mother open mouth, she no fit talk. am so happy and grateful to God Almighty that am alive and healthy.I cry/mourn/lament yes oo. very very well but only in the secret to my God. ttc is a phase that will soon pass away. Refuse to give anybody any reason to mock or pity you.

@pinky pinky sweet egovin nwa. Thank God you are better now. wishing you the best of good health form God Almighty.

@omonikiba. How body? hope say u done well?. abeg come announce your bfp here? ear dey itch me where I dey. May the good lord heal you and permanent the healing IJN. Amen.

@uche13, union123. Iphie25 and all the newbies, una welcome to the forum of winners. Una no go tey here IJN.

@uche13, that your testimony sweet well well. To God alone be praise.

@adedoyinsola. e be like say you be poetic professor. Most of your post gets me thinking and readjusting. weldone.

@udoka/Blendy mummies. na only God go bless una. I now know why God allowed you go through ttc so as to encourage his divine sons/daughters like us. ride on mummies, God is always watching your back.

@nice14 & co, happy belated birthday. As for the woman that told her child not to enter your house, ; . I laugh in English. my dear, just wait and see how God Almighty will shut her up very very soon. no be children, you go born tire. na she go take this her same mouth beg you.

@beloved1993, good to know you are doing well.

@alwaystrue, May God almighty increase the grace and oil IJN.

@Rosequeen,Redeemersave, and iyabetajo I am so happy for you. Congratulations. God is really faithful. I use you people as a point of contact reaching the rest of us still ttc. Ours is the next to announce our bfp this month IJN. make una make shakara, nothing does una.

@all our Muslim brother/sisters. We can't wait for the chicken to be e-mailed to us as fasting ends today. We thank God for the grace to see the end of this fasting. May all our prayers be answered in God name. - amen

@safe06 love, sweet darling. this long epistle will be incomplete without mentioning you. how body?. hope say u remember all of us in ur fasting prayer. May this fasting release all awaited prayer points in God's name - amen.

@all, make una forgive me for this looooong post. e don tey.

@atonementchild. hormonal test on CD2, me I think it should be on CD3 and CD21. Sono HSG should be after af don finish not when af still dey flow. my sabi sabi sisters, make una put mouth.

@udolist sweet baby, nwanyi obi oma, no body fit vex for u here. afraid no dey catch dey person?. we are just trying to be our brothers keeper. as for me. who be me to vex. thanks for always being understanding.

@safe06, You can not kill us here with ur humour. you are indeed Godsent to this forum. you make this trend come alive in your special way. I was anxiously waiting for the good news when I saw shawama. the kind long sigh.sssssss wa I sigh in hot anger, If u dey around me eh. I for give u one big knock on ur nose. shawama ko!, shawama ni!

@udoka, your effort in trying to attend to issues here give me much joy. even though you have been promoted to the pregnancy forum by baba God, you still care for us like this. baba God will bless u with four (two boys, Two girls) at once so that you go rest once and for all.

@ all. abeg, I no understand watin dey worry me ooo. Na so so brown discharge I dey see for my pants since CD19. how come. dh no dey in town. sometimes I go urinate 5times before day break. I go buy some antibotics last week. I don drink am finish still d thing still dey. Okey I dey wait make af show, then I go go hospital go do hvs.

@doublebls my beloved sister, I love u so much. God loves you more. Its well with you. what can I say. I read what @Uteh said, I agree totally with her, most times what we see around us is more spiritual than physical. You said this man does not support you finanically, he does not like seeing ur friends/family around. what a man.hmmmmm. some men can be dead wicked. He beats you at the slightest provokation. hmmmmmmm? what a life hmmmmmmmmmmm. I am not condeming you, and I will never condem you. This your case can be me. Yes it can be anybody. most times we do things we look back to ask if acturally we are the one that did it. You used your hard earned money to buy the things for your traditional rites in Igbo land?. I have no negative issue with that as long as he is the one that paid the dowry because in Igbo land, the dowry is the main thing, no matter how much it is. my issue is him not appreciating your efforts to make things work. Can I tell you something. This issue is more that ttc? yes! Its more than ttc. There is no love in this union abinitio. Yes! No love, How can a man drag his wife neked to the full glear of his younger sister? hmmmmmmmmmm. Oh God of heaven. My sister all I can say now is you need a break. Take a break? travel if you can to a place distant from this so called man. You might decided to tell your parents everything as you said they are not aware yet. Trust me, they will support your decision. Don't jumb into another man soon. Take time off your job. Be alone or amongst loved once. ask yourself several questions. Does this man really love me enough to risk my whole life with him? What do I have to lose or gain from staying in this marriage. What do I have to gain or lose from quiting this marriage. All will be answered by you and you alone. Tell this so called man your decision. Tell his family those you feel hate/love you. Tell them the truth of the matter. don't hide anything. As per your property/wealth you feel you have lost.... hmmmmmm. Leave them behind. Leave them at the sacrifice of destiny as you said. God will surprise you very soon. Do you known one thing, this your kind husband will hadly get someone like you. my love, the lord is watching your back. Its well with you. I wish you peace beyond human understanding, I wish you love more than you have ever imagined, I wish you all the best things of life. Honestly I have you in my prayers.

@udoka, I disagree with you on your last post to doublebls, they are not live -n-lovers. They are traditionally married. the most important thing in Igbo traditional/custom in marriage is dowry. once the man had paid her dowry, they are married.

@safe06. abeg no kill person here ooo. @udolistic baby/mama. abeg no remove that gum from the red carpet. safe06 is going no where for now. she think she can disappear and reappear. she no no say na she be the medicine for BP ttc mothers in this forum. We will organize one sweet small under 16 girl as pert time to dance azonto/kukere with her dh for now so that next time she go respect her size by not diappearing from this trend for days.

@wonyi. one word for that person that said ivf is a sin is .... long hisssssssssss. She is just seeking attention from satan.

@mamatriplets. I see u 4 dream last nite where dh buy sweet lastest 2014 bullet proof/communication gap jeep for you. abeg no allow that lady wey tell @wonyi say ivf na sin enter. just come here come testify sharp sharp.

@Genbuhari. how is madam and the lo doing. take care.

sin. sin, sin everywhere. No wonder heaven will take so many by surprise. I tell you, those who condemn others are the worst sinners on earth. mtcheeeeeeee. This issue does not deserve answer .

Udolistic baby, Udo of all nations. Shun ma. I asked her initially before posting it, but when I read your post, I asked her again. She said I should delete it cos she felt more depressed after reading it here, because for now, you ladies/papas are her only source of joy. deleted.

@iykmau. the range varies from one hospital to another. pls post the range that you were given so that our sabi sabi sisters will look at it and answer you better.

@alwaystrue, water nearly run away my eye after reading your post this morning. ah What a mighty God we serve. No matter what the circumstance or situation is. Yet we will rejoice in the lord Almighty. Thanks for always reminding us of the faithfulness of God.

@safe mama. I don collected my money from the newspaper company because I be wan publish the "WANTED" today. Its ramadan again, May God answer all our prayers.

@goldenbaby. you are indeed golden. The pictures and wordings are so soul lifting. May God bless you.

@camrymail. kindly send the e-book to me cjnone2000@yahoo.co.uk. thanks

@doublebls. kindly send ur e-mail address to this e-mail above. I need to get some issues clearer from you. am waiting pls.

What an empty world we leave. sisters in-law. thank God she is a woman. just mail me.

@safe0. u think say we go give u blue/white carpet like udoka if u resurface? u better show face now before we go put ur name for newspaper/ WANTED!!!. Safe06.

@atonementchild... sonohsg is not painful at all. they will insert something inside ur vj and use their system to monitor ur tubes with a fluidlike substance. as per the price, it depends on where u will do it. mine was done for 40k.

@smokeydrinky. congratulations? now, no smoking, no drinking. Thanks for opening the floor of bfp this month.

@nice14 & Omonikiba. I dey jealousy o. eh!! me na oyo be my second name. dh no gree hear my plea of a new car o . okey. no wahala. God dey. una congratulobia.

Any witchcraft decision against our marriage/fruitfulness..... Expire IJN

Witchcraft of the night prevailing against our fruitfulness..... Expire IJN

Every afflication in our body opposing our fruitfulness.... Die IJN

Every Vow of our enemy against our marriage/fruitfulness ..... Back fire IJN

Lord Jesus We are on our kneels, enough of this reproach of barrenness... Plead our cause!!! IJN

Power in the blood of the lamb...... Set us free!!! IJN

Accusers of our destiny/marriage/womb..... Shame on you... Go & Seat down..... You are a Looser!!!! IJN

Any convenant of barreness, The lord disgrace you, ..... Break now IJN

Every curse of barreness upon our life, the lord disgrace you today ...... Break!!! IJN

spirit of barrenness, loose your hold over our lives IJN

Oh God of Thunder, disgrace/expose any mother, father,brother, sister, unle cousin,nephew, any woman married in our fathers house, married in our mothers house, married in our husbands house that is saying NO to our fruitfulness Let them be put to shame!!!!!...IJN

We receive the power to conceive and bringfort our children IJN.

Lord we Thank you because we will not wait and cry in vain.
Lord we thank you because anybody can say what they want but you have the final say.
Lord we thank you because its only you that understands clearly and knows the root of our problems.
We thank you because You consulted no man/woman before you formed us and You will NOT consult anyone before you bless us.
Thank you father IJN

@mummyT/@all. anybody wed dey play with ttc woman husband and pastor dey play with fire o. u may smile today but watch it. there is a man in my office where I did my youth service. we became close because he is from my place. He told me he was married & still ttc then. after a year, I heard his ttc wife had a lady friend whom she confides in concerning her negative ordeal in her marriage. The so called friend told her she was going to shiloh and this woman gave her d dh/her picture for prayer. Na only God know what his so called friend did with the pictures. all of a sudden this man fall seriously in love with this his wife lady friend. story cut short, they got married. the wife left the house for them and relocated to d village. the new wife gave birth to a boy. few months interval, she conceived again, gave birth to a girl. few weeks after delivery, d lady got ill and died, the first son got ill and died. The real wife conceived and gave birth. they have four children now. their love no get part two now. this no be super story oo. I know them well well. Make we no fight God's battle when it comes to this issue of ttc and dh. God no dey take barren woman prayer play o because we always pray with broken heart.

Its well.

Second story. my uncle called this morning and was shouting with joy. watin happen, he said his friend was married and had 5 girls. two are already graduates, two undergraduate and one in secondary school. 10yrs ago, this man had issues with his younger brother whom he trained and the younger brother told him he is just suffering for nothing, that soon him (younger brother) and his male children will inherit all his property as ladies do not inherit property in their place. This statement pushed the man to seek for a woman who will bear him a son. All efforts to get a son proved abortive outside marriage. The real wife took in after 12yrs and gave birth last night of two bouncing baby boys! What a great God. That is why you are called Jehova aaaa. That is Why you are called Jehova. what you said you will do, that is what you will do ........... singing/dancing. yes we shall overcome very very soon.

@all. those suggesting mummyt should go see her mum hmmmmmmmmm. its well o. no one's love superceeds a mothers love o. no mother will like to see her daughter sad more or less going through stress. From experience, Most times we find it eaiser to forgive our dh but our mums will not forgive him so easy because he has offended their daughter. blood is ticker than water....... As per taking the issue to marriage counsel in the church. hmmmmmmmm. remember if the eye is crying, the nose will be carrying as well. counsellors in the church are not better in their homes. remember mummy triplets husband is a pastor. other women as well bring this kind of issue to him to resolve. meanwhile when the case is resolved, her dh will always be refered as mummmytriplets dh and not @cjnone dh. hmmmmmmm. pastor issue is too delicate. mummmytriplets abeg be very careful. this man is an annointed man of God. (God's own special child. I prefer reporting pastors to God than men. That he is sleeping around has not removed the anointing. you will be surprise he still does miracle in the house of God. rise up to the situation..........SHOW MORE LOVE, PRAY MORE, SHOW MORE LOVE. If u fit get this small flower......'I LOVE U' do your part and watch how God will fight this battle for you. I will share a story here later today or tomorrow

@mummytriplets aka mama ato, no mind me o. na kolo dey worry me. back to base. I thank God for adding a gray hair to your hair. Yes, an experience of womanhood. did I hear you say your dh is a pastor? that makes you a mummy to so many old and young women in the church. God called you a help-meet. your dh being a pastor does not remove the human aspect of him. its just grace. This man saw so many other ladies before he choose you as a wife. God saw other ladies before he choose you to be this his son's (ur dh) wife). Don't fail God, Don't fail those women looking upto you as their muumy/role model. don't go to your mum's house yet. don't expose your dh to any of your friends yet. The way you handle this issue will affect this marriage alot in the future. luck yourself and cry if you can. go to work if you can. don't talk or pick his calls today if you can't (no wahala) calm down, read luke 22: 31 -35) Jesus prayed for simon who is always with God so that satan will not overtake him. The devil is mostly interested in gunine children of God. This experience will make you a better trusted/tested child of God. You will counsel ttc women that will come to you in future with this kind of issue after you would have had your triplets with experience and not just pray for them. Don't fail them by taking rash/worldly decisions now. Your mum had her own issues. every woman will definitely come across one problem or the other in marriage. It comes in diverse forms. the way you handle it makes or mares your marriage. Your dh needs you now. be a piller to his ministry. Don't allow the devil have his way. first he came with infertility, now he is here with adultry, Satan is loser any day any time. Don't let him win. God revealed this issue to you for a reason, most pastors/men do it without being caught. Don't fail God who revealed this to you. If you have not confronted your dh already, cook for him today. in the midnight hour. ask him if there is any way you have failed in your responsibility as a wife. Pls calm down this period. I repeat, pls don't be confrontational. ask the hold spirit for a sound mind. hold his hands and pray. raise the prayer topic with seriousness and tears. Tell God to weather the storm of adultry in your marriage. while still holding hims, Tell God to forgive his son (ur dh) and bring him back.

@mamatriplets, As Jesus prayed for Simon, I pray for you today in Jesus Name -- Your faith will not fail. when thou are converted, strengthen thy brethren. ..... mummy love, its just a test!...........THIS TOO SHALL PASS AWAY. shalom

@mummytriplets. my sweet sister, God go bless u plenty. what a mighty God we serve. Thank God once again for that your lawyer friend. The girl is not yet back from her prayer trip. I sent someone to ask her to see me when she comes back. Its well with her. Most times in turbulent situations, we never can tell who God is warning. Maybe this is God's way of telling the young lady its time to leave the marriage. I was told the marriage has never known peace since its inception.

@nmagirl and @mummytriplets, Make una no kill me with laugh with this dh and sucking .... spoilt children.

Pink22: @Cjnone how far apart are the appointments. Someone just came from Asokoro, said its the same procedure but her appt to see the gynea is 7th September, haba that is too long o ha

@pinky pinky, sorry I could not reply on time. Asokoro na so there wahala dey o. But mostly their appointments are far when the person wants to do a special procedure like hsg, surgery etc and their are many people on queue already. natonal hospital is not like that. their appointments are not that far apart. at most a month interval. Try and collect the phone number of the consultant that the first doctor will take you to for easy access on your next visit. Mostly its the test results that takes time.

Its well with you. May God direct you to a doctor that will be a solution to u.

@all, something happened last Saturday to one ttc lady near my area. she has been married for 5yrs and still ttc. her husband impregnated a girl of 19yrs in our neighborhood last yr. the pregnant lady delivered a carbon-copy of the man on Saturday while the ttc woman was away for praying programmed at Jos. the dh people conspired to send the ttc lady away and bring in the young mother.

when I was told about the matter, I just smiled............... hmmmmmmm Those that put their trust in the lord will NEVER NEVER be put to shame. I prayed for peace beyond human comprehension in the heart/soul/spirit and body of the ttc lady. People said all sorts of things, even those I thought were close to the ttc lady, what came out of their mouth kept me wondering what they have said or been saying behind me. Oh God, silence the mouth of our adversaries by your mercy. God you cannot lie to us. We will build and inhabit it, we will NEVER build for another woman to inhibit it, the gift of the lord(husband) makes well and adds no sorry. Lord it is by your mercy you called us married. We will NEVER be disgraced. IJN. The mockery is over IJN. Oh Lord show yourself mighty in our mist by releasing our BFP's in this month of July IJN. - amen

happy new month @mama and @papas in the house.

@omonikiba, e don happen, may God's name be praised.
@pinky pinky, thanks for the patience in compiling and recompiling the list. The lord will crown your efforts with every good thing of life. As per National hospital. I used them and decided to stop for a reason.

There procedure is as follows:

Get their card with the nurses, proceed to the general doctors section. if you enter the general doctors office, just tell him/her you want to be refereed to gyne ward as that is your case. they will give you a letter of referral. you will take it to the gyne ward and the nurses there will give you a date to come.

On that date, you will see plenty other ttc women. they will give u people number, its mostly from 12pm upwards, when its your turn, you will enter to be checked first by a gyne doctor, the gyne doctor after checking u will take you to a consultant. the consultant will ask you some questions in the presence of the first doctor and give you a list of test to do. You will be told to come back when the results of your test is out. you may see different faces entirely (doctors) at each visit.

Each time you are going to National hospital, try to go on time because people plenty oo.

Its well with you.

@mummyf. how u dey with ur lo.

@favourdgirl, you are favoured and will always be favoured devil dey fight in vein. May God Almighty favour you in everything u do IJN.

@lorder2000. amen and amen to the prayers. May God almighty strengthen you and grant you unmerited favour IJN.

@morire, welcome. enjoy your short stay here.

@say9ng. I no fit laugh? the sabi sabi sisters have said it all. make she check for infections.

@mamatriplets, no be only u hear bad news yesterday oo. I hear one badest news yesterday. my spirit no allow me talkam here yesterday. A lady said her sister was married for 8yrs without a child. she is now 46. the dh went and did away match to enable him get a child. na so the man go carry hiv come give the woman. now, no child and the woman don carry hiv. May God Almighty protect us and our dh from every further evil in the course and after this ttc IJN.

@umpteen, as for me, u and ur post does not exit. if u like advertise from now to tomorrow, na only u go de post and read your post at the same time.

@mummies, We refuse this month to end without further announcement of bfp IJN.

@all, I wish us all the success in the world with whatever we are doing to overcome this monster called ttc.
For the pregnant mamas! Udolistic baby, Nictos! mummyf (me) hehehe etc. I fast forward u all to breastfeeding forum to share your success stories so that others may hear and be encouraged and also learn what may work for them and deliver a bundle of joy to their waiting arms one day.

@all hmmmmmmmmm. what can I say? ttc no easy ooooo. I no go even wish am for my enemy. I went to visit my cousin who was crying and uncomfortable while I was getting married because she was older than me then and no husband/serious bf. now she don marry, she carry first belle get miscarriage after 6 months, to crown it all, she don born and I dey suspect say another dey on the way. hmmmmmmmmmm. what can I say. God I thank you so much for the gift of life, good health and the privilege of knowing you as my God. e no easy oooooo. e no easy ooooo

@omonikiba welcome back. sorry about the death of your grandma in-law. may her soul rest in peace. May God give us the privilege of being like her to see our children's children INJ. Amen.

@flakeey. what a sad news. In our lives, we will give birth, stay alive, our children will stay alive, we will see them through play group to post graduate level. they will marry in our presence, we will carry their children/children children IJN.amen

@safe06. you wan do missing in action abi? u beta come here ooo. the aboki you asked me to collect plenty tins on top of ur head because of mummyf lo no dey allow me rest ooo. I told him you promised to email the money today unfailingly o. no fall my hand. I no get strength to speak English with aboke.

@all. May the grace and favour of God be with us all.

Welcome the newbies. may the good lord make your stay shorter than expected.

@beloved. good to know your doing good. the lord is your strenght. this your wishes on children be as e get oo. God go help us take care of the Quadruplets and quintuplets when they arrive at once.

@pink. no excuse is welcomed from you this month except the announcement of your bfp. its well.

@all in abj. pls has anyone used Camelwood hospital?. pls what is your experience?.

una good morning.

skimpychick: MamaT that's my case.tanx for those wonderful words. My whole fAmily looks at me Somehow.I knw its mil who has sworn to deal with herSlf. God has Already defeated dem All. It is well

@skimpychick. my sweet, am so angry in the spirit. what?.. The bible said the father of Reuben cursed him (Gen: 49:3) but the curse was reversed by Moses (Deu 33:6). 1chro 4:9-10 talked about the intention of Jebez mother and what happened when Jebez went to God in prayer. If you are too sure of what u said. Go to ALMIGHTY GOD IN PRAYER.God did not consult any man or woman before he brought you to this world and he will NEVER, I repeat NEVER consult anybody before he releases your blessings. now that you know the problem, congratulations b/cos the problem is half solved. pls (P.U.S.H). Pray Until Something Happens. Do an agreement prayer with a higher authority (geniue man/woman of God) and take over your possessions. she gave birth to your husband and you MUST give birth to your own children and become a mil soon. I use you as a point of contact reaching every daughter and son of God in his forum whom the enemy has chained/bind. not in my name but in the name of J E S U S Chirst of Nazareth. as Reuben was loosed from the curse of his father in Deu: 33:6) I LOOOOOOOSE U from every chain/bind in the name of Jesue. Satan, the lord rebuke you. satan the devil, the blood of JESUS is against you. you have molested our lives enough. oya its time to go. I command you, not in my name or power but in the name of JESUS Christ of Nazareth release my sisters and brothers from any cage IJN.- amen. gooooooo and take that which belongs to you. be fruitful IJN..... amen

iya-ibeji:

@All: I just want to bring to our notice the issue of climbing bikes(okada) and ttc. They "might" do more harm than good to ttc women. After avoiding okadas for a long time, I had to take one days ago, because I was late for a service. On the okada, it was as if all the bumps on the road were pulling something in my pelvis and tummy area anytime d okada man drives into a pothole or bump. The pressure was too much on my middle part. By the time I arrived in church, I had cramps, though mildly.
So I thought to myself, what if I was few weeks preg? That would have been quite bad.
So, from now on, no more okada for me. Keke marwa is still ok & if possible taxis.
Please share your opinions.

@Iya, each time I want to respond to this post, I will forget. I think most times what happens in climbing bikes(okada) and ttc is our imagination. I once wanted to relocate from my area because of potholes. I was afraid a baby may be aborted due to the pot holes. that time, if am with you and you enter pothole, haba! I will Shout, Scream etc. U go wonder wheather this woman wan colo. I dear not enter okada, If I manager enter okada, first, I go hold my breath, hold my tommy with both hands na so I go dey beg d okada man to slow down. several times, I have left my money with okada half way our journey out of fear of aborting my (imagined) forming baby. but after a while, I told myself its all imaginations. there is nothing you will not feel, do or think while ttcing. come to think of it, most people climb okada/enter potholes from the first day of their bfp till d day of delivery. I will advice you pls live(enjoy) ur life, climb okada when the need arises, the child that will stay will NEVER be aborted even if you fall from okada. mamas make una prove me wrong with experience.?

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@marriedbtlonely. you are not the only woman on this shoe. You sound like one that knows God better. some women in less situations like yours would have forgotten they were once married to your dh and gone their separate ways but you choose to stay. I love your courage. The God of host will crown your lonley heart with joy soon. your silent tears will soon be wiped away. You may ask how but God is an impossibility expert. so many men are under siege, they act without knowing what they are doing, soon the eyes of your dh will clear to his original God given responsibility. He will soon beg you for forgiveness. You will be surprise how God will turn your marriage around for good. Receive your peace!, the lord has forth your battle.

@safe06. honeslty you fall my hand. how you can you allow all of them go like that?, no no no? you are not carved out like that? you mean you will allow them go without? hmmmmmmmmmm.

@venus my lovely dearling. I LOV U YES I DO.
First and foremost, the birth of 100 children for a man does not end negative issues in the home.
No one on earth can make you happy except yourself. decide to be happy no matter what the situation is.
No man is happy without a child of his own. even those with contraditing medical issues will not relax until they have that which they can call (my own child). You are your dh help meet, God knows the reason for bringing two of you together amongst millions of ladies/men in the whole world. There is no perfect dh in the whole universe. Every dh has his own common.
Please learn to be happy with yourself. Are you a complete housewife? pls try and get something doing no matter how small.

my sister in-law once called me last year to say its not time we call this marriage quite just because there is no child.for her to tell me this, imagine what she/they would have been telling my dh.. I tell you its not easy for our dh's as well in this issue of ttc. Do you know a man's child is his ego?.Most Nigerian men marry because of children and not love so when the child is not forth coming hmmmmmmmmmm. It will seem as if the whole world wants to crumble.

My love, plesase bend down low and look inward well well to see that which you will do to reignite love/companionship in your home. stop discussing ttc in your home for now. don't take drugs to enhance ttc in his presence. hide your pad from his sight is possible. if your flow is not too heavy, don't let him know when ur observing Af.

I tell you, its because your dh loves you that is why you notice his negative reactions about you, what will you tell women that has dh with constant negative reactions?.

Marriage is till death do you part and not till child do you part. Smile and know that God loves you so much, its only those he loves that he chastises.

safe06 sweet love, how I go vex. abeg I no vex u hear,no mind me.