₦airaland Forum

babygirlfl:
@ bukatyne,

There is still racism here in the UK. It's more pronounced in some parts of the UK more than the others. Personally, I have received worse treatment from people from other tribes in Nigeria than people from other race. I do know however that that is not the case for everyone.

tearoses:
Racism is a topic that is really too deep to discuss
Its everywhere; even back home in Nigeria even though its a different flavour (tribalism)

Its more pronounced in the US because damage can be instant and permanent due to guns and we hear about it everyday

There is racism here too but its not as widely reported and seen in the US.

I tell my son to work hard as he may come accross subtle undertones of racism in his life here (its against the law to do it openly) but I told him that there will come a point where even the most racist wont be able to do anything because he will be so good at what he does.
In that same America I heard that there is a Nigerian Major General in the US marines.

If you ask me, the society owes half and the individual owes half too. We cant sit at home and cry racism. We need to get out there, go to school, better ourselves and work hard and be good at what we do. We also need to integrate and follow the rules wherever we find ourselves.

tchidi:
Ukwa, tastes heavenly!

Richy4:
My dear he quoted me,wrote a lot of things that meant nothing. I asked him a question he didn't answer instead he was ranting

I guess he is one of the naira land lunatic roaming around every section displaying their ignorance on social media
I have clearly seen between me and him, we are world apart. And I have no time for his kind.
By the way how are you today ?

Richy4:
You really really need some growing up to do.
Stop acting holier than Pope himself. It is your type that preaches super holy and do the otherwise in secret.
And FYI I hated your type with passion.

Here is a kid who really needed information, and the best you can think is beat him up. Don't you know that education is the key? Besides how do you yourself learn about sex. And please don't even say it came naturally.

No wonder people say pastors kids are the worst sets of kids ever produced. Why wouldn't they say that when they have the likes of you putting on the holy robe and ready to pass judgment on a kid who doesn't know why his body is functioning the way it does. Knowing fully well that teenagers are in a confused stage in life and needed guidance.

And as for your comments about kids not being safe with me, I will simply let a low life judgemental person like you pass today because it was the first time you got into my space. And it was your first offence but Make sure it doesn't happen again.

Richy4:
Hahaha. Thanks. I don't really understand. They gave him a weapon which was laptop and then they expected him not to go for the kill.

If they wanna be an analogue parents, they should keep smart phones and laptops far from their kids and stick with the words of analogue days"you touch her she will be pregnant "

But since the world is moving so fast technologically,and many parents can afford smart phones and laptops they "parents" got a lot of work to do. They have to monitor what their kids do on social media, and what they watch and be prepared to explain and answer questions.
I feel sorry for the OP because with proper explanation, she would have won the kid over to confind in so many things but the beating has done the damage. I hope she reads this and tell the husband so that he can repair the damage by making him trust and confind in him with good explanation.

The worst thing that can happen to any parent is when their kids cannot confind in them with the fear of beating and tongue lashing etc

lovemaths:
Saucy thing.

Richy4:
I can't believe the OP said she or he actually beat a teenager for watching porn? What kinda parenting is that?

Wasn't it the best time to talk about sex and explain things to him first hand? Must every thing be left in the hands of teachers. Shouldn't she be apologising to the boy on her part for not starting it early enough.

Don't you think God or nature or whatever you believe in blessed you with that kid to be a caretaker?

So as a caretaker if your roof is licking, the first thing you do is take a stick or hammer and hit it before fixing the problem?

Don't you think that your son was curious and really need to know about everything that revolves around him? And the best you can offer was beat him?

I thought moms and dads of this day are Y2K compliant. I never knew some still have very old and analogue mentality. Imagine her saying she raised him in Christian home. So Christians don't have sex....

Me just wondered where it was written be fruitful and replenish the earth.... if you as a parent cannot give him the guide lines on how to go about it, the mistake he's gonna make is doing press up.

SAMBARRY:
no mind them

na so one overzealous journalist went to interview ex governor fashola and asked him sir with your busy schedule as a governr do you stillhave ttime to kolobi your wife. Fashola said you're beginning to infringe on my space femi. I'm too busy for all this anyway thank you and have a nice day. Then he pointed at the door. Immediately got the message

SAMBARRY:


Why you no con dey do fringe or shut up and drive

na so so all back shaaa

SAMBARRY:
Abeg leave those romance boys. They are teenagers and those waiting on jamb Jare.when they grow up they will grow sense


meanwhile so you too you get opon like Rihanna own

opon as in front ogo

Onegai:
Thorpido you're in your 30s right? People of that era have a different mindset and were brought up differently (my brothers are of that age group), not all of them but there was a different mindset. My dad encouraged his sons and daughters to do their best. Decades later, I befriended a younger woman and her junior brother. One day, this much younger guy was flaring up at his older sister and one of his complaints was "she doesn't even cook for me and leave food for me. Is that how she will behave in her hubby's house? ". Meanwhile, they were in school together at that time and came home together and he expected her to drive him home (which she did), then enter the kitchen and make him a meal, he didn't feel to help her. And look around NL, majority of the male commenters are young unmarried men who keep denigrating women and advocating violence to solve issues. Older men were not like this, my FIL (in his 70s) says things have gotten worse.

Women older than me (their 60s) achieved more than all these girls shouting here. But it looks like we are sliding back, not forward.

dreydee:
You and cococandy wan spoil my show abi

SAMBARRY:
is that why she should commit suicide. Can't she give them the disgrace of their lives


she should have pulled the 2 of them out naked or call crowd on their head. Both ways she has lost her marriage and mother. Report him to his family and report her mother to every member of her family

Incestuous people shouldn't be given any dignity whatsoever.

Let me see how he will remarry when his news of sleeping with his mother in law is already on the social media. He will turn osu cast

softapples:
pls 4 my sake, abeg nor vess, just let d matter die.

damiso:
But those men and people I spoke about are Nigerian men,No?

Because some comments like 'the only 2 sane men I have met among them are my brothers' are also people known to Onegai.Which I am not discounting.

I never said it was not happening as you see I agreed that there are sexist Nigerian men, I have experienced my own share of sexism from both Nigerian and Non Nigerian men.

My point was to say ALL( even Most) Nigerian men think their daughters are less than their sons,think their daughters will end up in the kitchen, beat and abuse their wives, is simply not true.

I think doing something is by highlighting the men who are not like that so that the next generation have role models to look up to. Simply saying all Nigerian men are sexist reinforces it as the norm.

I am not discounting other peoples experiences I am just highlighting the fact that those men being spoken about are not all what Nigerian men are or should be.

Same way I would call out Men who say ' all Nigerian girls are materialistic and will only marry made men' . there are Nigerian girls who are materialistic and will only marry made guys but I know Nigerian girls who are not and did not marry only made men so that makes that statement untrue.

softapples:
no wahala, its well, we are all good.

mystage:
@softapples. bro hv u heard? d marykay face afrocandy look alike says she isnt interested. so can u pick another? bt dis dis time mk sure u must hv inform whoever u wanna pick nxt abt our competition just to knw if she is interested or nt b4 u mention her moniker here. i hate been embarrased nd i solely hold u responsible for d embarrasement cococandy just caused me(us).

softapples:
LOL im sorry 4 d embarrassment, ama make amends. "offcourse cococandy is doing shakara as usual.

damiso:
I cant believe the mother of the child( his wife) was there.. if it was my child I wont need people to overpower nothing by the time I decorate him with my teeth and nails he wont have time to stop the rescuers.

Idowuogbo:
E ma gba mi ke..... i say make i do amebo small with today's metro oo....this man well so? Smh!

Cc damiso
Tearoses
Edwife
Kimoni
Naijababe
Cococandy