₦airaland Forum

softapples:
LOL ok let us wait 4 cococandy to confirm her interest b4 we set a date

no interest bro

Stick with one and you won't have that problem.

Roland17:
No be small.. We don spoil market for am..some people don even begin talk like say na dem even high pass the OP wen wan mumu dem..

this forum is just funny.

Lol.

I didn't even see your post before I typed mine.

That guy is high

Roland17:
@op

Ooo boy eee, see as you don fool almost everybody for here, make una no mind am oooo..

He definitely visited the Wisconsin Dells in the state of Wisconsin, a huge tourist attraction in the Midwest, a city filled with resorts, the name of the attraction pictured is the "haunted house", it's close to the famous Mount Olympus water parks.


Sorry I blew up your game.. I can imagine some folks have already started praying thinking rapture has started..

This Nairaland is full of crazy people.
See as you're using your mother's health to lie.
Poor woman

Upside down houses are not new and there are quite some on international drive in Florida for tourists to go in and view. I'm sure they have in other parts of the world too.

You think you're talking to doofuses abi?

I can't say I really blame her.

Her mother?

SMH. That's the height of it.

Kimoni:
@cococandy - thanks Coco, you've saved me a hell of a job with Herzumpther, was still wondering where I will start my preaching from. whew....

Herzumpther - my eyes are on you Ifffahear....

I used to be her.

I can totally relate.

I see.

I get your point.

jnrbayano:
Anger and its furtherance is sinister. It leaves damages and regrets in its wake.

At least you agree with me he is angry. He arrived here needing a placebo in our advice.

Assuming you met me in real life in a tirade: raining vituperations on my girlfriend, calling her bi*ch repeatedly........what will be your first statement to me:

~Calm down or
~Why do you call your girlfriend bi*ch and other unprintable names?

kingreign:
Unfortunately, cococandy spoke the unbiased truth. Take it or leave it.
Cococandy, you've done your best, its left for the OP to consider his wife as himself or a stranger, a tenant or a co-owner, a girl or a wife. Its his marriage, his choice....
Cheers!

Thanks. At least you didn't see it as if I was trying to blame him unnecessarily or whatever. Like do I know him or have anything against him?

Everyone may have blame when things are going wrong in their relationship. Ability to accept it and work on it is a step towards solution.

Saao:
hmm If I treat her like a tenants, I won't say I will live the house for her, I paid for the house and furnished it. I only gave a brief msg here. I appreciate ur contribution anyway. Thank you

Is it a house or your home?

I'm coming back to address this post because I believe you may want a solution to your problem. Maybe.

"You paid for the house and furnished it."
You keep making references to her leaving 'your house'.

Do you honestly believe that mindset that you're the owner of the house doesn't reflect on how you treat her? It may seem like a little thing to you, but has deeper implications.
That's where you have your own fault. If you don't regard your partner as just the home owner like you are, you will be condescending towards her without even realizing it. If she has bad attitudes, your own will make it worse as both of you will feed off each other's negative attitude and things will just get worse.

Unfortunately You didn't state exactly what she's doing wrong so you left any discerning poster no choice on where to point out her faults to her (assuming you want to show her the thread.)

Any solution that doesn't focus on what each person is doing wrong and the parts they need to work on is not solution because it just placate the persons involved with cosmetic solutions like 'take it easy' 'separate for a while' 'talk to her'
And what happens after all that they come back again and each person continues with whatever they were doing wrong before?

How did that help? It didn't.

Your faults need to be pointed out to you (sorry if you see that as blaming) if you don't know what you're doing wrong, you can't change it.
Your wife needs to see her own faults and work on them too.
Since you didn't state what they were, and I don't know if you will show her this thread, how can she know what it is about her that she needs to change?

Since we can't see her and talk to her, one choice you have now is to make a list of the things you don't like that she's doing and ask her to make her own list. Both of you read it out to each other (be ready to accept blame for your own wrong doing. There's nothing wrong with blame) and work at it from there.

Amis:
Lol at nairalanders knowing life better than the owner

Na so na.

Herzumpther:
Lol. Okay I dey here.

It's just very surprising but no problem sha. At least make I post wedding pics before I leave if ever I will.

Ehen now you're talking.

Post it well well. Snap the diamond ring and put it on your DP once in a while too (I do that )

Let anyone who's not happy about it go and die.
It is that simple.

I can't believe some ladies.
Calling someone who said they want to marry you a suitor is now an offense.
One doesn't know what to type again to avoid spiking the jealously in some people's hearts.

Obviously the OP wants posters who won't tell him where he's wrong.

Oga the home belongs to both of you. Treat her like a partner not a tenant in 'your house' and you will see improvement.

Or just go ahead and divorce her and have peace.

...Unfollows

SMH

What happened to giving your own advice and stop disturbing people about their opinions?

Nairaland never changes.

Onyeego if you have an opinion about OP's case, pls tell him.
If you have anything to tell me, quote me directly.

Don't be a sneaky pucci.

Something Sinister like what?

You see and angry man asking for help.
I also see one but who's letting his anger cloud his own faults.

You don't think the way he refers to her as distant fellow (even if he doesn't call her that one a daily basis) doesn't reflect on how he acts towards her thereby making the problem worse?

jnrbayano:
You mean he calls her "this girl" all of the time? I don't think so.

I see an angry and helpless man here who needs help.

I, sometimes use expletives when I'm angry too. Anger and morality are two parallel lines.

A judgement given based on just one-half of a story is almost always not correct. For one not to make that error, questions must be asked.

You asked none.

By the way, if I sense my opinion (whether good or not good) may trigger something sinister if I let it out (in any subject especially in marriage) I rather keep mute.

Herzumpther:
You saw it too? I feel so bad about it eh, you won't understand. Maybe I should really not leave.

Haba pls don't go anywhere.

When I was in my element, I would have jumped to your defense. I really do get pissed when I see people picking on others. But I do not have any energy to fight at all. I just left it alone.

Pls don't feel bad.

Nairaland is full of poeple who know your life better than you do and nothing you say can change it. Whatever they say about you is correct. Haha.

As you ignored that, let it slide and continue your normal activity. You want to deactivate because of that?

No make me vex for you o

Saao:
thanks a lot, I think that is what I will do, maybe I will rent a miniflat or selfcon somewhere. I'm telling u, she did not show 1 percent of what she is doing now before marriage.

What is she doing? Exactly.

And you say you don't love her anymore. Do you think it reflects in the way you act towards her thereby making her own bad attitude worse?

jnrbayano:
Do you realise that Op is in pains before coming up with this?

Why not try to find out where the problem before apportioning blames to whoever?

The problem is with him now. Is that not what I just did?

His wife is not 'that girl'
And their home doesn't belong to him alone. It is theirs.

If he drops that attitude, and stop seeing his wife as girl who lives in his personal house, he will see a change. There's no smoke without fire.

Problem solved.

But that's my personal opinion. You guys are free to give him different opinions too. We can't all type the same thing.

If the wife is here she would have gotten her own talking to. As he's the one here let him learn his own faults and correct them.

Except he intends to show the wife the thread, then it would not make sense to type long epistles addressing the wife.

African salad. (Abacha)

No pomo. I couldn't find it

But it is tasty anyway.

Herzumpther but you told me not to take a break and now you want to leave permanently. Why?

Don't tell me it's that stuff on Babyosisi's thread that wants to make you go away. Many have endured worse o.
Me number one.

Saao:
Pls I need an advice on this issue.
We got married 2013, no kid yet despite that, I try to understand but this girl can't let me have peace. Cuz I no, children are gift from God, Him alone can give.
She is so negative, insultive and can quarrel anytime of the day, as it is, nothing like love between me and her again.
I have no peace in the house, going to work sometime as early as possible I will be unhappy.
Assuming if I have parents I don't think she will still be in my house.
She has done so many things that I will be ashamed to tell people and I don't really know how to get her out of my house. Should I move out from the house for her cuz I no I can't survive this. Pls advice me

You're the problem. Not her.

Una can sabi wake up old thread ehn.

My favorite
So nostalgic right now.
Aunty Mercy.

Lol OP is that the measure of a good school? You're funny.

Herzumpther:
Break? Please don't.o.

as if I could. This thread keeps drawing me back to it

chinma414:
pear worsens my morning sickness. Bliv me you don't want to go there

Mmm ok.

PassingShot:
Unlike the meeting between President Buhari and his immediate predecessor, [size=18pt]the meeting with Mr. Obasanjo was in the full glare of the media[/size]. However, neither Mr. Obasanjo nor the president offered an official account of the subject or substance of [size=18pt]their meeting which was held behind close doors[/size] .


http://saharareporters.com/2015/08/09/corruption-probe-former-president-jonathan-secret-meeting-buhari

These people are useless sha.

Was their meeting held in the full glare of the media or behind closed doors.

Only dunces will take these circus act reporters seriously.

SMH

@bold, This is as stupid as anyone can get.
Anything more is downright moronic.
They 'suspect' therefore it is newsworthy.

So obasanjo is the one telling buhari what to do. No wonder he disliked GEJ because the former wouldn't be used in his political witch-hunting sprees. He's gotten a new toy in the person of buhari.

Old fools.

PassingShot:
Forrmer President Goodluck Jonathan met secretly with President Muhammad Buhari on Thursday night, with corruption at the center of their discussion, two Presidency sources have disclosed.

President Buhari and President Jonathan met secretly last Thursday
Our sources disclosed that the meeting between President and the man he unseated in the March 28, 2015 presidential poll lasted from 9-10 p.m. Nigerian time.

Our sources stated that they understood that former President Jonathan did not seek any explicit overtures from President Buhari, adding that they suspect that Mr. Jonathan was at the Presidential Villa to check Mr. Buhari’s temperament regarding the growing probe of sectors of the former president's administration.

One source stated that President Buhari and Mr. Jonathan parted on an "amicable note," with both men chatting and laughing.

The meeting was kept secret, hidden from the media.

Less than 24 hours after the meeting, former President Olusegun Obasanio also requested to meet with President Buhari. One source revealed that, at a Friday meeting with President Buhari, Mr. Obasanjo urged the new president to act boldly and courageously on corruption. According to the source, Mr. Obasanjo specifically told the president to be open to sending former President Jonathan to prison on account of his involvement in corrupt activities.

Mr. Obasanjo reportedly listed fraudulent selling of Nigeria's crude oil and the arms import scams as two areas he would be able to assist Mr. Buhari to nail former President Jonathan.

Unlike the meeting between President Buhari and his immediate predecessor, the meeting with Mr. Obasanjo was in the full glare of the media. However, neither Mr. Obasanjo nor the president offered an official account of the subject or substance of their meeting which was held behind close doors.


http://saharareporters.com/2015/08/09/corruption-probe-former-president-jonathan-secret-meeting-buhari

Good for him.

Ewwww pastor.

What a horrifying thing.

Those people who complied and ate the rubbish must have been high on something.

I love this.
These preggy pics trend nowadays.
So cute.

PassingShot:
No need to go back and forth. The huge difference here is that there won't be provision for her projects from Nigeria's budget.
Whatever else you hold on to is your right.

good for you if you believe that.

Have you asked your saint buhari what's been happening to accountability since he got sworn in and has been running the govt. by himself in all the ministries? GEJ would have been crucified and buried since if he was the one.

Private money indeed.

PassingShot:
Please what is funny in saying "her sponsors"? I expected you to understand I meant sponsors of her projects.

I know. The sponsors who will use their personal money to give the presidents wife to run her pet projects just because they have excess or maybe because they get political favors, oil wells, and or appointments from them?
Also having no official budget doesn't tell you money can flow in and out if there without being tracked because it's all under the radar.

These couple are obviously saints and can do no wrong.

Unu weldone.

PassingShot:
Wow! Job of which First Lady? To me, what you call First Lady is Wife of the President here with the difference being that the former is seen as official title even though it's officially wrong while the later is not an official title and not seen as such.

And why can't she have pet projects as the wife of the president? My wife (a nobody by Nigeria's politics) has some "pet projects" (charity) she does.

Again, the difference here is that while such office was funded by our budget in the past, her works will no longer be funded by our budget but her sponsors.

Her sponsors

Lmao. Gosh you're not that gullible. You can't be.

MizMyColi:
Nne, why are we saying the same things using different words?

We must be fraternal twins

I tire for these people. Make I go sleep