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so since you've been a victim before, I take it that it was your fault the fellow came onto you.
Maybe you weren't Christian enough or maybe you wore a revealing outfit.

Let's just say you are lying and the guy didn't try to molest you. You gave yourself freely.
Or even if he did try to molest you, you deserved it. No?

halfrica:
And who told u av nt been a victim too
Mine was evendurin foundation programme diploma at dat at wat age kwa
he was my course adviser
See i blame my sef cos d first day i went to his office my appearance was wild ok d way u dress is d way u are addressed and u fuckin kno d way unilag girls dress and mind u d girls will never surely tell u ow dey agreed i stay in girls hostel u kno the lecturers myt av done all d sensational part like hugging tryin to do sedusive postioning by nt rape
Bt he didnt rape or anyfin he only told me his plans and i told moi parents
Dat never made me fail diploma he stil lectured me
Its d way d girls handle d situation wen d lecturers post d green lyt dat annoys me ok

What's enticing about the little ones that get molested too?
What about those who dress decently and were molested?

lastpage:
I dont like it when women think their gender gives them some advantage in such cases!

First, let us know that a man can r@pe a woman just as much as a woman can r@ape a man.
Secondly, let us establish that during consensual shex, both parties (male and female) derive pleasure form it and women should stop saying "he slept" with me..... YOU BOTH SLEPT WITH EACH OTHER for christ's sake!

Finally, YES, the way you dress can attract the wrong crowd to you! Pubic area showing and boobs popping out is indecent and an invitation for trouble.
You can dress well and cutely without exposing your PRIVATE parts! Exposing your PRIVATE parts does not make you beautiful, it only makes you look like a LovePeddler, Gerrit?
If you dress "seductively", the message you are "broadcasting" to the bad people is that YOU ADVERTISING you need shex from anyone!
Every culture and religion preaches DECENCY and MODERATION.

In as much as l would encourage "self control", l also say it that those who "start the posturing", as as guilty as the person that falls for it.

Its like a 419 Scam, if you dont have millions somewhere and someone says if you give him just 5,000, he will give you the 100Million that is the money fo a dead man somewhere! You have to be GREEDY YOURSELF and be a CRIMINAL to think you can profit/reap, from where you have not sown.
So, if you get scammed in the process, dont come crying wolf! You were responsible for at least 50% of it, Period!

You cannot absolve yourself of all responsibility, if you dress to entice others to seek advantage of you.


Lastpage!

MizzD:
Cc : cococandy...

Yet! A supposed female and self acclaimed one-time victim of rape has been barking around blaming the victim. Thankfully, so far many disagree with her. All hope is not lost.

i pray the case is diligently followed.

I'm just reading the comment and SMH.

According to her strong Christains can't be molested.
so I guess she's blaming herself for her own encounter.

Femi’s father, the late Chief Remilekun Fani-Kayode, objected to the marriage because he believed that Yemisi was not a stable character and was not a serious minded person. He also had lots of contempt for her background. Femi insisted on going ahead with the marriage simply because Yemisi had said that she was carrying a child and that if he didn’t marry her, she would kill herself and the child inside her.

The thing runs in their family.

Kimoni:
I thought twins are more likely to give birth to twins. Am I wrong?

I heard it's more likely when you have twins in your lineage but not exactly when you're one yourself.

There's really no research to back any of this up anyway.

Truckpusher:
She's as ugly as hell - You prolly seen the enhanced version of that ugly thing .

If you see her face, you'd demand that her parents be sued for giving birth to such an anomaly in human form.
Meanwhile , stay away from this - You don't want to be caught in the crossfire .

Ok.

Idowuogbo:
Lolz....this geh sef! You better go and balance on the sofa b4 we use wuruwuru push you comot.

I'm sitting on the sofa. As if you know.

He could mean well but just be very careful.

Idowu is not ugly. I've seen her picture before
(Just wanted to say I catch you for the lie)

#Runs away to keep watching from the sideline.

Truckpusher:
And the ugly biitch had to come up online to rant .

I still have your horrible gorilla looking face picture intact to show to the world what an ugly thing you are and it makes you so insecure that you can't even upload ya Bleep face on your profile .

You begged people to beg me to let you be - now you just woke me up again right ? get ready to run again because this time there would be no mercy for you.
At least I was on my own when you came calling like the diick nibbling goblin that you are - you just bought for yourself a nice space in my net.

moca:
Isokay,see as them dey reject us left,right and center.
Even cococandy dey fear too


It's only tearoses and efe that I will rof back.
to u ladies.

To those wey dey reject us,i prophesy double triple any time oga touch dem.
Iseeeee!

Not afraid.

As a twin I may not have twins myself. So make I kuku claim he double blessings from another angle. If twins come, still fine

Sorry.

How sad

Unfollows thread.

I get pissed when people make light of rape. (As has become the norm)

Make I no go vex more than I already am.

kevinberry:
[color=#006600]pathetic,you talk of rape cases and focus mainly of females,so much for gender equality,whoever is been raped or has been raped should provide strong evidence or the rape never took place...imagine rapping a full grown girl and she was still able to interview the person that raped her,or an 18 years old girl,and she decided not to tell anybody,[common sense will tell you that she agreed to have sex with the lecturer,in the course of the action,probably the lecturer ruff handled her and and in the process result to injuries in her private parts ....believe any case of rape by a lecturer at your own peril..either hotel or his/her office

See common sense.

You just made up a story to suit yourself and call it common sense. What happened to shutting up and let the case be tried. You turned to accuser, accused, judge and jury.

kevinberry:
Disappointed in you...life won't end on NL

. Are you kidding me?

If only I was just disappointed in you. I'm disgusted.

kevinberry:
Exactly,what the op and his/her likes want is for the person accused to be jail immediately,without evidence to show if the man committed the act or not...the police know their job,that why they first of all went for a medical test,now it left for them to follow the due process in order to find out if the man committed the act or not..they know how to go about it....

And to you saying until someone sisters is raped before we will know it dangerous...also know that until your friend or brother is jailed without evidence for rape before you will know that there are due process to follow..

And to you cococandy learn to choose your word when replying someone,don't ever call me a rapist again..

Mtchew

Read and comprehend. No one at least not me is saying they should be jailed without trial.
I'm saying folks need to stop trying to hush complainants into silence before they can even prove their case.
Read and comprehend.

sainty2k3:
hello, I observed that you are taking a good side of protecting the molested, but we also bneed to remember that no one is guilty until proven beyond reasonable doubt.
in the case of Mr lecturer, either rape or not he's guilty and has betrayed trust. coming out to say he used condom MIGHT just be a defense but who are we to speak with all certainty, we were not there

in the case of Timaya I found it difficult to believe that a lady left her house to meet a guy in his hotel room ( for rehearsal or meeting) no sign of struggle, according to report thy have been flirting probably sexting online even before then, only to talk of rape after enjoying the thing. but again who are we to say with certainty.

I've seen prostitute accusing customer of rape just because the guy didn't pay enough. should they jailed the guy straight away?
there are always many side to a story and even the body defending molested people in one of their presentation agreed that at times victims made it difficult to achieve justice cos they are no saint too,some do have their fault.

^^^ hmmm. They will soon say the man is being set up.

The marriage is over.

kevinberry:
Pathetic..coco are you schooled at all..

So if I should go to the police and tell them that my friend stole my car,then an investigation is conducted and the results shows that I truly owns a car and it was stolen...are you saying the should go ahead and jail my friend because I accuse him,without investigating if he is the one that stole it or someone else

Am done with these conversation...

And the mor0n didn't read where the man agreed to it but claimed it was consensual. Your school was a waste. You even have the guts the ask someone else if they are schooled.

kevinberry:
Why are you directing the blame to me...see me see coco oo..have we met before,which one is me shaming the victim....I said before I pass judgement there must be evidence that such acts occur...will you convicts a criminal simply because I tell you that the person stole my money without evidence...let take the teenager that shoot people inside a church,would you convict him without evidence...don't let sentiment cloud your judgement...it can be disastrous

the blame lies 100 percent at your feet and those like you who shoot down the account of rape victims and try to victimize them some more by shaming them instead of waiting for a certified court of law to release verdict on the case.

You and your likes are the reasons why rapists will continue to operate unhindered because they know that even if the victim complains, no one will believe them. instead they will blame them and ask them what they were doing there in the first place.

Stop already.

kevinberry:
Am anot dismissing the claim,I unlike you rely on facts rather than sentiment before passing judgement...a lady is raped,a medical test is conducted,bruises are found on her private part,how would you conduct that of a man...

Is the man claiming to be raped in this situation? Why does he need to be examined? What facts are you looking for besides the bruises she has? What's your angle? Because a man may have been raped somewhere who's not coming forward to complain, she shouldn't get justice in her own case?

You're not dismissing her claim but you're already sure that she agreed to it and is blackmailing him because she didn't get what she wanted. Is that not what you said in your earlier post? Suddenly you're not dismissing the claim.

Confused fellow.

kevinberry:
Cococandy,here@the bolded lies the hypocrisy am talking about....

This thread is dead on arrival

And the reason why no one believes such is not because men can't be attacked but because people like you shame victims into keeping quiet. Some will even ridicule him for not being man enough to beat off the attacker. All these things we will continue suffering and paying for until you learn to stop shaming victims.

kevinberry:
No,you need help...you can't continue to be biased in issues involving both genders...it not right

What's right is for you to dismiss the claims of the complainants and instead make up scenarios that didn't occur to justify your hideous idealogy.
In your mind the girl must be lying. And you think you're not biased. Oluku rapist.

kevinberry:
Which one is you people...is it my fault that the girl had sex with the lecturer,when things now turn bad,she decided to paint it as rape...or when the other so called girl was raped,after the act,the best she could think of is beg timaya to allow her go with him as his wife,or when she had to start an interview session with timaya instead of her going to the hotel security to report the incident immediately...abeg,I can't shout

you're a rapist apologist. That much is clear.

NeduLuiZ:
A rape case without any eye witness

You mean she should have invited some people to come witness and take pictures while he was raping her so that she will have eye witness?


Omo I better log off before I go vex this morning.

What's kind of brain functioning is responsible for all these

kevinberry:
pathetic,you talk of rape cases and focus mainly of females,so much for gender equality,whoever is been raped or has been raped should provide strong evidence or the rape never took place...imagine rapping a full grown girl and she was still able to interview the person that raped her,or an 18 years old girl,and she decided not to tell anybody,common sense will tell you that she agreed to have sex with the lecturer,in the course of the action,probably the lecturer ruff handled her and and in the process result to injuries in her private parts....believe any case of rape by a lecturer at your own peril..either hotel or his/her office

this is a disgusting post. You need help.

laplace12:
Evidences show there was no rape. Reason people respond that way.


To establish a rape case there should be a proof there is no romantic relationship between the people involved. But here there is hanging out and consensual romantic touches at different times before the alleged rape.

And the girl has reached the age of sex consent.

so someone who knows one and is romantically involved with them earlier can't rape them? Do you know a husband can rape the wife much less a friend who has been close to one.
It is even harder for a stranger to rape someone because the chances of being along in a private place with a stranger is not high enough as it would be with someone who's close to you.

Many rape cases are perpetrated by people who have become close and become trusted by the victims.

kevinberry:
So you wanna tell me the girl was raped in his office and he couldn't shout or in a hotel room...what of men that are being abuse by their female boss but won't speak because of the blame he will receive..for not manning up enough and giving the woman what she want...

Abeg

does that make it ok? Why should a man not speak up when raped if not for the victim blaming that you people do?

NeduLuiZ:
A rape case without any eye witness

A rape case without any concrete evidence

Am strongly against any non-consensual sex but a situation where an 18year old could not raise alarm to attract outsiders seems to be absurd

have you been raped before? Do you know some victims are afraid to raise alarm when alone with the their attacker for fear of being harmed in the process? So in your "wisdom" if she didn't raise alarm, it means she agreed to it?

kevinberry:
Learn to read and understand...for all I know,I don't know if she was an olosho before coming to my neighbourhood,it was when she came to my neighbourhood that we got to know about her way of life,hence why everybody is advising the man not to marry her....perhaps she was residing in another city before coming down to the same city with this man

he should leave her alone because he's already married. Did any of his advisers think to bring that up? Abi the fact that he's married doesn't count? It's her lifestyle that up for discussion. and not his obvious marital status.

Na the lady fit am sef. I hope she sucks him dry and discards him like a piece of used toilet paper. Useless man.

kevinberry:
I don't have time for blame game,so please zip it up

you don't have time for blame games
But you brought your story here so that we will tell the good man to flee from such a bad lady who's living a promiscuous lifestyle so different from the kind if ideal and exemplary life he lives. Lol