₦airaland Forum

TheFLIRT:
Don't make it sound like African women in marriage are in living bondage. There's no law restricting women from filing for divorce if the marriage is unfavourable to them. And why would the society stigmatise a divorcee when her reason for leaving is clear? Do you think we're still in the 1800's? We've outgrown that age a long time ago

TheFLIRT:
How did you arrive at this?

babygirlfl:
Lol. Most women like that my friend will say the husband later agreed after they cajoled their husband. They will say submission does not mean you don't have a say. However, submission means yielding to a higher force. Women who submit should not have a say. When the husband says they are moving to Nigeria, she should ask when should she start packing. But our own women's type of submission has a say and time to cajole the man. They even make their own decisions. How then are they different from non submissive women?

PreciousBro:
Madam, I am not the one that dropped a sac of sh!t in your front to warrant you knitting your brows at me,

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PreciousBro:
Ok if so, then I agree, Men are by virtue smarter/wiser and hence women ought to submit to her man, regardless of what her qualification is in life, no one cares, lol

God knows best.

babygirlfl:
The bolded is so true. Reminds me of one of my friends who claims to submit to her husband. Yet when he wanted them to move back to Nigeria, she vehemently refused. When they wanted to build a house, the husband wanted it to be in the village but she refused and said it should be built in a city near the village. These are the two instances of the two big decision I know and on both occasions, she had a say and they still live in the UK and are currently building in a city. So you can tell for yourself whose decision they took. To my darling friend, she is submissive. If I go with her definition of submission. I would be much more submissive than her . I have since concluded that it is one of those things people do as the please and not as they say.

TheFLIRT:
Lmfao! I was right after all. Fear is the factor. I'm happy to be African then.

raumdeuter:
Most women would prefer to marry someone more intelligent than them.

It doesnt mean all men are more intelligent than all women, But the hypergamous nature in female would make them only agree for the toaster who is more intelligent

damiso:
Thank you jare as my friend will say sweat is fat crying

Chillis:
That Yeye thing called moderator Don ban me again until next month.

Mtcheww.
off to my vacation o jare.

Miss yall and keep up the good works.

damiso:
Naijababe kimoni day 3 done this sweat no get part 2

babygirlfl:
submission here is the dictionary meaning.

Submission

I don't think its a bad thing when its done by the two parties involved and done sometimes when required. For marriage to work, we have to submit to each other sometimes.

What I don't agree with is absolute submission which is done every time by one spouse. That is slavery. Most people will deny this but most women who believe in submission are not absolutely submissive and that is because it's almost impossible.

pickabeau1:
Yes they are parents like this but they are not the norm for these girls

Some of these girls come from middle class backgrounds, attend private uniis yet they still ask for money from boyfriend who have to sponsor a birthday party annually, buy tablets as gift and generally flex.

So them no get parent?

pickabeau1: I needed to ask
So you see women in naija have it easy
They use phones bought by men with data to post
Some are sponsored on trips to dubai and exotic places
Some are valued with high amounts of money to show they are high class before the husband can carry them

So where is the suffering that caused the femaleinnaija shítstorm

naijababe:
@ coco, so these girls, dem nor get parents ni abi their parents nor de ask questions?

jnrbayano:
Topic: submission is a two way thing else its outright slavery.

BukkyBayo:
This is a man I cherish so much. He has failed to understand that nobody is perfect.

I try my possible best to see that my man is always happy, all I get is that with every little quarrel, I get beaten up and called all sorts of names. I could easily cheat on him firstly because he has cheated countless number of times in our marriage and secondly because I feel he no longer has regards for me, but what will I gain, and what will God tell me.

I tell this story in pains as I wish that one day things will change. He used to mean the whole world to me. I wish somebody could explain to him that I tolerate a lot from him so why cant he take the other side of me that is not perfect.

No family is 100% happy, it all depends on how you manage your home. How you understand your partner. How you treat your partner. wish someone could teach him how to pet a woman; How to apologize to your wife when you beat her up; How to be good

I have tried to remain good but he says I'm still a devil faking all my characters...I have known him for years and we've been married for years...

All I need is your prayers because he was not like this.

Only God can change him to The Sweet Man I used to know and love.

adconline:
Dullard mofos and hypocrites- men love s3x and get women pregnant, don't want to take responsibility and then make laws on why women should carry their pregnancy.. If we care deeply out babies how come Naija has over 10m kids not going to school but joining Almajiris, street hawking, BH camps and slave babe-maid business?!

Joavid:
I don't support abortion but let the girls be the one to make that decision.
The ones who wanna abort can go to a country like USA were its legal to do so.
The UN can help them in that aspect.

hahn:
First of all, I'm not a "nairaland dude"

I'm married and it would seem totally unrealistic to subject my wife to such standards

naijababe:
Haba! This face nor serious now

EfemenaXY:
Following suit...

dinachi:
See as she come describe herself like one nice sweet holy Nweje somewhere. This Na person way dey fight with me wella everyday. You never talk true!

5minsmadness:
It is generally accepted that in any sane marriage institution the wife is meant to be submissive to her husband. Wether Christian or Muslim or pagan, the wife has to be a good follower to enable the man lead properly or else chaos ensues.
Just as you can't have two drivers in a car, you can't have two leaders in a marriage. Even a team has a Team leader.

So what does it mean for a wife to be submissive? And where does one draw the line between submission and slavery? Is there any difference between the two?

pickabeau1:
NO trouble.. just asking
How do you know the said trouble makers are fine specimens...

Meanwhile who just likes comments once it is a response to people..
Im sure the liker assumed it was a shade