₦airaland Forum

sevule:
It is actually a valid concern and I don't think the lady is being immature. You can be the best mother in the world but a lousy wife and vice versa. Basically she wants validation that she is the number One priority in her husband's life. Children should never come first before your spouse even though we as Africans tend to think that children should come first.

iPopAlomo:
And the woman that abandons are child and ropes with a lover...?! that's the problem with you feminist... your policies are all the time shit...

bukatyne:
Babes,

When he starts a social media (outside NL) campaign for anti-feminism or anti-gayism, then he has the right to talk

Anyone not happy with your pseudo-feminism should start a campaign on twitter about it or open a twitter handle for you.

Marriage = been kept by men

Or marriage for feminists is different from marriage for anti-feminists?

All anti-feminists work and support their husbands... all feminists sit at home and are kept by their husbands

Bunch of jokers

pickabeau1:
See words.. silly.. already?
I asked you a simple question.. see your thesis

You hate brideprice but cant seem to do anything about it aside from condemning it yet the culture persists in your community..

You are the one that has a mindset
You partake in a tradition which you deem is now politically incorrect because of your online persona here
Just a few posts ago, someone called you out that you are married just to let other ladies know.. why do u think so?

pickabeau1:
Its not effective but effective..duh
Still contradicting yourself


These socialmedia campaigns are powerful especially when backed with an organization

Case in point: Ferguson was a mix of rallies, social media presence which has led to demilitarization of cops using SWAT gear.
Also the cop who body slammed a girl at a party lost his job over the clamour



You still don't get it.. let me try one more time

You hate bride price as you said
Has any of you who hate this evil custom campaigned against it

I have seen campaigns against FGM and I support it in any way both financially
I have seen campaigns against child education and I support it

why have women not campaigned against bride price

Let me hazard a guess: women like the 'value' placed on them

freecocoa:
I find it unsettling that many don't see anything wrong in that question. How can one be in competition with her child? That's kinda crazy.

pickabeau1:
haha.. so Its just starts and stop
No action in real life.
No campaign
Nothing..

A woman like you campaigned for equal right on inheritance... take note

owKAY



On this... while your retort is unrelated... I will humour you and answer you.

I have said it many times,... feminists are the easiest people to deal with.. you know their stand on any issue
not the pseudo feminists we have online barking but still want to be kept by men

pickabeau1:
Nope.. that was not my question

I asked you if Nigerian women or any lady who comes online to decry this bride price custom has started even a twitter campaign

Since it demeans women

Have you clamoured for its removal other than stating you don't like it yet you had to comply

pickabeau1:
So is there a movement(online) or NGO that is campaigning for the abolition of this barbaric custom (as you ladies put it)

is there a twitter campaign

is the issue of brideprice even mentioned in this sudden campaign to highlight women in naija

liquidmetall:
So you married so early and yet you want some of our sisters here to think marriage is not an achievement,
some of them single in their late 30's here will even join you to shout marriage is not an achievement

While you ran off to marry so early



God is watching us o

pickabeau1:
Can it be called bride Prize


To show the accomplishment of becoming a bride

kaboninc:
You have a problem with that?

Truckpusher:
But your husband paid?

And your uncles collected and pocketed and you are here screaming equal right?


If I swear for you eh - make I leave you sha ,you be my sister.


If not *snaps finger*

Truckpusher:
They will never call for it.

Ask cococandy about her opinion on this.

Even in my LGA they have finally tagged a 250,000 naira price tag on them like tubers of yam, yet boys dey run


My cousin spent almost 1.5 million naira for family trad things not even the main traditional marriage o, while the wedding is still another level.

Omo! na baby mama sef naim sure pass.

CFCfan:
If folks are serious about equality, they should call for the abolition of bride price. The bride price culture is a strong pillar of the patriarchy in Naija.

Truckpusher:
You don't have a voice and that okpolo eye lady was controlling the economy of more than 250 million people while running the number one source of the country's revenue, while the other one was making almost all our policies as it concerns our economy?

Na wao - Maybe we should deploy only women to conquer Boko Haram then you guys can be happy

Tufiakwa

kaboninc:
I don't even know if you're married. Let's say you're married.

If in a public place, your husband tells you not to pick up something, for whatever reason and you choose to disobey him, even in public, (and if not once), what do you expect him to do. Smile at you? Same woman will go out there to tell the world how loose and little their husband is?

What he did was to punish her, making her understand that he has authority over her and there are boundaries you do not cross. *you can interpret this in whatever way you like*

Now, my issue with stillfire is the generalisation with black women. Please read our convo before misrepresenting what I said.

Truckpusher:
You painted a picture as if every woman in this same society is living in one hell of a life down here yet when you got married you were not dragged into your husband's arms by your parents, neither was it out of societal pressure but your heart desire - Sometimes you guys sound so pained that one begin to wonder if at all you can say these things you say online offline unless the internet has also become a place to vent internal angers that can't be vented out since the same society too has been gagging you but got married without being dragged down the aisle.

You're even contradicting yourself because I can still draw reference from your previous reply before this one where you alluded that Nigerian women are working and making their money and do not depend on their husbands solely and even gave instances about your family members but here in just one breath you're berating the society for not giving equal voice to women .So, my question is: if the society is that bad like you just painted it where did you get these other facts you initially talked about in your first comment ? No need to answer that question - It is obvious that our women are not happy.But the bad news is that it won't change anytime soon and this is because women are not even ready for any form of changes.


Bia , you dun marry abeg , no dey paint this kain picture for here before you spoil people mind finish, meanwhile you dey ya house dey kiss ya husband up and down like say sugar dey him body.......

Truckpusher:
Do you agree with me that some Nigerian ladies that are emotionally fuccked are hiding under feminists and equality movement just because they have a bad past with men and to them every man falls into that category irrespective of your character and disposition towards women generally?

Truckpusher:
Honestly, I have seen heartless men ,men that don't care about their kids, imagine ? children that are totally innocent.

The Government need to make better policies targeting these group to protect such women but it should be made in such way that some bad women like the ones we have here won't manipulate the system to get back at men just because they are men.

Truckpusher:
I only said that for reference purpose and that doesn't mean that our women aren't hard working.But let's face the truth a lot Nigerian men work their ass off for their family but ya'll keep painting every Nigerian man bad .Why?

Truckpusher:
And what's ya point exactly ? could you please enlighten me .

Truckpusher:
I have always supported that women should be given a voice because of the chauvinistic nature of our men but I have also noticed that some of our women deserve these kind of men to keep them in check.

Begonia:
Seriously, I have a problem with this. I constantly read comments about Nigerian women being dependent and all. My mum was never dependent on my dad and I don't know any Nigerian woman that depends on a man as her source of livelihood... I'm not saying they aren't there. In Nigeria, there are some jobs that are predominantly done by females. From the elementary school teachers to the counsellors to the tailors, hair stylists, cashiers, receptionists, librarians, bankers, nurses etc. Yet you guys keep going on and on about this. It's only on this forum where virtually all Nigerian women depend on the men and all Nigerian men are capable of taking care of their women and by extension, family.
Does propagating this falsehood make you guys feel good?

Stillfire:
The revolution is just beginning!
Operation say no to the tyrannical excesses of the patriarchal system on womanhood!

dangotesmummy:
Happy new month to my sugars

Stillfire:
Solomon the wisest man on earth who penned down these 'lyrics' could not find this so called virtuous woman worthy enough to be faithful to. How much more some Nigerian!
Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Rotflmao! He was on a quest in finding that 'fairy tale' woman that never existed.
In Ecclesiastes 7:28 New Living Translation, Solomon says:

Though I have searched repeatedly, I have not found what I was looking for. Only one out of a thousand man is virtuous, but not one woman.

Lol. He found no woman virtuous, hahahaha!

omenka:
A very big mtchewww I tell you.

Mugabe definitely is the worst leader in Africa with the economy of Zimbabwe in tatters, yet he still finds time for mundane adventures such as meddling in the purely domestic affairs of his betters. And Nigerians in their usual manner applaud him.

When would Nigerians tear twitter apart over ritual killings and corruption ripping the nation apart??

Hypocrites.