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babygirlfl:
I find it very funny when people say they laugh at feminists who according to them ends here. You want equality and women to be treated well but you don't want to do anything about it. Yet you can sit down and laugh at those that are doing something. The internet is a powerful platform to reach people. Facebook would not be rich today if people did not recognise that you can reach a lot of people. At the time feminism was at its infancy in the west, there was no internet and even today the western feminists use Internet. Also how many feminists in nairaland do these people know outside nairaland for them to know that it ends here or do they want to tell us that they don't know any feminists in the real world?

coogar:
there's nothing wrong with the title, if the stats is as high as 50%, then one can conclude its a nation of wife beaters - especially when nothing is being done by the law to curb the menace.

police rarely get involved in domestic violence. the churches usually ask the victims to persevere and stay in the marriage. this is not good enough. steps should be taken to punish the culprits.

i like this new coogar.
Did the angel of the lord appear unto you?

Jorussia:
Since you don't know the particular number of months,i think it will be best for you to stop this your unnecessary hatred against governor okorocha.A gov will be owing his workers 11 months and yet no strike action?

unnecessary hatred?

You're funny.

Rochas is owing IMO workers o.
Plenty of months. Don't know the particular number of months.
I've civil servants who can attest to that.

Horrible man.

Water under the bridge

Move on already

MrBully:
I'm sorry I had to quote you here. The main thread where u made this comment has been locked, so I couldn't quote u directly.
I just want to bring to ur notice that Berem is not Igbo. She's a Yoruba MILF from Ogun State but happens to know a lot of Igbo people and understand the language as well. Please stop calling her Igbo cos she's not, and she's not your ''sister''. The same as her colleagues Om.enka and Ukwugene or whatever. The only real Igbo person among her cliche is Obiagel.li. Sorry to disturb you. THANKS

Troll

damiso:
Cococandy see my plantain effort .. Some were a bit burnt but I was able to sha eat dodo(fried plantain),without the oil guilt.

thank you I had it with grilled fish and roast vegetables was too hungry to snap another picture.

Happy to help.

Lmao.

EfemenaXY:
Scam ke?

I said 1 minute, you show up 17 minutes later. Which kind mathematics be dat?

That aside, you're just way too popular girl! Just the mere mention of your moniker and see how the place full ground. I don't do public shows oh! You and Cococandy are celebrities. I cannae cope no more...

Stillfire:
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I doubt coogar can beat up this woman in this video. Hahahaha!!!

I don't like to see people fighting.
Especially if one of them is getting really beat up.

That wasn't a fair match. The guy is just lanky and probably lacks stamina. See as she just dey use am mop the street. So much anger in the babe .

I thought the police officer was going to stop.

awhydot:
Funny enough, my friend said he told her to her face that a deep part of her isn't with him, and she replied "yes". And started saying she will fix it with time.
The poor guy is actually unhappy knowing dt he doesn't have the totality of his wife's heart.

If she says that, why did she marry him?

Nice write up whoever you are.

At least you're not among the mischievous ones pretending not to know about the evils of misogyny rampant in naija

FrancisTony:
Men are not aggressive, biko.
Some men are.

And I have come across ghetto-like females that are very aggressive.
Alaye girls. *pops collar* especially watching those yoruba movies featuring Funke Akindele and Eniola Badmus...

exactly

Your baby is seriously cute.

ifyalways:
Is that thing suppossed to be a sport?

My friend has a whole room dedicated for her golf balls and stuff, travels all over the world to play/watch golf. I will never get it. You kick/tap a ball, watch it roll into a hole, go pick it , repeat cycle. My sister, what sort of dead sport be that? I agree with you, it's a good place to network.

Disney is overpriced and crowded. We were once at Orlando , stayed at one of the disney resorts which was suppossed to guarantee us fast and express entry into theme parks but all na wash. It was so crowded, one spends his/her energy on queue to get into the parks, get on a ride , get a table at the restaurants or do anything worthwhile. We'd be looking at Paris this year and I sooooooo pray it won't be anything like our Orlando experience.

@ bold, see what I told you? Who travels all over the world just to watch golf if their money is not overflowing?
Man I'm sticking with that crowd o.
I can get my entertainment later. There's so much other fun stuff to do. Let's get to know the rich people first.

Thanks for the heads up.
Spring finals end this week. Lawd. Can't wait for next week. I plan to do Orlando next week before starting vacation proper.Maybe palm beach instead. Even if I do go to Disneyland, no Disney resort for sure.

I knew that their advert was too good to be true

Paris. O la la.

Newbie like me. I can't yet go to Europe without visa.

Only the Caribbean islands will take me.(and only because DH is taking me as his handbag)
Sucks

taryour:
I beg to disagree with you sis. True its very possible but in this case I feel she still wants something with her ex. One year after marriage is long enough to forget he or she ever exists in his or her life and besides she must have courted her hubby for a while which is also long enough period to erase memories. Its not like they got married a week after they meet. * I could still be wrong though *

There's really no set time for anyone.
For Some it could be weeks while others it could take a few years to totally have that unconscious memory out of their brains.

If you found yourself mistakenly writing your maiden lastname on a form where you're requested to fill in your lastname after 3yrs of marriage, you would see that there's no time frame to it.

Even after having not used my old email for close to a year, I still mistakenly write it where I'm supposed to write my new email especially if my mind was elsewhere.

I feel like OP should know what the possible cause for that is. Rather than worry himself to death where there is nothing to worry about.
It would be easier for them to handle it knowing what may be causing it than fight and create the exact problem he's trying to avoid.

Pukes.

Arghh.

It's simple memory malfunction.

"Proactive interference".
Where old information sometimes get in the way of new information in the brain.
Note that it doesn't happen to everyone. But it is fairly common.

She must have dated the other guy for a while and has become conditioned to saying 'mike' whenever she wants to address her man.
So this new man 'Jim' can be addressed as mike unknowingly.

It will take time for the new 'Jim' habit to be formed and the next man 'Andy' can expect to be occasionally called Jim until his name becomes the habit too.

If I had known this before, i'd have spared myself some unnecessary fights with an ex who used to call me his ex-girlfriend's name.

coogar:
i was told they seemed happy but then it could be fake. i was told she always flaunted him on her IG/twitter page.



i think the guy never wanted to marry her. she used the social media to her advantage. her fans nearly killed the dude when he hesitated just before the court wedding......he quickly changed his mind & they did the wedding out of the blue...



MBA!
the guy deserves better - toke is a twät! with her manicured nails & that shyte face she always carries around.

Coogar do you have proof?
Anyway that's what some women get for being desperate about marriage.
When you say a woman's life should not revolve around marriage, some want to bite your head off.

Why won't they be treated like trash when all it takes to make one a person deserving of respect is marital status.

Golf ugh?

My husband says it's not black man thing
I agree.
Boring as hell. But it's the favorite pastime in my neighborhood. So to socialize, you just have to honor one or two invitations. Some of These folks have smelly money.

As one is still coming up in the world, You never know who might be a good connection tomorrow.

So Disneyland is overcrowded. That's summer for you I guess. Most people want to go out.

ifyalways:
Yeah dear. Still on on. . .

Erhm, No more skydiving for now. Oga is super scared and so are the boys. Looks like we'd end up in that crowded, overpriced disneyland instead. Nightmare for moi
Anyone into "Golf" here? I have this friend that is insane about that. I followed her once and girl, was i bored? I almost fell asleep. How do people waste their time playing or wtaching that? Mschewww

Moca dear.
How are you?

jaybee3:
Anyone that fails with their primary responsibility deserves some sort of blame. It's as simple as that

Let's agree to disagree.

For me it's clear cut. If I cheat on my man with any of our male house helps, I expect to be blamed totally for it.
And Vice versa.

Vyolet:
Awww,someone is pained, Even as much as you try to hide the hate,it still shows on your post clearly. You dislike her hubby and transfered the aggression,as simple as that.

Note: only a dumb hag would question a woman for supporting her hubby on good course.
Guess you were high on cow dungs when you asked why she supported her man.
I got a brain,where's yours?

You have a brain that doesn't understand rhetorical questions.

Double dummy.

jaybee3:
You do understand their stance regarding the idea of first lady is actually restricted to the "Legal/formal office" not necessarily the title itself.

She is our first lady but her having an office mean the office has to be budgeted for and there really isn't a provision whatsoever in our constitution for that

It doesn't say that in the thread.
She actually said to be address as 'wife of the president'
So clearly she means regarding title too.

Anyway we are watching.

jaybee3:
What's their to answer again when it's evident that financial pressure is one of the single most important reason for divorce

I'm not talking divorce here.

I'm just asking plain and simple of it is ok to blame the man when his wife cheats on him because he's not meeting up to his roles as a husband.

If they can say it's the wife's fault that the man cheated with the maid and can't say the same when the wife does it with some guy helping the husband with his duties, then it is plain hypocrisy and of course just as excuse to justify bad behavior.

As always.

Joy1706:
All the guys here are just typing rubbish as if their brains have been removed from their heads. If a woman not doing all or most of the chores is justification for the man screwing the maid, then I guess a woman is justified for stepping out on her husband if he cannot provide for the family. The husband will bear the blame for the wife cheating on him since he can't step up to his responsibility

Would any guy care to answer this please?

Buncha hypocrites some of you are.

babygirlfl:
Alpha males don't go around singing it in people's ears. People tell them they are Alpha males. The more someone talks about being an Alpha male, the farther away they are from being an Alpha male.

Well obviously.

vicben27:
no maid wil cook my mealz if u cant cook me a gud meal stay in ur fathers house any maid datz is above 12yrs is nt welcom in my house resist d devil n he'll flee away frm u

Stop encouraging child labor because you're too weak to control your p3nis.

What is wrong with you people?

jaybee3:
Is it safe to conclude that your dislike for her husband subconsciously enable it extend to Aisha?

Not at all. While looking at her pretty face, it will be hard to dislike her for no reason.

But liking her doesn't mean I buy into the 'I'm not the First Lady' bull.

Pls...

I regard false modesty as worse than actual pride.
At least a proud person is sincere enough to show it. False modesty scream "hey look at me. I'm humble" revel in my 'humility'.

#Rolls eye. ( Seun this emoji is over due o)

I don't know who's giving her that idea.
She better get her act straight.

Vyolet:
When you hate someone,esp a fellow woman,you always look for dumb reasons to hate.
If she didn't campaign for her husband,I guess she should have done so for your own husband.

I actually like Aisha. At least more than patience Jonathan.
You should stop being a silly dolt.

Tskk.
Can't someone express opinion again without it being hate?

I guess the way you expressed your own opinion about my post makes you a hater huh?
Or you're fine expressing your opinion and when I do it is hate?
Dumbo. Get a brain.

jaybee3:
It's impossible to totally mitigate againts possible avenues of temptations in marriages since the individuals are expected to have some sort of self control and respect.

Having said that, you also shouldn't actively ignore factors that can indirectly allow temptation to grow wings.

You don't go hiring maids with bodies like beyonce or tyson beckford and not expect some sort of temptation

while that may be true, it still doesn't make sense to blame the one person for the other's betrayal.

At least some accepting responsibility for one's mistakes would be nice.

jaybee3:
Yes anyone can cheat but there has to be some sort of attraction at most times to enable the temptation come into fruition.

It's very easy to avoid temptation but plain stupid and unrealistic to expect temptation to be fought!

@bold. Of course.
@ the rest, how does one totally avoid temptation? To me that's not possible. That's where fighting it comes in.
If they can't control themselves around an employee of the opposite sex will they also not work with the opposite sex?
Ever?

@bold. Na so.

Those men raising their gateman's or driver's kids without knowing nko? The fact is anyone can cheat with an employee under them and in that case, the blame belongs to them fair and square.
No need trying to justify or rationalize.

The rest of your post is delusional at best.
And you're typing this from under a cave or what?
The woman can't start her life again if the marriage with the man ends? Really?
Her life will end too?

Phew.

drehdinho:
This is exactly the mentality most women have. And it's always being their undoing in marriages. To bring in male as house help is far better to getting a female as one. A male house help knows if he tries any nonsense with boss's wife, he will heavily pay for it. Propably, by going to jail. Because nobody knows him. And for this reason ,he will want to comport himself.

However, on the other hand, a female as house help has no such feelings. Since it's the king of the family that suggested "the bleeping tingy" , she won't give it a second thought. She knows that even if the aftermath is for her to get pregnated by madam's husband, she would become madam's equivalent. So here is my advise for the married ladies. Don't encourage female house maid into your house. If you must get a house help, let it be a male. And don't always believe you have equal right with you husband. It's an insane believe and it can be dangerous. It can ruine you and your entire life. The man can still always start a new life with another woman. A word they say is enough for the wise.