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coogar:
who says women shouldn't set their standards? we are saying stop blaming everything on the society or sexism and take responsibility for once! jeeez.....

must everything be about sexism?

lofty900:
that's the turning I'm talking about

coogar:
it's not sexist!
single men/women of marriageable age in nigeria get pilloried by the society.
nonso23 has answered you....
the men are called all sorts of names too....
because of the biology of their reproductive organs. they put that pressure on themselves cos they know their eggs have an expiry date. that's just nature, nothing to do with sexism!
because men are less bothered about what the society has to say about him. his standard is his standard and he rarely changes it for anyone.

this is why men are reluctant at wedding receptions when it's time to throw the bouquet. meanwhile, single women instantly become agberos hustling to catch the bouquet. let's just admit men have set higher standards for themselves than the women.

texanomaly:
I don't have to accept anything. I don't live in your hypocritically society. Supposed "Christians". At least the Muslims make their side chicks wives. They don't hide behind society's lax morals. This society is more moral than the West?

*I laugh in Navaho*

You and your a-moral buddies are what's on offer? *spits*

Nigerian society is the one forcing women to accept their philandering husbands. Fortunately more women are standing up for themselves.

Thankfully they don't HAVE to accept dripping dicks and leftovers anymore. They can stand up and "castrate" societal norms.

*spits again*

coogar:
so do you believe a woman without a husband is respected anywhere in africa? how is it sexist? men with no wives are also deemed irresponsible by the same society

EfemenaXY:
Huh! Seeing is believing. And what I saw were Chicken 'n Chips which have been tormenting me in my dreams sef. I am still very vexed jare.

Hey Smartmom! Your wife is getting prettier and prettier by the day oh!

I took her shopping last week and a young boy (4 or 5 year old?) couldn't take his eyes off her. Na so the boy dey take style dress near my pikin. My pikin look am, carry nose for air, dress commot. The boy dey come, my girl dey shift commot. So tey the boy mama dey talk say, "She's very pretty isn't she? But you don't run after pretty girls like that. You sit quietly and maybe they'll come to you, so you shouldn't scare them..."

Na the boy come dey say, "But mummy I'm not a monster!"

Today, I carry our wife go swimming classes. On our way back, a little boy dey vex...dey rake give im mama...but the minute e take eye see fine girl, the chap come chill. The bobo forget im vexation. My girl just dey look am, come say, "Mum he's very naughty. He threw his teddy on the floor!"

What is it with guys and fine girls? Even at that young age?

coogar:
cococandy, why so serious?

troy20:
i very well know what i am talking about.i know it has been used in different situations other than its primary purpose.but your discription of it is cruel and maliscious probably born out of your twisted feminist beliefs as usual .why ignore a good fact that an unmarried man is equally not accorded respect in a community.situations as where an umarried woman is "shushed" in a family rarely happen this days as a result of civilization and the wonderfull inroads modernity has made even already for women such as you. if for anything i would say men are the ones losing ground.men are the ones losing their identity.

Babymama1:
Housewives are less likely the study says but house husbands are
Men who earn a lot more ( with housewives at home ) are also more likely to cheat

So in house anything whether he is the one in the house or the wife is,he is likely to cheat
A house wife will be cooking and cleaning,househusband is watching po.rn and checking out neighborhood gals

landinmark:
since women are aggitating for equality, then, they should be treated like men also

troy20:
the purpose of that adage is for a home of married couples.one example; a well cared for husband is the diginity of his wife.primarily, it wasnt made to ascribe indignity to single women who are yet to snag a man.

starbuck:
Feels good to be here....... Be like say na your house I go first port to for free delicacies..

Thanks for the smoothie, it was tasty.
So I decided to make veggies sometimes last month and I came up with this end result. I came to learn from pros like you

thorpido:
A much older man has to do more work to satisfy and impress a young bride.It makes men exhausted.

coogar:
hahahaha!
cococandy has been busted - she feels she's the only one that knows igbo language.

nice spot, bro!

edwife:


You want me broke e kwa?cococandy ahapụ m o

I am not even thinking of mine,bad bad Bday ,I have a 12 chap exam to write that day i have been studying like mad.

After i come out of that room e,i go get drunk and stay on NL till 2 in the morning.....

troy20:
cococandy see how you lie and twist a healthy igbo adage just to make your point.there is no length you wont go eh? "Ugwu nwanyi bu di ya" clearly means "the diginity of a woman is her husband".'di ya' is even a husband for christsake! it is a whole lot different from "a woman is not worthy of respect except she has a man in her life" whether loosely or not."ugwu nwanyi bu di ya"is an adage mostly used by older women towards younger women to emphasis the importance of respect and responsibility towards there husbands and homes.its more didactic.it is an adage mainly said to married women or intending wives as advice among other things a mother tells her married daughter as she builds her home.there is even a song created by women for it.cococandy knows it and more.so why twist a rich african cultural adage into such example to support your dark pursuites.anything to bring men to there knees eh? honestly its really cruel and malisciously wicked.this is just one of the reasons men are mistrustfull of the intents of feminism.am still struggling with my live experience of feisty feminists whom no doubt from actions are just out to get men and some comments here trying to describe the noble purpose of feminism.feminism is a nicely masked hatred of men and what we represent.i think men should be extreemly carefull of the women in their lives.

byvan03:
Thanks very much dear .

njokusboy:
There you go again, seeing only whaat you want to see
There are no justifications in my post only circumstances....
Nd I can speak for women, asides having a lot of experience in that aspect, I also have a lot of women around as sisters, cousins etc, etc
I never said it was better for men to cheat than for women either, I only said circumstances have made it easier for a married man to cheat than a married woman... Infact my point was that, it's better for a man to cheat out of his own conviction than for a woman to cheat because she wants to get back at her husband, let's raverse it, "it's better for a woman to cheat out of her own conviction than to do so because she wants to get back at someone" OR "it's better for a woman to cheat because she wants to than for a man to cheat because he wants to get back at his wife for cheating (although this is highly unlikely cos men don't think such nonsense)".... choose any one you like..
I mean, how does one do something criminal because they want to get back at someone else for being a criminal....
So, if I steal, my wife would also steal to get back at me....

cococandy:
There you go again with all the subtle justifications for adultery in married men.
You don't support when men cheat but somehow it is better when they do than when ladies do.
I don't like all these insincere grey messages.
P.S You're not a woman. Don't speak for women. What makes you think women can't have sex just for sex' sake?
Oh you agreed they can but then she'd have to be a prostitute to be able to do that but the guy who can do the same isn't one?
There you don't realize you've clearly shown the same sign most men show. You can't take what you give.
FYI a woman can have sex for just the pleasure and not be a prostitute. You're not a woman so stop saying what you don't know.
Yea she had sex without emotional attachment she must be a prostitute You guys say that because that's what helps you sleep at night and keeps the ladies who believe you guilt ridden for expressing normal natural sexual drives.
Puleaaase.
Not to mention that the married man who's cheating is also doing it with runs girls who are in it for the money. One and the same thing
I do agree however that cheating in retaliation doesn't make much sense (at least to me) unless I'm going to mail him a video of it so that the heartbreak will be equal to mine.

njokusboy:
You are clearly not getting my angle...
I have never supported men cheating on their wives, I however find the suggestion that a woman should cheat just to get back at someone else ridiculous... To denyn however that a married man cheating and a married woman cheating is not the same thing is quite untrue, a man clearly has more options, many women I know prefer married men, others role with them with the hope that he might marry them and chase his wife, also, sex is mostly routine for men, a man can sleep with a woman today and forget he ever met her, women on the other hand do not have that privilege, most men would not touch a married woman with a stick, not when they are too many hotties out there, her choices are limited, so the most likely person she would get is a gigolo... sex is also an emotional thing for women, they cannot just walk up to a guy, romp and leave (except prostitutes ofcourse), it's even more precarious when she's doing it just because she wants to get back at someone else and not because she desires it...
I brought in the HIV angle for a reason, if a man contracts it while fooling around, he has only himself to blame, however, he contracted HIV doing what he enjoys, but for a woman to contract it because she's trying to get back at someone is preposterous, "imagine this scenario, doctor: woman u re HIV positive, how did it happen? Woman: I was trying to get back at my husband, so I slept with someone else.... ofcourse my reply would be: you are a big fooooool, if I am the doctor, that is
I mean, where is your pride, o ye daughters of eve?
My stand on this cheating issue remain the same, if a man cheats on a woman, she should divorce him nd move on because he'd do exactly that if the case were reversed...
No right thinking man would say, "my wife cheated, lemme find one woman to fvck so we'd be even.... only women come up with such preposterous ideas....

jnrbayano:
Why?

coogar:
if 6 men sleep with a chic, only one of them can be held responsible should a pregnancy ensue. are you going to name all the 6 men as the father of the baby?
translation - having sex with a woman doesn't make one automatically responsible for the pregnancy. this is the 21st century, stop thinking like you are still in bethlehem when mary was having her labour in a manger.
so he because he may not have the resources to prove the paternity of the child, he should take responsibility for what may not be his child i don't get that logic.
it's better to find out now than later. sambarry should start a TV show like jerry springer where randy young men & touchy-feely girls who get pregnant indiscriminately can do DNA tests for unexpected embryos.